tinder

[doomstation55]

With l33t coming through now I am again interested in this thread. You got this dude!

[L33Tg33k]

I kind of got over the fear of talking to her now. Still, I'm scared of escalation even though that's what the whole fucking point is. It's just I don't even know what I want. I'm very embarrassed and annoyed to admit that I'm scared. I gotta get over this.

[n0torious]

Just relax. I know that's easier said than done, but chill. This is an individual exchange between you and her. Don't expect to have it all figured out: no one does. Be nice, ask questions, listen to what she has to say. All the escalation you need to worry about is meeting her face to face. Suggest getting a drink, see how it goes.

[smokecrack]

^ exactly what he just said, L33t. try your damn hardest to be comfortable and be yourself. i think you're your worst enemy and that fear is what you have to learn to overcome. you can do it, dude. stay positive and keep telling yourself that you can do it.

i initially thought this Vice article on how to talk to girls was supposed to be a joke, but it has lots of pretty simple tips/advice.

http://www.vice.com/read/the-vice-guide-to-chatting-up-girls-written-by-girls?utm_source=vicefbus

(it's written by women btw)

[NickDagger]

please add more pix to this thread, the good the bad and the ugly

[tobey]

please add more pix to this thread, the good the bad and the ugly

sad part is we still didnt get matched up

edit:my okcupid account name is juggalo610

[L33Tg33k]

please add more pix to this thread, the good the bad and the ugly

Aye gotchu. These are my matches on High There.




This is the girl I'm trying to chat with.

[tobey]

what i do when i have nothing to say to girls i say " Got any good netflix suggestions for me"?

then you let her talk about the show and add on like well who's in it and blah blah

[dillanharp]

You're using the wrong app if you matched up with Bridget and Pam the Funkstress.

[castillo's curls]

I'd be scared if I got matched up with Snoop Pearson.

That Lauren chick looks really cute though. Good luck!

[n0torious]

I'd be scared if I got matched up with Snoop Pearson.

Snoop's into ladies. 

[Fenzadill]

Snoop's into ladies.  getting this money.

Lauren looks like a cutie, L33t.  From what I've heard from black friends, it's a great time to be a black man trying to fuck lil white girls right now.

[L33Tg33k]

The conversation is going really slow and I don't know what to say to make her more interested. Being that we're talking on a weed app I have tried talking about marijuana but got no response using that tactic. Right now she just replies to me with a short comment at random times of the day. I try to immediately respond when she says something as to catch her while she's on the app, but I just don't think she's that interested. I've got to say something cool.

[L33Tg33k]

And fuck Tinder with their new like cap.

[tobey]

The conversation is going really slow and I don't know what to say to make her more interested. Being that we're talking on a weed app I have tried talking about marijuana but got no response using that tactic. Right now she just replies to me with a short comment at random times of the day. I try to immediately respond when she says something as to catch her while she's on the app, but I just don't think she's that interested. I've got to say something cool.

that happens to me all the time, girls aren't desperate like me and you l33t. They go on it for like a second to respond than don't go on for awhile in till they are bored. Nothing to worry about that but this might be out of the blue for you two cause it seems like you guys haven't been talking to much but you could say " hey would it be easier for you if we texted cause i would like to hang out with you and get to know you more"

[n0torious]

And fuck Tinder with their new like cap.

This has more to do with the spidering apps people use: auto-like EVERYONE and then filter through the bites they get.

The conversation is going really slow and I don't know what to say to make her more interested. Being that we're talking on a weed app I have tried talking about marijuana but got no response using that tactic. Right now she just replies to me with a short comment at random times of the day. I try to immediately respond when she says something as to catch her while she's on the app, but I just don't think she's that interested. I've got to say something cool.

Don't overthink it. Dating is about persistence and volume. Don't put so much on this exchange and feel like if it doesn't work, you've failed. Keep grinding! Try to learn something every time. If she stops talking, it's not the end of the world. You have to get comfortable with rejection and not take it personally. Remember: you don't know what she's thinking and she doesn't know what you're thinking. There's a million reasons why people do what they do. One of the best things we can do for each other is to forgive little slights and hope they can do the same. You're not a loser unless you quit.

[SHARPSHOOTER]

"Wants to stay in, prefers edibles, energy low" Holy fuck girl at least make some shit up about yourself if you want to get a date. You sound and look horrible.

[essal]

would.

and just fire the damn shots. just ask if they want to meet up for beers, weed or whatever you guys are into. they have probably decided way before they even answered you the first time. just don't suggest to meet at a creepy place like tobeys basement, a public place is a bit more comforting I guess...


as for my tinder date, my dick is still attached to my body without any swelling.

[summertimebluesdaddy]

"Wants to stay in, prefers edibles, energy low" Holy fuck girl at least make some shit up about yourself if you want to get a date. You sound and look horrible.

Fuck there's a whole lot of nonsense going on in that picture.  I bet she would be fun as fuck to plow though.

[GoodguyEh]

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"Wants to stay in, prefers edibles, energy low" Holy fuck girl at least make some shit up about yourself if you want to get a date. You sound and look horrible.

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Fuck there's a whole lot of nonsense going on in that picture.  I bet she would be fun as fuck to plow though.

Probably like sticking your dick between two flank steaks

[JB]

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"Wants to stay in, prefers edibles, energy low" Holy fuck girl at least make some shit up about yourself if you want to get a date. You sound and look horrible.

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Fuck there's a whole lot of nonsense going on in that picture.  I bet she would be fun as fuck to plow though.

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Probably like sticking your dick between two flank steaks

[L33Tg33k]

The normal looking girl wants me to set up a meeting. I'm freaking out. If she's down, what am I going to tell her about me not knowing what I'm doing? What happens when she finds out I'm fatter than in the pictures? What happens if I'm supposed to kiss her or something? What happens if she sees my little pecker? What if we just fucking hate each other? I've never felt so stupid in my life.

[perverted super otaku!]

The normal looking girl wants me to set up a meeting. I'm freaking out. If she's down, what am I going to tell her about me not knowing what I'm doing? What happens when she finds out I'm fatter than in the pictures? What happens if I'm supposed to kiss her or something? What happens if she sees my little pecker? What if we just fucking hate each other? I've never felt so stupid in my life.

Beer will help you to stay in the moment i think, ask her out for a drink, you could segue that into a food or weed session or both, if it goes well.

[The Shogun]

The normal looking girl wants me to set up a meeting. I'm freaking out. If she's down, what am I going to tell her about me not knowing what I'm doing? What happens when she finds out I'm fatter than in the pictures? What happens if I'm supposed to kiss her or something? What happens if she sees my little pecker? What if we just fucking hate each other? I've never felt so stupid in my life.

Don't sweat it man, don't panic. It's just a date or rather a meeting. I met a chick on tinder once, shit was fucking strange. I deleted my account after that night and I have now decided to not giving a fuck about impressing anyone. My facial hair is looking fucked, my pubic hair is a damn jungle, my farts smell like broccoli and peanut butter and I am fucking loving every minute of it.

Even though you're stressing, front a cool guy attitude and play it smooth. Meet at a bar and have a drink right away. You'll be fine man, we're rooting for you!

[tobey]

remember my post in the reAL conffesions thread? Yeah forgot about it i had so much fun tonight. I took her to dinner and the place wAS fancy, i had veal ( first time i ever had it) and she loved the dinner. Than i surprised her by taking her to the pool hall, sounds like a bad idea but she had a lot of fun, she was bad at first but then she started to kill it at pool, almost beat me! Than we watched the rest of the first season of american horror story and it was OK. but than we went to my bed than i got her off, we went at it for like 30 minutes but i might have drank to much and i didn't get off but she said she did and thats honestly all it matters to me. So now shes sleeping and im about to join her3re. VALENTINES DAY IS FUN

[Joust Ostrich]

Good job kid.  You worried for nothing. 

[ill_Murray]

remember my post in the reAL conffesions thread? Yeah forgot about it i had so much fun tonight. I took her to dinner and the place wAS fancy, i had veal ( first time i ever had it) and she loved the dinner. Than i surprised her by taking her to the pool hall, sounds like a bad idea but she had a lot of fun, she was bad at first but then she started to kill it at pool, almost beat me! Than we watched the rest of the first season of american horror story and it was OK. but than we went to my bed than i got her off, we went at it for like 30 minutes but i might have drank to much and i didn't get off but she said she did and thats honestly all it matters to me. So now shes sleeping and im about to join her3re. VALENTINES DAY IS FUN

Great call on this part, drinks/pool is always a winner. 

[JB]

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remember my post in the reAL conffesions thread? Yeah forgot about it i had so much fun tonight. I took her to dinner and the place wAS fancy, i had veal ( first time i ever had it) and she loved the dinner. Than i surprised her by taking her to the pool hall, sounds like a bad idea but she had a lot of fun, she was bad at first but then she started to kill it at pool, almost beat me! Than we watched the rest of the first season of american horror story and it was OK. but than we went to my bed than i got her off, we went at it for like 30 minutes but i might have drank to much and i didn't get off but she said she did and thats honestly all it matters to me. So now shes sleeping and im about to join her3re. VALENTINES DAY IS FUN

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Great call on this part, drinks/pool is always a winner. 

definitely back this. i met my girl playing pool. any dudes who are out of ideas for the first few dates with a chick, pool is usually a good plan. just dont slaughter her if you're way better than she is. nobody has a good time getting their ass whooped.

[Bobby Peru]

The normal looking girl wants me to set up a meeting. I'm freaking out. If she's down, what am I going to tell her about me not knowing what I'm doing? What happens when she finds out I'm fatter than in the pictures? What happens if I'm supposed to kiss her or something? What happens if she sees my little pecker? What if we just fucking hate each other? I've never felt so stupid in my life.

She's nervous too. Maybe not as much as you, but she's also taking a chance on something she's unsure of, so you're in the same boat. Smoking/food/drinks/whatever are just that. No expectations. Just try and have fun. If something happens, tight. If not, also fine.

[UL8]

The normal looking girl wants me to set up a meeting. I'm freaking out. If she's down, what am I going to tell her about me not knowing what I'm doing? What happens when she finds out I'm fatter than in the pictures? What happens if I'm supposed to kiss her or something? What happens if she sees my little pecker? What if we just fucking hate each other? I've never felt so stupid in my life.

The fact that you aren't some asshole who thinks he is god's gift to women already makes you cooler than like half the dudes on tinder. All you can do is be nice to her and try to make her laugh, and see if you guys like hanging out. Just take it from there and the kissing or other things will work themselves out. Don't worry about not being hung like a pornstar or your body image. You're probably just tripping yourself out.

Good luck man, hope things go well!