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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
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School is a waste of time.
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It's not time to make a change
Just relax, take it easy
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Find a girl, settle down
If you want you can marry
Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy
I was once like you are now
And I know that it's not easy
To be calm when you've found
Something going on
But take your time, think a lot
Think of everything you've got
For you will still be here tomorrow
But your dreams may not
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=P6zaCV4niKk
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Start actively stretching/ yoga, you can thank me later
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Happy birthday!
I don't know what you're like as a person so I can't offer any real advice, but I'd say it's never too early or late to start developing good habits toward yourself like learning to cook and eating healthy or getting into a groove of regularly cleaning your living space. IDK. Be young, have fun, stay cool.
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Happy birthday, foo.
Like Captain No Cab said, do stretches daily. Also get some resistance bands and do some light workouts just to keep your body right. At your age I did a lot of leg workouts to help with pop and to make sure they didn’t get tired as much.
Tbh, ignore long term dating, most relationships at that age don’t last anyway so you’re just taking up time you could be doing something you like.
Enjoy not getting hangovers after 4 beers, after like 28 your body just decides to not handle hangovers as well.
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Happy birthday dude! I’ll give you the same advice my old man gave me when I turned 18.
Never waste a boner, never trust a cop, never trust a fart, and never teabag a cannibal.
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Brush and floss. Go to the dentist. Pay your taxes. act 15% dumber and 15% nicer than you really are. Learn to cook. Always Clean up after yourself sooner rather than later. Avoid sunburn. You don't need 99% of the things you want.
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Happy birthday, foo.
Like Captain No Cab said, do stretches daily. Also get some resistance bands and do some light workouts just to keep your body right. At your age I did a lot of leg workouts to help with pop and to make sure they didn’t get tired as much.
Tbh, ignore long term dating, most relationships at that age don’t last anyway so you’re just taking up time you could be doing something you like.
Enjoy not getting hangovers after 4 beers, after like 28 your body just decides to not handle hangovers as well.
yeah i been ignoring long term dating, never been in a serious thing. but idk man sometimes i feel like having a gf is less of a waste of time than going out on dates with different women. maybe ill just ignore dating and go skating.
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Brush and floss. Go to the dentist. Pay your taxes. act 15% dumber and 15% nicer than you really are. Learn to cook. Always Clean up after yourself sooner rather than later. Avoid sunburn. You don't need 99% of the things you want.
I definitely gots to floss. I already got gingivitis.
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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
try to avoid addiction or addictive behavior. don't pile out. learn a job that makes money asap.
i piled out hard in my twenties and now i'm very poor in my 30s and getting out of line of "career" is pretty hard. being somewhat financially secure will take a lot of stress off of you as well.
don't get catfished into working for free for anyone. always get payed, never do something on the promise of a connection or whatever. don't get distracted from your own goals.
be accountable for your own fuck ups and learn from them so you don't repeat them in the future.
EDIT: oh, and happy birthday of course. hope you had a sick day
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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
try to avoid addiction or addictive behavior. don't pile out. learn a job that makes money asap.
i piled out hard in my twenties and now i'm very poor in my 30s and getting out of line of "career" is pretty hard. being somewhat financially secure will take a lot of stress off of you as well.
don't get catfished into working for free for anyone. always get payed, never do something on the promise of a connection or whatever. don't get distracted from your own goals.
be accountable for your own fuck ups and learn from them so you don't repeat them in the future.
EDIT: oh, and happy birthday of course. hope you had a sick day
i definitely gotta avoid addictive behavior. my father is notorious for his little drug binges every now and again and everyone in my family has had their problems with substance abuse.. also the money thing... im going to school to become a musician and that is no money maker lol.
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Happy birthday, may God bless you.
Staying away from drugs (at least hard ones) is certainly a good idea. Booze is not healthy in the long run unless you manage to be a moderate drinker. Don‘t follow everything your „friends“ do just because they are „cool“, try to make up your own mind.
I would also encourage you to keep skating, which I gave up around your age and only took up again more than 20 years later, just to wonder what I could have achieved if I had kept at it in the first place.
Being a musician is great but you have to be very honest to yourself about your talent and skills. It might turn out at some point you don‘t have „it“, so it might be wise to branch out to at least have a back up plan oder side gig you can rely on should you not be able to make a living off of music.
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Happy birthday
Travel as much as possible. Look into getting working holiday visa's for other countries. Check to see if you can claim another passport due to your parents/grandparents.
Learn to cook or bartend, they are the easiest jobs to travel with and normally you have the day off to skate.
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Happy birthday!
Now is the time to live it up, try to have as much fun as you can but also be responsible.
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Oh yeah don't get any chick pregnant.
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Wear condoms.. if you drink soft drink regularly, stop now and only have one as a treat.
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Also tho if you know you want to have kids kind of think about it a tiny bit now. Not saying jump in at 20 or anythinf but I know a lot of people who had kids at like 35 and they're all like they should of done it ten years earlier.
I never wanted kids but now in my mid 30s realise it's kinda not even an option now.
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Lube
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everything is good in moderation. if so meting seems to good to be true, it probably is, the grass is always greener on the other side.
social media is not real life.
buy that dirt bike you've been thinking about
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If you have a menial job and it gives you push back for any reason, quit. You can replace one menial job with another menial job pretty easily. I missed a few concerts and skate events in my youth because I had to come in Saturday for 3 hours to cover a kitchen shift. Made probably 30 bucks but missed out on a lifetime of memories.
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Come as you are, clean as you go.
Think hard about the people in your life and make the effort to not let the good ones slip away.
Make good faith attempts at understanding where other people coming from, even when they’re saying some crazy shit.
When you fuck up, make it right.
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Lube
Definitely didn't know about this one until well after I should have learned.
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Brush and floss. Go to the dentist. Pay your taxes. act 15% dumber and 15% nicer than you really are. Learn to cook. Always Clean up after yourself sooner rather than later. Avoid sunburn. You don't need 99% of the things you want.
Bumping this one. All solid advice.
I would also say school is not "a waste of time" if you know what you want out of it.
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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
try to avoid addiction or addictive behavior. don't pile out. learn a job that makes money asap.
i piled out hard in my twenties and now i'm very poor in my 30s and getting out of line of "career" is pretty hard. being somewhat financially secure will take a lot of stress off of you as well.
don't get catfished into working for free for anyone. always get payed, never do something on the promise of a connection or whatever. don't get distracted from your own goals.
be accountable for your own fuck ups and learn from them so you don't repeat them in the future.
EDIT: oh, and happy birthday of course. hope you had a sick day
but you're going to school for something and earning skills, so sounds like you're on the right path. you might not end up making a lot selling your own music, but you can be involved in the whole thing and know what you're doing and that is great.
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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
try to avoid addiction or addictive behavior. don't pile out. learn a job that makes money asap.
i piled out hard in my twenties and now i'm very poor in my 30s and getting out of line of "career" is pretty hard. being somewhat financially secure will take a lot of stress off of you as well.
don't get catfished into working for free for anyone. always get payed, never do something on the promise of a connection or whatever. don't get distracted from your own goals.
be accountable for your own fuck ups and learn from them so you don't repeat them in the future.
EDIT: oh, and happy birthday of course. hope you had a sick day
Hey man! 39 here. Hang with me...
Don't go to music school... There is a WEALTH of information out there. If you're motivated, you can easily find the Theory, Harmony, and Ear Training knowledge you'll need. I went to Berklee College of Music, which was a dream of mine, and am still paying it off.
Find a master of your instrument that does Skype lessons and study privately with them as often as you can afford, and play music with other people as often as you can. You'd be amazed how many "virtuoso's" there were at Berklee that could barely play in a group context from the jump.
This isn't trying to discourage you at all. Just sharing some advice that I wish I would've followed before going 10's of thousands of dollars in debt. Not worth it when the average gig for MOST musicians is $100 a night or upwards of $300-$500 for more quality gigs.
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Brush and floss. Go to the dentist. Pay your taxes. act 15% dumber and 15% nicer than you really are. Learn to cook. Always Clean up after yourself sooner rather than later. Avoid sunburn. You don't need 99% of the things you want.
Bumping this one. All solid advice.
I would also say school is not "a waste of time" if you know what you want out of it.
lots of sage advice in this thread, and especially in the two right here. and teeth issues are random, but really can ruin a day when you get older especially--i have learned the hard way.
i'm 51, and what i will add to this thread is that despite what it may seem like some days, and despite what some people want you to believe, there are far more good people in the world, than bad...
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Happy birthday, dude. Enjoy yourself, take in every small moment you can, love yourself and listen to some of the old heads when they're talking - you just might learn a good life lesson or you can learn what to avoid if you don't want to end up like the ones who piled out hard.
Also, leave your hometown and see what other places have to offer. The world is much larger than what you can see from your front yard.
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Live with your parents for as long as you can and use that money you save to travel as much as possible.
Dont wait on your friends or anyone to do the stuff you want to do.
Dont dive to deep into your local skate scene, keep with the people who you have a actual connection with outside of skating.
My biggest regret is not getting a degree, it makes moving to a new place and finding a decent job alot easier.
I'm only 28 but it felt like my 20s so far been a rollercoaster, alot of ups, alot of downs, alot of re-evaluating life. But you'll make the most of it.
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Live with your parents for as long as you can and use that money you save to travel as much as possible.
Dont wait on your friends or anyone to do the stuff you want to do.
Dont dive to deep into your local skate scene, keep with the people who you have a actual connection with outside of skating.
My biggest regret is not getting a degree, it makes moving to a new place and finding a decent job alot easier.
I'm only 28 but it felt like my 20s so far been a rollercoaster, alot of ups, alot of downs, alot of re-evaluating life. But you'll make the most of it.
These two rank highly in things I'd do differently if I lived my late teens/twenties over again.
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If you drink coffee, buy your own beans and brew it yourself. Don’t go to the coffee shop every morning and buy a cup. I made this mistake for years and wasted so much money on mediocre coffee.
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Its my birfday today and im 20 now. what can I expect from being in my 20s?? what should I avoid doing? What should I focus on? skateboarding and non-skateboarding-related answers are welcome....
try to avoid addiction or addictive behavior. don't pile out. learn a job that makes money asap.
i piled out hard in my twenties and now i'm very poor in my 30s and getting out of line of "career" is pretty hard. being somewhat financially secure will take a lot of stress off of you as well.
don't get catfished into working for free for anyone. always get payed, never do something on the promise of a connection or whatever. don't get distracted from your own goals.
be accountable for your own fuck ups and learn from them so you don't repeat them in the future.
EDIT: oh, and happy birthday of course. hope you had a sick day
Hey man! 39 here. Hang with me...
Don't go to music school... There is a WEALTH of information out there. If you're motivated, you can easily find the Theory, Harmony, and Ear Training knowledge you'll need. I went to Berklee College of Music, which was a dream of mine, and am still paying it off.
Find a master of your instrument that does Skype lessons and study privately with them as often as you can afford, and play music with other people as often as you can. You'd be amazed how many "virtuoso's" there were at Berklee that could barely play in a group context from the jump.
This isn't trying to discourage you at all. Just sharing some advice that I wish I would've followed before going 10's of thousands of dollars in debt. Not worth it when the average gig for MOST musicians is $100 a night or upwards of $300-$500 for more quality gigs.
you're probably right but at this point im a junior and I don't know what else i'm really interested in other than music... i enjoy being at college tho.
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If you've been young and stupid, chances are that you'll grow to be wise and old, but you have to remember to have things changing direction in time.
Learn to pay notice to what's happening around you without necessarily needing to have an opinion about them.
Smile, look people into the eyes when you talk to them, breath and feel your self.
Have great role models. People who posses positive qualities you appreciate and would like to attain your self.
Know that you can always grow and change your life for the better, and know that you should continue to focus on doing so for the rest of your life.
Happy birthday!
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Get off the internet now.
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Don’t go buck with your credit card….being a dirtbag is actually a great skill, don’t lose touch with it.
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And learn to play an instrument..
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If you're smart and fast enough, you can almost always find a way to walk or run away from a fight. As a result, you can go more places, have more adventures, and get yourself into and out of more situations. Embracing a less macho and egodriven mindset is not the same as non-violence, it's just a braver and more realistic understanding of life.
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don't let your health insurance lapse.
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Don't be afraid to ask for help
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Get your dick wet and don't be afraid to eat ass
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Don't ever buy nothing from a man named Truth.
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Learn how to pay attention to stuff you’re doing, and especially when talking to people. Empathy can be like a superpower. Non-violent communication is a good way to learn how to be empathic with others and yourself. I sure wish I’d come across that at least 20 years earlier, changed my life.
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stick to riding your skateboard, regardless of what happens (i.e. parties, girls, girlfriends, ...).
it will get you through the worst of times and keep you sane and somewhat balanced.
it will however accompany you through the best of times and skating through the best of times is fucking rad.
tl;dr skate is cool.
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Some have already been mentioned, but as a married 38-year old with kids, these are my 5 cents. Good luck & HBD.
1. Keep skating, no matter how good/bad you are. You'll make friendships that will be deeper and last much longer than with any other sport.
2. Get a degree. No matter what you decide to do later in life, a degree is the only thing that cannot be taken from you.
3. Skip long-term dating. Spend your time on what you really want to do - either dating more women, skating or learning something else. Don't worry about love, you're too young for that.
4. Enjoy the physical strength of an adult but the flexibility of a youngster.
5. Save money. Don't need to be much, but save anything you can as you will need it later. . Once it's GO for a life situation change, you don't have that restraint and can just go for it.
6. Be social and travel. The more you see of the world and the more people the better - you'll learn more about yourself and about others more than ever before/after. This brings a maturity that will help you navigate further in life and career-wise .
7. Enjoy life. You'll only be in your 20's once.
People that say "30 is the new 20" are wrong and trying to find excuses for pissing away their 20's - whatever your priorities are, do them now and don't wait.
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don’t solicit advice from burnout losers on skate forums
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Roth IRA
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Plastics.
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Never settle. For anything. Ever!
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i'm 50, happily married, have a great family life (3 kids and with my wife for 25 ish years) and run a fun, profitable business. advice i give my kids and any other younger folks who ask...
two most important decisions in your life
1. what you do for a living
2. who you spend your life with
if you get those right, it should be smooth sailing. everything else you can screw up and iterate on.
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Happy Birthday!
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Save your money. At least 1/4 of your monthly income.
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Don't skip long term relationships what the hell just don't date morons
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My most important piece of advice for the next 10 years is to get really good at something that will make you money. Doesn't matter what field it's in as long as it's in demand. Gotta make yourself valuable. The guys I know in their 30s who blew it are the ones still bouncing between shitty jobs because they didn't ever get a respectable skill set while they were younger.
It's not a big deal for me but my only real regret of my 20s is going to university when I could have gone straight into the trades after I finished high school. I'm not anti-university at all but I think if you don't have a plan and a career path for when you finish your degree you should be strongly considering doing something else before you amass more debt and waste more time. If you are doing any degree in the arts or humanities you should really be considering whether you have what it takes to make this a worthwhile career, because the odds are not in your favor, no matter how passionate you are.
And also you don't really have to take anything that seriously until you're 25 so don't stress too hard
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don’t solicit advice from burnout losers on skate forums
Enjoy the ride. Do whatever YOU want, not what your parents or others want.
Be aware of supply and demand and that life is about being able to "compete" at a certain level everyday.
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Learn to cook and avoid nickel and diming yourself into being poor by buying pop and gas station food all day long. Even small amounts of money saved and invested will pay off huge in your future.
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Save your money. At least 1/4 of your monthly income.
Yup, stack as much money as you can. You'll thank yourself later.
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^ this is good but also gotta remember being thrifty can be addictive.
"You gotta spend money to make money" is pretty true but "you gotta spend money to save money" s another way to look at it. There's things you'll do everyday that seem like nothing but added up will be hundreds of thousands of dollars a year.
The buying gas station (or any pre made) food is a great example. One good thing I did once is bought a whole box of toothbrushes. It was like $50 but it was like 7 years worth. A toothbrush is like $5 and you need one every couple weeks so that's like $60-120 a year. I saved hundreds right there.
Get a good drink bottle(s) is another one that will save a little every day (as long as it's not like hundreds of $, be smart)
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Turn 21
Then turn 22
Get it?
Don't. There's nothing wrong with not going for it if you're not feeling it. This goes with everything.
Don't feel pressured to imbibe alcohol just because some people make it look fun. It's not always fun.
Also, keep in mind your brain doesn't stop developing until you are 25. This was a shocker to find out in college. That's apparently a contributing factor to alcoholism. So I advise my kids that they should let their brain grow as big as possible before they do anything to stunt its growth.
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Take a whiff.
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Give up hope...
Look at me.
Dreams is for suckas....
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My grandfather tho ... He has something to tell you. He told this to me all the time.
"... Never stop fucking... When you're old you'll thank me for telling you that..."
Unfortunately I have not followed grampy fleas advice and I'm overflowing with sexual anxiety and need to get out there again.
I have no idea what has changed. Last few years my cock has given me nothing but disappointment.
My other advice is use condoms.
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God damnit I can't leave it like that...
#1 never leave slap...
#2 never stop skating for more than a year...
#3 always try to be down for friends and family
#4 don't go join the military
#5 try to go vegan if you can
#6 Honor the cult of gall by answering all questions accordingly...
#7 if you meet Manny Santiago tell him to ask his homies to stop giving me messages to give him from prison.
I haven't seen Manny since right when he first started skating. The people who I been visiting should not be telling people I'm a skateboard addict and these people should definitely not be interrupting my visit.
That's technically a violation and I could buy law beat that ass with a wet Bobo.
#7 always be true to yourself. Nothing smacks like honesty. It's the ultimate steez. You're a slap pal and you don't need anything more than that for street cred.
#8 avoid jails institutions and death ked. Ok
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#10 develop a dope ass tag throw and simple. Go get up
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Utilize the $1 store. There's so much good shit that can save you money on hella products.
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School is a waste of time.
If you attend college have a plan. Many college students mindlessly drift through while half-assing their classes for a meme degree, wondering why a 6 figure job didnt land on their doorstep on graduation day, and then say "college was pointless." If you attend college, do it with purpose and bust your ass to get straight A's, or work a job until you have a reason to enroll.
Don't use credit cards
Stop buying takeout and learn to cook as someone said already
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School is a waste of time.
Don't use credit cards
False, use your credit card for everything. Pay it off after every purchase. Having good credit is key. If you have no control, get a secured credit card.
Debit cards are pointless, and if someone gets ahold of your card it's a fight with the bank to get it back.
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School is a waste of time.
If you attend college have a plan. Many college students mindlessly drift through while half-assing their classes for a meme degree, wondering why a 6 figure job didnt land on their doorstep on graduation day, and then say "college was pointless." If you attend college, do it with purpose and bust your ass to get straight A's, or work a job until you have a reason to enroll.
Don't use credit cards
Stop buying takeout and learn to cook as someone said already
The thing that a lot of kids don’t realize and need to be reminded of is that college doesn’t guarantee a job, it only guarantees an education.
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False, use your credit card for everything. Pay it off after every purchase. Having good credit is key. If you have no control, get a secured credit card.
Debit cards are pointless, and if someone gets ahold of your card it's a fight with the bank to get it back.
The rewards are pretty nice too. I get probably $500-600 back a year on them and my credit is impeccable too because I use several different ones.
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Steer clear of meth and heroin.
Look after your teeth.
Be kind to the people around you, especially those less fortunate.
Have fun!
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I almost don't agree with the 'travel more' thing. Ideally it would be good for everyone. But I met a lot of unhinged people (fellow travellers) on my own journeys that didn't really have the temperament do deal with it and were just doing it because other friends were and they felt pressured to have the same experiences. But yeah get yourself settled in your personal and financial life to sustain a few short trips, then go for longer ones if you feel up to it. Another thing I'd like to add is work out what you really love and do your damn best to focus on it as much as possible without letting anyone sway you or talk you out of it. Social media has increased a lack of self some doubt and I see a lot of people just jumping from one thing to the other really inorganically. You gotta try different things out but just don't make it a chronic habit and tunnel vision your way through what you enjoy
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Learn to cook if you don't already.
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Learn to cook if you don't already.
Yup, nothing wrong with restaurants now and then. Other people cooking your food will always be somewhat expensive no matter what. Eating at home 90-95% of the time is key! Your pockets will thank you.
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I'm going to try the credit card thing so probably do that.
Maybe get a camper and go bombing hills in the Rocky Mountains.
Come see my band SCÜMBARI when we tour this year.
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Happy birthday! sorta skating related but will benefit the rest of your life outside it too: start exercising / working out if you arent already. As skating takes a backseat in life your body will thank you for maintaining strength everytime you get back on a board. Doesnt hurt to look good naked too.
To start: For maintaining skating I personally find that explosive or heavy movements work better than light and endurance based stuff, for general fitness you cant go wrong with squats, push ups and pull ups
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Don’t use the dollar store.
Buy quality products.
It pays off in the long run.
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Don’t use the dollar store.
Buy quality products.
It pays off in the long run.
This BUT workout the limit too. There's certain things that you will never see the value for money in. It's personal sure but like a five grand tv is prob not that much better than a five hundred dollar tv for a regular person and will still die before you get your money's worth. Same with so many appliances, tools, cars whatever
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Brush and floss. Go to the dentist. Pay your taxes. act 15% dumber and 15% nicer than you really are. Learn to cook. Always Clean up after yourself sooner rather than later. Avoid sunburn. You don't need 99% of the things you want.
Terrific advice and I would add to not stress over work, but also to work hard at whatever you do. School is not strictly a waste of time but it is best to have a goal and a plan.
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god damn i wish i was turning 20
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https://youtu.be/MQlJ3vOp6nI (https://youtu.be/MQlJ3vOp6nI)
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Dont trade items worth actually money for consumable products.
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Stretch, eat well, maintain your core and strengthen your back. Otherwise all your injuries will come back out in your 30’s like it did for me.
Be careful with the partying, it becomes a habit quickly.
Start putting money aside every week. Doesn’t have to be much, but put some aside anyways. I’ve been puting aside 40-70$/week since I’m 17, it builds up nicely over time.
Pay your debts quickly and get some good credit.
Travel as much as possible.
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Stretch, eat well, maintain your core and strengthen your back. Otherwise all your injuries will come back out in your 30’s like it did for me.
Be careful with the partying, it becomes a habit quickly.
Start putting money aside every week. Doesn’t have to be much, but put some aside anyways. I’ve been puting aside 40-70$/week since I’m 17, it builds up nicely over time.
Pay your debts quickly and get some good credit.
Travel as much as possible.
Really solid advice.
Core and back strength is a must.
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School is a waste of time.
Don’t listen to this.
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Don’t use the dollar store.
Buy quality products.
It pays off in the long run.
*Use the dollar store for SOME products, not everything.
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Just quit at this point