like will said, you gotta be resilient in this game, tobey. anyway, i know you felt nervous, but her showing up to an alcohol-buzzed dude with beer breath could have put her off. also, it probably made you less sharp than you could have been. if you can get yourself to genuinely not care if chicks like you or not, while being able to remain conscientious, not only will your confidence rise, but so will your standing with women.
as lame as it might sound, if you have any other buddies who are also into the online dating thing, you guys should team up and take pics of yourselves --> but get a female opinion regarding which shots to use. if the middle school friend is available for either, that would work as well.
go get 'em killer!