but every Pal I've met in real life is pretty much who you meet in text
i don't think peoples online personas are anything like their real life personas. the problem with "text" is what gets lost in translation. facial expressions, body language, and the tone of someones voice doesn't exist virtually, but those all very important parts of ones personality and how we perceive/view/judge each individual that we meet. i guess thats why we have emoticons but the "hive" has deem it to be "gay", i'll elaborate further.
the use of emoticons came up at some point a while back and for the most part, you'll notice that the majority of the community here avoids using them. so just out of my own curiosity i asked one of the guys(22) what he thought if someone puts a smilie face at the end of a post/response or a text, he said "the dudes is gay, what kind of dude smiles at another dude unless hes gay?" so i asked another one of the younger guys(18) and he said the same thing. and literally 1 by 1, each person i asked(mostly males) was more or less questioning the posters/texters sexuality solely based on their use of a smilie face. don't get me wrong, some people were like, "oh the dudes is happy" but the majority(aka hive)thought otherwise.
sorry to get off topic but i found this kind of regular and i couldn't believe how many people i asked were on the same page. its a feature designed so people could convey their facial expression online but how it makes someone gay is completely beyond me?
remember the poster SFA? he had a problem with people posting "lol" saying it was gay/girlie/kid shit. i distinctly remember this because it was kind of regular and i tend to remember regular shit. not to mention MS still uses SFAHAHAHAHAHA instead of lol to convey his laughter.
I think the main difference between being online and "in real life" is the rules thing you brought up. When reactionary, I think we're more prone to openly praise or attack online than we would be face to face, but I have to wonder (in a horrible example), what's more honest:
That lady Virgina from XTREME Wheels spammed us with a really horrible ad, and was immediately crushed for doing so. Granted, spamming is a no-no in the world of net-etiquette, but had she handed me a flier while I was sitting at a local coffee shop, I wouldn't have gone off on her right there because in real life social situati0ns, it would be inappropriate... even though I'd feel the exact same way about how cheesy she is. Then again, virtual environments have different rules by their very nature. We can be brutally honest and absurd here because we're not limited by normal social parameters(excluding some online communities). We're not limited by physics or much else here, either, virtually speaking. We can be flying dragons that shoot lasers out of our asses depending on where we are.
If anything, the internet communities and networking sites just creates an extension of exactly what we are or what we want to be.
how can one justify being a dick to someone simply because they're doing it online? if you're being a dick you're being a dick, whether you're doing online and in real life. the difference is it takes balls to do it in real life and only a keyboard to do it online. and just like you said above, "every Pal I've met in real life is pretty much who you meet in text." then that would mean that if someone being a dick in text, then they must be a dick in real life. but you and i both know that isn't the case.
i'm not saying one dick move online makes you a dick forever but in some way it does. the one thing that the internet and its users doesn't do is forget. if you want to participate in anything online you have to play the part of a politician. you can't say the wrong thing, not even once, not ever, or it'll come back to haunt you.
i frequent other messageboards and you'd be amazed how many times someone will drag up an 8 year old post to be like, "you see, i told you this guys a dick!".
in real life we tend to forgive and forget but in the virtual world, theres really no such thing. i'm not even saying shit that goes on here, it really goes on everywhere and its kind of disturbing in a lot of ways. i think i said this once before but i'll say it again. posting on a messageboard is like going back to high school while running for a political office. except its just not messageboards now, it pretty much the internet as a whole.
The voice of an expert is not nearly as valuable as thousands of experienced voices. We all have biases, agendas, and perspectives. Giving multiple perspectives gives a more clear picture of the truth than even the most focused expert.
but where are those multiple perspectives coming from and from who? what experience do they have and how do we know they' are telling the truth? and thats where i think things go wrong and thats where the problem of anonymity plays its part.
if a 100000 people who you can't see, that can't grind say indy trucks suck, but theres 2 guys that can grind for days that say they're good, who should we believe?, the majority?
i hear what you're saying but the majority is often wrong and its been proven time and time again throughout history. its unfortunate, but if enough people believe it to be true then it becomes the truth in some sense, and especially so online. the hive mentality is like a virus in a lot of ways.
i must say this is a most interesting topic! it really brought up some very interesting points in our views of the virtual world around us.
good stuff but i'm going to sleep now. i look forward to reading more.