it's because you don't get offended by a word you get offended by the vibe. the times people have said bigoted shit to me and it was a problem was when it was part of them threatening me or being an asshole. but the fact that they threw some bigoted shit in there, didn't make it worst and if they hadn't thrown bigoted shit in there it wouldn't have made the situation any better. the only thing that would change the situation is if i actually cared that they had bigoted views, which i didn't so it wasn't even a factor. you only do them a favor by caring and what kind of dumb shit really cares about what other people think? i was more concerned about them being a dick then them using the same kind of generalizations that we all use to some extent to insult me.