Has anyone else had to suffer with someone who is facing gnarly mental health issues, only to get blamed for those issues?
I had someone who was close to me at one point, really struggle with her undiagnosed bipolar, depression, ADD, and dissociative disorder and after I told her doctor all the shit that she was experiencing (she struggled to do this herself) and suffered through that shit with her for years (I wasn't a saint, I sometime reacted negatively to her outbursts that I couldn't understand, which exacerbated her issues) she decided to make me the cause and representation of her depression/struggles.
It makes me super angry and bums me out that not only did I suffer with her through that shit, I now get blamed for it. And someone else who did zero work gets the credit of being the hero. He never begged her to take her meds, or begged her to tell the therapist what was really going on, he didn't see the consequences of her intense ups/downs, etc. I suffered through all that shit and it was only when I went to the doctor with her and I explained her struggles to the doctor that she finally got prescribed the meds she needed so badly for 17 years of her life. The doctor said, "Oh, you are battling bipolar. I had no idea." This was two years into an extremely trying situation and 17 years after the symptoms really started to show when she was a teenager (and her parents did absolutely nothing to help her).
It is fucking killing me that I suffered through it with her, but in her mind she is the only one who suffered and it is all my fault that she was struggling because I pushed her to confront the shit she was facing.