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It's sad and I hope BAM can get sober. In his Epicly Later'd they talked about what he was doing to get sober and it didn't yet include AA or professional help. This might be the wake up call to seek that kind of guidance. Best of luck Bam, respect.
Didn't someone imply that he wasn't doing it the right way.
I hope for Bam he gets the help he needs, and glad he didn't hurt anyone while he was behind the wheel.
If I remember right that Brandon Novak guy said something about him wanting to be sober for skateboarding and not for himself yet and that that wasn't a sustainable way to do it, or something like that.
I and some other addicts saw no value in own lives, so we had to do it for other people. I did it for my family, my friend did it for his kid.
From the beginning, any motivation is fine. After a while you start doing it for your self. I remember when my mom and dad would get all suspicious when they heard my voice over the phone. I just had a cold but they thought it was dope. I got kind of upset, but understood where they came from. Still I thought " Hey, I want to be sober, regardless".
Props to you, your friends, and Novak who have got out of the woods! Bam's EL, NineClub just screamed "honeymoon period" and even though people have been making $$ off recovery stories for a minute, skateboarding's profiteers fucked up over making some money off this.
It reminds me of a lot of people who enter recovery and get to step 4 and they wanna run to everyone immediately and make amends, then a lil time goes by, not even a year later, they're bored and back to using, and then the insanity cycle repeats: those same people have to hear an apology for an apology.
If you got a Bam-style problem with alcohol, whatever: you need to remove yourself from that setting. Especially people who know/enable you. If I was him, and survival was really important, I'd do that young Bruce Wayne shit: divorce that enabling wife of his, move to fuckin Cambodia with nothing in my pockets, and get a measly existence at a job that's physically exhausting, skating only at shitty parks, once the weight drops off. It takes 7 years to completely change cell structure, about that time, his son will be ready to be with him, the real him. He could silently come back to PA, scoop up his son, and journey into the sunset, un-celebrated but totally intact and healthy.