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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #390 on: January 10, 2012, 03:13:00 PM »
This is going to be a bit awkward, but Slap is a decently open place...

How to come out to my parents... :-[

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #391 on: January 10, 2012, 03:17:27 PM »
for real?

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #392 on: January 10, 2012, 03:45:19 PM »
for real?
....yeah for real. shits harder than it sounds

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #393 on: January 10, 2012, 03:55:57 PM »
I have lots of gay friends, and the thing is that when they did eventually come out, their parents already knew. Chances are yours already do too, and it won't be as hard as you think. Just go to whichever you get on better with, or both and simply say it. Unless they are narrow minded homophobic fucks, they'll still love you.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #394 on: January 10, 2012, 04:11:17 PM »
...sooo question, have you always been gay?

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #395 on: January 10, 2012, 04:24:20 PM »
Pondering quitting my job and selling my tiny flat and go travelling for a couple of years. I wanna see America, South America, maybe Africa too. So tired of living in Norway. My life is going nowhere. Six months of winter sucks. It is not a very sensible thing to do. I might ? come back all broke and with nothing to show for - that's very likely actually. But maybe I'll have the time of my life, and it it will all be worth it - coming back to nothing. There is so much adventure to be had. Maybe it will inspire me to write a book, a bestseller, no less. Ha! Maybe I'll meet the woman of my dreams. You never know?! I guess I'm a romantic. ? 

I was faced with same decision once and I decided to go for it. Five year later im still out and about in the world at large. Met a girl, she broke my heart. im a permenant resident of another country now. I have seen so many wonderfull things and met so many close friends. everything I own still fits in my backpack and yet I feel at home.

Do it, do it now and never look back.

And sleepypancakes, If you have any uncles or aunts or even close family friends you can go to for advice this can be a really helpfull first step, take some of the pressure off the big coming out andget some much needed insight into how your parents might react. Even if they love and support you fully the initial news could illicit some upsetting behaviour.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #396 on: January 10, 2012, 04:59:07 PM »
This is going to be a bit awkward, but Slap is a decently open place...

How to come out to my parents... :-[

Do you live with your parents? If so, just bring a dude back to your place and make it so your parents walk in on you guys doing the deed, and just be like, "Ooops. I'm gay!"

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #397 on: January 10, 2012, 05:45:47 PM »
...sooo question, have you always been gay?
I figured out for myself my senior year in high school and knew for sure, but I had wondered. I of course did the whole trying with girls thing and even had girlfriends for long periods of time. I was never that into it and realized that I wasn't bi or anything and just felt right and normal and like myself with other men.

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This is going to be a bit awkward, but Slap is a decently open place...

How to come out to my parents... :-[
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Do you live with your parents? If so, just bring a dude back to your place and make it so your parents walk in on you guys doing the deed, and just be like, "Ooops. I'm gay!"
Hahahah this actually almost happened when they came to visit, their plane came in early and my boyfriend at the time was over sitting on the couch right after the uh, deed, and I was a bit shocked. But a movie was on so I played it off as a friend of mine.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #398 on: January 10, 2012, 06:00:49 PM »
Oh jeez..Well the good thing is they probably know, the bad news is you need to give
yourself an std test every month, and use binaca on a regular basis.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #399 on: January 10, 2012, 06:57:36 PM »
about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #400 on: January 10, 2012, 08:27:19 PM »
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about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
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I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.

nothing is a bigger turn off than some dudes grunting


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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #401 on: January 10, 2012, 08:36:04 PM »
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about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
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I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.
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nothing is a bigger turn off than some dudes grunting
That doesn't bother me as much as seeing penises. I really hate seeing penises.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #402 on: January 11, 2012, 02:28:00 AM »
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about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
[close]
I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.
[close]

nothing is a bigger turn off than some dudes grunting
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That doesn't bother me as much as seeing penises. I really hate seeing penises.

then youre in the wrong place buddy

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #403 on: January 11, 2012, 02:34:12 AM »
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about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
[close]
I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.
[close]

nothing is a bigger turn off than some dudes grunting
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That doesn't bother me as much as seeing penises. I really hate seeing penises.

sleepypancakes should be able to help you to get over that problem.

best of luck to your coming out by the way, i hate the fact that sexuality is such a big thing in society. i am hetero, but i think it shouldnt bother anyone what kind of gender i love. and i think that most parents love their children no matter what kind of partner they choose. even if they maybe wont admit it at first.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #404 on: January 11, 2012, 02:50:57 AM »
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Pondering quitting my job and selling my tiny flat and go travelling for a couple of years. I wanna see America, South America, maybe Africa too. So tired of living in Norway. My life is going nowhere. Six months of winter sucks. It is not a very sensible thing to do. I might ? come back all broke and with nothing to show for - that's very likely actually. But maybe I'll have the time of my life, and it it will all be worth it - coming back to nothing. There is so much adventure to be had. Maybe it will inspire me to write a book, a bestseller, no less. Ha! Maybe I'll meet the woman of my dreams. You never know?! I guess I'm a romantic. ? 
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I was faced with same decision once and I decided to go for it. Five year later im still out and about in the world at large. Met a girl, she broke my heart. im a permenant resident of another country now. I have seen so many wonderfull things and met so many close friends. everything I own still fits in my backpack and yet I feel at home.

Do it, do it now and never look back.



Where are you from? Where do you live now? Where have you been? How do you make a living now? Tell me more please.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #405 on: January 11, 2012, 07:36:11 AM »
Your parents should always love you just the same, unless your from Texas.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #406 on: January 11, 2012, 09:28:11 AM »
my parents have pretty much fucked me in terms of college... i never had any idea what area i would want a degree in, but theyve been forcing me to go to school and just take basic "core" classes for like the last 2-3 years (2-3 because i dropped some and re did them and am supposed to be finishing the last of the core classes this semester). thinking about it the last few days i really want to be a pharmacist... but after looking on some pharmacy school websites, it pretty much is telling me the classes you need to take before pharmacy school are almost nothing i have taken, and almost everything i have taken was pointless; including the classes i dropped, and now i only have 1 class left that i can drop.

with the financial situation that im in, and the locations where my parents live (divorced), i really dont have great options no matter how you look at it... so im wondering what the fuck im supposed to do now. just let this shit fuck me and say "oh well" and pretty much start over at school, getting into debt not living at home while still paying for classes with little to no educational background, and hope i can become a pharmacist? the "pharmacist plan" takes like 2 years of basic shit at any school, and then 4 years at pharmacy school, and thats if i dont fuck the classes up from failing or some shit... since i can only drop 1 more of them. theres a lot more that makes this a lot more complicated but i have no idea what to do....

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #407 on: January 11, 2012, 02:15:11 PM »
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Pondering quitting my job and selling my tiny flat and go travelling for a couple of years. I wanna see America, South America, maybe Africa too. So tired of living in Norway. My life is going nowhere. Six months of winter sucks. It is not a very sensible thing to do. I might ?? come back all broke and with nothing to show for - that's very likely actually. But maybe I'll have the time of my life, and it it will all be worth it - coming back to nothing. There is so much adventure to be had. Maybe it will inspire me to write a book, a bestseller, no less. Ha! Maybe I'll meet the woman of my dreams. You never know?! I guess I'm a romantic. ?? 
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I was faced with same decision once and I decided to go for it. Five year later im still out and about in the world at large. Met a girl, she broke my heart. im a permenant resident of another country now. I have seen so many wonderfull things and met so many close friends. everything I own still fits in my backpack and yet I feel at home.

Do it, do it now and never look back.


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Where are you from? Where do you live now? Where have you been? How do you make a living now? Tell me more please.

Well Im origionally from a small seaside tow in Scotland Called Ayr, I moved to Glasgow for university and a bit more space, traveled here and there around Europe on my summers and after graduation, Barca, munich, Paris, Copenhagen. And then started seeing a girl who was from Canada, and so decided to come out here for a bit and visit her.

First moved to a kinda liberal arty University town called Guelph, close enough to Toronto and the skate scene there, then moved to Ottawa where I live now. Applied and was granted residancy along the way, due to my girlfriend and my Job with the University. And yeah as of now I cant see myself leaving here. If anything ill move around the country and see as much as I can but yeah, i dunno I just found somewhere that fits me.

Hope this helps!

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #408 on: January 11, 2012, 02:28:42 PM »
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about the porn thing... i never like watching a dude get himself off on a girls face or anything. its pretty much watching a dude beat off, which i also dont understand... i always felt the purpose of doing shit with girls was so you didnt have to actually do it yourself
[close]
I pretty much hate seeing dudes in porn period especially hardcore porn.
[close]

nothing is a bigger turn off than some dudes grunting
[close]
That doesn't bother me as much as seeing penises. I really hate seeing penises.
[close]

sleepypancakes should be able to help you to get over that problem.

best of luck to your coming out by the way, i hate the fact that sexuality is such a big thing in society. i am hetero, but i think it shouldnt bother anyone what kind of gender i love. and i think that most parents love their children no matter what kind of partner they choose. even if they maybe wont admit it at first.
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My family is from Ohio. But thankfully we aren't super conservative. I told my mom and she knew, my dad wasn't upset or anything. I have 3 brothers to carry on the "family name"

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #409 on: January 11, 2012, 02:41:02 PM »
^ Good for you.

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Pondering quitting my job and selling my tiny flat and go travelling for a couple of years. I wanna see America, South America, maybe Africa too. So tired of living in Norway. My life is going nowhere. Six months of winter sucks. It is not a very sensible thing to do. I might ?? come back all broke and with nothing to show for - that's very likely actually. But maybe I'll have the time of my life, and it it will all be worth it - coming back to nothing. There is so much adventure to be had. Maybe it will inspire me to write a book, a bestseller, no less. Ha! Maybe I'll meet the woman of my dreams. You never know?! I guess I'm a romantic. ??
[close]

I was faced with same decision once and I decided to go for it. Five year later im still out and about in the world at large. Met a girl, she broke my heart. im a permenant resident of another country now. I have seen so many wonderfull things and met so many close friends. everything I own still fits in my backpack and yet I feel at home.

Do it, do it now and never look back.


[close]

Where are you from? Where do you live now? Where have you been? How do you make a living now? Tell me more please.
[close]

Well Im origionally from a small seaside tow in Scotland Called Ayr, I moved to Glasgow for university and a bit more space, traveled here and there around Europe on my summers and after graduation, Barca, munich, Paris, Copenhagen. And then started seeing a girl who was from Canada, and so decided to come out here for a bit and visit her.

First moved to a kinda liberal arty University town called Guelph, close enough to Toronto and the skate scene there, then moved to Ottawa where I live now. Applied and was granted residancy along the way, due to my girlfriend and my Job with the University. And yeah as of now I cant see myself leaving here. If anything ill move around the country and see as much as I can but yeah, i dunno I just found somewhere that fits me.

Hope this helps!

Yes, thanks!

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #410 on: January 11, 2012, 03:13:16 PM »
congrats sleepypancakes. btw is 'sleepypancakes' some sort of homosexual sex position?

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #411 on: January 11, 2012, 06:14:04 PM »
congrats sleepypancakes. btw is 'sleepypancakes' some sort of homosexual sex position?
hahaha no. i should get on that though. its actually an inside joke from when I was in high school. I used to smoke copious amounts of weed at one time and pull like all nighters and shit. But one time me and some friends did that and i passed out onto a pile of pancakes at ihop the next day syrup and all.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #412 on: January 11, 2012, 06:45:06 PM »
So you find that kid with no shirt doing an indy way hotter then those girls in your signature huh? The reason you put it up is because
you can see his firm abs huh? or no?

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #413 on: January 12, 2012, 12:34:54 PM »
How old are you sleepypancakes? i'm gonna have to do that soon as well, should be interesting.

pondering whether to do a free half gram of speed tomorrow, or whether to spend twenty pounds on half a gram of mdma instead, oh, sigh, third world problems...

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #414 on: January 12, 2012, 12:38:40 PM »
Well speed is pretty shit, and here in England it's generally terrible quality. Mandy is so much more fun but a half g isn't much and the speed is free. Hmm... what's the occasion?

Also amphetamines can temporarily give you the symptoms of schizophrenia, been revising for my psychology exam about it today haha.
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #415 on: January 12, 2012, 12:40:38 PM »
people and their third world problems!

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #416 on: January 12, 2012, 12:57:43 PM »
oh yeah, I know speeds shitty, last time i did it i didnt sleep that night... but free is free and god i love me some frugality, hmmmm
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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #417 on: January 12, 2012, 01:15:15 PM »
people and their third world problems!

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #418 on: January 12, 2012, 01:28:03 PM »
Pondered whether or not imperialism would have been such an issue if the continents were all still connected to one another.

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Re: Things You Pondered Today
« Reply #419 on: January 12, 2012, 01:30:11 PM »
Well speed is pretty shit, and here in England it's generally terrible quality. Mandy is so much more fun but a half g isn't much and the speed is free. Hmm... what's the occasion?

Also amphetamines can temporarily give you the symptoms of schizophrenia, been revising for my psychology exam about it today haha.

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