"that is pretty much what my best friend told me to do. its true though l am too old to be playin games. i did tell her on sunday that i didnt think this was gonna work too well cause i was lookin for something a little more serious and mature in a relationship than this waiting around shit. she replied that she just wasnt sure what she wanted. so yeah thats kind of gay i mean i wish shed at least tell me what the fuck shes thinkin"
1) You're first mistake was taking her out to dinner, but you probably know that already. Dinner dates play out more like boring job interviews, try something more casual next time and spend as little money as possible. You can't buy your way into a womans vagina, it doesn't work like that. Vagina tingles are generated by the dominance and aloofness of masculinity not money. You said she would buy you dinner next time? Make her cook for you instead. if she likes you, she will put in the effort.
2)Drop the "i want a long term relationship" stuff, she is not worthy of that yet and you have to make sure she knows that, make her qualify herself, be the selector. If youre after a long term relationship, you have to make sure she is a good women and be unwavering with your standards. Otherwise you come off like a low value loser who is lucky to have anyone and this is bad. Be advised you will be tested. She will make you jump through hoops and pull shit on you to see if your manhood is up to snuff. Never jump through a woman's hoops and never hesitate to call her on her bullshit, also learn the word "no".
3) For next time, deny HER sex, don't even kiss her, make sure she is worthy of your seed first. Be in the psychological state that she is the one who would be lucky to fuck you.. She won't be expecting to be denied intimacy and this will allow you to re-frame and gain "hand". Also, make yourself unavailable sporadically, don't contact her so much, it will get the hamster wheel in her hind brain spinning.
4) You are going to have to be dominant, aloof, in control and internally validated. Understand that she has to submit to you if you want her to stick around. If she does, no more skate videos, she shouldn't even know you skate, keep that world separate. And don't let her in your head so easily, be a lil more guarded.
Some of the basics:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/