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I have social anxiety in crowded areas other than skate parks/ spots.
Whilst skating or just being there?
I don't have problems in skate parks just because I'm too focused on skating to think about it, but recently I've been overwhelmed in social situations, even getting a cup of coffee requires some kind of self talk to get me calmed down.
I'm no therapist but I've had experience with anxiety and read or watched a little research and methods for treatment in these situations. A lot of the time the treatment involves facing your fear head on and doing what you're holding back from but in the most extreme manner possible, so for OCD cleanliness obsessives they'll have them put their hand inside a toilet (a clean one) or for the socially anxious they'll have them approach strangers to ask them questions or start a conversation, first try no warm ups. What ever the worst case scenerio the anxious person has imagined
never eventuates and generally there is no negative or lasting consequence to speak of so it normalises anticipated responses. After a while the anxiety subsides, but practice and repetition is required to maintain this.
If you can maybe next time you feel this way, rather than try to identify why you're feeling this way, distract yourself (this is different for different people) then do what your wanting to do first try no warm ups. In Cognative behavioural therapy you might also be asked to identify the situations that make you most uncomfortable then list all the possible outcomes then identify the most logical or likely of them. They write it down like a chart (I'm sure it has a name but I can't remember it). This visual representation of it helps the mind rationalise the probability of actual outcomes rather than focusing on the negative.
Remember Silky, first try-no warm ups.