Breakups

[sexualhelon]

So there's an "awkward/awful marriages" thread but I didn't see one for breakups.

Break up stories here.

[EXTRA SPICY]

I tried to do one out of kindness and consent recently over the phone after a 5 month tour; I just genuinely was not into it.
-cigarette habit
-messy house*
-ugly cat*
-unique terroir in the valley*
-conflicting careers
-daily drinking habit
-yada yada yada
-collectively these were contributing to some ED issues


I didn’t state all of these in the call (sans a starred topics above), just that my emotions weren’t matching up with it and elaborated a bit why I didn’t want to continue it; not fair for either party if one of which isn’t down to keep it going. I kept it cool, but had to take a beratement of bullshit from topics ranging that I wasn’t working hard enough with my therapist, to claims about how I don’t know how to communicate and shouldn’t expect to be in a successful relationship ever accordingly.
For the record, my mental health is in the high 90th percentile right now, and I work in the government sector for environmental regulation and am a tribal liaison. I communicate just fine with my head screwed on straight.

Better now than later.
Happier now than ever.