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I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« on: September 09, 2013, 12:37:00 AM »
I'm really sad. I've had a lot happen in the last few months and I'm feeling like I don't belong, I feel like I should disappear. I've almost tried suicide a few times. I know skateboarders can be sarcastic dick heads and it's funny and shit, I'm like that. But I also know we're good people. I was looking for guidance.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2013, 12:43:30 AM »
All i can say is stop thinking too much and try to have more fun in life, SKATE MORE

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2013, 12:46:13 AM »
if youre serious please call this hot line 18002738255
 suicide should never be seen as  an option hope you seek some help

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #3 on: September 09, 2013, 01:07:01 AM »
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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2013, 01:25:53 AM »
If you're clinically depressed, you need more than slap. If not, your options depend on how old you are and what's bothering you.
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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #5 on: September 09, 2013, 01:35:39 AM »
Sorry to hear it, man. Been coping with fucked-up bouts of depression since I was 12, so I've got nearly 30 years of on-again, off-again bullshit under my belt for feeling fucked in the head.  I bought my first gun with the thought I might use it on myself (fortunately, I decided to take my frustrations out at the shooting range instead) and one night, I drank a full bottle of Black Label and took about 20 Valium just to see if I'd make it through the night.  Worst fucking feeling ever, after I didn't succeed at taking myself out, I started to turn that shit around.  But, it's not easy, that's for sure.  What helped me was:

1.  Don't sit around doing nothing.  Your mind can easily be your worst enemy, and the less you do, the more it will fuck you up. Stay busy, even if it's just skating or doing stupid shit, anything is better than letting you mind take you to shitty places and feeling terrible.  If you don't have a job, GET ONE even if it isn't fun.  If you still have too much time, get a temp job on top of what you already do, stay busy, make some more cash and treat yourself later on with the savings.

2.  Ever had something you wanted to do but never got up the courage or were too lazy to do it?  There's no better time than now.  Go off your usual course - take a road trip somewhere new, try your hand at something you've always been interested in but never got around to.  Change is good when you feel like shit, it will do you good.

3.  It sounds lame to some people, but try getting in the gym and lifting weights.  I don't get to skate much these days due to being old, working long hours, and having shitty knees and no more pop, so the gym is my surrogate skatepark.  I used to think it was some jockish meathead shit, but it does the body and mind a lot of good, especially when you feel shitty and need to de-stress.

4.  It's not for everyone, and I feel lame for saying it, but weed helps me a lot.  I'm also OCD and high-strung, and my mind goes nuts at night if I don't smoke, at least on most nights.  For some people, it makes things worse, but for me, it has  calmed me down enough to keep me out of a LOT of trouble, and I don't sit in bed staring at the ceiling until 6 AM any longer.  Though, I don't smoke until my workday is done, I reserve that as my reward for handling my business, smoking before midnight only makes me do nothing so I avoid it until all tasks are complete.

5.  This one sounds weird, but it may be a factor - get your Vitamin D levels checked by your doc.  Two years ago, mine went rock-bottom, my depression came back so strong, I thought I was losing my mind and almost self-checked into the hospital for my own safety.  My doc ran blood work when I went to her to consider going back on antidepressants, she found my D levels to be so bad, they were almost non-existant, she put me on a high-dose D supplement, and I felt 80% better in just 2 weeks.  Never hurts to check that shit.

6.  If you hang out with negative people, get them out of your life for a while.  Doesn't matter who they are, they won't help when you feel bad, so hang with positive people and ditch the assholes at least for a while.  Even if it means avoiding good friends for a bit, you gotta do what you gotta do.  Same goes for negative situations - if you can get out of them ASAP, do it.  If you can't get out of them, change things up to try and make them better.  Whatever it takes, but don't stay it a pile of shit longer than you have to, it only brings you down.

I could go on and on about this shit, but this is a good start.  If I can help with anything else, send me a pm or post back here, even if I don't know you, I'm down to help however I can.  I may be an asshole, but I'm the good kind of asshole, and been through enough shit to have some good advice when people can use it.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #6 on: September 09, 2013, 01:48:48 AM »


I just want everyone to know that I'm only 32.8% skateboarder, and that's on a good day. The rest is just soy and cum.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #7 on: September 09, 2013, 01:57:40 AM »
Boards of Canada cures depression

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #8 on: September 09, 2013, 08:33:55 AM »
Sure ill PM you a prescription for Abilify.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #9 on: September 09, 2013, 09:01:01 AM »
If you're serious I'm sorry you're going through that. Go get help. Seriously. Depression blows.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #10 on: September 09, 2013, 11:08:38 AM »
i would make an appointment to go see a therapist and give it at least three sessions. some of the things they tell you might sound ridiculous, but still give it a try before you give up. i remember sitting in the office with my therapist practicing these stupid breathing exercises that were supposed to calm you down thinking "im paying for this bullshit?" there were other stupid little relaxation methods we worked on that worked a little bit and helped keep me calm at times, but i honestly think sitting down and talking with someone who youre not afraid whether or not theyll be judging you helps a ton. the thing is that depression can happen to anyone and there is no level of depression that qualifies someone to need to seek help. for instance, you might not want to kill yourself, but that doesnt mean your depression isnt an important matter. if youre struggling to feel good, or to even feel normal, then its a good idea to go see someone.

also i would recommend that you put down alcohol and drugs. theyll only make it worse.
im not sure about weed. like someone said, it helped him a lot and ive heard other people say the same thing. but i know that for me personally it can make me super anxious and paranoid even if im not going through a hard time.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #11 on: September 09, 2013, 11:18:17 AM »
I'm a psychiatrist - and I'd say that most of this is just as good as what a doc is going to tell you (except I find that although most people are deficient in vit D fixing it don't make much difference).

One thing to keep at the forefront of your mind is that this is just temporary (although it doesn't feel like that) and things do get better. Do the stuff in the list and keep us updated.


Quote from: D. Bag  link=topic=72930.msg1992699#msg1992699 date=1378715739
Sorry to hear it, man. Been coping with fucked-up bouts of depression since I was 12, so I've got nearly 30 years of on-again, off-again bullshit under my belt for feeling fucked in the head.  I bought my first gun with the thought I might use it on myself (fortunately, I decided to take my frustrations out at the shooting range instead) and one night, I drank a full bottle of Black Label and took about 20 Valium just to see if I'd make it through the night.  Worst fucking feeling ever, after I didn't succeed at taking myself out, I started to turn that shit around.  But, it's not easy, that's for sure.  What helped me was:

1.  Don't sit around doing nothing.  Your mind can easily be your worst enemy, and the less you do, the more it will fuck you up. Stay busy, even if it's just skating or doing stupid shit, anything is better than letting you mind take you to shitty places and feeling terrible.  If you don't have a job, GET ONE even if it isn't fun.  If you still have too much time, get a temp job on top of what you already do, stay busy, make some more cash and treat yourself later on with the savings.

2.  Ever had something you wanted to do but never got up the courage or were too lazy to do it?  There's no better time than now.  Go off your usual course - take a road trip somewhere new, try your hand at something you've always been interested in but never got around to.  Change is good when you feel like shit, it will do you good.

3.  It sounds lame to some people, but try getting in the gym and lifting weights.  I don't get to skate much these days due to being old, working long hours, and having shitty knees and no more pop, so the gym is my surrogate skatepark.  I used to think it was some jockish meathead shit, but it does the body and mind a lot of good, especially when you feel shitty and need to de-stress.

4.  It's not for everyone, and I feel lame for saying it, but weed helps me a lot.  I'm also OCD and high-strung, and my mind goes nuts at night if I don't smoke, at least on most nights.  For some people, it makes things worse, but for me, it has  calmed me down enough to keep me out of a LOT of trouble, and I don't sit in bed staring at the ceiling until 6 AM any longer.  Though, I don't smoke until my workday is done, I reserve that as my reward for handling my business, smoking before midnight only makes me do nothing so I avoid it until all tasks are complete.

5.  This one sounds weird, but it may be a factor - get your Vitamin D levels checked by your doc.  Two years ago, mine went rock-bottom, my depression came back so strong, I thought I was losing my mind and almost self-checked into the hospital for my own safety.  My doc ran blood work when I went to her to consider going back on antidepressants, she found my D levels to be so bad, they were almost non-existant, she put me on a high-dose D supplement, and I felt 80% better in just 2 weeks.  Never hurts to check that shit.

6.  If you hang out with negative people, get them out of your life for a while.  Doesn't matter who they are, they won't help when you feel bad, so hang with positive people and ditch the assholes at least for a while.  Even if it means avoiding good friends for a bit, you gotta do what you gotta do.  Same goes for negative situations - if you can get out of them ASAP, do it.  If you can't get out of them, change things up to try and make them better.  Whatever it takes, but don't stay it a pile of shit longer than you have to, it only brings you down.

I could go on and on about this shit, but this is a good start.  If I can help with anything else, send me a pm or post back here, even if I don't know you, I'm down to help however I can.  I may be an asshole, but I'm the good kind of asshole, and been through enough shit to have some good advice when people can use it.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #12 on: September 09, 2013, 11:19:39 AM »
Physical activity, like yoga can really get your house in order.  It's also easy and cheap if you are of little means.  Throw on some shoes, grab a rope, and start jumping.

Even just elevating the heart rate and getting your muscles moving releases endorphins and that's what makes you feel good.  I know it's not that easy, but it's a good place to start. 

do more yoga!

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #13 on: September 09, 2013, 12:34:48 PM »
I would like to add that at least for me, keeping a clean and ordrerly house helps.

Excercise is vital.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #14 on: September 09, 2013, 01:54:28 PM »
Yes, get some exercise. Skate, bust out some push-ups, put on some headphones and run/walk.

Playing with animals has been proven to help as well, as has visiting this thread: http://www.slapmagazine.com/component/option,com_jfusion/Itemid,4/index.php?topic=35859.0
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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #15 on: September 09, 2013, 03:19:54 PM »
Slap is not the solution.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #16 on: September 09, 2013, 09:54:12 PM »
Lay off my schtick.
Before you say the music sucked, have you considered shutting the fuck up?

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #17 on: September 09, 2013, 10:04:48 PM »
stop being a stressed out bitch buy some weed smoke it and go skate, or shut the fuck up and be sad

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #18 on: September 09, 2013, 10:18:36 PM »
Quote from: D. Bag  link=topic=72930.msg1992699#msg1992699 date=1378715739
Sorry to hear it, man. Been coping with fucked-up bouts of depression since I was 12, so I've got nearly 30 years of on-again, off-again bullshit under my belt for feeling fucked in the head.  I bought my first gun with the thought I might use it on myself (fortunately, I decided to take my frustrations out at the shooting range instead) and one night, I drank a full bottle of Black Label and took about 20 Valium just to see if I'd make it through the night.  Worst fucking feeling ever, after I didn't succeed at taking myself out, I started to turn that shit around.  But, it's not easy, that's for sure.  What helped me was:

1.  Don't sit around doing nothing.  Your mind can easily be your worst enemy, and the less you do, the more it will fuck you up. Stay busy, even if it's just skating or doing stupid shit, anything is better than letting you mind take you to shitty places and feeling terrible.  If you don't have a job, GET ONE even if it isn't fun.  If you still have too much time, get a temp job on top of what you already do, stay busy, make some more cash and treat yourself later on with the savings.

2.  Ever had something you wanted to do but never got up the courage or were too lazy to do it?  There's no better time than now.  Go off your usual course - take a road trip somewhere new, try your hand at something you've always been interested in but never got around to.  Change is good when you feel like shit, it will do you good.

3.  It sounds lame to some people, but try getting in the gym and lifting weights.  I don't get to skate much these days due to being old, working long hours, and having shitty knees and no more pop, so the gym is my surrogate skatepark.  I used to think it was some jockish meathead shit, but it does the body and mind a lot of good, especially when you feel shitty and need to de-stress.

4.  It's not for everyone, and I feel lame for saying it, but weed helps me a lot.  I'm also OCD and high-strung, and my mind goes nuts at night if I don't smoke, at least on most nights.  For some people, it makes things worse, but for me, it has  calmed me down enough to keep me out of a LOT of trouble, and I don't sit in bed staring at the ceiling until 6 AM any longer.  Though, I don't smoke until my workday is done, I reserve that as my reward for handling my business, smoking before midnight only makes me do nothing so I avoid it until all tasks are complete.

5.  This one sounds weird, but it may be a factor - get your Vitamin D levels checked by your doc.  Two years ago, mine went rock-bottom, my depression came back so strong, I thought I was losing my mind and almost self-checked into the hospital for my own safety.  My doc ran blood work when I went to her to consider going back on antidepressants, she found my D levels to be so bad, they were almost non-existant, she put me on a high-dose D supplement, and I felt 80% better in just 2 weeks.  Never hurts to check that shit.

6.  If you hang out with negative people, get them out of your life for a while.  Doesn't matter who they are, they won't help when you feel bad, so hang with positive people and ditch the assholes at least for a while.  Even if it means avoiding good friends for a bit, you gotta do what you gotta do.  Same goes for negative situations - if you can get out of them ASAP, do it.  If you can't get out of them, change things up to try and make them better.  Whatever it takes, but don't stay it a pile of shit longer than you have to, it only brings you down.

I could go on and on about this shit, but this is a good start.  If I can help with anything else, send me a pm or post back here, even if I don't know you, I'm down to help however I can.  I may be an asshole, but I'm the good kind of asshole, and been through enough shit to have some good advice when people can use it.

This is pretty accurate. One thing's for sure, get professional help. Sometimes it's difficult to find an ideal therapist, but speaking from experience, it's a nice source of relief to offload your thoughts onto a professional and receive some guidance. As people have pointed out, you may not agree with all of it, but it's certainly a starting point to sorting things out. It doesn't always have to be expensive. Consider searching around for locations staffed by interns that offer on a sliding scale, or suicide crisis centers that offer one-on-one counseling.

I don't know how your relationship is with your family/friends, or if they're a source of your current stress, but consider reaching out to people close to you. SLAP is helpful for a lot of things, but can't replace real, honest interaction.

I've said this here before, but while I'm certainly not the help you should reach out to about these feelings, I'm happy to offer an ear via PM, and I'm sure other Pals are as well.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #19 on: September 09, 2013, 10:26:54 PM »
i know how it is. find an outlet- i get immersed in records and comics
utilize the late nite bike ride it works wonders

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #20 on: September 09, 2013, 10:32:13 PM »
try and find an affordable therapist
smoke weed
listen to and play music
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dont really kill yourself man cause its not worth it


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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #21 on: September 09, 2013, 10:45:28 PM »
okay looks like the asnwer is weed, thanks SALAP MESSA BOADS

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #22 on: September 09, 2013, 10:50:25 PM »
Surround yourself by positive people that you actually like associating with.
Stay busy.
Find a hobby (or several)
stay physically active - the gym isn't really necessary. simply stretching, doing pushups/situps, and jogging/biking are all that you really need.
SKATE! Skateboarding is wonderful - it keeps you active and it frees your mind.
Make goals and try to achieve them.
Be open and talk with your loved ones for support.
Seek counseling if you have the money to do so.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #23 on: September 09, 2013, 11:52:18 PM »
nature and exercise always helps

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #24 on: September 12, 2013, 02:20:41 PM »
talk to people, it doesn't have to be a professional. like eveyone says stay busy, don't get stuck doing nothing. living without goals sucks.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #25 on: September 12, 2013, 04:57:35 PM »
Throw yourself into something new. When you're feeling as low is you are it is hard to be excited about anything but if you can think back and identify something you've always wanted to do or something that you want to get back into, jump right into it. Your life as it is now is obviously not making you happy, so by introducing something new that you can get stoked on and obsess about, you might be able to get some of your motivation back. I feel like skaters in general have obsessive personalities. We obsess over minute details when it comes to style, tricks, spots, and depression robs that from you. Regaining that motivation to think about something so intently and study every angle of it is crucial for fighting depression. When I was at my lowest a few years ago, getting on meds for a few months and getting back into skating were what pulled me out of it. When I started obsessing over skating, I had no time to think about the shit that was keeping me down.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #26 on: September 12, 2013, 05:10:54 PM »
talk to people, it doesn't have to be a professional. like eveyone says stay busy, don't get stuck doing nothing. living without goals sucks.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #27 on: September 13, 2013, 05:38:17 AM »
Start using a bike for transportation.
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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #28 on: September 13, 2013, 09:03:02 AM »
To everyone suggesting weed, I just quit, and I don't want to depend on it again. For me it feels like I'm putting my faith in a substance, instead of trying to work it out. I broke my foot keeping me out of skating for 2 months, I'm here doing nothing, feeling sorry for myself about these three tickets I got for telling a cop to shut up. I pushed my girlfriend away, who had her own problems. She almost committed suicide, I called the police on her and she sad I wanted to put her in the nut house. I know already, that's not a good relationship. Everyone has told me already, but I love her. I just fuck everything up. My mom thinks I don't love her and she's been depressed for most of my life and before that my father was beating her. I think I've blocked out a bunch of shit and all of a sudden it's all becoming apparent to me and it's overwhelming.

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Re: I'm depressed do you guys wanna help?
« Reply #29 on: September 13, 2013, 09:18:01 AM »
okay looks like the asnwer is weed, thanks SALAP MESSA BOADS

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