I'm a cis straight male but I wanted to reverberate what @professional said. Shouts to all of you living your truth and fuck anyone that has a problem with it.
Gay cis male skater in Ireland. I barely skate any more because I don't know anyone in the city I moved to two years ago, but I talk shit on the internet every day.
Up the queers <3
cishet male checking in. Not because I have a place in this thread, but just to reaffirm that everyone, absolutely everyone, deserves a safe space in skateboarding, on here, and throughout the rest of the world - regardless if some feel the need to debate that.straight up.
Respect to all of the posters above for living their truth and having the courage to be themselves in a world that does not always tolerate that.
Big love
edit: And for other 'straight' skaters out there, it is simply not enough to say you "tolerate" queer or LGBTQIA+ identifying people. Our culture is full of sexism and misogyny and we must be actively anti-sexist and anti-homophobic(among other things) to make our spaces safe for everyone.
I'm a cis straight male but I wanted to reverberate what @professional said. Shouts to all of you living your truth and fuck anyone that has a problem with it.
Gay cis male skater in Ireland. I barely skate any more because I don't know anyone in the city I moved to two years ago, but I talk shit on the internet every day.
Up the queers <3
Expand QuoteGay cis male skater in Ireland. I barely skate any more because I don't know anyone in the city I moved to two years ago, but I talk shit on the internet every day.
Up the queers <3[close]
Hit me up to skate some time if your in Dublin man
Madison, WI bi skater dude checking inWatched her game of fingerboard skate with Tubsy the other day.
I am not very good at skating but some of my friends are very good at skating
Marbie is my homegirl/roommate, trying to get things done with the last who knows number of days of okay weather
chicago based bisexual gender fluid sk9r posting up.Is that a diss on Anti Hero?
i’m happy to see queer skateboarders getting coverage. i still got zero respect for any companies promoting their tolken gay skateboarder, but companies like glue are fucking sick.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteGay cis male skater in Ireland. I barely skate any more because I don't know anyone in the city I moved to two years ago, but I talk shit on the internet every day.
Up the queers <3[close]
Hit me up to skate some time if your in Dublin man[close]
I'd be down to skate Clongriffin/Donaghmede, Ballyogan, Cork St. or spots in town whenever it's dry. I don't even know where to go around town now that Portobello's gone.
Expand QuoteI'm a cis straight male but I wanted to reverberate what @professional said. Shouts to all of you living your truth and fuck anyone that has a problem with it.[close]
same
Glad this thread was created.Couldnt have said it any better myself man☺
Y’all know my stance on the LGBTQs: I’m so glad you’re here, and thank you for bringing your friends.
If we can’t all enjoy this stoke together, I don’t really want anything to do with it anymore.
Growing up doing ballet, figure skating, and theater I found it odd that skateboarding appeared to be the exclusive domain of straight, mostly white, dudes for so much of my youth.
It happys my blood pumper to see the activity I love finally start to resemble the world I live in.
I see you out there.
Shalom.
cishet male checking in. Not because I have a place in this thread, but just to reaffirm that everyone, absolutely everyone, deserves a safe space in skateboarding, on here, and throughout the rest of the world - regardless if some feel the need to debate that.
Respect to all of the posters above for living their truth and having the courage to be themselves in a world that does not always tolerate that.
Big love
edit: And for other 'straight' skaters out there, it is simply not enough to say you "tolerate" queer or LGBTQIA+ identifying people. Our culture is full of sexism and misogyny and we must be actively anti-sexist and anti-homophobic(among other things) to make our spaces safe for everyone.
Also curious if any queers are doing any activist work where they're at, would love to hear about it.
San Diego, CA Non-Binary here (He/They) its cool to see more people in this thread. especially since I'm pretty sure I know one of you via IG already. After all the weird shit I've seen here on SLAP the last 10+ years its good to see we're community building finally.
quasi? real? anti hero? krooked? fa? hockey?
or how there has had some of the best board graphics in over 10 years
I'm a cis straight male but I wanted to reverberate what @professional said. Shouts to all of you living your truth and fuck anyone that has a problem with it.
Cis straight male, just here to listen and show my support. If anyone of you are in Philly and need someone to skate some curbs with, hit me up!
Thirded.Expand QuoteCis straight male, just here to listen and show my support. If anyone of you are inPhillyNYC and need someone to skate some curbs with, hit me up![close]
^^
x2.
quasi? real? anti hero? krooked? fa? hockey?Expand Quote
or how there has had some of the best board graphics in over 10 years[close]
Queer/bi-guy/heteroflex/poly checking in here.
Haven’t been posting as much lately due to really focusing on my mental health and other big projects.
But I love to see threads like this!
Love my slap fam!
All of this support all around is so important!
@mongloid ill throw some catch up clips just for you over in the “post yourself skating thread”Expand QuoteQueer/bi-guy/heteroflex/poly checking in here.
Haven’t been posting as much lately due to really focusing on my mental health and other big projects.
But I love to see threads like this!
Love my slap fam!
All of this support all around is so important![close]
Get well soon man! I’m looking forward to more clips of your skating!
41yo gay guy in Texas. Skating 30 years. Long time lurker, but stoked on this thread. Gonna vent a little:
Even with the macho setting, skating was always my safe space, especially growing up in the 90s. I lived in MD/DC which at the time was a melting pot of emerging scenes—Fugazi and post hardcore, DC Go-go, ravers, Baltimore club.. so much shit was happening. Golden-era spots like Pulaski, Landsdowne, Towson courthouse were just being born. Those scenes brought all walks of life together and skaters were a common thread through all of it.
I wasn't out then, but skating's status as the underdog pulled me in. I knew I was "other" and if I had to pick a group to identify with, skaters had the most open minds at the time. At least in the MD/VA/DC scene, the cliche was true: "it didn't matter who you were—if you skated, you were in."
The whole time I knew the industry (and the world at large) wouldn't be ready for anything gay anytime soon, no matter how good of a skater I was. We're talking before "Will'n'Grace", before any representation anywhere besides the art and DIY music scene. But I knew there were other gay skaters. And it was really cold knowing I'd never meet them. My life moved on, and I came out in 2004. And like I knew it would, my close skate community (in Texas of all places) did not turn their backs.
The young queer kids today making things happen, they're making that dream come true for me and countless others. It feels like those early days when the joy of fucking skating itself—not stacking clips—drove us all to unite and roam the streets together.
Shout out to Jarrett Berry, Kunle IRAK, Sam McGuire and Yann Horoblitz for being beacons of what was to come. And thank you BA, fucking ARIN, There, Unity and Glue for pushing us forward.
Anyone ever go on the Conservative Subreddit? I've been checking it out because I want to see their thoughts on the alleged election fraud. Anyhow, I've come to learn that they're OBSESSED with Transgender people. It's not uncommon to see a post about TG people on their page in support of the idea that being TG means you have a mental disorder, and the comments are hateful as fuck. It's so strange, and the concentration of it leads me to believe that a lot of their browsing histories probably have some fabulous pictures of my sisters, haha.
At this point I think the Republicans should be considered a hate group. Roger Stone once said candidly in an interview that you can inspire people with hate more than love, and that's what they do. It's so obvious to me that politics is more about herding people than solving problems, and it kind of kills me that these people are so susceptible to propaganda and are entirely unwilling to read other viewpoints or ideas to compare and contrast and learn from.
I'm probably preaching to the choir, but jesus fucking Christ.....
Expand QuoteAnyone ever go on the Conservative Subreddit? I've been checking it out because I want to see their thoughts on the alleged election fraud. Anyhow, I've come to learn that they're OBSESSED with Transgender people. It's not uncommon to see a post about TG people on their page in support of the idea that being TG means you have a mental disorder, and the comments are hateful as fuck. It's so strange, and the concentration of it leads me to believe that a lot of their browsing histories probably have some fabulous pictures of my sisters, haha.
At this point I think the Republicans should be considered a hate group. Roger Stone once said candidly in an interview that you can inspire people with hate more than love, and that's what they do. It's so obvious to me that politics is more about herding people than solving problems, and it kind of kills me that these people are so susceptible to propaganda and are entirely unwilling to read other viewpoints or ideas to compare and contrast and learn from.
I'm probably preaching to the choir, but jesus fucking Christ.....[close]
All’s I can say is, the greatest lesson I’ve learned in my 44 years of life is that it’s ok to not understand someone else, to be comfortable saying “I don’t know.” Maybe I’m not the ally that’s needed, but when I hear someone talking about gender fluidity or a similar concept I can’t wrap my head around as a straight white dude, it’s better to just ask “what can I do to help” instead of trying to make someone explain their existence to me. Big love to everybody helping instead of hurting.
Conservative Straight Male here who just wants to say we (conservatives) all support LBGTQ rights and the community at large. I sometimes get bummed @ some of the stereotyping that goes on here about people with a certain political affiliation and want to set the record straight. Live your best life, and be good to people. Karma takes care of the rest.
Expand QuoteConservative Straight Male here who just wants to say we (conservatives) all support LBGTQ rights and the community at large. I sometimes get bummed @ some of the stereotyping that goes on here about people with a certain political affiliation and want to set the record straight. Live your best life, and be good to people. Karma takes care of the rest.[close]
Conservative family values and resulting policies are deeply homophobic and transphobic so I am afraid karma will not play out in your favor. You are a long way from setting the record queer.
Anyone ever go on the Conservative Subreddit? I've been checking it out because I want to see their thoughts on the alleged election fraud. Anyhow, I've come to learn that they're OBSESSED with Transgender people. It's not uncommon to see a post about TG people on their page in support of the idea that being TG means you have a mental disorder, and the comments are hateful as fuck. It's so strange, and the concentration of it leads me to believe that a lot of their browsing histories probably have some fabulous pictures of my sisters, haha.
At this point I think the Republicans should be considered a hate group. Roger Stone once said candidly in an interview that you can inspire people with hate more than love, and that's what they do. It's so obvious to me that politics is more about herding people than solving problems, and it kind of kills me that these people are so susceptible to propaganda and are entirely unwilling to read other viewpoints or ideas to compare and contrast and learn from.
I'm probably preaching to the choir, but jesus fucking Christ.....
Expand QuoteAnyone ever go on the Conservative Subreddit? I've been checking it out because I want to see their thoughts on the alleged election fraud. Anyhow, I've come to learn that they're OBSESSED with Transgender people. It's not uncommon to see a post about TG people on their page in support of the idea that being TG means you have a mental disorder, and the comments are hateful as fuck. It's so strange, and the concentration of it leads me to believe that a lot of their browsing histories probably have some fabulous pictures of my sisters, haha.
At this point I think the Republicans should be considered a hate group. Roger Stone once said candidly in an interview that you can inspire people with hate more than love, and that's what they do. It's so obvious to me that politics is more about herding people than solving problems, and it kind of kills me that these people are so susceptible to propaganda and are entirely unwilling to read other viewpoints or ideas to compare and contrast and learn from.
I'm probably preaching to the choir, but jesus fucking Christ.....[close]
That’s one of the places I go when I wanna see exactly what an alternate reality looks like.
It’s also strange how so many people support a party that offers literally no concessions to those that vote for it, and actively hurts them directly.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteConservative Straight Male here who just wants to say we (conservatives) all support LBGTQ rights and the community at large. I sometimes get bummed @ some of the stereotyping that goes on here about people with a certain political affiliation and want to set the record straight. Live your best life, and be good to people. Karma takes care of the rest.[close]
Conservative family values and resulting policies are deeply homophobic and transphobic so I am afraid karma will not play out in your favor. You are a long way from setting the record queer.[close]
I really like your avatar
@BroBruhBra
Your father is 100% correct, but as long as it’s hurting the other side then they feel as though they’re “winning”.
The truth is that we all want the same things out of life. Others want that with a side of denying others those same rights.
I should add that I as a straight white male am not really the most masculine individual. I don’t fit the emotional stereotypes that come with being a “man”, and I often don’t connect with those that do. Whenever I go out to shows, or wherever I find myself, I often end up meeting and connecting with members of the gay community. My best friend right now is a lesbian girl I skate with, and I really genuinely love her in a very deep meaningful way.
I hope if I should ever have the privilege of meeting any of you through the medium of skating, that I project that of an individual with an open heart, and I can make you feel safe in my company.
Madison, WI bi skater dude checking in
I am not very good at skating but some of my friends are very good at skating
Marbie is my homegirl/roommate, trying to get things done with the last who knows number of days of okay weather
@BroBruhBra
Your father is 100% correct, but as long as it’s hurting the other side then they feel as though they’re “winning”.
The truth is that we all want the same things out of life. Others want that with a side of denying others those same rights.
I should add that I as a straight white male am not really the most masculine individual. I don’t fit the emotional stereotypes that come with being a “man”, and I often don’t connect with those that do. Whenever I go out to shows, or wherever I find myself, I often end up meeting and connecting with members of the gay community. My best friend right now is a lesbian girl I skate with, and I really genuinely love her in a very deep meaningful way.
I hope if I should ever have the privilege of meeting any of you through the medium of skating, that I project that of an individual with an open heart, and I can make you feel safe in my company.
I brought refreshments.
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Nah, only messing. That's most definitely an American doughnut. Maybe un-flavoured, maybe cinnamon.
I still hear some horrifically gay slurs and homophobic bullshit at the skatepark but tbh I know it's just something that will be there for only a few more years. Shit is changing
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I still hear some horrifically gay slurs and homophobic bullshit at the skatepark but tbh I know it's just something that will be there for only a few more years. Shit is changing[close]
This is the one thing I'm not so optimistic about. Things have changed, and will continue to get better in that regard. But, the reality is that skateboarding has always (and will continue to for a good while yet) revolved around adolescent boys. And adolescent boys are, objectively awful.
As an old man, my teenage years involved pretty much every kid I skated with either fantasising that they skated for Antihero or Menace. So admittedly it was a pretty bad time in terms of macho posturing and all the bullshit that comes with that, but being a teenage boy comes with so much anxiety about fitting that I think there will always be a whole world of stupid stuff that people have to deal with.
From this vantage point I can look back at how we all were as teenagers and see it as something that generally everyone grew out of. I'm still friends with most of the people I skated with then, and 20 years later the dudes who desperately tried to act like they were James Kelch or whoever have grown into lovely adults who dutifully post on social media in support of gay rights, and buy their kids feminist children's books. But they sure as hell weren't like that when we were all 16 years old.
I understand your skepticism but if you look gen z kids on tik tok, insta, etc. LGBT acceptance is really really embraced. Your point about it being inherently within teenage boys to distance themselves from "gayness" or "softness" and other unsavory teenage boy social behavior could truly always be there. But I think the degree at which this distancing happens is really getting smaller with Gen Z and younger.
I’m excited for the there video.what podcast? i'd really like to hear that
I wonder who’s gonna have full parts
Marbies podcast interview was pretty cool. Didn’t know much about her before I listened
who's everyone particularly stoked on right now? I think Akobi that person associated with the Melodi crew or whatever is fuckin sick, their insta is banging
what podcast? i'd really like to hear thatExpand QuoteI’m excited for the there video.
I wonder who’s gonna have full parts
Marbies podcast interview was pretty cool. Didn’t know much about her before I listened[close]
I'm hammered and don't know how I ended up in this thread, but it's beautiful, you're all beautiful and I love y'all.
I'm a cis hetero white guy, but just wanted to shout out Cream City in Milwaukee for their safe skate sessions and the fem/LGBTQ+(sorry if I didn't phrase this right) contest they've been holding at Wilson skatepark in Chicago (Marbie won the last one, it was rad).
My cousin came out as an asexual queer, I'm going to be honest I'm not sure what that means, but their dad is super religious so I try to support them any way I can, but mostly it just comes down to shooting the shit with 'em and listening what they have to say.
I'm hammered and don't know how I ended up in this thread, but it's beautiful, you're all beautiful and I love y'all.
I'm a cis hetero white guy, but just wanted to shout out Cream City in Milwaukee for their safe skate sessions and the fem/LGBTQ+(sorry if I didn't phrase this right) contest they've been holding at Wilson skatepark in Chicago (Marbie won the last one, it was rad).
My cousin came out as an asexual queer, I'm going to be honest I'm not sure what that means, but their dad is super religious so I try to support them any way I can, but mostly it just comes down to shooting the shit with 'em and listening what they have to say.
Theres few things less important or relevant to skateboarding than what a person does with their dick ass mouth tiddies, elbows or feelings to another person or peoples.
If i saw a thread that said straight skaters talking about straight stuff id open it, laugh, comment how dumb this is and move on. These are more or less my thoughts on this thread.
We all know this person is an idiot. No one here (and likely anywhere) has asked them to weigh in on this or any topic. Can we collectively ignore this dumb take so we don’t clog the topic with arguing and thus repeating his words?
Expand QuoteTheres few things less important or relevant to skateboarding than what a person does with their dick ass mouth tiddies, elbows or feelings to another person or peoples.
If i saw a thread that said straight skaters talking about straight stuff id open it, laugh, comment how dumb this is and move on. These are more or less my thoughts on this thread.[close]
We all know this person is an idiot. No one here (and likely anywhere) has asked them to weigh in on this or any topic. Can we collectively ignore this dumb take so we don’t clog the topic with arguing and thus repeating his words?
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteTheres few things less important or relevant to skateboarding than what a person does with their dick ass mouth tiddies, elbows or feelings to another person or peoples.
If i saw a thread that said straight skaters talking about straight stuff id open it, laugh, comment how dumb this is and move on. These are more or less my thoughts on this thread.[close]
We all know this person is an idiot. No one here (and likely anywhere) has asked them to weigh in on this or any topic. Can we collectively ignore this dumb take so we don’t clog the topic with arguing and thus repeating his words?[close]
Consider my dumb take a preview hopefully on peoples feelings to someones sexuality in the coming years. Im hoping to get to this stage as fast as possible.
Oh your gay... *shrugs*. So anyways we skatin or wat.
Happy pride month, y’all!thanks G!
Consider my dumb take a preview hopefully on peoples feelings to someones sexuality in the coming years. Im hoping to get to this stage as fast as possible.it bears noting that it is this casually dismissive attitude of your initial post that actually necessitates a thread like this.
Oh your gay... *shrugs*. So anyways we skatin or wat.
Theres few things less important or relevant to skateboarding than what a person does with their dick ass mouth tiddies, elbows or feelings to another person or peoples.Kindly consider that everybody has different experiences & these so called “safe spaces” are valuable to a good bunch of our friends on here.
If i saw a thread that said straight skaters talking about straight stuff id open it, laugh, comment how dumb this is and move on. These are more or less my thoughts on this thread.
Just came out to a big group of my skate homies before a trip, so nervous about it but a step in the right direction.Congrats man! This has me stoked. Sounds like you have a good support system with your friends☺
Just came out to a big group of my skate homies before a trip, so nervous about it but a step in the right direction.
Just came out to a big group of my skate homies before a trip, so nervous about it but a step in the right direction.
Just came out to a big group of my skate homies before a trip, so nervous about it but a step in the right direction.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteExpand QuoteTheres few things less important or relevant to skateboarding than what a person does with their dick ass mouth tiddies, elbows or feelings to another person or peoples.
If i saw a thread that said straight skaters talking about straight stuff id open it, laugh, comment how dumb this is and move on. These are more or less my thoughts on this thread.[close]
We all know this person is an idiot. No one here (and likely anywhere) has asked them to weigh in on this or any topic. Can we collectively ignore this dumb take so we don’t clog the topic with arguing and thus repeating his words?[close]
Consider my dumb take a preview hopefully on peoples feelings to someones sexuality in the coming years. Im hoping to get to this stage as fast as possible.
Oh your gay... *shrugs*. So anyways we skatin or wat.[close]
spoken like a true straight person
41yo gay guy in Texas. Skating 30 years. Long time lurker, but stoked on this thread. Gonna vent a little:
Even with the macho setting, skating was always my safe space, especially growing up in the 90s. I lived in MD/DC which at the time was a melting pot of emerging scenes—Fugazi and post hardcore, DC Go-go, ravers, Baltimore club.. so much shit was happening. Golden-era spots like Pulaski, Landsdowne, Towson courthouse were just being born. Those scenes brought all walks of life together and skaters were a common thread through all of it.
I wasn't out then, but skating's status as the underdog pulled me in. I knew I was "other" and if I had to pick a group to identify with, skaters had the most open minds at the time. At least in the MD/VA/DC scene, the cliche was true: "it didn't matter who you were—if you skated, you were in."
The whole time I knew the industry (and the world at large) wouldn't be ready for anything gay anytime soon, no matter how good of a skater I was. We're talking before "Will'n'Grace", before any representation anywhere besides the art and DIY music scene. But I knew there were other gay skaters. And it was really cold knowing I'd never meet them. My life moved on, and I came out in 2004. And like I knew it would, my close skate community (in Texas of all places) did not turn their backs.
The young queer kids today making things happen, they're making that dream come true for me and countless others. It feels like those early days when the joy of fucking skating itself—not stacking clips—drove us all to unite and roam the streets together.
Shout out to Jarrett Berry, Kunle IRAK, Sam McGuire and Yann Horoblitz for being beacons of what was to come. And thank you BA, fucking ARIN, There, Unity and Glue for pushing us forward.
I’m not gay, but my best friend of over 20 years just came out recently. Our other friends, who have been in our circle for almost our whole lives don’t even speak to him now, which is really fucking shitty and I was really shocked by that. It is even making me reconsider my friendship with them now. Sometimes it takes longer to see people’s true colors I guess. He’s still the same old dude I’ve known my whole life so I really don’t see why it’s a problem, and it shouldn’t be to begin with.
He has a boyfriend now and he’s really happy, probably the happiest I’ve ever seen him and I’m so stoked and proud of him for coming out and living his best life. All this time I had no idea that he was struggling with his inner demons with this, and I wish he would’ve told me sooner because I 100% would’ve been there for him every step of the way. I understand why he didn’t though because it was just different times back then.
I never cared what his sexual orientation is, I just want him to continue being my best friend. That’s all I care about.
I'm hammered and don't know how I ended up in this thread, but it's beautiful, you're all beautiful and I love y'all.
I'm a cis hetero white guy, but just wanted to shout out Cream City in Milwaukee for their safe skate sessions and the fem/LGBTQ+(sorry if I didn't phrase this right) contest they've been holding at Wilson skatepark in Chicago (Marbie won the last one, it was rad).
My cousin came out as an asexual queer, I'm going to be honest I'm not sure what that means, but their dad is super religious so I try to support them any way I can, but mostly it just comes down to shooting the shit with 'em and listening what they have to say.
Two days ago I came out as a trans woman to my best friend. He's still my best friend. He is my fucking rock. Oh, I just came out as trans on Facebook... I've never felt so myself in my life.
Expand QuoteTwo days ago I came out as a trans woman to my best friend. He's still my best friend. He is my fucking rock. Oh, I just came out as trans on Facebook... I've never felt so myself in my life.[close]
fucking sick, happy for you
Two days ago I came out as a trans woman to my best friend. He's still my best friend. He is my fucking rock. Oh, I just came out as trans on Facebook... I've never felt so myself in my life.
Two days ago I came out as a trans woman to my best friend. He's still my best friend. He is my fucking rock. Oh, I just came out as trans on Facebook... I've never felt so myself in my life.
Hi all! I'm a 23 year old non-binary transgender skateboarder from Texas. I been skating like the past 13 years and I've been out as trans for almost 5 years. I been lurking this forum since my teens but I just saw this thread and thought I'd make an account finally.
I'm currently resting and recuperating a partially torn ligament in my knee but I'm really optimistic about the future. It's been amazing to see more and more queer visibility in skating, it totally renewed my passion for it and I know I just wanna skate til I die.
I blow
Expand QuoteHi all! I'm a 23 year old non-binary transgender skateboarder from Texas. I been skating like the past 13 years and I've been out as trans for almost 5 years. I been lurking this forum since my teens but I just saw this thread and thought I'd make an account finally.
I'm currently resting and recuperating a partially torn ligament in my knee but I'm really optimistic about the future. It's been amazing to see more and more queer visibility in skating, it totally renewed my passion for it and I know I just wanna skate til I die.[close]
Welcum to slap! Nice to hear from you. Hope to see you out there shredding soon.
Good for you @Dong Juan we got your back too, glad you got a good friend also.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteHi all! I'm a 23 year old non-binary transgender skateboarder from Texas. I been skating like the past 13 years and I've been out as trans for almost 5 years. I been lurking this forum since my teens but I just saw this thread and thought I'd make an account finally.
I'm currently resting and recuperating a partially torn ligament in my knee but I'm really optimistic about the future. It's been amazing to see more and more queer visibility in skating, it totally renewed my passion for it and I know I just wanna skate til I die.[close]
Welcum to slap! Nice to hear from you. Hope to see you out there shredding soon.
Good for you @Dong Juan we got your back too, glad you got a good friend also.[close]
Hell yeah, welcome! If you ever find yourself down in Austin, give me a shout.
Also, don’t let that fucking bozo scare you of. We’re glad to have y’all.
Hi all! I'm a 23 year old non-binary transgender skateboarder from Texas. I been skating like the past 13 years and I've been out as trans for almost 5 years. I been lurking this forum since my teens but I just saw this thread and thought I'd make an account finally.
I'm currently resting and recuperating a partially torn ligament in my knee but I'm really optimistic about the future. It's been amazing to see more and more queer visibility in skating, it totally renewed my passion for it and I know I just wanna skate til I die.
I'm trying to support Glue skateboards but can't seem to find any prod/merch, any ideas what's up with them?
Hi all! I'm a 23 year old non-binary transgender skateboarder from Texas. I been skating like the past 13 years and I've been out as trans for almost 5 years. I been lurking this forum since my teens but I just saw this thread and thought I'd make an account finally.
I'm currently resting and recuperating a partially torn ligament in my knee but I'm really optimistic about the future. It's been amazing to see more and more queer visibility in skating, it totally renewed my passion for it and I know I just wanna skate til I die.
Don’t quote (and please delete) the homophobic slurs.
For you, my friend, anything.Expand QuoteDon’t quote (and please delete) the homophobic slurs.[close]
@Lou Strux @DaleSr
Love you two but can y'all delete the posts quoting that homophobic piece of shit? Thank you.
Would be very into a queer Slap video!
Expand QuoteWould be very into a queer Slap video![close]
“Gleaming the LBTQube”
*obviously not intending to exclude anyone
coming out of a little hibernation to say I love you all& this world is ours!!!!!!! I'm pretty zapped on my SLAP fuel these days but god damnit I hope we all get to meet each other and have the best fucking skate of all time one day , until then fucking Do what makes you happy & know that you are Perfect just the way you are or want to be !!!!!!!!! fucking cheers everyone, XOXO
coming out of a little hibernation to say I love you all& this world is ours!!!!!!! I'm pretty zapped on my SLAP fuel these days but god damnit I hope we all get to meet each other and have the best fucking skate of all time one day , until then fucking Do what makes you happy & know that you are Perfect just the way you are or want to be !!!!!!!!! fucking cheers everyone, XOXO
Uhhh. I'm gay but I don't know what to talk about.the Bob Seger kicked my ass, too. what a great choice. Grant skates better than ever
I guess that Jon Dickson has a neat switch flip. Or that that GT Nike part was tight!
https://www.instagram.com/p/CP1tQFIpZXh/?utm_medium=copy_linkI stopped by to check this out for about an hour today; super fun session. All kinds of cool folks having a great time.
Events are back! I’m guessing other cities will have some events soon.
Just wanted to say, I love you guys.
I can’t believe what a 180 Slap and skateboarding has had. Homophobia was so fucking ingrained in skate culture, it made me absolutely loath myself. It’s been hard getting over it. I don’t tell people I’m gay when they assume I’m straight. Self acceptance is so hard, I avoid mirrors and find it difficult maintaining eye contact with people I love. I’m a fucking mess, growing up homeschooled and in an evangelical house didn’t help. Slowly feeling better about life. Before I just wanted to die.
Just wanted to say thank you to those braver than me. <3
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I can’t believe what a 180 Slap and skateboarding has had. Homophobia was so fucking ingrained in skate culture, it made me absolutely loath myself. It’s been hard getting over it. I don’t tell people I’m gay when they assume I’m straight. Self acceptance is so hard, I avoid mirrors and find it difficult maintaining eye contact with people I love. I’m a fucking mess, growing up homeschooled and in an evangelical house didn’t help. Slowly feeling better about life. Before I just wanted to die.
Just wanted to say thank you to those braver than me. <3[close]
thank you for joining the boards
a warm hearted welcome and shalom!
Just wanted to say, I love you guys.
I can’t believe what a 180 Slap and skateboarding has had. Homophobia was so fucking ingrained in skate culture, it made me absolutely loath myself. It’s been hard getting over it. I don’t tell people I’m gay when they assume I’m straight. Self acceptance is so hard, I avoid mirrors and find it difficult maintaining eye contact with people I love. I’m a fucking mess, growing up homeschooled and in an evangelical house didn’t help. Slowly feeling better about life. Before I just wanted to die.
Just wanted to say thank you to those braver than me. <3
I’m the B in the LGB, and my dating life sucks because of it…
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That's a shame you experience discrimination for being bi.
However any reason why you left the T off of LGBT?
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That's a shame you experience discrimination for being bi.
However any reason why you left the T off of LGBT?[close]
They’re a troll who was previously banned. They threatened the mods that they were going to kill themselves if the mods didn’t unban their old account. Really ironic name.
I’ve been reading the exvangelical thread you recommended. You’re right, it feels so cathartic :)
I had a pretty powerful emotional reaction a couple months back after skating a DIY in a neighboring city with a larger skate scene than ours and saw the community there. There was no event going on, it was a pretty cold day even, and the place was bumping typically with all of these teenagers and young adults, many of whom appeared to be lgbtq and maybe 30 percent nonwhite. It was so colorful and cool to me that I didn't even skate that much, just looked around and thought about it - the skate scene I had when I was a kid and how it shaped me and how I might have been a vastly different person if I had that sort of atmosphere. So much less cynical, jaded, depressed.. I'm a really straight-passing masc dude and it made me think about how that likely is because I had to act that way through all my interactions in and out of skating in my formative years. I'm sure that scene isn't perfect, I know it isn't, assholes and drama and shit but I was just so struck by how truly valuable fostering a better, more accepting, more loving scene is. Growing up was really painful for me but it doesn't have to be so much for other people
Expand QuoteI had a pretty powerful emotional reaction a couple months back after skating a DIY in a neighboring city with a larger skate scene than ours and saw the community there. There was no event going on, it was a pretty cold day even, and the place was bumping typically with all of these teenagers and young adults, many of whom appeared to be lgbtq and maybe 30 percent nonwhite. It was so colorful and cool to me that I didn't even skate that much, just looked around and thought about it - the skate scene I had when I was a kid and how it shaped me and how I might have been a vastly different person if I had that sort of atmosphere. So much less cynical, jaded, depressed.. I'm a really straight-passing masc dude and it made me think about how that likely is because I had to act that way through all my interactions in and out of skating in my formative years. I'm sure that scene isn't perfect, I know it isn't, assholes and drama and shit but I was just so struck by how truly valuable fostering a better, more accepting, more loving scene is. Growing up was really painful for me but it doesn't have to be so much for other people[close]
Don't think I have related to a post on SLAP more than I have related to this one. I had this exact same reaction when I went to Rockridge for the first time. This brings up something I read a week ago that put this feeling into words:
"Queer people don't grow up as ourselves, we grow up playing a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation & prejudice. The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves are truly us & which parts we've created to protect us."
Where as I take your meaning, I can’t say that I’ve ever felt persecuted for my “likes/interests” because being into skating at my age, while potentially embarrassing, is not something that a powerful voting block views as antithetical to their outdated beliefs.Expand QuoteExpand QuoteExpand QuoteI had a pretty powerful emotional reaction a couple months back after skating a DIY in a neighboring city with a larger skate scene than ours and saw the community there. There was no event going on, it was a pretty cold day even, and the place was bumping typically with all of these teenagers and young adults, many of whom appeared to be lgbtq and maybe 30 percent nonwhite. It was so colorful and cool to me that I didn't even skate that much, just looked around and thought about it - the skate scene I had when I was a kid and how it shaped me and how I might have been a vastly different person if I had that sort of atmosphere. So much less cynical, jaded, depressed.. I'm a really straight-passing masc dude and it made me think about how that likely is because I had to act that way through all my interactions in and out of skating in my formative years. I'm sure that scene isn't perfect, I know it isn't, assholes and drama and shit but I was just so struck by how truly valuable fostering a better, more accepting, more loving scene is. Growing up was really painful for me but it doesn't have to be so much for other people[close]
Don't think I have related to a post on SLAP more than I have related to this one. I had this exact same reaction when I went to Rockridge for the first time. This brings up something I read a week ago that put this feeling into words:
"Queer people don't grow up as ourselves, we grow up playing a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation & prejudice. The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves are truly us & which parts we've created to protect us."[close]
that reminds of something I heard on a podcast where the speaker was noting that every time he meets someone new it’s a choice whether to come out again[close]
This to me is just adding weight to the silly theory that queer folk are “different” to everyone else.
And i just dont understand peoples feeling when interacting with others that what they enjoy emotionally or sexually is something that needs to be shared in social situations or at all ever. And sure the reply to that is, you dont understand. But im not completely straight at all. I rarely share this with people because, why would i need too. Ive interacted with people and im close friends with folks that im not entirely sure where they fall in their likes and interests. But at the same time, its entirely unimportant. I dont care. And if they felt it necessary to share what they like it would be weird to me purely because, its just an odd thing to feel you need share for some reason.
I just approach the world like i approach any interaction with someone. Who i like in the privacy of my own world isnt their business and people are almost totally unlikely to ask my sexuality because they probably dont really care or want to know or be akward enough to ask even if their morally opposed to it.
You arent different. You dont need to share it. If you dont need to share it, theres no reason to feel shame for it.
And theres an equally blunt approach by theamazingathiest who someone attempted to embarrass for enjoying sadomasochism and they posted some webcam footage of him online thats now been viewed by thousands.
His response was, why would i be embarrassed or care what you think, id rather they didnt share it with the world because its a dick move but... Its what i enjoy, its what i like doing, you wanna laugh at me for it go for gold, but i still think its the best and i like it.. Some people like playing tennis, laughing at them would be pointless, because theyd be like, uhh yeah… i really like tennis whats your dumb point.
YOU control how YOU feel. Someone only makes you feel bad yourself if you let them.
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I had a pretty powerful emotional reaction a couple months back after skating a DIY in a neighboring city with a larger skate scene than ours and saw the community there. There was no event going on, it was a pretty cold day even, and the place was bumping typically with all of these teenagers and young adults, many of whom appeared to be lgbtq and maybe 30 percent nonwhite. It was so colorful and cool to me that I didn't even skate that much, just looked around and thought about it - the skate scene I had when I was a kid and how it shaped me and how I might have been a vastly different person if I had that sort of atmosphere. So much less cynical, jaded, depressed.. I'm a really straight-passing masc dude and it made me think about how that likely is because I had to act that way through all my interactions in and out of skating in my formative years. I'm sure that scene isn't perfect, I know it isn't, assholes and drama and shit but I was just so struck by how truly valuable fostering a better, more accepting, more loving scene is. Growing up was really painful for me but it doesn't have to be so much for other people
Hi everyone! Big lurker. Rare poster. Very gay. Very queer. Stoked to see all of you in here. Sending love from Seattle.i remember coming to see your video premiere for machismo at the boardr like four years ago. one of my favorite filmmakers and i hope you get the money for your stuff soon
A lot of really great things have been happening in queer skateboarding and I want to chime in that MANY more exciting things are coming.
There full length video is coming out this year. Expect a full part from everybody :)
Glue is working on a video too!
Watch the Euro There video (http://“https://youtu.be/bzsQXY5J5Lo”) if ya haven’t!
Happy you’re all here<3
Hello, Update on slap queer super vid, I made a gmail @biggayslapvid, share your clips on google drive and I'll chop something up for next pride/whenever the consensus is for the deadline, lets git it goin yall!
Don’t be so dense, cunt
Much love from Eugene Oregon. Queer skaters are the shit and they're always the nicest people. I thought I was trans for a couple years but it ended up not being really me. Yeah though all of you are the best keep supporting your homies no matter what.
Does anyone ever think about the idea of dating a fellow gay/bi skater?Skate couple seems like it might/could be fun.
I always wonder what that would be like. I feel like it would be such a trip
Does anyone ever think about the idea of dating a fellow gay/bi skater?
I always wonder what that would be like. I feel like it would be such a trip
Does anyone ever think about the idea of dating a fellow gay/bi skater?
I always wonder what that would be like. I feel like it would be such a trip
Does anyone ever think about the idea of dating a fellow gay/bi skater?I’ve Dabbled , Skaters just aren’t my type
I always wonder what that would be like. I feel like it would be such a trip
I know this probably isn’t going to go over well, but I feel inclined to ask.
Do any of my gay/trans brothers and sisters feel secondhand embarrassment about Unity-esque graphics? Maybe it has to do with my upbringing, Dr. James Dobson was a huge influence on my parents. They also listened to Rush Limbaugh over dinner. One of the things they preached was that homosexuals don’t feel love, we only feel lust. Absolute bullshit, I love my boyfriend. But I can’t help to feel like it’s playing into their narrative and giving them ammunition
Am I a prude? Is this something I need to work on?
I know this probably isn’t going to go over well, but I feel inclined to ask.
Do any of my gay/trans brothers and sisters feel secondhand embarrassment about Unity-esque graphics? Maybe it has to do with my upbringing, Dr. James Dobson was a huge influence on my parents. They also listened to Rush Limbaugh over dinner. One of the things they preached was that homosexuals don’t feel love, we only feel lust. Absolute bullshit, I love my boyfriend. But I can’t help to feel like it’s playing into their narrative and giving them ammunition
Am I a prude? Is this something I need to work on?
Wow okay, I think you guys just gave me a “break through moment”. I never recognized my own hypocrisy with how I view the lgbt+ community even though I’m in it. I’m filled with shame
I read both of your comments several times. I don’t know why it hit me so hard, but I’m at work sitting here holding back tears lol. I need to process this further. Thank you both <3
Here's a chat with my mate Yann Horowitz - https://soundcloud.com/checkeredpast-457885849/checkered-past-01-yann-horowitz - if you're interested...
I'm glad the atmosphere in this message board has changed. When I joined in 2014 it was a completely different atmosphere
I was under the impression that America as a whole was becoming accepting of gay and trans people. After this week I’m afraid I’m wrong
My job requires some long distance traveling, and being an hour from where I grew up, I decided to swing by home. “Sales Days” was going on, two days in which the town has an annual yard sale. Absolutely massive turn out this year. Rebel flags were flying, trump memorabilia and tshirts were everywhere and and effigy of Obama was hung in someone’s front yard
This is rural PA by the New York State boarder. Growing up things were generally conservative, but most people kept their political beliefs to themselves. Now it’s an absolute shit show of dumbassery
Can’t help but to feel things are going to boil over. I was wrong to believe things are improving. America is becoming more divided, and it’s fucking disheartening
Anybody know a place in the bay area to drop off new/gently used skate gear specifically for LGBTQ and BIPOC skaters that either wanna start skating or need new gear? I wanna pass some gear along, and i think it would be nice to hook up queer skaters
Anybody have a program/event like that in their city?
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Anybody have a program/event like that in their city?[close]
https://www.instagram.com/p/CSxgwFcpusQ/
@jgonzalez
This is perfect for what you are looking for! Cheers to you. :)
This could probably go in the country thread but this song gave me some solidarity this morning so I figured I’d share it here
https://open.spotify.com/track/0ck73azfBLF1xygeuxEkyo?si=gQyFzCRdRH6aQOFBVGi6bg&dl_branch=1
Coming back here because one of my friend, that i haven’t seen in a while is going to transition. I’m going to see him again soon, and I’ve just realised I knew nothing about it, and never talked about it with someone who identifies as such. Therefore I’d like to educate myself without reading misleading articles or straight up hatred disguised into data and fancy words. So any books, magazines or videos that yall think are relevant and well written are welcome! And again shalom to all queer skaters who are all waiting for more glue footage, I’m sure (I know I am :D)
Expand QuoteComing back here because one of my friend, that i haven’t seen in a while is going to transition. I’m going to see him again soon, and I’ve just realised I knew nothing about it, and never talked about it with someone who identifies as such. Therefore I’d like to educate myself without reading misleading articles or straight up hatred disguised into data and fancy words. So any books, magazines or videos that yall think are relevant and well written are welcome! And again shalom to all queer skaters who are all waiting for more glue footage, I’m sure (I know I am :D)[close]
Janet Mock helped me wrap my head around transgender people. Her book Redefining Realness is a must read
She’s also amazingly brave and selfless. She was living stealth for years, but came out because she thought the community needed the voice of a black trans woman
Coming back here because one of my friend, that i haven’t seen in a while is going to transition. I’m going to see him again soon, and I’ve just realised I knew nothing about it, and never talked about it with someone who identifies as such. Therefore I’d like to educate myself without reading misleading articles or straight up hatred disguised into data and fancy words. So any books, magazines or videos that yall think are relevant and well written are welcome! And again shalom to all queer skaters who are all waiting for more glue footage, I’m sure (I know I am :D)It's awesome that you want to support your friend and learn more about what they might be going through.
Gonna take a long shot here, but does anyone have any resources that helped them when they were working through their identity?Finding a queer-friendly therapist would probably be really useful. If your insurance doesn't cover it, many have an income-based sliding scale for payment.
To briefly describe my situation: I'm AMAB and have been experiencing what I would tentatively classify as gender dysphoria periodically through my life, but with varying degrees of intensity and frequency. I'm not particularly unhappy with my body, or the way people address me, but referring to myself exclusively as "male" feels off. I feel like I have an okay grasp on my feelings, but growing up in a southern conservative family and being exposed to TERF rhetoric for the majority of my online experience have complicated the process of understanding them.
Thanks in advance for anyone that chimes in.
Thanks for the input both of you. I don't know why I never thought to just talk to a therapist, but I guess that's the american in me. I'm living abroad right now, so I'm not sure the odds of finding someone who'll practice in english and is explicitly queer friendly, but I'll definitely give it a shot.
im transitioning and trying out names rn. kinda liking lucy so ive been using it for stuff here and there. the other night i had to give a name for a reservation. "lucy" i said, but for some reason he needed a last name. i froze and all my brain could spit out was "Lucy Barletta";D
it has a certain ring to it &#129300;
How would yinz feel about using this thread to promote different queer skate meet-ups? If there's one happening locally we could drop it in this thread in case anyone else lurking is interested
How would yinz feel about using this thread to promote different queer skate meet-ups? If there's one happening locally we could drop it in this thread in case anyone else lurking is interested
<3 appreciate it.;DExpand Quoteim transitioning and trying out names rn. kinda liking lucy so ive been using it for stuff here and there. the other night i had to give a name for a reservation. "lucy" i said, but for some reason he needed a last name. i froze and all my brain could spit out was "Lucy Barletta"
it has a certain ring to it &#38;#129300;[close]
lucy is really nice
wishing you a smooth transition!
Asexual pan-romantic cis male skate noob over here. Would be cool to see who identifies as ace over here?sort of. i guess i'm more demi though. i don't care for sex or have any drive for it, unless i'm already crazy about someone. i'm probably pan romantic, too. so i'd say if i really, really like someone, it's possible to get in the groove and have a sex life almost normal, but outside of a relationship or whenever i don't really know the person, there is zero interest from my side. so basically it's impossible to have a one night stand with me or a casual thing, it would be too frustrating for the other person. whenever i start dating it takes a long ass time for things to get serious, too, and i often friendzoned myself, and mostly i'm fine with that.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVlNV_tPkx0/?utm_medium=copy_link
Psyched on this
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Psyched on this
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I'll be at the show tonight. Can't wait!
This is in Oakland tomorrow, for anyone in the area. It's a queer skateboarding video:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVglkkPvD62/
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Psyched on this[close]
I'll be at the show tonight. Can't wait!
This is in Oakland tomorrow, for anyone in the area. It's a queer skateboarding video:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVglkkPvD62/[close]
Show went off! So sick. Def catch her if she’s in your town they sound great. Tons of energy. Can’t recommend enough if you like punk and garage bands
Dope thanks for the heads up on that video premiere!
heyyyyyyy queers!!! just recently moved to Wisconsin and wondering if there's any other queer skaters on here that live in the area? Or know of any queer skate meetups that I might of missed on insta? :) :)
Winters coming but would love to make some new queer skate friends!
- they/them sk8r bitch now living in Wisco.
heyyyyyyy queers!!! just recently moved to Wisconsin and wondering if there's any other queer skaters on here that live in the area? Or know of any queer skate meetups that I might of missed on insta? :) :)
Winters coming but would love to make some new queer skate friends!
- they/them sk8r bitch now living in Wisco.
heyyyyyyy queers!!! just recently moved to Wisconsin and wondering if there's any other queer skaters on here that live in the area? Or know of any queer skate meetups that I might of missed on insta? :) :)i dont know much outside of Milwaukee but there's usually at least one or two queer + femme skate nights at the indoor parks (Cream City, 4 Seasons) most people i've met have been super cool and open, Sky High has a queer + femme skate jam during the summer too. Can't speak as much for Madison but they definitely have a good queer skate scene there as well.
Winters coming but would love to make some new queer skate friends!
- they/them sk8r bitch now living in Wisco.
heyyyyyyy queers!!! just recently moved to Wisconsin and wondering if there's any other queer skaters on here that live in the area? Or know of any queer skate meetups that I might of missed on insta? :) :)
Winters coming but would love to make some new queer skate friends!
- they/them sk8r bitch now living in Wisco.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giwry8rI4qs
Jake Kuzyk is a pro snowboarder, sure, but he's also a hell of a good skater and heavily involved in the Vancouver skate scene. I love seeing his skate footage, and you can tell how skating influenced how he "street" snowboards. Stoked to give this full thing a listen! Great inspo for queer folx in the boardsport world in general.
https://tormentmag.com/jake-kuzyk-pride-interview/ (https://tormentmag.com/jake-kuzyk-pride-interview/)
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Delete your quote, that way their bs isn't visible once they catch the ban @jgonzalezWord. Good call.
Sup Lou what's your favourite Thai foodHave a complementary Fuck off.Expand Quote[close]
This one’s on me.
Been fuxxin’ around w/ Pad Kee Mao (aka Drunken Noodle) lately.Sick. I just had a tom yum soup, was hench af. Had drunken noodles with prawns a few days ago. Never tried that before, it was amazing
I like it with a Singha & a side of queer skating.
Shits hella good!
Watch Timmy-bellend here get nuked within the next few minutes.
Sick. I just had a tom yum soup, was hench af. Had drunken noodles with prawns a few days ago. Never tried that before, it was amazingExpand QuoteBeen fuxxin’ around w/ Pad Kee Mao (aka Drunken Noodle) lately.
I like it with a Singha & a side of queer skating.
Shits hella good!
Watch Timmy-bellend here get nuked within the next few minutes.[close]
I love all you babes, I wish we all lived close by :'( skating the park has been so depressing lately, its so fucked to get stared at all day :'(
A bird recently informed me that very soon, my favorite LGBTQ+ skate brand will be distributed through SF's premier manufacturer/distributor.Big if true
We gon’ come back to this in a week or two.Big if trueExpand QuoteA bird recently informed me that very soon, my favorite LGBTQ+ skate brand will be distributed through SF's premier manufacturer/distributor.[close]
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Agreed?
I’ll see you here, then.
Well, there it is!Expand QuoteWe gon’ come back to this in a week or two.Expand QuoteBig if trueExpand QuoteA bird recently informed me that very soon, my favorite LGBTQ+ skate brand will be distributed through SF's premier manufacturer/distributor.[close][close]
Agreed?
I’ll see you here, then.[close]
my skateboard isn't gay enough, did they sell all of them already?
God bless, super stoked to see this. I hope this means we'll get some There twin tailsWell, there it is!Expand QuoteExpand QuoteWe gon’ come back to this in a week or two.Expand QuoteBig if trueExpand QuoteA bird recently informed me that very soon, my favorite LGBTQ+ skate brand will be distributed through SF's premier manufacturer/distributor.[close][close]
Agreed?
I’ll see you here, then.[close]
my skateboard isn't gay enough, did they sell all of them already?[close]
Ol’ Lou would never steal you wrong.
https://www.slapmagazine.com/index.php?topic=121463.msg3730478#new
Well, there it is!Expand QuoteExpand QuoteWe gon’ come back to this in a week or two.Expand QuoteBig if trueExpand QuoteA bird recently informed me that very soon, my favorite LGBTQ+ skate brand will be distributed through SF's premier manufacturer/distributor.[close][close]
Agreed?
I’ll see you here, then.[close]
my skateboard isn't gay enough, did they sell all of them already?[close]
Ol’ Lou would never steer you wrong.
https://www.slapmagazine.com/index.php?topic=121463.msg3730478#new
I'm a cis hetero white male, but with that said would love to support Unity and There further. Would I be a culture vulture or exploitative if I buy their gear? I know it sounds stupid, but I want to make sure that there isn't a tasteless representation or something.
I honestly had a phase of my sexuality where I was going through an existential crisis and figuring out my attraction to guys and women while living/going to uni in the Bay Area. I am a queer/lgtbq+ ally for sure, but sometimes the vibes and my own personal self-esteem gets shattered while skating with cis and straight men, especially coming from a military families and areas where I have lived that have high military presence (I am a military brat who was raised by my dad, who served in the military for like 27+ years). I do want to be independent and finally escape the verbal barking and bullshit I experienced in military housing and my parents, but my parents are getting old and are retiring soon, and I do feel that I will he pigeon-holed to be the only person in my household to take care of them during retirement, as the so-called “obedient son of my immediate family” does. I also have 3 brothers who aren’t as close as I am with my parents, so I feel that it is my responsibility to be the responsible brother to help my family out in desperate need. Sorry for this tangent rant, just letting my emotions and trauma out
Expand QuoteI honestly had a phase of my sexuality where I was going through an existential crisis and figuring out my attraction to guys and women while living/going to uni in the Bay Area. I am a queer/lgtbq+ ally for sure, but sometimes the vibes and my own personal self-esteem gets shattered while skating with cis and straight men, especially coming from a military families and areas where I have lived that have high military presence (I am a military brat who was raised by my dad, who served in the military for like 27+ years). I do want to be independent and finally escape the verbal barking and bullshit I experienced in military housing and my parents, but my parents are getting old and are retiring soon, and I do feel that I will he pigeon-holed to be the only person in my household to take care of them during retirement, as the so-called “obedient son of my immediate family” does. I also have 3 brothers who aren’t as close as I am with my parents, so I feel that it is my responsibility to be the responsible brother to help my family out in desperate need. Sorry for this tangent rant, just letting my emotions and trauma out[close]
you don't owe your parents shit, especially if they brought you up in a somewhat toxic military drill environment. i know it's hard, i still try to please my asshole military dad(who was also in the military for decades, but was never actually deployed but loves to act like he was) to this day, and all i get from it is recurring episodes of being suicidal and feeling like i shouldn't exist at all. they could die any minute and i haven't seen them since before covid and they don't even want to see me because i'm just an annoying worm to them.
don't be like me. i wasted almost two decades of my life trying to make my parents happy in any way before i realized that that will never happen regardless of what i do or am. i'm sorry for being this blunt, but if they can't take the truth about your sexuality and be cool with it, then ditch them. our boomer parents had all the time and resources to prepare for their old age. most of us can't do that because we are not part of that shitty boomer generation that literally stole everything from the following generations to live the lushest life while they made the earth borderline uninhabitable within 40 years and now vote for proto fascists everywhere in their twilight years because they are literally brainrotted/demented from lead poisoning.
Yoo what part of the Midwest you in ?Indianapolis :)
east coast non-binary/trans woman skater here-- i grapple w some of the sociopolitical implications of gender discourse and so i've never liked labels, but somewhere in that spectrum would be most accurate. i mostly just feel like gender is fake, but now that pronouns are going mainstream and i'm being asked more and more frequently to provide them, i feel like my hand is kinda being forced. idk if anyone else relates.
but yeah anyway new account just to post in this thread after years of occasional lurking, hello beautiful queers :P
Expand Quoteeast coast non-binary/trans woman skater here-- i grapple w some of the sociopolitical implications of gender discourse and so i've never liked labels, but somewhere in that spectrum would be most accurate. i mostly just feel like gender is fake, but now that pronouns are going mainstream and i'm being asked more and more frequently to provide them, i feel like my hand is kinda being forced. idk if anyone else relates.
but yeah anyway new account just to post in this thread after years of occasional lurking, hello beautiful queers :P[close]
Serious question. How can you be “non binary trans”? Doesn’t non binary mean you do not identify as a gender? How can you be a trans male/female when you do not identify as either?
Happy Pride y’all. Nothing but love and solidarity!It is my pleasure to have your back here.
Also, someone gnar @nothingnatural again for me?
It is my pleasure to have your back here.Expand QuoteHappy Pride y’all. Nothing but love and solidarity!
Also, someone gnar @nothingnatural again for me?[close]
And @nothingnatural you are so very gracious to accommodate such a blatant troll; bless you for doing what you can to open eyes & minds with kindness & patience.
Personally, I wouldn’t have been nearly so genteel, but I see you & appreciate you.
Trans girl in Kokomo here, nice to here of other queer skateboarders in Indiana!Indianapolis :)Expand QuoteYoo what part of the Midwest you in ?[close]
The damage to my knee has been super isolating. I used to really enjoy meeting people and taking up space as a queer person at skate spots, parks, DIYs. Now I can't even work without knee pain and instability, much less skate. Who can relate?
Trans girl in Kokomo here, nice to here of other queer skateboarders in Indiana!Expand QuoteIndianapolis :)Expand QuoteYoo what part of the Midwest you in ?[close][close]
Do I know any of you cats on #skatetwitter?@rattmettig , mad homies on #skatetwitter
Not asking you to connect your accounts here and there if ya don't want, I just seem to know more open lgbtq+ folks there since it's more visually based and the convos are a bit more fluid/fast on the app.
DM me sometime, I’m trying to set up some queer skate meet ups in Indiana !Expand QuoteTrans girl in Kokomo here, nice to here of other queer skateboarders in Indiana!Expand QuoteIndianapolis :)Expand QuoteYoo what part of the Midwest you in ?[close][close][close]
omg hi! I think I followed you on insta recently, you rip! I agree, nice to know we're not alone.
I love you queer skaters you ding dang babies rule :-*❤❤❤❤❤❤
Anyone going to wheels of fortune in a couple weeks? I'd be very stoked to meet up with some pals :)
Just here to reiterate how hard Chandler ripped the bump to bar at the glory challenge in a full face of costume makeup. Legend.
Just here to reiterate how hard Chandler ripped the bump to bar at the glory challenge in a full face of costume makeup. Legend.
Expand QuoteJust here to reiterate how hard Chandler ripped the bump to bar at the glory challenge in a full face of costume makeup. Legend.[close]
With the fishnet top underneath his tee, iconic. What a king
Hey gang...just chiming in to say hello. Stoked on this thread. I am never here anymore but the new job doesn't monitor web traffic so...
Expand QuoteHey gang...just chiming in to say hello. Stoked on this thread. I am never here anymore but the new job doesn't monitor web traffic so...[close]
My liege, my Lord, my King.
euro there 2 video premiere dates posted up!
https://www.instagram.com/p/CjlPoThp8Xg/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
see ya at the dlx premiere!
euro there 2 video premiere dates posted up!Very excited for this!!
https://www.instagram.com/p/CjlPoThp8Xg/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
see ya at the dlx premiere!
currently super bummed on skating my local because of all the homophobic/misogynistic/etc shit that i hear over there. the park by where i go to school isnt as bad, i havent heard anything crazy over there yet but im not holding out hope lol. i hate having to be on guard when im tryna enjoy my favorite hobby but alas
Kindness, particularly in a situation that feels threatening, is such a gift.
I know this might be a bit of a stretch, but for me it's not at all: when I came to SLAP and started posting openly about my sexuality, I was sort of caught off guard by the kindness that was extended to me by FAR more people than those who were hostile. Of course the hostility often gets the attention because it's hard to take, but I've discussed on here a ton about how awesome folks were.
I think in general more people are kind and good...but the nasty fuckers suck all the air out of the room and basically ruin it for everybody.
edit: lol I just got scolded by SLAP for trying to gnar you more than twice in a 24 hour period @IpathCats
Will gnar again someday soon!!!
Kindness, particularly in a situation that feels threatening, is such a gift.
I know this might be a bit of a stretch, but for me it's not at all: when I came to SLAP and started posting openly about my sexuality, I was sort of caught off guard by the kindness that was extended to me by FAR more people than those who were hostile. Of course the hostility often gets the attention because it's hard to take, but I've discussed on here a ton about how awesome folks were.
I think in general more people are kind and good...but the nasty fuckers suck all the air out of the room and basically ruin it for everybody.
edit: lol I just got scolded by SLAP for trying to gnar you more than twice in a 24 hour period @IpathCats
Will gnar again someday soon!!!
Expand QuoteKindness, particularly in a situation that feels threatening, is such a gift.
I know this might be a bit of a stretch, but for me it's not at all: when I came to SLAP and started posting openly about my sexuality, I was sort of caught off guard by the kindness that was extended to me by FAR more people than those who were hostile. Of course the hostility often gets the attention because it's hard to take, but I've discussed on here a ton about how awesome folks were.
I think in general more people are kind and good...but the nasty fuckers suck all the air out of the room and basically ruin it for everybody.
edit: lol I just got scolded by SLAP for trying to gnar you more than twice in a 24 hour period @IpathCats
Will gnar again someday soon!!![close]
@GAY i was talking to one of the employees at Kingswell the other day who lurks on here and they said you’re one of their favorites. I mentioned that I think you said you’ve been there and he was pretty stoked on that
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteKindness, particularly in a situation that feels threatening, is such a gift.
I know this might be a bit of a stretch, but for me it's not at all: when I came to SLAP and started posting openly about my sexuality, I was sort of caught off guard by the kindness that was extended to me by FAR more people than those who were hostile. Of course the hostility often gets the attention because it's hard to take, but I've discussed on here a ton about how awesome folks were.
I think in general more people are kind and good...but the nasty fuckers suck all the air out of the room and basically ruin it for everybody.
edit: lol I just got scolded by SLAP for trying to gnar you more than twice in a 24 hour period @IpathCats
Will gnar again someday soon!!![close]
@GAY i was talking to one of the employees at Kingswell the other day who lurks on here and they said you’re one of their favorites. I mentioned that I think you said you’ve been there and he was pretty stoked on that[close]
ha! I'm honored! That's rad. I used to live right by the Kingswell, and I'm from Albuquerque so I've had a nice connection with Mr. Chavez even though I didn't know him from there. Anyway, you made my day AA.
Hoping everybody has a safe and happy holiday with your family, chosen or blood. <3
Kindness, particularly in a situation that feels threatening, is such a gift.
I know this might be a bit of a stretch, but for me it's not at all: when I came to SLAP and started posting openly about my sexuality, I was sort of caught off guard by the kindness that was extended to me by FAR more people than those who were hostile. Of course the hostility often gets the attention because it's hard to take, but I've discussed on here a ton about how awesome folks were.
I think in general more people are kind and good...but the nasty fuckers suck all the air out of the room and basically ruin it for everybody.
edit: lol I just got scolded by SLAP for trying to gnar you more than twice in a 24 hour period @IpathCats
Will gnar again someday soon!!!
hello! I'm gonna be in the bay area for a little over a week from the 20th to the 28th. Just putting some feelers out there, seeing if anyone wants to try and get a Bella Vista or Rockridge BART (or anywhere else) session going. Love yaAlways down to session.
Dang I wish I could meet up with y'all.
Expand QuoteDang I wish I could meet up with y'all.[close]
I haven’t posted in awhile, but coming to terms with my queerness more and more this last year and I just wanted to say: we missed you GAY and I’m really glad you’re back in our lives.
Any queer skaters here in the Philadelphia area? My boyfriend and I are thinking of relocating soon. Wonder if LGBTQIA scene + skate scene sees any overlap in the city o brotherly love 8)
Expand QuoteAny queer skaters here in the Philadelphia area? My boyfriend and I are thinking of relocating soon. Wonder if LGBTQIA scene + skate scene sees any overlap in the city o brotherly love 8)[close]
Been living in Philly for almost 6 years, only known I was queer for the last 2 or so, but there’s definitely some overlap in the scene. There’s a few different queer skate meetup groups that I’ve heard of at least and there’s also a lot of crossover with the local quad skating scene. Zembo is a skate shop in Kensington stocking Glue, There, etc and has multiple queer employees and team riders. They also have an indoor park and do a lot of events like art shows, flea markets, and punk shows on the weekends. I’ve definitely made some friends w queer folk passing through the city or that I wouldn’t cross paths with otherwise at those types of things.
I’m baby gay and was already enmeshed in the skate scene when I started coming out, but everyone I’ve spoken to specifically about it has been nothing but kind and supportive. Anyway, Philly loves you! Shoot me a message if y’all do end up out this way.
currently super bummed on skating my local because of all the homophobic/misogynistic/etc shit that i hear over there. the park by where i go to school isnt as bad, i havent heard anything crazy over there yet but im not holding out hope lol. i hate having to be on guard when im tryna enjoy my favorite hobby but alas
hosted a skate meetup yesterday in central indiana and half of the rippers who came identify as queer :)
it feels really special to create a space where our queer friends, and especially our trans friends, feel safe and comfortable. I love hearing how important this little community we've built is to them. it was a beautiful day and we had a lot of fun.
hope you all have had a great weekend and have an awesome week ahead!
Been lurking since skateboardrumors.com got the brick, and TYMB was my safe space. Started HRT the other day, it's crazy how much SLAP and myself have changed and progressed over the years. The positive influence on me of the board accepting and embracing people like post-transition Hillary and GAY can't be understated in getting me to the happiest and most stable I've ever been. Love you all.
Been lurking since skateboardrumors.com got the brick, and TYMB was my safe space. Started HRT the other day, it's crazy how much SLAP and myself have changed and progressed over the years. The positive influence on me of the board accepting and embracing people like post-transition Hillary and GAY can't be understated in getting me to the happiest and most stable I've ever been. Love you all.
Been lurking since skateboardrumors.com got the brick, and TYMB was my safe space. Started HRT the other day, it's crazy how much SLAP and myself have changed and progressed over the years. The positive influence on me of the board accepting and embracing people like post-transition Hillary and GAY can't be understated in getting me to the happiest and most stable I've ever been. Love you all.Hell yeah welcome to the club!
Been lurking since skateboardrumors.com got the brick, and TYMB was my safe space. Started HRT the other day, it's crazy how much SLAP and myself have changed and progressed over the years. The positive influence on me of the board accepting and embracing people like post-transition Hillary and GAY can't be understated in getting me to the happiest and most stable I've ever been. Love you all.
Hey all,
Glad to see this thread on here. I'm new to the messageboards and don't know how much I'll be using it to be honest. I'm a lifelong queer skater from the West Coast of the U.S. and living part time outside of the country now. Mostly I'm an artist now but I used to teach skating to kids as my day job before I committed to art full time, now I just get as much in as I can while I'm traveling. I'm happy to see so much progression in skateboarding both in skill and accessibility, especially in the last decade or so. I'm in my 30s and I've been around long enough to remember the golden age of street skating not being so great for some folks, particularly in the 90s and early 2000s.
Thanks for keeping space for queer skaters!
Expand QuoteHey all,
Glad to see this thread on here. I'm new to the messageboards and don't know how much I'll be using it to be honest. I'm a lifelong queer skater from the West Coast of the U.S. and living part time outside of the country now. Mostly I'm an artist now but I used to teach skating to kids as my day job before I committed to art full time, now I just get as much in as I can while I'm traveling. I'm happy to see so much progression in skateboarding both in skill and accessibility, especially in the last decade or so. I'm in my 30s and I've been around long enough to remember the golden age of street skating not being so great for some folks, particularly in the 90s and early 2000s.
Thanks for keeping space for queer skaters![close]
Welcome!
Is this thread for queer skaters only?Yes, get out cissy
Yes, get out cissyExpand QuoteIs this thread for queer skaters only?[close]
seems like a half-dead topic but hi, 35F trans woman, hmu if you're in NYC and want to skate with someone that sucks shit at skateboarding after not skating for a decade.
Expand Quoteseems like a half-dead topic but hi, 35F trans woman, hmu if you're in NYC and want to skate with someone that sucks shit at skateboarding after not skating for a decade.[close]
Damn it I wish I was in New York so I could meet up with you. I'm terrible these days. Old man hours, for sure. Stoked you're posting here thetrashisright.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_uFuMEEFyg
love you all and really stoked on how gay skateboarding has become. we still have a long way to go, but I'm proud to be a queer skater most days.
Trans girl skater checking inThank you for joining us here.
Skated from age like, 9 to 18ish, fell off for about 13 years aside from once in a blue moon nostalgia session but restarted in 2020 at age 31 and still goin strong.
Reiterating probably a lot of other posts that I would have never felt even remotely safe and comfortable being out in skating back then and now it’s basically a nonissue.
Nice to meet y’all/I love you
Trans girl skater checking in
Skated from age like, 9 to 18ish, fell off for about 13 years aside from once in a blue moon nostalgia session but restarted in 2020 at age 31 and still goin strong.
Reiterating probably a lot of other posts that I would have never felt even remotely safe and comfortable being out in skating back then and now it’s basically a nonissue.
Nice to meet y’all/I love you
took my first dose of estradiol and spiro today
be yourself regardless
love you all <3
Expand Quotetook my first dose of estradiol and spiro today
be yourself regardless
love you all <3[close]
Hey welcome to the club!! Be sure to drink a lot of water, spiro is a diuretic
took my first dose of estradiol and spiro today
be yourself regardless
love you all <3
Anyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"Lmao I'm still waiting for Curren to hit my line
took my first dose of estradiol and spiro today
be yourself regardless
love you all <3
Lmao I'm still waiting for Curren to hit my lineExpand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
I saw marbie crush a watermelon between her legs last year during Wheels of Fortune and it was unbelievably hot
Anyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"
Anyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"
How do you feel about Dan Drehobl?Expand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
bearded, chunky, and short hair? then yes. i don't think any current pros fit into this, though. yann horowitz is thin for me but i'm into him.
industry people/retired folks like matt price<3, eric dressen, barker barrett... and half of the people in the tired videos... woof.
How do you feel about Dan Drehobl?Expand QuoteExpand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
bearded, chunky, and short hair? then yes. i don't think any current pros fit into this, though. yann horowitz is thin for me but i'm into him.
industry people/retired folks like matt price<3, eric dressen, barker barrett... and half of the people in the tired videos... woof.[close]
I had no idea, very coolExpand QuoteHow do you feel about Dan Drehobl?Expand QuoteExpand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
bearded, chunky, and short hair? then yes. i don't think any current pros fit into this, though. yann horowitz is thin for me but i'm into him.
industry people/retired folks like matt price<3, eric dressen, barker barrett... and half of the people in the tired videos... woof.[close][close]
oh yeah, totally was into him. especially bearded.
he's also mentioned (gay) bear groups on friendster in an old SLAP mag, so yeah, love him for that
I've got a thing for Kyle Leeper for some reasoneye mean like, he was kinda cute in a shaggy dog way if that makes sense
Obligatory first post lmao. Genderqueer, he/they, that/bitch. came out as gay about 13 years go, did a soft coming out as genderqueer (i present as male and didn't feel a need for a big hoorah for me personally) earlier this year. only started skating again this year as well, haven't since shortly after i came out and even then just did mostly solo shit so didn't really interact with others, but it's been nice that literally nobody gives a single fuck or has hit me with the "just don't hit on me" line
Anyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"Dylan was my first gay crush before i knew about bisexuality
Dylan was my first gay crush before i knew about bisexualityExpand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
Riley when he had long hair
Alex White
GAY is cute
Nick Matthews
uhhhh i'll add more eventually
Anyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"
Sort of complicated answer but I've been part in/part out of the closet for 17 years. Choosing who to be out to is still a sort of subconscious math that I do, having grown up in a small midwestern town. I'm not flamboyant at all, and don't personally have interest in spending time in queer spaces, pride month stuff, etc. it's just a part of me. Among friends I talk about it openly, and if someone is being a shithead in public (after doing some safety math) I may out myself in a "fuck you" way. It's not a secret but I don't wear it on my sleeve in any case. I'm sure some people would disagree but my outward visibility as a bisexual white dude (who prefers women lol) isn't more valuable than my comfort and safety.Expand QuoteAnyone in this thread ever have any pro skate "crushes?"[close]
Danny Garcia for sure.
Is there anyone else here that still hasn't openly come out yet? I've been in that boat the last few years after I started going to gay and queer club nights and realized how comfortable I was there. I feel like most of my friends already know or at least assume correctly that I haven't been exclusively interested in one gender for a while. Honestly it's something that I never wanted to make a huge fuss about but I know being more open and honest about it also helps others too so I feel a bit guilty for concealing it.
I need a bf. One who doesn't skate
I need a bf. One who doesn't skate
took my first dose of estradiol and spiro today
be yourself regardless
love you all <3
I'm at a skate homie's lesbian wedding rn, life is goodsounds like a great time, hope it was a blast! can't wait to invite my homies to my lesbian wedding someday.
Happy Saturday y'all
✋️sounds like a great time, hope it was a blast! can't wait to invite my homies to my lesbian wedding someday.Expand QuoteI'm at a skate homie's lesbian wedding rn, life is good
Happy Saturday y'all[close]
are there any other lesbians on this forum? :-*
sounds like a great time, hope it was a blast! can't wait to invite my homies to my lesbian wedding someday.Expand QuoteI'm at a skate homie's lesbian wedding rn, life is good
Happy Saturday y'all[close]
are there any other lesbians on this forum? :-*
is anyone participating in NNN or we not doin that?
is anyone participating in NNN or we not doin that?
I'm trying to get rid of mine but that’s looking like more of a 2024 task at present
That's my train of thought too. 2 years of E have really altered my face, and if I do light makeup it's a huge change. I'd def let it work its magic for a while first.Expand QuoteI'm trying to get rid of mine but that’s looking like more of a 2024 task at present[close]
(づ๑•ᴗ•๑)づ♡
i think an orchiectomy is the first major surgery i want to do. that or FFS, might hold off on that for a few years though to see what the hormones are capable of.
I’ve been taking testosterone for years because I was super low. It’s been a fantastic experience for me. And yeah your sex drive will change for sure.
i want my 1,000th post to be in here. just wanna say thanks y'all for being yourselves, it's great and meaningful to be visible. i love you all and hope a flower looks at you
Happy New Year y’all. Love yous guys.
I feel like my mom especially knows and thankfully from conversations with her I know she wouldn’t look at me differently. I’m lucky.
Expand QuoteI feel like my mom especially knows and thankfully from conversations with her I know she wouldn’t look at me differently. I’m lucky.[close]
My mom made a hilarious comment when I told her.
"I suspected," she said.
"Oh? How so?" I asked.
She quickly responded, "Well, most boys stop throwing rocks at girls when they are like 7-years-old. You're 18. And you haven't stopped yet."
Good for you, Allen. It’s always worth it to speak up for yourself, as hard as it may be, to live authentically. I’m glad you’re feeling better, it seriously feels like a weight lifted afterword.
This is one of my favorite topics on here and I can’t believe I haven’t posted in it before.
I came out as non-binary a little over a year ago and I’ve slowly been integrating changes as they feel right. I pretty much always identified as bi sexual growing up, and felt the social stigma of it in the early-mid 2000s from other skaters but other people as well. It just wasn’t something people I knew were open about, no one ever said anything to me directly, but it was palpable. Okay y’all don’t fuck with me, I get it, I’ma go skate alone.
I always enjoyed wearing girls’ clothes growing up, most of my cousins are female and I absolutely couldn’t wait to go see them as a kid, knowing there would be a big makeover every time, we would then choreograph dances to the hit songs of the time and they would parade me around as their creation as my family would take video of our dance routines. Now strangely some of them don’t want to see me, like, are y’all surprised?
When I was 21 I got together with my sons mom (we are split up now). Very soon after meeting we were discussing being together, and I told her I was figuring stuff out. When she asked what, I told her I was a woman and wanted to live as one. She told me she wasn’t going to be with “some f**” and she needed a “real man”, something she would throw in my face during fights later. Obviously I stayed, big mistake! (Barring my son which is the best thing ever in my life ever)… And Gwen went into hiding… for years! It has been painful.
So last December I came out to family and friends as non binary but I’ve been realizing more that my gender is so fluid it occupies a space between femininity and nothing at all. Though a lot may view me as masc, I don’t identify with that at all. I watched a documentary with my mom about being trans when I was 18 and I told her “that’s me” and had goosebumps during the whole thing. She said it was just a phase and I’m just how god intended. She is understanding more now and has since taken that back for which I am very thankful.
So I’ve been wearing a lot more fem clothes and makeup when I feel safe to do so. It feels really good and natural and I’m finding what I like and finding my style again, it’s fun and liberating.
I saw something recently about coming out as trans or anything really and the loss that can come with that with friends and family. Reading it I was like “thank fuck I am safe from all that.” Or so I thought. The very next day, me and my gf had a talk because I had been feeling distance. After a while I just said flat out “you’re not attracted to me anymore are you?” She started crying (she never does) and said no not as much, when she sees me in makeup and a dress she doesn’t see her partner. She told me when we got together almost 3 years ago that she wasn’t attracted to femininity, I told her then and there I was nonbinary and if she wanted masc to look elsewhere. But I was still cosplaying as a “man” and always “seemed” masc. The way I put it is that she signed up for 2021 me and I’m no longer that person, or pretending to be. Like, I get it.
We are still best friends and live in the same house for now, we have the kids most days and a great relationship otherwise. It’s just that part is… turned off. Like I couldn’t be more thankful for still having her as a friend and having her tell me the truth.
Not gonna lie, the wind has kind of been taken out of my sails lately, and I’m going between feeling like fuck it, I already lost so much to this, may as well go all in and live authentically everyday to feeling too depressed to even try, which only compounds the issues I have with myself and how I present.
I recently came out to my work because they could tell I was struggling but I have received nothing but good treatment and talks with them. Sorry for the rant but I’ve been having a hard time and I know ultimately what my answer is, I’m just having a hard time trying now, especially with something that’s still new to me publicly, I just don’t want to hide anymore. I have a referral out for therapy which can’t come soon enough! And hopefully I can talk to someone about doing low dose hrt to become more androgynous at the very least..
Much love to my queer slap pals and I hope you have a good day and know that you are loved. xoxo
I’ll be damned if this ain’t my “feel good” thread of the year already.
Proud of the peoples out there making the skate world a more comfortable place for EVERYBODY.
Y’all are the dreams I had as a child.
Much love to the real ones.
Good for you, Allen. It’s always worth it to speak up for yourself, as hard as it may be, to live authentically. I’m glad you’re feeling better, it seriously feels like a weight lifted afterword.
This is one of my favorite topics on here and I can’t believe I haven’t posted in it before.
I came out as non-binary a little over a year ago and I’ve slowly been integrating changes as they feel right. I pretty much always identified as bi sexual growing up, and felt the social stigma of it in the early-mid 2000s from other skaters but other people as well. It just wasn’t something people I knew were open about, no one ever said anything to me directly, but it was palpable. Okay y’all don’t fuck with me, I get it, I’ma go skate alone.
I always enjoyed wearing girls’ clothes growing up, most of my cousins are female and I absolutely couldn’t wait to go see them as a kid, knowing there would be a big makeover every time, we would then choreograph dances to the hit songs of the time and they would parade me around as their creation as my family would take video of our dance routines. Now strangely some of them don’t want to see me, like, are y’all surprised?
When I was 21 I got together with my sons mom (we are split up now). Very soon after meeting we were discussing being together, and I told her I was figuring stuff out. When she asked what, I told her I was a woman and wanted to live as one. She told me she wasn’t going to be with “some f**” and she needed a “real man”, something she would throw in my face during fights later. Obviously I stayed, big mistake! (Barring my son which is the best thing ever in my life ever)… And Gwen went into hiding… for years! It has been painful.
So last December I came out to family and friends as non binary but I’ve been realizing more that my gender is so fluid it occupies a space between femininity and nothing at all. Though a lot may view me as masc, I don’t identify with that at all. I watched a documentary with my mom about being trans when I was 18 and I told her “that’s me” and had goosebumps during the whole thing. She said it was just a phase and I’m just how god intended. She is understanding more now and has since taken that back for which I am very thankful.
So I’ve been wearing a lot more fem clothes and makeup when I feel safe to do so. It feels really good and natural and I’m finding what I like and finding my style again, it’s fun and liberating.
I saw something recently about coming out as trans or anything really and the loss that can come with that with friends and family. Reading it I was like “thank fuck I am safe from all that.” Or so I thought. The very next day, me and my gf had a talk because I had been feeling distance. After a while I just said flat out “you’re not attracted to me anymore are you?” She started crying (she never does) and said no not as much, when she sees me in makeup and a dress she doesn’t see her partner. She told me when we got together almost 3 years ago that she wasn’t attracted to femininity, I told her then and there I was nonbinary and if she wanted masc to look elsewhere. But I was still cosplaying as a “man” and always “seemed” masc. The way I put it is that she signed up for 2021 me and I’m no longer that person, or pretending to be. Like, I get it.
We are still best friends and live in the same house for now, we have the kids most days and a great relationship otherwise. It’s just that part is… turned off. Like I couldn’t be more thankful for still having her as a friend and having her tell me the truth.
Not gonna lie, the wind has kind of been taken out of my sails lately, and I’m going between feeling like fuck it, I already lost so much to this, may as well go all in and live authentically everyday to feeling too depressed to even try, which only compounds the issues I have with myself and how I present.
I recently came out to my work because they could tell I was struggling but I have received nothing but good treatment and talks with them. Sorry for the rant but I’ve been having a hard time and I know ultimately what my answer is, I’m just having a hard time trying now, especially with something that’s still new to me publicly, I just don’t want to hide anymore. I have a referral out for therapy which can’t come soon enough! And hopefully I can talk to someone about doing low dose hrt to become more androgynous at the very least..
Much love to my queer slap pals and I hope you have a good day and know that you are loved. xoxo
I know its a little late...
But I wanted to wish all the Trans/NB rippers in this thread a Happy Trans Day of Visibility.
I hope it was a good one for you all.
We love and support all of Y'all!
Its been so great to see the Chattanooga (and all other) queer skate community/communities come together and support each other.
You are seen, Valued and SOOOO LOVED.
Love, Moe and the Cassette family.
I doubt there’s anyone in this thread that doesn’t understand on some level. The fear of being cast out by friends, family, and coworkers is real and palpable. Rejection from those people fucked me up in a major way for a good long time. All of that is to say I love U and liked reading your post.
If anybody on here ever needs to chat about any kind of struggle please feel free to shoot me a DM. It’s difficult stuff to grapple with and can be overwhelming. I don’t consider myself any kind of authority…I just know how trippy it can be coming to terms with your sexuality.
Expand QuoteI doubt there’s anyone in this thread that doesn’t understand on some level. The fear of being cast out by friends, family, and coworkers is real and palpable. Rejection from those people fucked me up in a major way for a good long time. All of that is to say I love U and liked reading your post.
If anybody on here ever needs to chat about any kind of struggle please feel free to shoot me a DM. It’s difficult stuff to grapple with and can be overwhelming. I don’t consider myself any kind of authority…I just know how trippy it can be coming to terms with your sexuality.[close]
GAY, I have been enjoying your comments on here for years. That was an awesome message. That is the definition of skateboarding and SLAP. THANKS.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteI doubt there’s anyone in this thread that doesn’t understand on some level. The fear of being cast out by friends, family, and coworkers is real and palpable. Rejection from those people fucked me up in a major way for a good long time. All of that is to say I love U and liked reading your post.
If anybody on here ever needs to chat about any kind of struggle please feel free to shoot me a DM. It’s difficult stuff to grapple with and can be overwhelming. I don’t consider myself any kind of authority…I just know how trippy it can be coming to terms with your sexuality.[close]
GAY, I have been enjoying your comments on here for years. That was an awesome message. That is the definition of skateboarding and SLAP. THANKS.[close]
Ah, thanks…very kind of you to say. Truth is I’m old now and skate rarely anymore, so not sure I even have much to offer, but I very much know feeling alone in a subculture like skateboarding and just don’t want anyone to feel that way.
I’m also an idiot so if you’re queer and stupid…that’s ok too!
Also, since my last post on the matter above… I’ve come out to my closest friends and my mom. And all have been very supportive. It’s been so, so fucking great in an otherwise mildly shitty time.
Ignorance is bliss! ;)
Also, since my last post on the matter above… I’ve come out to my closest friends and my mom. And all have been very supportive. It’s been so, so fucking great in an otherwise mildly shitty time.
Ignorance is bliss! ;)!!!
Also, since my last post on the matter above… I’ve come out to my closest friends and my mom. And all have been very supportive. It’s been so, so fucking great in an otherwise mildly shitty time.
Expand QuoteExpand QuoteExpand QuoteI doubt there’s anyone in this thread that doesn’t understand on some level. The fear of being cast out by friends, family, and coworkers is real and palpable. Rejection from those people fucked me up in a major way for a good long time. All of that is to say I love U and liked reading your post.
If anybody on here ever needs to chat about any kind of struggle please feel free to shoot me a DM. It’s difficult stuff to grapple with and can be overwhelming. I don’t consider myself any kind of authority…I just know how trippy it can be coming to terms with your sexuality.[close]
GAY, I have been enjoying your comments on here for years. That was an awesome message. That is the definition of skateboarding and SLAP. THANKS.[close]
Ah, thanks…very kind of you to say. Truth is I’m old now and skate rarely anymore, so not sure I even have much to offer, but I very much know feeling alone in a subculture like skateboarding and just don’t want anyone to feel that way.
I’m also an idiot so if you’re queer and stupid…that’s ok too![close]
Ignorance is bliss! ;)
Also, since my last post on the matter above… I’ve come out to my closest friends and my mom. And all have been very supportive. It’s been so, so fucking great in an otherwise mildly shitty time.
Sk9ing had been mad fun lately feel more like myself.
hell yes @Allen. !! that's what we love to see. <3Expand QuoteSk9ing had been mad fun lately feel more like myself.[close]
feeling this a tremendous amount lately. skating has never been more fun as i feel more at home in my body day by day. haven't skated this much in years and i feel so floaty and present and free.
previously i had a feeling of latency and feeling outside of myself while skating and it affected my confidence from being in that disassociative state. now that my confidence has improved through transition, it's translating to my skating and it's been such a joy to experience.
estrogen is magic ^_^
Expand Quotehell yes @Allen. !! that's what we love to see. <3Expand QuoteSk9ing had been mad fun lately feel more like myself.[close]
feeling this a tremendous amount lately. skating has never been more fun as i feel more at home in my body day by day. haven't skated this much in years and i feel so floaty and present and free.
previously i had a feeling of latency and feeling outside of myself while skating and it affected my confidence from being in that disassociative state. now that my confidence has improved through transition, it's translating to my skating and it's been such a joy to experience.
estrogen is magic ^_^[close]
Yooooo same!
The mental clarity and lack of dissociation now that my hormones are “correct” for my brain, plus I’ve managed to find some skate friends that aren’t cis dudes lately, and I’ve never had better sessions. Even down to the tricks I land and how I feel on the board, sessions with the girl gang behind me are light years better than before I transitioned.
I came out to my parents (trans stuff) in late Feb, my mother said that she always knew. I suppose they do say that mother's have intuition about their children and everything going on with them. She's totally cool with it and said she always wanted a daughter. She even took me to get my ears pierced the other day. Coming out to my dad was probably the hardest thing I've ever done, but, my mom spoke to him over breakfast to kinda break the ice about it. He's not even a bad dude or some raging maga type, he's a good guy and I love him. I just imagine that given the current culture around masculinity and what not that it was probably the last thing he wanted to hear. He really took it fine though and said he'll do whatever it takes to help me out - he also told me a great story about a coworker he had that transitioned. I started HRT through Planned Parenthood a month ago and I feel great! At first I was really worried it was all just the placebo effect that you see so many people talk about online, but, I really do feel normal (if you want to call it that) - again, I don't know if it's placebo or Estrogen, but, I feel so much more calm now and not riddled with crippling anxiety. I fee like I can finally just breathe. Also, I feel like I'm focusing on skateboarding more and making strides. I wasn't bad or anything, but, the last year or so has been rough and I wasn't really able to push myself on the board properly because I just felt scatterbrained/disassociating or whatever the hell goes on with this type of stuff. I've always lurked this thread and would check when I first login to SLAP; Reading the posts in here really helped me out with regards to coming out and ya'll gave me some courage to express myself and say something. Also, shout out to Brianna Delaney (back tail queen) that Skating through Transition piece she did basically was one of the things that made me confront reality about my situation. Anyways, I just want to say that ya'll rock and are wonderful. (apologies if there's shitty grammar, punctuation, etc.).