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Promise me you'll ghost on her immediately when your holiday finishes.
Promise us all
I honestly can't tell whether you guys are genuinely concerned about me (really appreciate it if you are) or making light of the situation (probably a bit of both - this is SLAP). But in case you really want to know, that will qualify as 'ghosting on her' less than it will as running for my dear life. Three days of almost non-stop sex in, here she was already talking marriage (and trying to get me to buy her more of those expensive Repetto's), all the while the both of us knowing she's leaving on a two-week camping trip with her new dude (also a schizophrenic she met at the day clinic she goes to; 39, no job, still lives at his parents', socially inept and irresponsible) as soon as we get back.
We broke up fairly recently (after she started sleeping with that dude, showing no will to ever stop and actually blaming me for caring so much about what is a completely normal everyday situation isn't it?), but she still lives at my place and only shows weak signs of willing to leave. She's not on the lease so technically I could kick her out anytime and she'd become that other dude's problem but in reality I can't see myself doing that because of her mental condition; that is no excuse for me suffering, but a lot of this she hasn't been asking for and stems from her cognitive handicap so I'm trying to be a responsible adult about this and in the meantime we're sleeping in separate bedrooms like the mere flatmates we now are. This Mexico trip we had booked together six months in advance, investing thousands in flights, hotels and tours with no return policies; after I learned about her affairs just prior to leaving, for a while I considered ditching everything till the very last minute (literally two hours before having to see her leave by herself) when I eventually thought 'ah, fuck it'.
I've known that person for eight years before her schizophrenia broke out, experienced living through one another with her for the best and worst (from taking her around the world to rescuing her from suicide attempts countless times), and seen her gradually sink down that spiral; for years I've tried to be there for her, sacrificed many relationships and career opportunities and generally invested a lot of myself into trying to make this work against all odds. Unfortunately I couldn't save it; now it's become absolutely unbearable for the both of us and I've got to walk away from it in the name of self-respect, if not basic sanity. I'm strong, I'll make it and I have no regrets but yeah, of course I'm disappointed.