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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22830 on: November 16, 2020, 03:09:16 PM »
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I can only sleep for two hours at a time right now. This happens periodically sometimes for months on end which is why I have a lot of trouble keeping commitments. It's a big reason i've never had a stable job or completed study. I've lived on government handouts and the occasional payment for art related stuff for years and it's torturing my sense of self worth. I've tried everything but there is no consistent solution it seems. Somehow I used to have a wide network of friends, mainly through playing gigs, but I had to cut that out because once again I just can't promise that i'll be around when needed. What a mess.
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Why cant you sleep? Is it nightmares or something. Serious question
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At this point I don't know. I do have nightmares but not regularly. I snap out of it for long periods too where I think i'm well again but it always creeps back. I've tried everything from paying attention to sleep to hygiene to pharmaceuticals but have never managed to stabalize it. At this point i've accepted i'll never really lead a relatively normal life.
Man thats fucked up and must be not good for the sesh. I know this is basic but have you tried smoking a joint after being exhausted all day, then ejac once before trying to pass out? Like those three things plus a nyquil sleep tea or something. Because even if it comes in phases or months you dont want it to get worse during the worst phase of that cycle. During the best months when it doesnt happen at all or way less what have you been doing differently? In terms of diet, activity, stress factors and etc. I hope you can get it sorted out

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22831 on: November 16, 2020, 03:26:14 PM »
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UK and Europe footage. Sorry. I've been over a few times and all of the trips were bad experiences with Barcelona being the worst trip I've ever been on, so I hate to see footage from there. UK footage is especially grey and crusty. I'm actually commenting in here instead of the Tom Knox thread because I don't want to bring any negativity in there, but I couldn't even sit through that part. I turned it off after 3 minutes, then went back and tried again, and still turned it off after about another minute. This skating just does not appeal to me at all, and a huge part of that is the locale. It looks gross - not like anywhere I'd ever want to go. So it doesn't get me hyped because I don't want images of dreary ass England in my head.

Anyway, rant over. NB# shoes look like garbage too so that wasn't helping the part.
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hahahaha, you really do just come off as a bitter old dickhead in all your posts. 40 year old who interned at the berrics, who hates most new things, and wears gum soled etnies.

god if i'm anywhere near as bitter as you posting on the internet in my 40's, i'd give permission to anyone to off me.
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You said all China footage sucks. I don't see the difference between that and what he said except that he went into more detail about why he doesn't like Europe footage.
The happy medium videos were filmed in red dirt so he doesnt like seeing crisp city spots from "those" people, it shakes his world view

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22832 on: November 16, 2020, 09:27:46 PM »
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I can only sleep for two hours at a time right now. This happens periodically sometimes for months on end which is why I have a lot of trouble keeping commitments. It's a big reason i've never had a stable job or completed study. I've lived on government handouts and the occasional payment for art related stuff for years and it's torturing my sense of self worth. I've tried everything but there is no consistent solution it seems. Somehow I used to have a wide network of friends, mainly through playing gigs, but I had to cut that out because once again I just can't promise that i'll be around when needed. What a mess.
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Why cant you sleep? Is it nightmares or something. Serious question
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At this point I don't know. I do have nightmares but not regularly. I snap out of it for long periods too where I think i'm well again but it always creeps back. I've tried everything from paying attention to sleep to hygiene to pharmaceuticals but have never managed to stabalize it. At this point i've accepted i'll never really lead a relatively normal life.
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Man thats fucked up and must be not good for the sesh. I know this is basic but have you tried smoking a joint after being exhausted all day, then ejac once before trying to pass out? Like those three things plus a nyquil sleep tea or something. Because even if it comes in phases or months you dont want it to get worse during the worst phase of that cycle. During the best months when it doesnt happen at all or way less what have you been doing differently? In terms of diet, activity, stress factors and etc. I hope you can get it sorted out

Yeah it's mad difficult. It sucks having to dial back skating and restrict myself to simple flatground sessions but i'll take what I can get. I've always been healthy as far as diet and exercise goes too. Just booked some sessions with my old therapist to try and uncover some psychological triggers so hopefully I can chip away at this. Thanks for reading, I just put stuff out here to vent and don't really expect anyone to read or reply. Big ups.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22833 on: November 17, 2020, 06:37:53 AM »
Injured again.  Pinched a nerve in my back getting warmed up.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22834 on: November 18, 2020, 12:17:48 PM »
Whiskey dick, I wish I knew my dick cannot handle the same amount of alcohol as the rest of my body.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22835 on: November 18, 2020, 06:25:22 PM »
Bands using the absolute worst shirts and hoodies for their merch. Been trying to support since there are no live shows, but I feel like I've thrown away a couple hundred bucks this year on unwearable garbage.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22836 on: November 20, 2020, 10:33:30 AM »
I don't even understand 2020. 2021 is going to be insane
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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22837 on: November 20, 2020, 11:03:08 AM »
Damn, thatís fucked dude!! Good thing yíall caught it before things went any further. I hope you avoid jail while dealing with this scumbag.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22838 on: November 20, 2020, 06:59:21 PM »
Feeling burnt out, I feel like Iíve had a lot of success this year but Iím just burnt dude

Canít even get motivated to skate? Had some injuries get re hurt this year... but at this point Iím good to go

Iím just having a hard time heating it up

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22839 on: November 21, 2020, 05:03:11 AM »
Iíve had tonsillitis for the last few days on top of an infected tooth.
Shit sucks and Iíve been working my ass off at work hoping I could possibly sweat out some bad Infection tonsil shit/detox it lol.
With my phone flashlight I can see the swelling and some puss in my throat.
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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22840 on: November 21, 2020, 11:51:57 AM »
Iíve had tonsillitis for the last few days on top of an infected tooth.
Shit sucks and Iíve been working my ass off at work hoping I could possibly sweat out some bad Infection tonsil shit/detox it lol.
With my phone flashlight I can see the swelling and some puss in my throat.

Go to the doc holmes!

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22841 on: November 23, 2020, 08:12:26 AM »
my little brother got to choose any board he wanted online and he chose a pizza deck  :'(

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22842 on: November 23, 2020, 07:26:31 PM »
a guy we skate with was murdered last week.  i didnt know him very well, but he was a great guy and a lot of my friends were really close with him.  really stand up guy, real grown up job, had his shit together, friendliest dude on the session, and a total ripper.  was 28 and had his whole life ahead of him.  his girlfriend's brother stabbed him when he tried to remove him from their home.  very tragic and shocking situation. 

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22843 on: November 23, 2020, 11:02:10 PM »
a guy we skate with was murdered last week.  i didnt know him very well, but he was a great guy and a lot of my friends were really close with him.  really stand up guy, real grown up job, had his shit together, friendliest dude on the session, and a total ripper.  was 28 and had his whole life ahead of him.  his girlfriend's brother stabbed him when he tried to remove him from their home.  very tragic and shocking situation.

goddamn.

sorry for your and your friends loss. 

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22844 on: November 24, 2020, 04:29:43 AM »
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I can only sleep for two hours at a time right now. This happens periodically sometimes for months on end which is why I have a lot of trouble keeping commitments. It's a big reason i've never had a stable job or completed study. I've lived on government handouts and the occasional payment for art related stuff for years and it's torturing my sense of self worth. I've tried everything but there is no consistent solution it seems. Somehow I used to have a wide network of friends, mainly through playing gigs, but I had to cut that out because once again I just can't promise that i'll be around when needed. What a mess.
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Why cant you sleep? Is it nightmares or something. Serious question
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At this point I don't know. I do have nightmares but not regularly. I snap out of it for long periods too where I think i'm well again but it always creeps back. I've tried everything from paying attention to sleep to hygiene to pharmaceuticals but have never managed to stabalize it. At this point i've accepted i'll never really lead a relatively normal life.
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Man thats fucked up and must be not good for the sesh. I know this is basic but have you tried smoking a joint after being exhausted all day, then ejac once before trying to pass out? Like those three things plus a nyquil sleep tea or something. Because even if it comes in phases or months you dont want it to get worse during the worst phase of that cycle. During the best months when it doesnt happen at all or way less what have you been doing differently? In terms of diet, activity, stress factors and etc. I hope you can get it sorted out
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Yeah it's mad difficult. It sucks having to dial back skating and restrict myself to simple flatground sessions but i'll take what I can get. I've always been healthy as far as diet and exercise goes too. Just booked some sessions with my old therapist to try and uncover some psychological triggers so hopefully I can chip away at this. Thanks for reading, I just put stuff out here to vent and don't really expect anyone to read or reply. Big ups.
No problem homie i hope you been sleeping well fr

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22845 on: November 25, 2020, 11:49:20 AM »
I somehow misplaced a medicine bottle with like 5gs of pot in it in my room somewhere.

I have another med bottle mostly full, so it's not the end of the world, but it's driving me crazy cause I feel like I've looked everywhere.
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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22846 on: November 25, 2020, 12:17:50 PM »
i got covid and lost all my shifts and now there is a curfew in effect. cant pick up shifts cause none of my co fuckers have money.thank you for letting me vent.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22847 on: November 25, 2020, 02:11:22 PM »
today was quite a day.

prelude: my wife is not a plant mom and has created quite a nice collection of not so rare plants. last two months have been a big learning curve for her, since a lot of plants are finicky.

she started following a local FB group with auctions for rarer plants and decided to pursue one on Sunday. she got outbid in the last minute and was pretty disappointment. a few minutes later she got a DM from a different seller selling an even bigger plant of the same kind for a bit more money.

we have a covid limitation that we may not leave our municipality (other than for some exceptions) and she paid up front and the seller sent the plant via mail on Monday.

what we forgot about is that over the weekend the online black friday deals started and due to covid a lot of shops can offer online shopping only. this meant that the national post company was swamped like never ever before (like magnitudes more orders).

we expected the package on Tuesday, but nothing happened. the temperatures outside are freezing right now and the plant is very picky about temperature. so as we didn't get any package or a note that we could not be reached, we went to the main post warehouse in the country (5 mins drive away) and they explained that they don't know where the package is because they are literally drowning in packages. we explain the urgency and leave, wife being pissed that the plant is going to die

so the Wednesday to remember begins. we both work from home, but today we didn't get anything done. here's why.

we never had our surnames on the apartment building doorbell and all packages reached us just fine. but to be extra sure, I put our names there the day before. the online package following tool indicated that it hadn't moved an inch. wife was fuming at this point, so I went to check the warehouse again myself.

same story as the day before, I create a bigger sense of urgency and they promise that the package will be delivered today. we are now counting house the plant spent in the freezing temperatures to our dismay.

a few hours later the packed is labeled as not delivered because we could not be reached. I see that some douchebag took down our surnames from the doorbell and of course we could not be reached. wife pissed even more. go to warehouse again, they say that the package is now driving around in the delivery van.

I get his number, call tell him to coma again. he does not come for 45mins, I call again and go to find him. I finally get the package. The flower was packaged expertly, so without a pot and earth. we don't have any at home for that specific plant. to the store I go.

so the potting process is pretty complex for a delicate plant and the whole ordeal was finished later in the afternoon, with both me and my wife drained. kudos to postal workers, they really did come though.

now we wait and see if the plant makes it. what a day

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22848 on: November 26, 2020, 12:24:21 AM »
i got covid and lost all my shifts and now there is a curfew in effect. cant pick up shifts cause none of my co fuckers have money.thank you for letting me vent.

i know that too well bro, stay up. it's unfortunate, i'm pretty much jobless until we open up again, and before it was a hassle to get shifts for me as well. i lost one of my two jobs and am on hold with the other until business resumes, but of course i don't get paid. basically living on credit now. might have to start working at a grocery store through december and hopefully get a new real job coming in january or february with better pay. i can maybe stretch my non existent funds for a month.

plus side is covid made me handle my money much better.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22849 on: November 26, 2020, 05:31:25 PM »
My best friend of the last 15 years has found a new girlfriend, and is madly in love. Thing is, I haven't seen him since mid-August. No phone call, a few texts here and there which he takes forever to answer, but other than that, nothing. He's changed apartment, but hasn't told me where it is. None of our mutual friends have had any news from him.


I'm bummed, because this dude is like my brother and he's never been like this before.

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« Reply #22850 on: November 26, 2020, 09:34:23 PM »
Wood shortage fucking up the lil money I was making from ďworkĒ. Cold weather and covid messing up my ability to work on new projects that would also be making me money. Guess it could be worse but being unproductive especially around the holidays make me very stir crazy 

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22851 on: November 27, 2020, 09:42:42 AM »
Just trying to buy an standard abduction and classic OG AWS graphic tees in size lrg in black is turning out to be such an endeavor. Cmon AWS. Any of you Pals know where I can find them online?
I went to Forbidden Planet in NYC to get gifts for my Nephews and Brother in law as well as a comic book for myself and an anti masker got in my face. A "badass" literally tried to fight me in a comic book/toy store. I'm bummed I didn't just say fuck it and grab a plastic light saber and say "go for it, tough guy". I got in some decent zingers but, y'know, l'esprit de l'escalier.
I fractured my ankle in August doing the dumbest trick ever and the ER missed the fracture in their Xray analysis and I aggravated it for months until I finally got a doctor to get me an ultrasound order and its a bad fracture and torn ligaments and torn tendon. I need surgery to reattach the tendon but I can't get it until January. The recovery looks like I'll be skating in may hopefully. I have a rad PT but I also might need surgery on my knee and stomach. I'm sober and I have to take pain management medication and it fucks with my head sometimes. Also I'm a freelance laborer so I can't work for awhile and two of my jobs are really understanding about it but another one of them just sent me a really shitty text.
I'm trying to go on dates and move on from my break up on New Years but my ex is the best and we spoke on the phone yesterday and I guess I'm still in love.
I spoke to my fam up in Boston yesterday. I've got some Blue Lives Matter Trumpers in my bloodline and it's just like I love you but I have to speak to you as if you were a child.
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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22852 on: November 27, 2020, 12:38:11 PM »
Feel like I'm always being made apologize over something. Feel like the only times that I let myself relax and be myself, I'm made to feel like there's something wrong with me. I really make an effort to be positive and agreeable with the people in my life but I always end up feeling like I'm either not being true to myself or I end up putting someone off.


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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22853 on: November 27, 2020, 12:51:01 PM »
Feel like I'm always being made apologize over something. Feel like the only times that I let myself relax and be myself, I'm made to feel like there's something wrong with me. I really make an effort to be positive and agreeable with the people in my life but I always end up feeling like I'm either not being true to myself or I end up putting someone off.


Lately I'm thankful that I can express myself on a semi-anonymous message board about the skateboarding industry.

sometimes it's helpful to show people your non-agreeable side, it can free up a lot of space, and seeing their reactions can help you make up your mind about them when you're unsure. but it's gnarly territory, for sure. you should never feel like you should apologize for being yourself though, only when you feel like you harmed people. friends need to be able to take the uncomfortable sides of ones personalities, too, to some extent at least. and that people might not love every aspect of you doesn't mean they don't love you.

i don't know if this all helps or makes a lot of sense, it's what came to my mind. never apologize for being yourself, you're awesome homie. that means you're probably awesome even when you're a dick. which is better than being an asshole that's a dick. lol

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« Reply #22854 on: November 27, 2020, 01:11:00 PM »
good advice.  i struggle with this too.  its all about boundaries.  start to learn to value yourself and try putting yourself and your happiness first.  Its hard, but it gets easier and feels better over time.  A lot of times when we have weak boundaries, its a way of avoidance.  Being overly agreeable, compliant, fixing others problems and putting others before ourselves, etc takes the focus off of doing whats best for us and puts it on other people.  It makes you feel good because youre making a sacrifice, but eventually people take advantage and you become resentful.  stand your ground, be your true self, and if certain people cant handle it, its a good indication that the relationship isn't serving you and its ok to move on

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22855 on: November 27, 2020, 01:48:53 PM »
Had to pay $70 to get my fingerprints for my new job even though at my last job they didnt charge me for that.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22856 on: November 27, 2020, 04:29:34 PM »
I got a huge gob of lipstick on my grip in one of the most crackhead infested skatespots in Lynn.

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22857 on: November 27, 2020, 05:12:53 PM »
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Feel like I'm always being made apologize over something. Feel like the only times that I let myself relax and be myself, I'm made to feel like there's something wrong with me. I really make an effort to be positive and agreeable with the people in my life but I always end up feeling like I'm either not being true to myself or I end up putting someone off.


Lately I'm thankful that I can express myself on a semi-anonymous message board about the skateboarding industry.

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sometimes it's helpful to show people your non-agreeable side, it can free up a lot of space, and seeing their reactions can help you make up your mind about them when you're unsure. but it's gnarly territory, for sure. you should never feel like you should apologize for being yourself though, only when you feel like you harmed people. friends need to be able to take the uncomfortable sides of ones personalities, too, to some extent at least. and that people might not love every aspect of you doesn't mean they don't love you.

i don't know if this all helps or makes a lot of sense, it's what came to my mind. never apologize for being yourself, you're awesome homie. that means you're probably awesome even when you're a dick. which is better than being an asshole that's a dick. lol

Thanks Frank and also @augustmoon . I might not fully understand, but I won't just take this is just yes-man-ing.

In vague terms, I love the people in my life and I don't want to be argumentative but I also don't want to be a push-over. I have absolutely no issue with apologizing when I feel like I've done wrong and upset someone. On the other hand, I actually would have an issue with voicing when someone has upset me, or when I disagree with someone.

Simply put, I think I want to start to make more conscious life decisions for my own benefit. In the past I've valued the loyalty of my friends too much and need to make healthy decisions for myself more.

Thanks lads.



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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22858 on: November 27, 2020, 05:30:46 PM »
My coldsore is gone. It didnt even say bye so rude bro

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Re: Things You Are Not Stoked On
« Reply #22859 on: November 27, 2020, 05:49:09 PM »
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Feel like I'm always being made apologize over something. Feel like the only times that I let myself relax and be myself, I'm made to feel like there's something wrong with me. I really make an effort to be positive and agreeable with the people in my life but I always end up feeling like I'm either not being true to myself or I end up putting someone off.


Lately I'm thankful that I can express myself on a semi-anonymous message board about the skateboarding industry.

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sometimes it's helpful to show people your non-agreeable side, it can free up a lot of space, and seeing their reactions can help you make up your mind about them when you're unsure. but it's gnarly territory, for sure. you should never feel like you should apologize for being yourself though, only when you feel like you harmed people. friends need to be able to take the uncomfortable sides of ones personalities, too, to some extent at least. and that people might not love every aspect of you doesn't mean they don't love you.

i don't know if this all helps or makes a lot of sense, it's what came to my mind. never apologize for being yourself, you're awesome homie. that means you're probably awesome even when you're a dick. which is better than being an asshole that's a dick. lol
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Thanks Frank and also @augustmoon . I might not fully understand, but I won't just take this is just yes-man-ing.

In vague terms, I love the people in my life and I don't want to be argumentative but I also don't want to be a push-over. I have absolutely no issue with apologizing when I feel like I've done wrong and upset someone. On the other hand, I actually would have an issue with voicing when someone has upset me, or when I disagree with someone.

Simply put, I think I want to start to make more conscious life decisions for my own benefit. In the past I've valued the loyalty of my friends too much and need to make healthy decisions for myself more.

Thanks lads.


i think recognizing that in yourself is a big step.  just practice being more assertive, small things at first, and it will get better and easier over time.