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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10110 on: June 24, 2021, 04:55:07 PM »
I lurk from time to time and spent a few good hours lurking today. Surprised at how wholesome this placed turned out to be. Good on you all.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10111 on: July 01, 2021, 05:00:07 PM »
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10112 on: July 01, 2021, 05:58:59 PM »
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10113 on: July 01, 2021, 09:45:16 PM »
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Sucks relapsing. Self conviction so strong. Feel so muddy, more than Bam
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10114 on: July 01, 2021, 10:41:10 PM »
I never subscribed to religen I didn’tthe afterlife. So I don’t know what’s wiring for my. I have a Brittney I don’t s👖💼💼💼💼💼💼👜👜👜🪖👜 could back on time I woukdntndribbebtbn “you weenectasto c street reliefs, family, and coolsfootls🩲. One opened up in town and I should prep another g out🩱

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10115 on: July 04, 2021, 12:58:17 PM »
im 32 and my sex drive's been dwindling for the past 2 years. i kinda miss feeling horny but at the same time im not really attracted to the ladies anymore, even if it's just talking to them or being a pig and checking them out. not even watching porn or the thought of one night stand or strip clubs.
it's not a deep seated grudge or remorse for women, either. not at all.
i rarely 'bate. when i do it's outta boredom and i don't even bother finishing.
sometimes it worries me because i'm supposed to be at my "peak" being recently divorced, youngish, economically stable, no kids, independent, i don't do drugs (except drinking here and there), i'm physically active and healthy, etc. but nah.
and no it's not ED what i got, my libido just ain't there.
that's my confession.


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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10116 on: July 04, 2021, 01:45:10 PM »
im 32 and my sex drive's been dwindling for the past 2 years. i kinda miss feeling horny but at the same time im not really attracted to the ladies anymore, even if it's just talking to them or being a pig and checking them out. not even watching porn or the thought of one night stand or strip clubs.
it's not a deep seated grudge or remorse for women, either. not at all.
i rarely 'bate. when i do it's outta boredom and i don't even bother finishing.
sometimes it worries me because i'm supposed to be at my "peak" being recently divorced, youngish, economically stable, no kids, independent, i don't do drugs (except drinking here and there), i'm physically active and healthy, etc. but nah.
and no it's not ED what i got, my libido just ain't there.
that's my confession.

If you're eating right, sleeping right and physically active like you say, maybe get your testosterone checked.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10117 on: July 04, 2021, 02:08:27 PM »
im 32 and my sex drive's been dwindling for the past 2 years. i kinda miss feeling horny but at the same time im not really attracted to the ladies anymore, even if it's just talking to them or being a pig and checking them out. not even watching porn or the thought of one night stand or strip clubs.
it's not a deep seated grudge or remorse for women, either. not at all.
i rarely 'bate. when i do it's outta boredom and i don't even bother finishing.
sometimes it worries me because i'm supposed to be at my "peak" being recently divorced, youngish, economically stable, no kids, independent, i don't do drugs (except drinking here and there), i'm physically active and healthy, etc. but nah.
and no it's not ED what i got, my libido just ain't there.
that's my confession.

i feel you on this. i have pretty much no sex drive whatsoever. although i had sex in relationships and it worked somewhat, since it's easier when i have strong feelings for a person. but even that hasn't really been the case since a few years. it's like i can't really fall in love or something or have no desire anymore. me being disinterested in sex makes it of course even worse.

i say fuck what society expects from you. with me everyone is always asking me why i don't date and stuff and i always avoid the question because they don't see how i can be content alone. i had good relationships, probably good sex along the line, too, but i kind of don't miss being in one.

if you feel good about yourself without libido, i don't see anything wrong with living a more or less asexual lifestyle. but if you are missing it actually and can't get the feeling back, then what taildevil said.

and while we're at it, even though this not awkward sex experiences thread, i confess i tried my self at some sex stuff lately again and this time with a man and although he was very gentle, more so than a woman, there was no way the hand job he tried to give me would work out. good cuddler though, might see and cuddle again maybe. but yeah, i don't care for handies, sorry.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10118 on: July 04, 2021, 04:40:29 PM »
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im 32 and my sex drive's been dwindling for the past 2 years. i kinda miss feeling horny but at the same time im not really attracted to the ladies anymore, even if it's just talking to them or being a pig and checking them out. not even watching porn or the thought of one night stand or strip clubs.
it's not a deep seated grudge or remorse for women, either. not at all.
i rarely 'bate. when i do it's outta boredom and i don't even bother finishing.
sometimes it worries me because i'm supposed to be at my "peak" being recently divorced, youngish, economically stable, no kids, independent, i don't do drugs (except drinking here and there), i'm physically active and healthy, etc. but nah.
and no it's not ED what i got, my libido just ain't there.
that's my confession.
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i feel you on this. i have pretty much no sex drive whatsoever. although i had sex in relationships and it worked somewhat, since it's easier when i have strong feelings for a person. but even that hasn't really been the case since a few years. it's like i can't really fall in love or something or have no desire anymore. me being disinterested in sex makes it of course even worse.

i say fuck what society expects from you. with me everyone is always asking me why i don't date and stuff and i always avoid the question because they don't see how i can be content alone. i had good relationships, probably good sex along the line, too, but i kind of don't miss being in one.

if you feel good about yourself without libido, i don't see anything wrong with living a more or less asexual lifestyle. but if you are missing it actually and can't get the feeling back, then what taildevil said.

and while we're at it, even though this not awkward sex experiences thread, i confess i tried my self at some sex stuff lately again and this time with a man and although he was very gentle, more so than a woman, there was no way the hand job he tried to give me would work out. good cuddler though, might see and cuddle again maybe. but yeah, i don't care for handies, sorry.

Sometimes I listen to Dr. Drew's podcast/show and he talks about sex drive.  There is a shockingly high number of men who have lower testosterone levels.  Last blood check I was on the low end, but within normal limits.  Its worth checking out because hormones impact your body in many important ways beyond bonerz.  Same thing is true for women.
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10119 on: July 04, 2021, 05:22:32 PM »
@TailDevil  @frank  @pugmaster
thanks for the response pals
i'm getting my testosterone checked and talking this with my therapist once i get back home in some weeks.

yeah, after being married i think im used to making sweet love to a significant other and enjoy it more as opposed to just having casual sex. you would think the sensical thing to do after being committed for so long is to fuck around and be a man slut, but meh, pass. at least not rn. i rather try and heal up alone. i, too, enjoy solitude and seldom date.

it's not that i dont feel good w/o sex drive, it's just bizarre to not be a horn dog anymore. i'm willing to adjust to whatever my body and my circumstances dictate. we'll see.

edit. woops tagged the wrong @Frank
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10120 on: July 07, 2021, 12:34:43 AM »
Last week marked 3 years since my ex left me and to this day she is literally the only thing I can think about 90% of the time. I’ve been in a couple relationships since we split, none of them longer than a few months. Haven’t slept with anyone in close to a year now but really have no more interest in trying to meet new chicks when I still feel this way. Doesn’t seem fair to them. Any other pals in here dealin’ with long term heart break?
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10121 on: July 07, 2021, 06:42:04 AM »
@Max.ceferino I'm early 30's, very physically healthy and my interest in sex has dipped a lot of over the last couple of years aswell. I have major depression and it's definitely a contributor but even masturbating is a lackluster experience and I do it more so because I feel like I have to. I can still look at people and think 'wow you are attractive' but the drive and physical urge to have sex just isn't there. Damn maybe I should get my T checked aswell. I'm also worn out from my long term relationships of the past and have some lingering insecurities about getting close to people again but it feels weird to almost never be horny

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10122 on: July 07, 2021, 11:59:36 AM »
@Max.ceferino I'm early 30's, very physically healthy and my interest in sex has dipped a lot of over the last couple of years aswell. I have major depression and it's definitely a contributor but even masturbating is a lackluster experience and I do it more so because I feel like I have to. I can still look at people and think 'wow you are attractive' but the drive and physical urge to have sex just isn't there. Damn maybe I should get my T checked aswell. I'm also worn out from my long term relationships of the past and have some lingering insecurities about getting close to people again but it feels weird to almost never be horny

there's soooooo much stuff that goes into our body that can lower T levels and increase E levels. Endocrine disruption is a massive problem and due to plastics/fossil fuel based stuff. Seems like the people commenting here are of similar age (I'm in that bracket too), and we're of the generation that really got hit hard with plastics, personal care products, and BPA (basically fossil fuel derived stuff) as kids and through our whole lives. I'm not trying to get conspiratorial, but this seems to be a really, really common thing with guys our age. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong but it's worth considering that it has NOTHING to do with YOU, but the poison we've been sold our whole lives. There's myriad reasons why, in the natural scheme of things, fossil fuels were kept underground. it's pure poison
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10123 on: July 07, 2021, 12:42:55 PM »
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@Max.ceferino I'm early 30's, very physically healthy and my interest in sex has dipped a lot of over the last couple of years aswell. I have major depression and it's definitely a contributor but even masturbating is a lackluster experience and I do it more so because I feel like I have to. I can still look at people and think 'wow you are attractive' but the drive and physical urge to have sex just isn't there. Damn maybe I should get my T checked aswell. I'm also worn out from my long term relationships of the past and have some lingering insecurities about getting close to people again but it feels weird to almost never be horny
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there's soooooo much stuff that goes into our body that can lower T levels and increase E levels. Endocrine disruption is a massive problem and due to plastics/fossil fuel based stuff. Seems like the people commenting here are of similar age (I'm in that bracket too), and we're of the generation that really got hit hard with plastics, personal care products, and BPA (basically fossil fuel derived stuff) as kids and through our whole lives. I'm not trying to get conspiratorial, but this seems to be a really, really common thing with guys our age. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong but it's worth considering that it has NOTHING to do with YOU, but the poison we've been sold our whole lives. There's myriad reasons why, in the natural scheme of things, fossil fuels were kept underground. it's pure poison

Not saying that those aren't contributing factors (kinda reminds me of how the use of leaded gas is linked to high rates of violent crime https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lead%E2%80%93crime_hypothesis) , but I've always assumed that being disproportionately horny in your teens/early 20s is largely an evolutionary thing?

Like for our ancestors that was technically the "best" time to have kids, since you're usually at your most fit and best able to defend your children at that age, so those genes got passed on, and now we are how we are today. I don't really know though, just what I always assumed.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10124 on: July 07, 2021, 01:26:08 PM »
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te quiero mucho mijo good for you for going to the doctor and having a therapist I just hope you’re happy mijo cuidense dios te ama mucho

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10125 on: July 08, 2021, 07:00:35 PM »
Last week marked 3 years since my ex left me and to this day she is literally the only thing I can think about 90% of the time. I’ve been in a couple relationships since we split, none of them longer than a few months. Haven’t slept with anyone in close to a year now but really have no more interest in trying to meet new chicks when I still feel this way. Doesn’t seem fair to them. Any other pals in here dealin’ with long term heart break?


I had a similar hangup on an ex early on in college -- it took ages for me to get over an on/off high school relationship that barely lasted a year when all was said and done (not to say it's an immature problem to have - just ran into it at that time in my life). Some self reflection and a conversation with an old friend helped me realize that a bad habit that I have gotten into at times is fixating/focusing on a relationship/romantic situation in order to displace anxiety around other things going on in my life.

Do you think there's a chance your stuck on your ex because you're nervous about meeting other women/dealing with another heartbreak; or because there are other issues in your personal life that you're subconsciously avoiding the thought of and letting your last relationship dominate your thoughts instead (family issues, job insecurity, etc.)?

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10126 on: July 11, 2021, 10:02:06 PM »
@jgonzalez   muchas gracias amigo wish u the same seimpre que la virgencita guadalupe te bendiga besos y abrazos xoxo : )

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i feel both of you. what i gathered from therapy (and what @RENTSTRIKE said) , among other things, learning to spend time alone after a bad break up is essential for healing. Which happens after the mourning/pain stage aka venting and letting everything out, forgiving, etc. The latter is a process which can take months or even years, but the healing is a lifetime, just like learning, growing, being a decent human, all that cheesy stuff.
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10127 on: July 12, 2021, 05:17:39 PM »
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Last week marked 3 years since my ex left me and to this day she is literally the only thing I can think about 90% of the time. I’ve been in a couple relationships since we split, none of them longer than a few months. Haven’t slept with anyone in close to a year now but really have no more interest in trying to meet new chicks when I still feel this way. Doesn’t seem fair to them. Any other pals in here dealin’ with long term heart break?
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I had a similar hangup on an ex early on in college -- it took ages for me to get over an on/off high school relationship that barely lasted a year when all was said and done (not to say it's an immature problem to have - just ran into it at that time in my life). Some self reflection and a conversation with an old friend helped me realize that a bad habit that I have gotten into at times is fixating/focusing on a relationship/romantic situation in order to displace anxiety around other things going on in my life.

Do you think there's a chance your stuck on your ex because you're nervous about meeting other women/dealing with another heartbreak; or because there are other issues in your personal life that you're subconsciously avoiding the thought of and letting your last relationship dominate your thoughts instead (family issues, job insecurity, etc.)?

Whoa. Fixating on a romantic relationship to displace anxiety/dealing with other emotions. I’ve been thinking about this lately. I’ve had a crush on a friend for over a year now and I want those feelings to go away/be able to manage them.  This is some good food for thought thanks for sharing your personal insight

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10128 on: July 12, 2021, 09:44:31 PM »
Crushes suck. Missed connections suck. I feel like I've had a couple of those but I can't be sure. Anyway life sucks. I wanna die.
I have to go back to work tomorrow after a lengthy hiatus. I'm sure I can do it but that doesn't stop me from crying about it. I fucking hate the post office. Staye in skewl kidz.
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« Reply #10129 on: July 13, 2021, 06:30:04 AM »
Crushes suck. Missed connections suck. I feel like I've had a couple of those but I can't be sure. Anyway life sucks. I wanna die.
I have to go back to work tomorrow after a lengthy hiatus. I'm sure I can do it but that doesn't stop me from crying about it. I fucking hate the post office. Staye in skewl kidz.

Real-deal feels. Was getting over one myself. hurts.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10130 on: July 14, 2021, 01:21:26 AM »
Feel you fam. Convinced I'm cursed with finding love  nevertheless better to try than not try

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10131 on: July 14, 2021, 03:47:34 AM »
Waddup Slap.

Havent posted shit in a long time, but here it goes..

I have a girlfriend that I live with, but these last couple months, I fell like we are only roommates, there is nothing in there.. Casual kiss in the morning, casual kiss before goodnight, thats all. I started working out and skating like crazy, just so that I dont have to be home, and just return all dead from the physical activites, straight to bed.

I changed my job 3 months ago, and there is this one girl that started with me. We became really close friends, and Im really into her, like heavy. She is a couple years younger, married, but in a similar situtation as me, just living day to day with her husband with nothing really here. She just went on a vacation with him and all she does is text me. They had a fight even before entering the plane, so no bueno.

Im kinda getting courage to end it with my girlfriend, and will probably do it very soon, but Im kinda afraid that Im just really simping this girl, and she just sees me as a friend. From all I can see, its not like that and she is into me too, but if not, that is gonna be one fucked up situation.

Anyway, just wanted to get this off of my chest. Cheers guys, have a great summer.

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« Reply #10132 on: July 14, 2021, 07:58:35 AM »
Waddup Slap.

Havent posted shit in a long time, but here it goes..

I have a girlfriend that I live with, but these last couple months, I fell like we are only roommates, there is nothing in there.. Casual kiss in the morning, casual kiss before goodnight, thats all. I started working out and skating like crazy, just so that I dont have to be home, and just return all dead from the physical activites, straight to bed.

I changed my job 3 months ago, and there is this one girl that started with me. We became really close friends, and Im really into her, like heavy. She is a couple years younger, married, but in a similar situtation as me, just living day to day with her husband with nothing really here. She just went on a vacation with him and all she does is text me. They had a fight even before entering the plane, so no bueno.

Im kinda getting courage to end it with my girlfriend, and will probably do it very soon, but Im kinda afraid that Im just really simping this girl, and she just sees me as a friend. From all I can see, its not like that and she is into me too, but if not, that is gonna be one fucked up situation.

Anyway, just wanted to get this off of my chest. Cheers guys, have a great summer.

You have my sympathy, friend. This kind of thing is really tricky to work through mentally. I’d say, if you’re interested in advice, that if you really end up wanting to work your way up to ending your relationship, do it for your own sake first and foremost, and don’t rely on the “safety net” (big scare quotes here) of the potentially idealized relationship with your married crush. As much as she might like you, even romantically, I wouldn’t assume she’s going to exit her relationship at the same pace as you, or that she’ll ever do it at all.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10133 on: July 14, 2021, 08:22:16 AM »
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Waddup Slap.

Havent posted shit in a long time, but here it goes..

I have a girlfriend that I live with, but these last couple months, I fell like we are only roommates, there is nothing in there.. Casual kiss in the morning, casual kiss before goodnight, thats all. I started working out and skating like crazy, just so that I dont have to be home, and just return all dead from the physical activites, straight to bed.

I changed my job 3 months ago, and there is this one girl that started with me. We became really close friends, and Im really into her, like heavy. She is a couple years younger, married, but in a similar situtation as me, just living day to day with her husband with nothing really here. She just went on a vacation with him and all she does is text me. They had a fight even before entering the plane, so no bueno.

Im kinda getting courage to end it with my girlfriend, and will probably do it very soon, but Im kinda afraid that Im just really simping this girl, and she just sees me as a friend. From all I can see, its not like that and she is into me too, but if not, that is gonna be one fucked up situation.

Anyway, just wanted to get this off of my chest. Cheers guys, have a great summer.
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You have my sympathy, friend. This kind of thing is really tricky to work through mentally. I’d say, if you’re interested in advice, that if you really end up wanting to work your way up to ending your relationship, do it for your own sake first and foremost, and don’t rely on the “safety net” (big scare quotes here) of the potentially idealized relationship with your married crush. As much as she might like you, even romantically, I wouldn’t assume she’s going to exit her relationship at the same pace as you, or that she’ll ever do it at all.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10134 on: July 15, 2021, 05:55:55 AM »
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Waddup Slap.

Havent posted shit in a long time, but here it goes..

I have a girlfriend that I live with, but these last couple months, I fell like we are only roommates, there is nothing in there.. Casual kiss in the morning, casual kiss before goodnight, thats all. I started working out and skating like crazy, just so that I dont have to be home, and just return all dead from the physical activites, straight to bed.

I changed my job 3 months ago, and there is this one girl that started with me. We became really close friends, and Im really into her, like heavy. She is a couple years younger, married, but in a similar situtation as me, just living day to day with her husband with nothing really here. She just went on a vacation with him and all she does is text me. They had a fight even before entering the plane, so no bueno.

Im kinda getting courage to end it with my girlfriend, and will probably do it very soon, but Im kinda afraid that Im just really simping this girl, and she just sees me as a friend. From all I can see, its not like that and she is into me too, but if not, that is gonna be one fucked up situation.

Anyway, just wanted to get this off of my chest. Cheers guys, have a great summer.
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You have my sympathy, friend. This kind of thing is really tricky to work through mentally. I’d say, if you’re interested in advice, that if you really end up wanting to work your way up to ending your relationship, do it for your own sake first and foremost, and don’t rely on the “safety net” (big scare quotes here) of the potentially idealized relationship with your married crush. As much as she might like you, even romantically, I wouldn’t assume she’s going to exit her relationship at the same pace as you, or that she’ll ever do it at all.
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These are some of the wisest words I've read in here

Great GREAT advice

Yeah, also, you really want someone who's real fast with switching partners?

PS: I know next to nothing about these things.

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« Reply #10135 on: July 15, 2021, 07:51:47 AM »
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Waddup Slap.

Havent posted shit in a long time, but here it goes..

I have a girlfriend that I live with, but these last couple months, I fell like we are only roommates, there is nothing in there.. Casual kiss in the morning, casual kiss before goodnight, thats all. I started working out and skating like crazy, just so that I dont have to be home, and just return all dead from the physical activites, straight to bed.

I changed my job 3 months ago, and there is this one girl that started with me. We became really close friends, and Im really into her, like heavy. She is a couple years younger, married, but in a similar situtation as me, just living day to day with her husband with nothing really here. She just went on a vacation with him and all she does is text me. They had a fight even before entering the plane, so no bueno.

Im kinda getting courage to end it with my girlfriend, and will probably do it very soon, but Im kinda afraid that Im just really simping this girl, and she just sees me as a friend. From all I can see, its not like that and she is into me too, but if not, that is gonna be one fucked up situation.

Anyway, just wanted to get this off of my chest. Cheers guys, have a great summer.
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You have my sympathy, friend. This kind of thing is really tricky to work through mentally. I’d say, if you’re interested in advice, that if you really end up wanting to work your way up to ending your relationship, do it for your own sake first and foremost, and don’t rely on the “safety net” (big scare quotes here) of the potentially idealized relationship with your married crush. As much as she might like you, even romantically, I wouldn’t assume she’s going to exit her relationship at the same pace as you, or that she’ll ever do it at all.
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These are some of the wisest words I've read in here

Great GREAT advice
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Yeah, also, you really want someone who's real fast with switching partners?

PS: I know next to nothing about these things.

Thanks for the words guys. For sure, Im not gonna treat it like a safety net. I need to exit this trainwreck of a releationship, and then Ill see what will be next. I may enjoy a single life for a while, and that can be fucking sick too. So far, this is just a major crush, so hopefully, if it does not work out, I will be OK.

There is still Slap to bitch out and cry like a baby, so there's that.  ;D

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10136 on: July 15, 2021, 11:26:08 AM »
Filip, bro... we cry about some dude's belt in a video directed towards children... Don't worry.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10137 on: July 24, 2021, 12:38:35 PM »
If you asked me at any point in the last (at least) 6 years who my favourite skater is, I would tell you Jamal Smith.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10138 on: July 27, 2021, 03:08:19 PM »
Even as a young child, I always resented other kids who would only eat sandwiches "with the crusts cut".
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #10139 on: July 27, 2021, 05:16:18 PM »
Eating crusts builds character.
Before you say the music sucked, have you considered shutting the fuck up?