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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2790 on: September 01, 2018, 08:53:07 AM »
if 1/3 of 6 is 3, what's 1/2 of 20?
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2791 on: September 03, 2018, 06:36:49 PM »
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2792 on: September 03, 2018, 07:48:34 PM »
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2793 on: September 04, 2018, 04:33:31 AM »

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2794 on: September 04, 2018, 02:37:14 PM »
need some advice:

would you guys ask your girlfriend not to see a (male) person?
She admitted to having feelings, everythings out in the open, nothing behind my back or anything, and claims to be able to meet him as a friend (as he previously, before he broke up with his girlfriend, was).

I guess I trust her not to do anything stupid (as in cheat) but still, feelings do weird things and I also don't want things to develop into something more... idk

I don't really wan't to be put in the position where I (want to) ask my girlfriend not to see any person at all, so I guess I have to trust her, but it just does not feel very nice.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2795 on: September 04, 2018, 02:57:24 PM »
need some advice:

would you guys ask your girlfriend not to see a (male) person?
She admitted to having feelings, everythings out in the open, nothing behind my back or anything, and claims to be able to meet him as a friend (as he previously, before he broke up with his girlfriend, was).

I guess I trust her not to do anything stupid (as in cheat) but still, feelings do weird things and I also don't want things to develop into something more... idk

I don't really wan't to be put in the position where I (want to) ask my girlfriend not to see any person at all, so I guess I have to trust her, but it just does not feel very nice.
dear BeG, flip the script and hang out w/ a girl you like telling her 'trust me, i can not make out /w her sweetie' and see if she goes for it. if she's ok w/ it she's planning to let this guy pet the pussy. if she says no, she still might be ready to let him pet the pussy but she's not willing to extend you the same courtesy. in this case you have what is called a 'hotwife' not an open relationship.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2796 on: September 04, 2018, 03:16:28 PM »
need some advice:

would you guys ask your girlfriend not to see a (male) person?
She admitted to having feelings, everythings out in the open, nothing behind my back or anything, and claims to be able to meet him as a friend (as he previously, before he broke up with his girlfriend, was).

I guess I trust her not to do anything stupid (as in cheat) but still, feelings do weird things and I also don't want things to develop into something more... idk

I don't really wan't to be put in the position where I (want to) ask my girlfriend not to see any person at all, so I guess I have to trust her, but it just does not feel very nice.

Honestly IMO If she says there's feelings for someone else its never gonna last forever with you anyways. so just save yourself the drama and cut the cord.

 

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2797 on: September 04, 2018, 03:39:34 PM »

have to include I've been a depressed sack of shit for the past half year I understand that maybe her feelings confused ones with just a wanting for something ''light-hearted''.

also have to stress (esp to sharktits I guess) she is not gonna cheat on me for reasons I don't feel like discussing, guess you have to trust ME on that.

dirtywee I've been asking myself the same but I'm very sure of how I feel about her,

but with my depression; been dabbling in thinking we might need some time off and I need to focus on myself, for being with her makes me feeling like shit (about myself) bearable, which is not healthy.
but now with this situation I just don't really know

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« Reply #2798 on: September 05, 2018, 06:28:31 AM »
I've been in your exact situation, trusted her all the way with the 'just friends' thing, she ended up cheating on me with the guy (and I had major reasons besides my pride and my trust to think she would never do that, too), she tried apologizing and doing her best to piece everything back together between us again for a few weeks because she could tell I was wrecked and then she just cheated on me with that guy again.

She had my entire trust the whole time so I thought it was 'nice' and cool letting her see her 'friend' till one day the news broke, and then broke again. So in my experience that's a very slippery slope, if you ever feel like discussing your situation because it definitely sounds familiar to mine and I know times like these really are confusing, don't hesitate to PM me.

Your last paragraph also spoke to me because the whole time she was doing this to me, she was really making me feel like a sack of shit blaming me for all the problems in our relationship, basically saying I was busy working too much to get to spend time together even though we actually spent a lot and I was making conscious efforts to organize myself even better. Now in hindsight I realize that in reality, she was probably just looking for excuses for her to get away from the relationship and feel better about living another romance, and she never had our common interest in mind in the first place. I mean of course if you're going through that shit in addition to your depression, her seeing that guy is never going to solve any of you guys' problems and maybe you should make sure she realizes that. My ex didn't even notice she was drifting away from our relationship and personally harming me because she was so passionate about that other dude (something "light-hearted" as you said) everything else stopped to matter, and she genuinely thought she wasn't doing anything wrong till it hit her that she fucked up and had lost me eventually.

Sometimes people get those urges and then for a while they don't know what they're doing. I'm not saying you shouldn't trust your girl personally for not having virtue (being outspoken about your feelings like you guys seem to be is great virtue), just that you shouldn't trust her more than you could possibly trust another person who's also a human being with their weaknesses and limitations. Be realistic and like you were saying, focus on yourself because in crucial times like this (which I wish won't be so crucial to you) one really needs that.

dear BeG, flip the script and hang out w/ a girl you like telling her 'trust me, i can not make out /w her sweetie' and see if she goes for it. if she's ok w/ it she's planning to let this guy pet the pussy. if she says no, she still might be ready to let him pet the pussy but she's not willing to extend you the same courtesy. in this case you have what is called a 'hotwife' not an open relationship.
DTMFA! [dumpt the motherfucker already]
unless that's your kink

Funnily enough my ex was really encouraging me to get a side chick the whole time she was seeing that 'friend' of hers she was in the process of developing feelings for; what terminated that stress was the event of me actually starting to talk to another girl (after I had been cheated on and made it clear our relationship was now over). Now she's freaked out about the idea of me getting involved in a new relationship, and keeps saying (all the while still seeing her new dude) she wants me back. Fuck that man, I'm running for my life here.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2799 on: September 05, 2018, 07:52:25 AM »
need some advice:

would you guys ask your girlfriend not to see a (male) person?
She admitted to having feelings, everythings out in the open, nothing behind my back or anything, and claims to be able to meet him as a friend (as he previously, before he broke up with his girlfriend, was).

I guess I trust her not to do anything stupid (as in cheat) but still, feelings do weird things and I also don't want things to develop into something more... idk

I don't really wan't to be put in the position where I (want to) ask my girlfriend not to see any person at all, so I guess I have to trust her, but it just does not feel very nice.

If you can hang in social situation with the three of you or more in a neutral environment it could still be cool, if you are not allowed to be around when she is talking to her "friend" that is a red flag.
On a cautionary note, I have a female friend nicknamed the oragutan as she never lets go of one boyfriend till she has a good grip of the next one.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2800 on: September 05, 2018, 08:13:04 AM »
Cut the cord. You don't know what this dudes intentions are and your girl already said she has feelings for him. Theres a very high chance she'll cheat if you give her and her friend the chance and they think they can get away with it. Most of the time people on the outside of a relationship don't respect it. You don't need that kinda drama. Drop it before something bad happens and work on yourself.

Things get better man. Don't put yourself in a position where they have a good chance of getting worse.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2801 on: September 05, 2018, 08:17:55 AM »
If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2802 on: September 05, 2018, 01:44:47 PM »
If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

Clearly this dude has never had a long term serious relationship. its not as cut and dry when proper feelings are involved, shit for brains.

though i dont disagree with the overall message of your post the callousness of the tone is jacked.


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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2803 on: September 05, 2018, 01:58:13 PM »
thanks, dirt and all

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2804 on: September 05, 2018, 11:25:44 PM »
who does the fs lipslide polejam bounce out in the new polar vid?

(even with this gif, i am too dumb to figure it out myself. help)
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2805 on: September 06, 2018, 04:57:00 AM »

have to include I've been a depressed sack of shit for the past half year I understand that maybe her feelings confused ones with just a wanting for something ''light-hearted''.

also have to stress (esp to sharktits I guess) she is not gonna cheat on me for reasons I don't feel like discussing, guess you have to trust ME on that.

dirtywee I've been asking myself the same but I'm very sure of how I feel about her,

but with my depression; been dabbling in thinking we might need some time off and I need to focus on myself, for being with her makes me feeling like shit (about myself) bearable, which is not healthy.
but now with this situation I just don't really know
You know when you use the term "some time off" when talking about a relationship that really means bounce and get on with life.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2806 on: September 06, 2018, 06:48:54 AM »
  She's asking as a test I feel.  Like to see how much this donkey can carry?   You should cheat on her first!
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2807 on: September 06, 2018, 07:49:19 AM »
If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

Clearly this dude has never had a long term serious relationship. its not as cut and dry when proper feelings are involved, shit for brains.

though i dont disagree with the overall message of your post the callousness of the tone is jacked.


Behaviouralguide - Its a hard situation my man, only you know whats right for you But it seems the general concesus on here is youre on a slippy slope, try not to slip too far down brother.

I've been married for six years dipshit

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2808 on: September 06, 2018, 07:54:16 AM »
Donít be a cuck. Literally.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2809 on: September 06, 2018, 08:02:11 AM »
can you guys also not awnwser in cliches and actualy read what I fucking typed?

asked whether or not you would ask your girlfriend not to see someone, as in forbid (or else the relationship is over) her, or ever felt like that, I did not ask for advice on how to handle my relationship.

you guys must date fucking wrenches if you actualy believe she is ''testing'' me and that I shouldn't be a ''cuck, literally''.


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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2810 on: September 06, 2018, 08:06:16 AM »
You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship. But yeah, tell your girl who she can and can't be friends with that'll work out.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2811 on: September 06, 2018, 08:11:27 AM »
You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

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see you edit in the post above now sfb, and thanks for adressing my only question, I dont want to ask her that and am not going to, just wanted to know if there's people who dealt with it (differently)
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2812 on: September 06, 2018, 08:15:21 AM »
You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

Nobody misunderstood and I understand that you want to adjust the scope of what you said because you're defensive or embarrassed or whatever. Maybe next time don't ask a provocative question and then dump a bunch of details out if you don't want people to pay attention to them?

The answer just about everyone gave boils down to: No, you shouldn't ask her to stop hanging out with someone because not only is that not your issue, but it will create a whole other one. If you have an expected answer in mind go ask the mirror not a forum full of people.

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« Reply #2813 on: September 06, 2018, 08:25:59 AM »
You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

Nobody misunderstood and I understand that you want to adjust the scope of what you said because you're defensive or embarrassed or whatever. Maybe next time don't ask a provocative question and then dump a bunch of details out if you don't want people to pay attention to them?

The answer just about everyone gave boils down to: No, you shouldn't ask her to stop hanging out with someone because not only is that not your issue, but it will create a whole other one. If you have an expected answer in mind go ask the mirror not a forum full of people.

we need to stop quoting eachother's undedited posts.
either way I guess your right and I coulve expected the awnsers I got,
its not that I don't wanna hear it or that I wanna hear something specific (the mirror thing)
just an awnser (in the sense of similar story, not in a a ''what should i do" kinda way) on that specfic question was what I hoped for.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2814 on: September 06, 2018, 08:26:48 AM »
I hope your girlfriend fucks that other guy.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2815 on: September 06, 2018, 08:30:04 AM »
and I hope typing that made ya feel better

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #2816 on: September 06, 2018, 09:29:58 AM »
my wife has been cheated on in two previous relationship because she gave those guys the freedom to hang out with other chicks. there was a point a few years ago in our relationship where she found out that i would sometimes go out for a drink with a female coworker on friday afternoons. i never told her about going out with the girl from work, which to her meant that i was trying to hide something and i guess i was. your girlfriend/wife/whoever doesnt like hearing about your female friends that she doesnt know, and thats why i didnt tell her. i never had any feelings toward this woman and i never felt like she had any for me, we simply got along well and felt like getting a drink at the bar next door once in a while. i didn't feel like what i was doing was worthy of losing my wifes trust, but hiding it from her was. i stopped going out with the girl from work because drinks with her wasnt worth giving my wife a reason to think i might cheat. i trust and respect her and i want the same kind of trust and respect.

on the other side of things, she had this long time guy friend who i had met and hung out with a few times when i first met my wife. they never dated, but she said that they did have sex once. referred to him as more of a "best friend" guy, but they stopped hanging out a while before we started dating. this guy i guess he was going through a tough time and texted my wife about how he missed her and wanted to hang out. she told me about it and told him the only way she wanted to hang out with him was if it was at our place and if i was there too. i believe she did this because she knew how i would feel if she told me she was going to see him someplace without me. he never came over and stopped contacting her after that.

thats my honest experience with this shit, take it how you want it. i agree with SFB and everyone else has said. nothing good will come of your girlfriend spending one on one time with some dude she has a crush on.

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« Reply #2817 on: September 06, 2018, 12:56:41 PM »
im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

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« Reply #2818 on: September 06, 2018, 01:09:08 PM »
Didn't somebody switch flip or switch heel this double set years ago?

For some reason I was thinking it was Damian Bravo, but I can't find the footage so I'm not sure if that's correct. It's been seriously bothering me lately.
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« Reply #2819 on: September 06, 2018, 01:11:32 PM »
im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

sometimes it seems like people are concerned with their online image/presence and how they come off online as opposed to what they come off as irl

kinda funny tbh