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Re: tinder
« Reply #720 on: December 03, 2014, 09:27:03 AM »
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^no i get numbers pretty easily i have had at least like 30 altogether but i just delete them when they stop responding. But those are usually the girls around my age i rarely get a 18 or 19 year old girls numbers cause those age groups from my area are in to fake gangsters and im not like that so i was just asking for those types of girls on how to be a douche bag there attracted too
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It's not even about being a douchebag, its about confidence and these chicks can all tell you have next to none.

Thats not true, i am confident when they give me a chance to hang out. I just don't like texting and don't really know how to do it properly with people and younger pretty girls are attracted to douche bags thats a fact ( at least in my area)

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Re: tinder
« Reply #721 on: December 03, 2014, 09:50:39 AM »
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^no i get numbers pretty easily i have had at least like 30 altogether but i just delete them when they stop responding. But those are usually the girls around my age i rarely get a 18 or 19 year old girls numbers cause those age groups from my area are in to fake gangsters and im not like that so i was just asking for those types of girls on how to be a douche bag there attracted too
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It's not even about being a douchebag, its about confidence and these chicks can all tell you have next to none.
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Thats not true, i am confident when they give me a chance to hang out. I just don't like texting and don't really know how to do it properly with people and younger pretty girls are attracted to douche bags thats a fact ( at least in my area)

A guy talking about girls that are out of his league is not that confident. Nobody is out of your league. On Tinder or in real life. That in no way means every girl is going to be interested or that you should get pissed if they don't respond, but stop thinking they're too good for you. I am 100% for Tinder. I think it's fucking rad. But I think you're putting way too much into it and should put down your phone for a bit. Go to a bar. To to a coffee shop. Stop using canned messages to talk to girls. I know you like your Netflix line and as far as openers go it's solid, but girls can see through it. They know that's what you're sending to every other girl you talk to.
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Re: tinder
« Reply #722 on: December 03, 2014, 09:59:09 AM »
^I agree with this.  In the real world you will gain the kind of confidence that gets you laid through experience.
example. i cant cast a spelll or love potion on a girl and she falls total in love for me
but i can show a girl my tv youtube clip on my or her phone. but there's a difference ok

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Re: tinder
« Reply #723 on: December 03, 2014, 10:03:11 AM »
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^no i get numbers pretty easily i have had at least like 30 altogether but i just delete them when they stop responding. But those are usually the girls around my age i rarely get a 18 or 19 year old girls numbers cause those age groups from my area are in to fake gangsters and im not like that so i was just asking for those types of girls on how to be a douche bag there attracted too
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It's not even about being a douchebag, its about confidence and these chicks can all tell you have next to none.
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Thats not true, i am confident when they give me a chance to hang out. I just don't like texting and don't really know how to do it properly with people and younger pretty girls are attracted to douche bags thats a fact ( at least in my area)
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A guy talking about girls that are out of his league is not that confident. Nobody is out of your league. On Tinder or in real life. That in no way means every girl is going to be interested or that you should get pissed if they don't respond, but stop thinking they're too good for you. I am 100% for Tinder. I think it's fucking rad. But I think you're putting way too much into it and should put down your phone for a bit. Go to a bar. To to a coffee shop. Stop using canned messages to talk to girls. I know you like your Netflix line and as far as openers go it's solid, but girls can see through it. They know that's what you're sending to every other girl you talk to.


i dont use the netflix line all the time, i mix it up a little bit. but thanks for saying im not out of her league i kind of just said that for some reason. Like i know i have a shot with her cause we got matched up, but i feel like going to try the douche bag route with her and see where i get but like i said in my first post i don't know how to do that, give me pointers!

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Re: tinder
« Reply #724 on: December 03, 2014, 10:21:45 AM »
asking for advice and then arguing with everyone who tries and give it to you is solid douche bag behavior. I think you're set.
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Re: tinder
« Reply #725 on: December 03, 2014, 04:39:47 PM »
asking for advice and then arguing with everyone who tries and give it to you is solid douche bag behavior. I think you're set.

I do suddenly feel compelled to have sex with you Tobey, maybe there's something to it. 
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Re: tinder
« Reply #726 on: December 03, 2014, 04:57:23 PM »
are you a lesbian too?

Impish sausage is definitely gonna blow up as a euphemism this year

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Re: tinder
« Reply #727 on: December 03, 2014, 05:07:56 PM »
lol i wasn't trying to argue im going to use the french fry dipped line with her so hopefully that works

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Re: tinder
« Reply #728 on: December 03, 2014, 05:41:20 PM »
These are the type of matches I get.

...She didn't answer my message either.
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Re: tinder
« Reply #729 on: December 03, 2014, 05:54:14 PM »
serious question, can you guys tell me how to be a douche bag through messages on tinder? Like out of about 100 messages to different girls on tinder i hung out with 6 of them and only hooked up with 3 of them. Now im a nice guy, like really nice but honestly these numbers suck. I got matched up with a 19 year old and haven't messaged her yet cause shes 19 and way out of my league so im thinking me being nice won't go anywhere with this girl.

So please teach me how to be a douche bag through texts and messages 
Dont use emojis or smiley faces of any sort and I know it sounds cliche but shows signs of attraction then kinda just start ignoring her and if she's interested in you she'll think she fucked up and start over thinking which is key

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Re: tinder
« Reply #730 on: December 03, 2014, 06:14:25 PM »
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serious question, can you guys tell me how to be a douche bag through messages on tinder? Like out of about 100 messages to different girls on tinder i hung out with 6 of them and only hooked up with 3 of them. Now im a nice guy, like really nice but honestly these numbers suck. I got matched up with a 19 year old and haven't messaged her yet cause shes 19 and way out of my league so im thinking me being nice won't go anywhere with this girl.

So please teach me how to be a douche bag through texts and messages 
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Dont use emojis or smiley faces of any sort and I know it sounds cliche but shows signs of attraction then kinda just start ignoring her and if she's interested in you she'll think she fucked up and start over thinking which is key

yea but the problem is i hate ignoring people cause i get ignored so much by other people and i just hate it. But with this girl i have been talking to i never text her first which i think is a good start cause it makes her thinking about me and if she wants to talk she will text me but i haven't been starting the conversation and shes been texting almost every night so yea i think this one will be fun. The lame part, she doesnt come home from college for about 2 weeks

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Re: tinder
« Reply #731 on: December 04, 2014, 02:44:29 PM »
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serious question, can you guys tell me how to be a douche bag through messages on tinder? Like out of about 100 messages to different girls on tinder i hung out with 6 of them and only hooked up with 3 of them. Now im a nice guy, like really nice but honestly these numbers suck. I got matched up with a 19 year old and haven't messaged her yet cause shes 19 and way out of my league so im thinking me being nice won't go anywhere with this girl.

So please teach me how to be a douche bag through texts and messages 
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Dont use emojis or smiley faces of any sort and I know it sounds cliche but shows signs of attraction then kinda just start ignoring her and if she's interested in you she'll think she fucked up and start over thinking which is key
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yea but the problem is i hate ignoring people cause i get ignored so much by other people and i just hate it. But with this girl i have been talking to i never text her first which i think is a good start cause it makes her thinking about me and if she wants to talk she will text me but i haven't been starting the conversation and shes been texting almost every night so yea i think this one will be fun. The lame part, she doesnt come home from college for about 2 weeks

PUT SOME EFFORT INTO BEING FUNNY YOU FUCKING BRAINDEAD KOOK

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Re: tinder
« Reply #732 on: December 04, 2014, 02:45:23 PM »
IM GOING TO HUNT YOU DOWN

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Re: tinder
« Reply #733 on: December 04, 2014, 05:44:34 PM »
I'm legit worried that tobeys underlying (and much discussed) anxiety issues combined with this strange series of pseudo interactions through Tinder might be having a negative effect.

It's never a good sign when people start to act aggressively when their advances are spurred, and I feel like this medium might be blurring your sense of how into you these girls might be and giving you an inflated sense of entitlement.

I'm not trying to be judgmental and I can see how it might be a posative thing for you and a way to circumvent some of your anxiety, which as far as I understand has more to do with being outside of your comfort zone than actually interacting with people, but you have to realize that is not what you are doing. You are in fact essentially playing a game, something you are trying to get good at to archive a goal. Color me cynical but I don't believe that healthy relationships are built that way.

Idk man just be mindful.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #734 on: December 04, 2014, 06:25:22 PM »
A guy talking about girls that are out of his league is not that confident. Nobody is out of your league. On Tinder or in real life. That in no way means every girl is going to be interested or that you should get pissed if they don't respond, but stop thinking they're too good for you. I am 100% for Tinder. I think it's fucking rad. But I think you're putting way too much into it and should put down your phone for a bit. Go to a bar. To to a coffee shop. Stop using canned messages to talk to girls. I know you like your Netflix line and as far as openers go it's solid, but girls can see through it. They know that's what you're sending to every other girl you talk to.

Seriously. You know we've enjoyed your shenanigans, Tobey, but if you're getting stressed about the psychopaths and barely legals you've been posting about, it's time for a break. Tinder is for good stories, not happiness and fulfillment.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #735 on: December 04, 2014, 06:47:59 PM »
^ that is good advice, i mean i don't only talk to girls that are on tinder. I have been talking to this girl in my class but im pretty sure she has a boyfriend. But i think tinder is perfect because im not looking for a relationship, i mean if i was i wouldn't go be on tinder. I am just looking for girls to hang out with and if i hook up with them thats great but if i don't, i don't kick them out i just make the awkward situation the best as possible. You guys have to understand though none of my friends (or i think they are my friends) answer my texts or invite me to go out except for 2 of my friends, but they never really want to do anything. The only people that answer my texts and actually want to hang out with me is tinder girls, so for right now im just looking for people to hang out with and it might as well be girls from tinder because they at least want to hang out with me a little cause we get matched up

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Re: tinder
« Reply #736 on: December 04, 2014, 06:48:58 PM »
protip: women are less intimidating once they are dead

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Re: tinder
« Reply #737 on: December 04, 2014, 06:51:08 PM »
pro skating has had gator, swindell and maybe some others but has there been a slap poster/murderer yet?

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Re: tinder
« Reply #738 on: December 04, 2014, 07:04:12 PM »
These are the type of matches I get.

...She didn't answer my message either.
Holy shit, dude, that's fucking funny, I mean, just the way you wrote it

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Re: tinder
« Reply #739 on: December 05, 2014, 07:07:08 AM »
These are the type of matches I get.

...She didn't answer my message either.
The Beast may have been busy walking through middle Earth to drop that ring off at Mordoor, after that she'll message ya.
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Re: tinder
« Reply #740 on: December 05, 2014, 08:35:26 AM »
serious question, can you guys tell me how to be a douche bag through messages on tinder? Like out of about 100 messages to different girls on tinder i hung out with 6 of them and only hooked up with 3 of them. Now im a nice guy, like really nice but honestly these numbers suck. I got matched up with a 19 year old and haven't messaged her yet cause shes 19 and way out of my league so im thinking me being nice won't go anywhere with this girl.

So please teach me how to be a douche bag through texts and messages 

Sometimes you don't have to be a douche. I was in a similar situation with this younger girl who played Volleyball. I thought she was so out of my league but she wasn't. I was just myself and pretty soon she and her friend came to Portland and spent the night. We made out when her friend went to sleep. A few weeks later I went to visit her and we hooked up that weekend. Pity nothing ever came of that girl but she was so out of my league. You got it in you to be amazing.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #741 on: December 05, 2014, 09:58:07 AM »
Tobey, my sincere concern over your approach has motivated me to reactivate my account after an extended dormant period.

I did so because I feel your pain. Like you, I overthink things, second guess myself, and generally have problems with anxiety. And, like you, I used to see this as a problem with other people. It's an easy trap to fall into, because you know your intentions are good, yet people reject you time and time again.

The first step to getting out of your rut is to take responsibility for yourself. Realize that happiness starts with you: validation comes from inside. If you wait on other people to make you feel good about yourself, nothing will add up. Every action is instead a reaction to others. Your personality becomes a reflection of what you think others are thinking rather than your own thoughts.

Start with the basics. Take on projects. Do things you find challenging yet satisfying. Those activities could be anything: skateboarding, drawing, music, writing, photography. Concentrate on doing something for the pure pleasure of doing it well. Connect with people who also enjoy those things. Enjoy interacting with them just for the sake of the individual interactions: be in the moment. Don't think about the past or the future, just allow yourself to soak in where you are.

Getting to a better place socially involves a lot of the same approach. Having success with women isn't easy, but it's not as hard as it seems either. Talk to everyone, whether or not your attracted to them or interested. Practice will reduce your anxiety, I promise. Remember, when you talk to a stranger, the absolute worst case scenario is they don't want to talk to you. And that's not that bad! If someone blows you off, you will survive. There's no way for you to know what's on their mind, or why they react how they do. So don't take it personally. Stay positive and move on.

I'm scratching the surface, but the important thing is this: whether it's Tinder or in person, there's no secret to social success. It's all about being yourself and choosing to be happy. People want to be around someone who's secure enough to stand on their own two feet. It's why lines and techniques and tricks are garbage. You can only be yourself. Maybe a clever little quip or one-liner gets you in the door, but sooner or later, all we can be is ourselves. So unless you're OK with that person, they'll never be.

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« Reply #742 on: December 05, 2014, 11:30:06 AM »
i seen this movie on E 'movies we love' and it's about a dorky TSA worker who gets this 'out of his league' girl's iphone by accident and awkward courtship ensues but true love finds him in the end. what i think the moral of the movie was is steal a hot girl's phone to get her to talk to you and she'll realize what a swell guy you are.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #743 on: December 05, 2014, 12:23:39 PM »
i seen this movie on E 'movies we love' and it's about a dorky TSA worker who gets this 'out of his league' girl's iphone by accident and awkward courtship ensues but true love finds him in the end. what i think the moral of the movie was is steal a hot girl's phone to get her to talk to you and she'll realize what a swell guy you are.


make sure its a newer iphone though. you dont want a broke ass 4s chick who cant even update to ios8.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #744 on: December 05, 2014, 12:38:53 PM »
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i seen this movie on E 'movies we love' and it's about a dorky TSA worker who gets this 'out of his league' girl's iphone by accident and awkward courtship ensues but true love finds him in the end. what i think the moral of the movie was is steal a hot girl's phone to get her to talk to you and she'll realize what a swell guy you are.
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make sure its a newer iphone though. you dont want a broke ass 4s chick who cant even update to ios8.
i'm not sure what that means but i concur. no scrubs.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #745 on: December 05, 2014, 05:56:56 PM »
youre a funny dude shark tits  ;D

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Re: tinder
« Reply #746 on: December 05, 2014, 06:29:34 PM »
Tobey, my sincere concern over your approach has motivated me to reactivate my account after an extended dormant period.

I did so because I feel your pain. Like you, I overthink things, second guess myself, and generally have problems with anxiety. And, like you, I used to see this as a problem with other people. It's an easy trap to fall into, because you know your intentions are good, yet people reject you time and time again.

The first step to getting out of your rut is to take responsibility for yourself. Realize that happiness starts with you: validation comes from inside. If you wait on other people to make you feel good about yourself, nothing will add up. Every action is instead a reaction to others. Your personality becomes a reflection of what you think others are thinking rather than your own thoughts.

Start with the basics. Take on projects. Do things you find challenging yet satisfying. Those activities could be anything: skateboarding, drawing, music, writing, photography. Concentrate on doing something for the pure pleasure of doing it well. Connect with people who also enjoy those things. Enjoy interacting with them just for the sake of the individual interactions: be in the moment. Don't think about the past or the future, just allow yourself to soak in where you are.

Getting to a better place socially involves a lot of the same approach. Having success with women isn't easy, but it's not as hard as it seems either. Talk to everyone, whether or not your attracted to them or interested. Practice will reduce your anxiety, I promise. Remember, when you talk to a stranger, the absolute worst case scenario is they don't want to talk to you. And that's not that bad! If someone blows you off, you will survive. There's no way for you to know what's on their mind, or why they react how they do. So don't take it personally. Stay positive and move on.

I'm scratching the surface, but the important thing is this: whether it's Tinder or in person, there's no secret to social success. It's all about being yourself and choosing to be happy. People want to be around someone who's secure enough to stand on their own two feet. It's why lines and techniques and tricks are garbage. You can only be yourself. Maybe a clever little quip or one-liner gets you in the door, but sooner or later, all we can be is ourselves. So unless you're OK with that person, they'll never be.

yea i was a huge pile last year but i got better, anxiety wise. I started back up school after a 3 year break, started drinking a lot less, lost about 50 pounds, started skating again after a 3 year break. So this year was a huge difference from last year but i still have some work to do so maybe i feel like every person is better than me because im basically taking freshman courses at college at the age of 22 and all my friends are way ahead of me in life, and the girls i meet on tinder are like that too. But being myself is letting people walk all over me, i take shit from girls and still want their approval i just want it to be the other way around you know? Even if i only hang out with them one night i just am nice and want them to like me but i honestly think i am too nice cause they reject me but i get over it. I don't fall in love with these girls, its just i had fun with them so i would like to hang out with them again.

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Re: tinder
« Reply #747 on: December 05, 2014, 06:38:16 PM »
I'm just pissed now. I'm starting to think race is an issue in this app too.
Before you say the music sucked, have you considered shutting the fuck up?

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« Reply #748 on: December 05, 2014, 07:01:20 PM »
leetgeek bruh you need to just man up get drunk and get a hooker to get it over with. i know it sound played out but you puttin the pussy on a pedestal

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Re: tinder
« Reply #749 on: December 05, 2014, 11:36:10 PM »
I am dying right now...
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