Is it wierd to tag along with randoms?

[SpankerChief]

So as many of you know I have random thoughts that are genuine curiosities, so say you are skating a new town and see a group and just join them from spot to spot. As long as you aren't a kook or a negative dickhead what's the problem? I understand not being invited if someone was to join in the whip or whatever but rolling around town that should be an invite in itself?

[DanTheDoucher]

So as many of you know I have random thoughts that are genuine curiosities, so say you are skating a new town and see a group and just join them from spot to spot. As long as you aren't a kook or a negative dickhead what's the problem? I understand not being invited if someone was to join in the whip or whatever but rolling around town that should be an invite in itself?

I see no problem with that whatsoever. You are all skaters.

[SpankerChief]

I use to have a friend that'd lurk about with us from spot to spot he wasn't that great at skating but we'd have a laugh at his shitty chicken foot attempts. whenever we'd be rolling about town it wasn't a problem but when you've got too many people going to a far away spot already don't jump in the whip unless we've got room/invited. He'd get super butthurt like what am I to do sorry eh? no room bud.

[givecigstosurfgroms]

So as many of you know I have random thoughts that are genuine curiosities, so say you are skating a new town and see a group and just join them from spot to spot. As long as you aren't a kook or a negative dickhead what's the problem? I understand not being invited if someone was to join in the whip or whatever but rolling around town that should be an invite in itself?

   Im too old for that.  I get invited  but turn it down.  I just chill with everyone at tbe park and leave it at that.  Def exceptions tho.  Certain people.

[SHIREFLIP]

I tried to reply, but then I remembered I know nothing of socialization. Godspeed.

[Fro Doggy Dog]

first thing that came to mind was fat bill on the bunt:

last person you want on the sesh: "...someone i would call a magnet. a magnet is a person that, if you're skating around with your crew - say you leave the skatepark, and you're skating down the street, and you get to the spot that you're going to. you know, like 15 blocks. all of a sudden you turn around and there's one dude that's with you that you're like 'who the fuck is this kid?' you're like, not gonna be a dick because you're just like, you're not gonna be like 'dude, what are you doing skating with us?' you just like kinda accept it in your fucking brain. but you're like, 'who the fuck is this guy?' dude, they just magnetize to you around town. like, that happened at love all the time. like me, pappalardo, and pluhowski would leave and fucking start skating down the street - there'd be like five of us - and all of sudden there'd be like just one lurker that was magnetized to us. dude, those are the worst.

[SpankerChief]

first thing that came to mind was fat bill on the bunt:

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last person you want on the sesh: "...someone i would call a magnet. a magnet is a person that, if you're skating around with your crew - say you leave the skatepark, and you're skating down the street, and you get to the spot that you're going to. you know, like 15 blocks. all of a sudden you turn around and there's one dude that's with you that you're like 'who the fuck is this kid?' you're like, not gonna be a dick because you're just like, you're not gonna be like 'dude, what are you doing skating with us?' you just like kinda accept it in your fucking brain. but you're like, 'who the fuck is this guy?' dude, they just magnetize to you around town. like, that happened at love all the time. like me, pappalardo, and pluhowski would leave and fucking start skating down the street - there'd be like five of us - and all of sudden there'd be like just one lurker that was magnetized to us. dude, those are the worst.

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Ummm that’s kinda a douche cougar mentality to have..... also a cool guy thing to do, what are you guys too good for me?

Anyone who has been that kinda a dick I would call them out, like fuck you bud! Hope you break your board and trash your shit online.  Thankfully no one has cool guyed me that I can remember. Just like I have said it’s one thing to be lurking from spot to spot but it’s an absolute no no to try and hop in the ride.

[fulfillthedream]

i NEVER did this back home - maybe the first few years of skating when it was more inclusive but by my late teens and early 20s id never do this - i moved abroad from California to China  in 2013 and its the opposite, its also the same thing when I travel abroad. Met some life long friends from all over the world.

[Trickflip]

I tried to reply, but then I remembered I know nothing of socialization. Godspeed. Hellride

[Ms. Tamzarian]

lol ^
but i think a good equalizer is asking ? u know, going up to a new crew and just asking if they mind u joining the next session. that way nothing is tacit. if u go, sick -- if not, u dont worry abt it ? idk. i too am a big idiot and wield the social skills of an ocean sponge

[iKobrakai]

This would happen all the time in drug addict circles. People would blend and come and go in different constelations all the time.

If you hit it off, go for it. If not, it is kind of strange.

[poster]

What, that is absolutely weird, how about you just ask and accept the answer.

[tension]

everyone im friends with was at once a random

[SpankerChief]

anyone who thinks it is strange or absurd asking to roll with at least to the next spot then you obviously never had any issues with finding skating friends. (I hate & also envy your magnetism cool guy) 

 also how the fuck do you explain go skate day if not following randoms?! flawless logic right there.......

[rubbery vagina]

bruh you think too much

[Dwyck]

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first thing that came to mind was fat bill on the bunt:

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last person you want on the sesh: "...someone i would call a magnet. a magnet is a person that, if you're skating around with your crew - say you leave the skatepark, and you're skating down the street, and you get to the spot that you're going to. you know, like 15 blocks. all of a sudden you turn around and there's one dude that's with you that you're like 'who the fuck is this kid?' you're like, not gonna be a dick because you're just like, you're not gonna be like 'dude, what are you doing skating with us?' you just like kinda accept it in your fucking brain. but you're like, 'who the fuck is this guy?' dude, they just magnetize to you around town. like, that happened at love all the time. like me, pappalardo, and pluhowski would leave and fucking start skating down the street - there'd be like five of us - and all of sudden there'd be like just one lurker that was magnetized to us. dude, those are the worst.

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Ummm that’s kinda a douche cougar mentality to have..... also a cool guy thing to do, what are you guys too good for me?

I mean fat bill's been a working filmer for almost 30 years he's allowed to want his space

[cosmicgypsies]

if it's people im on a first name basis with i'd probably tag along on a skate session but not to the point i'd be jumping in randoms cars.

[SpankerChief]

bruh you think too much

Ummm yeah that’s what your brain is for?  Or you weren’t into science and biology?
By your statement alone I assume the latter.

[L33Tg33k]

I would say it is entirely dependent on personality and whether or not the random meshes with the crew. I've been in many situations where someone joins and I don't know if they can be down with us, but going spot to spot really makes it obvious if you're on the same wavelength. Honestly speaking, I'm usually the one that's at odds with the rest of the crew, but I'm sort of a staple in the neighborhood and I feel like the others that I'm not that close to see me as a nice unnecessary accessory that they're used to. You know, almost never invited, but always welcome if there's space. Sometimes even prioritized over others. Of course there are those that can't hang at all and they stick around longer than their welcome, but it's hard for me to judge because I know I don't personally feel that I'm in on the group half the time. This is actually a pretty complex issue. Most things are more complex than people assume.

[SpankerChief]

I would say it is entirely dependent on personality and whether or not the random meshes with the crew. I've been in many situations where someone joins and I don't know if they can be down with us, but going spot to spot really makes it obvious if you're on the same wavelength. Honestly speaking, I'm usually the one that's at odds with the rest of the crew, but I'm sort of a staple in the neighborhood and I feel like the others that I'm not that close to see me as a nice unnecessary accessory that they're used to. You know, almost never invited, but always welcome if there's space. Sometimes even prioritized over others. Of course there are those that can't hang at all and they stick around longer than their welcome, but it's hard for me to judge because I know I don't personally feel that I'm in on the group half the time. This is actually a pretty complex issue. Most things are more complex than people assume.

That sentiment right there, it’s a lot more complex then people assume it is, is what I’ve been talking about.

As supposedly free thinking,open minded, and inclusive as we all like to think skateboarding scene and lifestyle is.

it’s not in many ways it’s bullshit. Elitism and exclusionary to varying degrees of secular and cliquey. which to me if you can hang with the banter (blend seamlessly) and just be decent to each other it shouldn’t matter skill level or who knows who?

Which leads my assumptions about am I not good enough?  Did I say something wrong?when I know it isn’t me it’s them having a problem because of their/my own assumptions.

(Note these are my assumptions based around a multitude of different spots crews towns cities and certain scenes in the USA)

 Especially if it’s a hey buddy what’s good? Skate for a bit then bounce, we all know those that stick around for far too long and I get that. It’s another for whenever they say skateboarding is inclusive and great for self esteem when it’s a whole other can of fuckery some will address or just ignore because that’s just the way it is.

[Burnt_Reynolds]

I dont see any problem with it if the vibe fits. No point in being uncomfortable for the sake of some randos feelings throughout the day.
Do you smoke herb? Ok its good.

[LordManHammer]

Well the point initially when starting this thread is the fact as a "culture" we are supposed to be ultra accepting of others when in reality we are just as close-mined and if not conservative with our views. Look at how long it took to get someone to come out the closet? or a relatable girl skater that rips, yeah certain things they do can be annoying as some of you point out but really your favorite "legendary skater" does the same GODDAMNED THING!!!!!!!!

[cricketclub]

As long as you don't get butt hurt if it seems like people are ignoring you. You have to accept that maybe they are focusing hard on getting their trick or just aren't in a good mood. It doesn't necessarily mean they are a "cool guy."

I give people props when they land cool stuff and eventually I introduce myself and try to remember their name. Then next time we see each other and we both have forgotten each other's names we laugh about it and reintroduce ourselves.

Skateboarding is fun and all friends start out as "randoms."

I don't tag along because I don't really have a lot of extra free time. Now and when I was younger I only go spot to spot with my friends. Usually we just meet up at one spot though, and to be honest, it's usually the park.