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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #450 on: July 13, 2020, 05:54:53 PM »
Where I am failing to be sympathetic is that the other day I started to get frustrated with the amount of totally rinsed out dishes in the sink, dishes that could be put in the dishwasher as they were, and I asked her (sternly) if they could go in the sink.  She then told me "I am starting to dissociate" and it really felt like a cop out.
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It probably felt like a cop out because it was a cop out. I don't know. I feel like saying "ditch the nutty broad" because it's a funny thing to say - maybe "run for ze hills" instead? - but I'm trying to practice self-censorship. It's only going to get worse as she learns more big words to throw around. You're at the beginning of a ten year story arc here and you should split while you have the chance.
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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #451 on: July 14, 2020, 08:31:46 AM »
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Where I am failing to be sympathetic is that the other day I started to get frustrated with the amount of totally rinsed out dishes in the sink, dishes that could be put in the dishwasher as they were, and I asked her (sternly) if they could go in the sink.  She then told me "I am starting to dissociate" and it really felt like a cop out.
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It probably felt like a cop out because it was a cop out. I don't know. I feel like saying "ditch the nutty broad" because it's a funny thing to say - maybe "run for ze hills" instead? - but I'm trying to practice self-censorship. It's only going to get worse as she learns more big words to throw around. You're at the beginning of a ten year story arc here and you should split while you have the chance.

The thing is I am just not familiar enough to know.  I mean her parents in their old age have mellowed out a bit and are apparently totally different people than I have ever been exposed to, but some of the things she went through as a kid are just so unbelievably foreign to me that I have no idea if her 'disassociation' is legitimate or not (in this case).

I just want to be a good partner, and when she is present she is a good partner. I just dont know how to be supportive in her journey through trauma therapy, which is what I was really asking about.
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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #452 on: July 14, 2020, 09:10:22 AM »
your not alone man, do what you need to do to feel your best dont worry about others especially if it comes to medication fuck opinions but meds can really allow people to take control of there life back do what you gotta do some people will never understand, but put yourself first, had a hell of a few years just self medicating with literally everything until i finally got sobered up and dove deeper into what issues i had going on i was able to learn so much and just accepted help and shit man regret not doing it all sooner,  i actually got a life again and can enjoy skateboarding but i take meds and hey fuck it i could care less, suboxone wellbutrin mood stabalizer i just take it shut up and enjoy not hating myself no more good luck im sure someones gonna jump on this cause of the meds im on but thats life

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #453 on: July 14, 2020, 11:19:47 AM »
I am diagnosed moderate depression, and it has been coming and going in significant waves during lockdown. I built a mini-ramp during this time that I cant even get motivated to skate (oddly, I have been mountain biking a lot though) and I just generally feel multi-day episodes of really bad malaise.

21 days ago I quit instagram and twitter. I don't have Facebook, so I dont really have any social media linkage at this point and I have to say...it's helped, a lot. I dont have issues with anxiety as much but quitting social media has forced me into being focused on the world around me and being present at any given time. It's also really demonstrated for me who actually cares about keeping in touch, and who is only interested in centering their communication around social media. which I refuse to do. It's helping my mental health overall.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #454 on: August 14, 2020, 02:23:03 PM »
Hey, just throwing this out there:

If any of you Slap posters are going through a tough time right now -- due to COVID-19 or otherwise -- I'm willing to listen to you and maybe help you see the light that is there at the end of the tunnel.

Skaters always look out for one another so don't feel like you have no one to hear you out.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #455 on: August 14, 2020, 03:33:55 PM »
Hey, just throwing this out there:

If any of you Slap posters are going through a tough time right now -- due to COVID-19 or otherwise -- I'm willing to listen to you and maybe help you see the light that is there at the end of the tunnel.

Skaters always look out for one another so don't feel like you have no one to hear you out.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #456 on: September 02, 2020, 09:42:37 PM »
Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #457 on: September 03, 2020, 05:56:28 AM »
Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #458 on: September 03, 2020, 07:56:43 AM »
Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #459 on: September 03, 2020, 08:02:28 AM »
Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.

Haha Had this most my life this is Golden!  Im an OCD/Neat Freak ...sort of like the TV show Monk, but not probably close to 70% of how he acts.

Honestly as long as other people aren't bothered by it, its okay.  If you are bothered with it, here is some FYI

OCD is a anxiety disorder triggered by your desire to control the future cause and effects.  EG. If I keep this in order than I will have full control of conscious if not than my unconsciousness is in control.


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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #460 on: September 03, 2020, 01:35:16 PM »
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Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.
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Haha Had this most my life this is Golden!  Im an OCD/Neat Freak ...sort of like the TV show Monk, but not probably close to 70% of how he acts.

Honestly as long as other people aren't bothered by it, its okay.  If you are bothered with it, here is some FYI

OCD is a anxiety disorder triggered by your desire to control the future cause and effects.  EG. If I keep this in order than I will have full control of conscious if not than my unconsciousness is in control.

Yeah, there's definitely something about OCD that's like superstition or religion. I know how irrational and stupid it is but sometimes the compulsions take over and bring me more stress. The rituals really get to me because I often think up new ones and then have to complete them the right way before I feel comfortable enough. In the past, the key to stopping has been to just resist doing any of the rituals and over time the OCD subsides till it's almost gone. I need to start doing that again.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #461 on: September 03, 2020, 03:27:36 PM »
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Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.
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Haha Had this most my life this is Golden!  Im an OCD/Neat Freak ...sort of like the TV show Monk, but not probably close to 70% of how he acts.

Honestly as long as other people aren't bothered by it, its okay.  If you are bothered with it, here is some FYI

OCD is a anxiety disorder triggered by your desire to control the future cause and effects.  EG. If I keep this in order than I will have full control of conscious if not than my unconsciousness is in control.
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Yeah, there's definitely something about OCD that's like superstition or religion. I know how irrational and stupid it is but sometimes the compulsions take over and bring me more stress. The rituals really get to me because I often think up new ones and then have to complete them the right way before I feel comfortable enough. In the past, the key to stopping has been to just resist doing any of the rituals and over time the OCD subsides till it's almost gone. I need to start doing that again.

I wouldnt try to control it, just understand it more in depth and make it so it doesn't make you feel bad....i mean shit its who you are....you'll slow down eventually...just wait.   I would suggest picking up a bad habit, but instead of being anxious you could end up depressed.  as long as your not hurting anyone or yourself dont trip,  on the list of mental disorders its actually not that bad once you understand it

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #462 on: September 07, 2020, 01:49:51 PM »
Anyone got their anxiety under control without medication?

History- years ago, went through an era of rough benzo abuse and a few other demons I had to battle. Went to rehab, got off the benzos and have been medication free for about 6 years.

Went through a pretty stressful last couple of months and am starting to feel the physical side effects of being constantly anxious. Didn't think much of my hypochondria or a couple other issues until recently.

If you've been able to tackle anxiety without the use of medication, how'd you do it/ what do you do?


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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #463 on: September 07, 2020, 04:20:39 PM »
Has anyone else had to suffer with someone who is facing gnarly mental health issues, only to get blamed for those issues?

I had someone who was close to me at one point, really struggle with her undiagnosed bipolar, depression, ADD, and dissociative disorder and after I told her doctor all the shit that she was experiencing (she struggled to do this herself) and suffered through that shit with her for years (I wasn't a saint, I sometime reacted negatively to her outbursts that I couldn't understand, which exacerbated her issues) she decided to make me the cause and representation of her depression/struggles.

It makes me super angry and bums me out that not only did I suffer with her through that shit, I now get blamed for it. And someone else who did zero work gets the credit of being the hero. He never begged her to take her meds, or begged her to tell the therapist what was really going on, he didn't see the consequences of her intense ups/downs, etc. I suffered through all that shit and it was only when I went to the doctor with her and I explained her struggles to the doctor that she finally got prescribed the meds she needed so badly for 17 years of her life. The doctor said, "Oh, you are battling bipolar. I had no idea." This was two years into an extremely trying situation and 17 years after the symptoms really started to show when she was a teenager (and her parents did absolutely nothing to help her).

It is fucking killing me that I suffered through it with her, but in her mind she is the only one who suffered and it is all my fault that she was struggling because I pushed her to confront the shit she was facing.
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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #464 on: September 13, 2020, 12:54:07 PM »
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Does anyone else have OCD? I don't mean arranging your books or shoes nicely, or being picky about your board setup, but the type where you do weird, nonsensical rituals. How do you deal with it? There have been times in my life where I've been able to completely get rid of it but it flares up from time to time and lately I have it really bad. It doesn't help that I keep reinforcing it.
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Haha Had this most my life this is Golden!  Im an OCD/Neat Freak ...sort of like the TV show Monk, but not probably close to 70% of how he acts.

Honestly as long as other people aren't bothered by it, its okay.  If you are bothered with it, here is some FYI

OCD is a anxiety disorder triggered by your desire to control the future cause and effects.  EG. If I keep this in order than I will have full control of conscious if not than my unconsciousness is in control.
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Yeah, there's definitely something about OCD that's like superstition or religion. I know how irrational and stupid it is but sometimes the compulsions take over and bring me more stress. The rituals really get to me because I often think up new ones and then have to complete them the right way before I feel comfortable enough. In the past, the key to stopping has been to just resist doing any of the rituals and over time the OCD subsides till it's almost gone. I need to start doing that again.
For sure, I feel that OCD relates strongly to Tourette's syndrome too. It's all just how deep you're in it.
It's all a compulsive feeling that can be stronger than someone's will to hold it back, that's how rituals start.
Lot's of relearning and retraining is necessary most times to break the habits. Been trying my whole life.
 
There was a period of time as a kid where the only way I could swallow my food is by looking at a "special" spot on the wall in my childhood home. Don't know why that spot, but I definitely couldn't be looking at people and swallow food which made eating in public tough. Hundreds of other rituals have come and gone over the years. Time's of stress I really notice new things starting to form although I know they make no logical sense, then try to get over them before they cement themselves in.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #465 on: September 13, 2020, 06:10:14 PM »
hello, wondering if anyone has a similar experience or not with skating and I suppose other activities.

Iíve only been skating for a short while (less than 3 years) and Iíve made decent progress but I feel myself unreasonably comparing myself to other people way out of my league and I knock myself down on any achievements I make most times. I had a really good skate day followed by another one then a bad one and itís been in my mind since then and I feel not great about myself.

I feel like what triggers it is like when Iím struggling on a trick especially on a bad day and ask someone for help and they mention something along the lines of ďyou just have to find the feelingĒ... what feeling!?!? this then makes me wonder stupid shit and if certain time on a trick has been wasted doing it wrong and Iím no good at it. People have mentioned I beat myself up too much but I hardly notice that I do.


This has turned into some sort of word mess but got one more question.

Does anyone else here also get into like friendly competition turned arms race in skating without the other person knowing? I can admit that I do this a lot for no good reason and I get unreasonably jealous about people who get a trick before me etc.

Apologies for the mess writing itís in the early hours and I canít sleep. 

 

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #466 on: September 13, 2020, 06:59:45 PM »
Anyone got their anxiety under control without medication?

History- years ago, went through an era of rough benzo abuse and a few other demons I had to battle. Went to rehab, got off the benzos and have been medication free for about 6 years.

Went through a pretty stressful last couple of months and am starting to feel the physical side effects of being constantly anxious. Didn't think much of my hypochondria or a couple other issues until recently.

If you've been able to tackle anxiety without the use of medication, how'd you do it/ what do you do?

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #467 on: September 14, 2020, 07:33:49 AM »
Was quite depressed for almost A year feeling completely worthless. It got really bad around christmas last year. I had no energy to do anything and having huge breakdowns were I would seriously think of offing myself, hanging from the window and shit like that. Thinking about it I might actually be bipolar. My mental state is fine sometimes but I have huge mood swings fairly often and feel overwhelmed by my emotions. I also sometimes have episodes of very intense rage over the dumbest shit where I punch the wall until my knuckles are purple and the skin is peeling off. Alcohol doesnít help at all as my mood swings become much more violent. Weed does help, mellows me out and helps me meditate. I think school fucks with my mental health. Iím sorry for the rambling, itís hard to explain what happens in your mind.

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Re: Mental Health Issues
« Reply #468 on: September 15, 2020, 12:31:42 AM »
Ex girlfriend I was living with for the past 2 years broke my heart 4 months ago.
Iím adhering to a pretty strict drug regimen to keep my mind limber.
Even with that and casually sleeping with some other girls, I still wake up in the middle of the night sometimes, and think of the fucked up shit she did.

Funnily enough though, this and lockdown should have sent me down the drain.
Had suicidal thoughts as well for a couple of weeks then just random panic attacks to this day.
However Iím still smiling and trying to become a better person.
Iím still on prescription, but I just wanted to let you all know that there is light!!

I hope Iíll be in this world for a bit more time.
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