Hang in there l33t. My sex life pretty much disappeared for 10 years and came back to life when I was damn near 30. Don’t worry about matches. Matches are the worst dating things. Find an app like Plenty Of Fish and just message any girl you are interested in. I was waiting for matches and got like nothing. I’m not ugly and not an idiot either. I started just using POF because you could send a message without matching first. That’s how I met my girlfriend. Sending a message to a chick I thought wouldn’t give me the time of day. You gotta persist.
I would get like 1 or 2 messages a day on that app. My girlfriend was maxed out at like 99+ or 999+ it said. Nobody who ever messaged me was someone I was interested in. I’m horrible at talking to women when I actually am interested. I’ve never walked up and hit on a girl. But using an app that let me send a message made that easier. Don’t be a douche either. Actually read their profile and refer to their interests. My girlfriend and I actually had a ton in common on our profiles and that’s where the discussion started. We started talking about podcasts and from there things happened.
EDIT: Late to add but my point about my girlfriends messages being maxed out is that there is so many fucking guys on there clogging that shit up with lameness. My girl said she would get so many messages just saying "wyd".
Same here man, it really is a numbers game with these dating apps and every app fills a specific niche in the market. I went with Ok Cupid because I found the quiz to be really helpful in finding a compatible match with women. It's really unlike Tinder where you swipe and send a flirty text; hoping it will lead to something. I feel that folks on Ok Cupid (mostly) try to make an effort to find a good match, so they both to do up their profiles and answer the quiz questions so you match well with a potential partner. It shows that both parties are committed to finding a partner, though hook ups are possible.
Men are lucky to get a couple of texts a day, but women are flooded with texts on a daily basis. My female friend tried it out and within 5 minutes of creating a profile she had 10 messages, all of them low effort "wyd" or "hi". Probably even more so one of her photos was her in a bikini or sexually suggestive.
@L33T - I hope you're doing OK, would hate to lose someone especially on Slap. I would classify myself as a mentally healthy adult but even I have these thoughts that life would be much easier if it just stopped. It futility of life can really get to me. On an intellectual level I understand how it can be incredibly selfish and logically the wrong thing to do, especially to my wife, friends and family, but those reason are not good enough for me.
I really have to remind myself to enjoy the little things in life; it can be a good tune, a solid skate part, good meal, a session at the park or seeing your friends. "It gets easier. Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day —that’s the hard part. But it does get easier"
I'm sure a couple of Pals would be happy to meet up for a session if you're open to that idea.