yo Helon, whats up homie
so i've been in and out of a few open relationships before, and i'm no expert on anything social cause im a fuckin runt as far as society goes. but i have some thoughts and i hope they can be a little bit helpful.
hopefully im not repeating others too much. anyhow here it goes.
the open relationship will always fail if you two are not mutually stoked on doing it. that probably seems obvious, but i'll explain a little.
like, it has to excite you two. that you are together and encouraging each other to explore sex / romance with others.
more than excitement, this has got to be something that turns you two on. makes the attraction between each other stronger in a way. like it deepens the bond you have, adds some kinky magic to it. and it has to be something you are super stoked to talk about. and talk about very often! intertwining the sex-life-aspect with the communication-aspect. its like being hyped up bandmates when things are working best. communicating and interacting without missing a beat. its pretty tight and worth the communication that goes into it, when its working.
but i dont mean things should be exciting all the time.
granted, the second it becomes stressful and confusing its a bad sign. someone is hiding something or something is not clicking.
that being said, all good open relationships i've been in have been sustained by working thru confusion and getting back to the stoke part. if things are confusing now, talk it out. its either a sign that its time to catch up and start a new page ... or that its time to move on.
hopefully its just a new page, no turmoil for you and your ducky. but, if it is a time to move on, good luck and swag it up out there.
if its a bad open relationship, its gonna be a shitshow. god speed that does not happen for you.
anyway, peace out