I was making fun of your world-shaking epiphany that you should judge others after you meet them, which is exactly what you should do. However, there's a couple points to make based off of that, which affect that logic in this scenario:
1. What do you think the point of this message board is? To talk about pro skaters only after you've met & assessed their personalities?
2. Normally I don't talk shit on anyone (anymore), and I try to only espouse positivity. This is a case that traverses my normal standards because someone close to Daryl has brought up photo evidence of abuse by him and there's been other indicators from Daryl himself that the photos are true. So I'm judging him, harshly, at least until he comes forward in the hopes of bringing about a positive change.
The allegations affect me and the others here because as you said, it is "OUR culture", and I don't want our culture to celebrate a spineless woman-beater. You think confronting him with this wouldn't bring about change? Dive into the Jason Jessee thread.
And if none of this is sinking in because you think I never met him and I have no jurisdiction to judge--I've met Daryl, albeit briefly, in the East Village a couple years back. He was quiet and seemed polite. That is no longer by interpretation of him.