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if you're gonna make jokes, some aren't gonna land, and some will offend. you could avoid humor altogether or keep it to polite dad jokes, but that doesn't seem like a great way to live.
either this girl was gonna get upset at something later on, or you crossed the line without meaning to say something hurtful. neither sounds like something worth beating yourself up over. if you really think you said something wrong, make a note of it and move on. living in the past is the worst thing you can do.
I mean, you're right, I'm just really bad at moving on. Especially when it was my fault.
I hope in time you won’t keep beating yourself up and thinking of this as your fault. I know how easy it is to feel that way but from what you’ve said here, my feeling is that it’s likely better it ended sooner rather than later. I’m just one girl writing this to you and I know you’re not feeling great right now, but I hope you’ll hear me out.
I don’t know what your joke was but I can’t imagine it was anything so terrible that you should be written off for one comment. Everyone is going to say something, do something, at one point or another that isn’t going to come across the way they hoped. Including the girl who you’re thinking of as such a prize.
If she can’t realize that enough to cut you some slack after having an otherwise good time with you, it may be she’s not such a prize after all. I’m not trying to be nasty, just honest. When it comes down to it, everyone needs someone who is going to be on their team despite their mistakes. To see them for who they really are. You deserve someone who is going to do that for you. If she can’t, it doesn’t matter how good she looks on paper so to speak, or when she looks in the mirror. There’s someone better out there for you.
I think sensitivity is a good thing, but it can be taken too far. If she can’t use that joke as an opportunity to learn and grow with you, to help you understand her better, from my perspective she’s not ready to uphold her part of a real relationship. Which I get the sense you’re hoping to find because of how this situation threw you for a loop.
Give things some time, you’ll find it, and with someone who isn’t looking for some unrealistic perfection. Take care man.