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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #90 on: April 03, 2021, 11:04:47 AM »
Thanks very much for your response Armin, you're very kind. That's some helpful advice, thanks. Fingers crossed.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #91 on: April 03, 2021, 11:34:10 AM »
i've been coming into this thread and reading what everyone has been sharing, and i really do appreciate y'all and i am inspired by y'all...your honesty and sincerity, your caring and patience, your strength and resilience, your trust and compassion...SLAP has a lot of highs and lows, and this thread is truly one of its high bright places.

you know, i'm pretty far along in life--i'll be 50 this month--and in a fairly solid place in life...emotionally, spiritually, and--for what it is worth--economically...the latter of which does not matter a lot, really, and it seems silly mentioning it, but life experience has taught me that it makes a difference...in retrospect, a lot of what i have dealt with when i was younger was compounded by poverty, so i don't want to be dismissive about material circumstances, and how they can make bad situations worse.

we did lose my mom to Covid this past October, and i caught it when i was taking care of her (before we had to get her into the hospital) and had a minor to moderate bout with it...i never thought i was going to need to go to the hospital myself, but it was the sickest i've ever been. i was teaching 3 different classes at 2 different universities through all of this, while getting sicker and having to make this call to the hospital every day, knowing that there would not be good news--she was 77 and had diabetes, so it really was brutal to her...at one point her lungs collapsed, at another point her kidneys failed. truly the hardest two weeks of my life, and i know i am still dealing with some kind of--dare i say--PTSD from it.

i did ultimately have to have 2 of my classes assigned to another instructor unfortunately, but the English department at that university really had my back, i'm grateful to say. as a literature and writing professor (adjunct), teaching through Zoom has not been as bad as i thought it was going to be when the pandemic really started changing things--and i deal with students' tears at least once a semester in a "normal" semester--but since the pandemic changed our lives, i have had a number of students break down weeping during conferences and office hours, and i've done my best to make sure they know that they are not alone, and i've done everything i can to be as flexible as possible with work and due dates and all, but it has been an emotionally trying time just trying to maintain my own emotional well being when i feel so powerless to help some of my students in these moments....thank god for a little Maker's Mark at the ends of those days.

still, things could be worse and i'm grateful and i'm especially concerned with counting my blessings on the daily, and never taking anyone or anything for granted. one of the biggest challenges since my mom passed, is i have a younger sister (in her late 40s) who is developmentally disabled (and i believe autistic, although they didn't really look for that when she was younger), she has lived with my mom her entire life, in mom's house her entire life, and has not worked in almost 20 years, and she is now my responsibility...i love her, she is quite innocent, but i also feel quite overwhelmed too at times.

ok, thank-you for taking the time to listen/read if you did...i just figured since i have been coming in here and reading what people have been sharing, i'd share myself, and i'm sure i'm leaving plenty out.

y'all are inspiring and i hope and pray for the best for ya'll...

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #92 on: April 04, 2021, 07:40:57 AM »
Iím sorry if Iíve been shitty to any of you or if my jokes about my experiences with mental illness have caused anybody pain. Despite my best efforts, I am accustomed to a surly and irreverent disposition, and it is because of how badly Iíve been hurt. Donít let me discourage you. Iím right there with you. I donít cheer, but Iíll make us coffee.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #93 on: April 04, 2021, 09:12:57 AM »
Iím sorry if Iíve been shitty to any of you or if my jokes about my experiences with mental illness have caused anybody pain. Despite my best efforts, I am accustomed to a surly and irreverent disposition, and it is because of how badly Iíve been hurt. Donít let me discourage you. Iím right there with you. I donít cheer, but Iíll make us coffee.
Make mine a triple espresso and weíre good.
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« Reply #94 on: April 04, 2021, 07:01:51 PM »
Deputy & Janus, welcome aboard my friends! It's Always the right time to join in, and all are welcome!

Deputy W I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother this year, that is fucking awful. I can only imagine the grief that comes with losing a parent during the pandemic ..... we are here for you No matter what, and here to hear you out whether it's hard times with the workload of teaching or the stressors with caretaking for your beautiful sibling. One way or another, you will see it through no matter what and we will be here to cheer you on!

Janus, please don't worry about it! In here we are a big misfit family of goofs. But now that you mention it, I'll skip the coffee and take a bear claw! ;D

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #95 on: April 05, 2021, 07:15:54 AM »
Espressos and bear claws coming up!
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #96 on: April 05, 2021, 08:24:47 AM »
Espressos and bear claws coming up!

cheers friend! i'll take a nip of Baileys in mine...

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« Reply #97 on: April 05, 2021, 10:10:02 AM »
i've been coming into this thread and reading what everyone has been sharing, and i really do appreciate y'all and i am inspired by y'all...your honesty and sincerity, your caring and patience, your strength and resilience, your trust and compassion...SLAP has a lot of highs and lows, and this thread is truly one of its high bright places.

you know, i'm pretty far along in life--i'll be 50 this month--and in a fairly solid place in life...emotionally, spiritually, and--for what it is worth--economically...the latter of which does not matter a lot, really, and it seems silly mentioning it, but life experience has taught me that it makes a difference...in retrospect, a lot of what i have dealt with when i was younger was compounded by poverty, so i don't want to be dismissive about material circumstances, and how they can make bad situations worse.

we did lose my mom to Covid this past October, and i caught it when i was taking care of her (before we had to get her into the hospital) and had a minor to moderate bout with it...i never thought i was going to need to go to the hospital myself, but it was the sickest i've ever been. i was teaching 3 different classes at 2 different universities through all of this, while getting sicker and having to make this call to the hospital every day, knowing that there would not be good news--she was 77 and had diabetes, so it really was brutal to her...at one point her lungs collapsed, at another point her kidneys failed. truly the hardest two weeks of my life, and i know i am still dealing with some kind of--dare i say--PTSD from it.

i did ultimately have to have 2 of my classes assigned to another instructor unfortunately, but the English department at that university really had my back, i'm grateful to say. as a literature and writing professor (adjunct), teaching through Zoom has not been as bad as i thought it was going to be when the pandemic really started changing things--and i deal with students' tears at least once a semester in a "normal" semester--but since the pandemic changed our lives, i have had a number of students break down weeping during conferences and office hours, and i've done my best to make sure they know that they are not alone, and i've done everything i can to be as flexible as possible with work and due dates and all, but it has been an emotionally trying time just trying to maintain my own emotional well being when i feel so powerless to help some of my students in these moments....thank god for a little Maker's Mark at the ends of those days.

still, things could be worse and i'm grateful and i'm especially concerned with counting my blessings on the daily, and never taking anyone or anything for granted. one of the biggest challenges since my mom passed, is i have a younger sister (in her late 40s) who is developmentally disabled (and i believe autistic, although they didn't really look for that when she was younger), she has lived with my mom her entire life, in mom's house her entire life, and has not worked in almost 20 years, and she is now my responsibility...i love her, she is quite innocent, but i also feel quite overwhelmed too at times.

ok, thank-you for taking the time to listen/read if you did...i just figured since i have been coming in here and reading what people have been sharing, i'd share myself, and i'm sure i'm leaving plenty out.

y'all are inspiring and i hope and pray for the best for ya'll...
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Dude Iím so sorry for your loss with your mum, I lost my dad around Veterans Day 2015 and whatís worse is my son (doggo) had to be put down October 31st 2011 stomach cancer.

I have and had to prioritize my mental well-being alongside my sobriety on to top it off grieve without self harm or suicide adulation.

I know I especially can give a few people on here a hard time for whatever reasons but itís never for malice or hurting anyone in particular feelings.

So in short but caring detail I do care for you guyís and the circle of Pals on here for their opinions regardless of how I either agree or disagree with them I love you all.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #98 on: April 05, 2021, 11:56:47 AM »
Armin and El Fap...your kind and encouraging words are appreciated--and i'm sorry for your losses as well El Fap...

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #99 on: April 05, 2021, 10:13:24 PM »
@Deputy Wendell

yo my gun toting lefty, shreddin breddren, I hope you're getting a chance to send some rounds down range. I haven't been out in a few months, but look forward to it in the near future. I'm driving across in June (fully vaxxed) and if I end up swinging thru Detroit way to see my cousin, I'll send ya a PM for a SLAP skate and shoot  :o seriously, man, hope you're able to take good care.
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« Reply #100 on: April 06, 2021, 05:56:17 AM »
@Deputy Wendell

yo my gun toting lefty, shreddin breddren, I hope you're getting a chance to send some rounds down range. I haven't been out in a few months, but look forward to it in the near future. I'm driving across in June (fully vaxxed) and if I end up swinging thru Detroit way to see my cousin, I'll send ya a PM for a SLAP skate and shoot  :o seriously, man, hope you're able to take good care.

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« Reply #101 on: April 06, 2021, 06:08:40 AM »
Also, Wendell, Iím sure your students appreciate you trying to be there for them. Iím back in school now and Iíve noticed the profs are extending themselves, even though itís a rough time for them, too. Even the little things mean a lot.
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« Reply #102 on: April 06, 2021, 10:14:55 AM »
i've been coming into this thread and reading what everyone has been sharing, and i really do appreciate y'all and i am inspired by y'all...

ok, thank-you for taking the time to listen/read if you did...i just figured since i have been coming in here and reading what people have been sharing, i'd share myself, and i'm sure i'm leaving plenty out.

y'all are inspiring and i hope and pray for the best for ya'll...

Wendell, thanks for coming in here. As a current student I know I'm speaking for all students when I say thank you, this shit is just tough. I'm sorry for your loss.

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« Reply #103 on: April 07, 2021, 01:34:17 PM »
i'm much obliged for all of the positivity Spunkchild and Janus, regarding this crazy "remote" era of teaching and learning we're all engaged in for now...full steam ahead!

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #104 on: April 10, 2021, 02:30:02 PM »
Things have continued to be tough. Still looking for local CBT. Trying not to resort to drugs/alcohol/sex as coping. Finding it very hard to feed myself or fill my time lately.
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« Reply #105 on: April 10, 2021, 02:56:29 PM »
What an uplifting thread, really nice read. Thanks Armin.

https://timetothrivetherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/The-Cognitive-Behavioral-Workbook-for-Anxiety.pdf

Here's a link to an anxiety workbook I've been doing that has helped me a lot for any pals with anxiety. You can kind of skim through the chapters and read parts that make the most sense for your situation. It's helped me a lot these last few months. Hope it helps someone else.

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #106 on: April 12, 2021, 06:22:20 AM »
I really hoped to contribute constructively to this thread, but Iíve been struggling lately, too. I canít tell if this me trying to be helpful, or me trying to vent, but:
Iíve been dealing with a mood disorder for years now, and Iím still surprised at times by the magnitude and frequency of my mood swings. Iíve learned some strategies to help me cope, but it can still cause me significant problems. I guess Iím trying to say coping with mental illness is a fucking process, it can/does get easier to deal with, but there are still times where I fall apart. Please donít get discouraged.
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« Reply #107 on: Today at 09:44:05 AM »
And like that, I swing back upward.

Things have continued to be tough. Still looking for local CBT. Trying not to resort to drugs/alcohol/sex as coping. Finding it very hard to feed myself or fill my time lately.

I'm not sure if you eat eggs, but 3 egg omelettes have saved me during depressive episodes more times than I'd like to admit. I can't find the Good Eats Reloaded episode that I learned to make omelettes from, but it's basically the same as this episode (sorry for the youtube quality):

https://youtu.be/nX7g5A50IuE?t=309

Warming the eggs is not necessary IMO. Omelettes are fast, easy, and if you have salsa and any sort of carb handy, it can be pretty filling. Also, if you fuck it up, you get scrambled eggs, which is also good.
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