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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #360 on: April 03, 2023, 05:25:22 AM »
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I am going through the end of my marriage. I feel lost and donít know what to do. I donít feel loved anymore, she has a new job a couple of years ago and everything changed. Me and our family donít seem to be her priority anymore. Hanging out with people from work is more important. Also her childhood traumas makes it difficult to conect in a deeper level. All that is draining anything good from me, i always considered myself a confident and Easygoing guy, but know i Can even recognize myself. I believe i lost my self trying to hard to adapt to this lack of attention and love.
I needed to get that out of my chest.
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yeah sounds like a good idea to get out of that marriage if you've been feeling that way for a very long time. i was never married, nor had kids, so no idea if that might complicate things more, but regardless, you have to look out for yourself. imo it's better to call it quits and find happiness with someone else than to drag out a loveless relationship. my parents never loved each other, always argued and fighted, but never seperated, which made mine and my brothers childhoods constantly revolve around their beef and it was the worst thing that could happen to our family as we would all become mentally ill from this in our teenage years. so even if you have a kid, if you think the relationship is unfixable, a peaceful seperation might be healthier for the kid(s) in the long run than to stay together for them. i only say this because i know a few cases where kids were the sole reason parents weren't seperated and pretty much no child comes out unscathed from under a toxic or loveless relationship. it's better to have one happy parent than two depressed parents who fight each other. i wished so much my mom would have seperated when she could, i was practically begging her to leave my dad for her and our sake. and also the kids always know whatsup. you can't play it fine in front of them. they might not say something, but kids always know the vibes.

anyways, good luck for your future.


Thanks for taking the time to comment, i think you are right about leaving a loveless marriage. Itís hard because we have a Kid, but it will be better for the long run. And like you said kids always know whatís. I guess i am done playing happy family anymore.

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #361 on: April 05, 2023, 06:54:28 AM »
every april i tend to get the worst hypomanic episodes. sorta felt the come up sunday and now itís pretty much at its peak. called off work and managed to fuck that up. i fucking hate hypomania itís not fun

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #362 on: April 13, 2023, 08:49:59 PM »
Missed being on here. Got pretty depressed a little over a year ago. I'm deeming 2022 a bad year for me. Im practicing calm as much as I can and I'm still being put to the test but I think I am doing better. I'm glad to come on here and read what people are talking about. I really laugh a lot when I read stuff on here. I always think of that sig. talking about Jereme Rogers looking like the devil in a Christian school play. hahaha

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #363 on: April 14, 2023, 05:32:05 AM »
Missed being on here. Got pretty depressed a little over a year ago. I'm deeming 2022 a bad year for me. Im practicing calm as much as I can and I'm still being put to the test but I think I am doing better. I'm glad to come on here and read what people are talking about. I really laugh a lot when I read stuff on here. I always think of that sig. talking about Jereme Rogers looking like the devil in a Christian school play. hahaha

Edit: SHALOM!

Welcome back mate, a heavy SHALOM to you too and just take it one day at a time, all shall pass with time.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #364 on: April 20, 2023, 09:38:12 AM »
I just wanted to remind you all that

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #365 on: April 21, 2023, 07:54:09 AM »
Same to you, brother.  Youíre a kind soul and fully deserve it.

Had my first FaceTime appointment with a psychologist yesterday.  It was a really big step for me, and maybe my expectations were too high because of how expensive it was, but I was not satisfied with how it went.

She was very, very elderly to say the least, and she was 5 minutes, or $17.50, late calling.  Then I had to teach her how FaceTime works, and she started off by telling me about the weather where she was at. 

Admittedly, I did go off in circles about many personal issues.. but she mostly just spat out stuff Iíd heard already on self help podcasts, then sent me an email with a photocopied cheat sheet about non-violent communication.

Iím not giving up on my self improvement journey, but unless I find a coupon on the ground for 5 Free Psychotherapy Sessions, Iím going to have to explore other avenues.

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #366 on: April 21, 2023, 11:28:37 AM »
IDK even know what to say to my counselor anymore. I been complaining about the same shit for too long w/o solution. I think I'm dying from infection
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #367 on: April 22, 2023, 09:14:49 AM »
IDK even know what to say to my counselor anymore. I been complaining about the same shit for too long w/o solution. I think I'm dying from infection

Find a professional social worker also known as an LCSW. Theyíre trained to look at ALL angles when working with someone. Itís called a systems perspective. Iím an LSW myself & Iím in therapy with an LCSW & my goodness, itís great.

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #368 on: April 22, 2023, 09:22:04 AM »
I am super biased, but for a good reason as a lot of times, psychologists and people with strictly counseling degreeís only look at the micro issues. This often not enough. The bottom line is, everything around us. Even the environment affects us. An LCSW will understand that and should take that into consideration. Mezzo-group/family Macro-Policies, social institutions (Four headed monster; church, school, government & maybe family as well. 


I wish you all well & dm for anything. I know Iím unpopular on here at times for defending Mr. Berle, laughing at your beloved Honey Island & Horses & when I first came here defending Anthony Pappalardo but we are all humans & caring for one another is beyond important.


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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #369 on: April 24, 2023, 04:54:20 AM »
IDK even know what to say to my counselor anymore. I been complaining about the same shit for too long w/o solution. I think I'm dying from infection

Fuck, I feel like this every time...

Basically most everything that bothers me now is a result of not taking action in the aspects of life that are holding me back and it's been like that for several years i.e., "I'm going to leave this job" or "I'm going to leave this relationship". Every time they mention that I've been complaining about the the same things for years I just feel like a fucking idiot.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #370 on: May 03, 2023, 10:38:42 AM »
I just don't even want to deal anymore, even with life being the most stable it has been in like 20 years I'm still extremely stressed out about almost every aspect of my life, overall unhappy and disillusioned and I just don't want to continue on this way. I just don't know what to do anymore, I've given everything I've got and it just feels like I've got nothing more to give.
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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #371 on: May 07, 2023, 08:48:27 PM »
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IDK even know what to say to my counselor anymore. I been complaining about the same shit for too long w/o solution. I think I'm dying from infection
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Find a professional social worker also known as an LCSW. Theyíre trained to look at ALL angles when working with someone. Itís called a systems perspective. Iím an LSW myself & Iím in therapy with an LCSW & my goodness, itís great.

Its an LICSW where @Uncle Flea is located.

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Re: The WELLNESS OUTREACH & SUPPORT Thread
« Reply #372 on: May 08, 2023, 04:37:35 AM »
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IDK even know what to say to my counselor anymore. I been complaining about the same shit for too long w/o solution. I think I'm dying from infection
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Find a professional social worker also known as an LCSW. Theyíre trained to look at ALL angles when working with someone. Itís called a systems perspective. Iím an LSW myself & Iím in therapy with an LCSW & my goodness, itís great.
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Its an LICSW where @Uncle Flea is located.

@Jim and Dan

Hang in there bud. I gotta go skate providence this fall and need a guide. Maybe we can make a mission and get flea bag to skate with is as well

I'll be there, it's just been a long couple of years...
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