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General Discussion => WHATEVER => Topic started by: ChuckRamone on September 06, 2020, 09:59:03 PM
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For Pals with kids: How do you balance having children and skating? Do you get out as much as you'd like? I'm wondering if you can have a kid and still get out a decent amount.
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Wanted to start a similar topic.
I'm 33 and kind of not feeling the whole having kids thing. To be honest, I don't feel like trading my funds, time and convenience. Will probably be a shitty parent, too. Raised in Russia in the 90's, don't think my "parenting style" would fit in Gay Sweden.
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Wanted to start a similar topic.
I'm 33 and kind of not feeling the whole having kids thing. To be honest, I don't feel like trading my funds, time and convenience. Will probably be a shitty parent, too. Raised in Russia in the 90's, don't think my "parenting style" would fit in Gay Sweden.
Most of my life I didn't really want kids and even complained about how annoying parents and their kids were. But something has happened to me in my 40s where my balls are telling me to reproduce or something else is happening that's making me want a kid, but there's still some nagging doubt about how expensive, time-consuming and tiring it would be. And this makes me wonder what it's like for people who skate and have children.
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Wanted to start a similar topic.
I'm 33 and kind of not feeling the whole having kids thing. To be honest, I don't feel like trading my funds, time and convenience. Will probably be a shitty parent, too. Raised in Russia in the 90's, don't think my "parenting style" would fit in Gay Sweden.
Most of my life I didn't really want kids and even complained about how annoying parents and their kids were. But something has happened to me in my 40s where my balls are telling me to reproduce or something else is happening that's making me want a kid, but there's still some nagging doubt about how expensive, time-consuming and tiring it would be. And this makes me wonder what it's like for people who skate and have children.
Oh, I see.
As I type this, one of the dudes at work talking about his moth old girl. The conversation is so foreign and strange to me. Like, "Damn, that sucks, bro..."
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Having kids won’t keep you from skating. Having a partner that’s not in to letting you be independent will. I mean it’s not like I can skip dinner and go drink tall cans with the boys after skating, but you can get out there if you really want to.
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I love that the topic "Having kids" is in whatever, cause to me having kids is whatever.
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I love that the topic "Having kids" is in whatever, cause to me having kids is whatever.
It's kids a priori, otherwise it would be under "Help!!!"
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It's a tough one. Some people say it's the best feeling in the world and they wouldn't trade it for anything. Personally I can't do it. For one i'm not financially secure enough. And two i'm also worried that a possible child will inherit my own shitty issues and don't think I could live with that.
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It's a tough one. Some people say it's the best feeling in the world and they wouldn't trade it for anything. Personally I can't do it. For one i'm not financially secure enough. And two i'm also worried that a possible child will inherit my own shitty issues and don't think I could live with that.
Yepp, wouldn't wish my fucktard issues upon anyone, either.
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It depends on many factors... what your job hours are, your old lady’s hours, is there someone else like a family member to help out? Do u have a car?
I don’t get out as much as I want I but I also have more hobbies n interests than I did 10 years ago so those can eat up some time. Don't have a car which is a huge inconvenience but I work all night. On nights off I usually ride my road bike around to empty parking lots, hills, or spots I would normally get booted from real quick.
The other night at 3am I skated this Irvine motel plaza that’s basically a skatepark for a while n after that skated a diy quarterpipe next to the water.
Next night off I learned frontside half cab noseslides on a ledge in a parking lot at 37.
U gotta wanna skate.
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It pretty much depends on balancing things with your partner because, even though it sounds obvious, one of the first things you learn is that you can't each be doing something at the same time when you have a kid. I try to give my wife as much free time as I can so that going for a skate a couple of times a week feels fair.
Finding time that it's not any inconvenience for the other person goes a long way too, so in the evening when the kid is asleep and my wife just wants to watch a movie or something anyway works out great. Early mornings too. If you can be bothered getting out and back before either of them wake up, you can skate every day. There's a reason you see old dudes at the skatepark at 6am - it's the beginners and dads session.
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It pretty much depends on balancing things with your partner because, even though it sounds obvious, one of the first things you learn is that you can't each be doing something at the same time when you have a kid. I try to give my wife as much free time as I can so that going for a skate a couple of times a week feels fair.
Finding time that it's not any inconvenience for the other person goes a long way too, so in the evening when the kid is asleep and my wife just wants to watch a movie or something anyway works out great. Early mornings too. If you can be bothered getting out and back before either of them wake up, you can skate every day. There's a reason you see old dudes at the skatepark at 6am - it's the beginners and dads session.
This. Early morning sessions go off. Typically sleeping at this time, don’t feel bad at all catching a coffee and a curb. And for anyone out there who thinks kids are expensive, barring anything medical, they’re really not unless you can’t control your own spending. 90% of what you’ll buy or others will is so extra. Untouched and straight to goodwill.
Wouldn’t recommend if you don’t have a partner who is down for life. Double-teaming a toddler doesn’t sound fair but your also dealing with toddler logic. They’re sweet and rewarding but god damn it can be frustrating.
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For Pals with kids: How do you balance having children and skating? Do you get out as much as you'd like? I'm wondering if you can have a kid and still get out a decent amount.
You don't. Just don't have kids it sucks
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I take my my kids skating with me!
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let's be real, the first 2 years, you probably won't skate much. Depending on how much the baby lets you sleep.
Once they are over say, 6, you have so much more time, cause they start being independent.
I'd be a mess without my sons I think. I always wanted kids cause I wanted to experience that biological connection (I was adopted). and yes, it's so much work and responsability. But the rewards are just as huge.
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When my wife was pregnant with our first in 2008-09 I was out skating in January in NJ. I remember sitting against a wall in a tunnel I built a box for thinking that this is the last time I will be free to skate w/o concern when I return home.
I have 2 kids and my 11 year old daughter does not like when I go skating. She worries. Now I have two women worried I will be hurt and this is the downer of having children and skating. I feel guilty coming home with scraps so I don’t skate as agro as I would like cause I don’t want my wife and daughter worrying about me.
My wife has seen me in the hospital twice from skateboarding (broken leg and ruptured spleen) and she thinks I’m too old to keep skating. Now my daughter is like wifey 2.
So, the answer depends on the wife that you have and whether you have a daughter who will worry about you or a son, like mine, who doesn’t think about you the moment you leave the house.
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42 years old, not having kids, never having kids.
My fiance is a childcare worker so that's enough for her.
If I want a reminder how much I don't want them I'll go and stand in the toy section of Big W on a Saturday.
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My wife was a pre-K teacher so it's like she was a professional mom. If you value skateboarding, you'll find a way to keep doing it when the kids show up.
I just want to encourage all the smart and empathetic people to have kids so idiocracy doesn't become an even bigger reality than it already has become. The morons of society seem to breed incessantly and get by while the thoughtful people overthink it and then we're outnumbered and wondering how that happened.
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I love that the topic "Having kids" is in whatever, cause to me having kids is whatever.
It's kids a priori, otherwise it would be under "Help!!!"
it's statements like this that continue to replenish my faith in Slap
i see you Pug
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I take my my kids skating with me!
me too.. I drag them to park with me every weekend... even if they don't want to go...
(i don't get to skate during the week because of ... life... so i just weekend warrior it for an hour or so... )
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I take my my kids skating with me!
me too.. I drag them to park with me every weekend... even if they don't want to go...
(i don't get to skate during the week because of ... life... so i just weekend warrior it for an hour or so... )
yep, we are the same! My wife doesn't mind because it gives her some time alone at home. If she wants to get out of the house too I bring her and she can read a book in the car or go for a run or whatever. Sometimes she'll get the urge and do tick tack races with my eldest too. If the kids aren't feeling the skatepark, just a regular park with some marble curbs is my other go to; kids can run around on the grass, hang on the swings or whatever and dad can play on curbs and get glanced at by old angry Japanese men.
I wish I could roll during the week too but such is life! I get long-ish summer and winter breaks so I try to roll as much as possible during those times...
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I take my my kids skating with me!
me too.. I drag them to park with me every weekend... even if they don't want to go...
(i don't get to skate during the week because of ... life... so i just weekend warrior it for an hour or so... )
I wish I could roll during the week too but such is life! I get long-ish summer and winter breaks so I try to roll as much as possible during those times...
My wife works most weekends so its just me and the kids... this summer has been pretty brutal so it has been an inside watching doraemon and anpanman kind of summer... (I don't want to be inside... but my youngest is 2 & a 1/2 so she is too little go out and play for too long in 35+deg weather)
bring on autumn (plus new car... so i can take my eldest to ride motorbikes in the morning again)
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having kids is rad but i get its not for everyone. the first couple years i didnt skate much.. maybe once a week- but i think hat was down to other obligations, i had bands and stuff going on too.
Im skating more than i have in years!
my dude is 5, hes in school and at least once a week he asks me to take him to the local park wheni pick him up - he rips around on his bike and i get a little skate.
my wife is super chill to so if i fancy a roll with the bros she is happy fto give some alone time. and vice versa -- that is the key. you cant be selfish. if you wanna go skate for 4 hours on saturday, you gotta let your lady get some alone time too so she can do what she wants.
it is as difficukt/easy as you make it for yourself.
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Thanks for the replies. Really helpful for thinking this through. My wife is pretty chill and we're both at that age now where we don't care about going out to party and shit like that so I think we'll be able to figure out ways of trading off child watching and free time, and our parents might be able to lend a hand from time to time. And other than skating I'm pretty much a homebody anyway. As for the expense, I plan on being pretty frugal about it. I'm not gonna buy all that hyped up baby and kid stuff that people waste their money on. I really value a simple life where spending time together and not being part of the rat race is important. My parents were always working, so we didn't spend as much time together as we could have. I'd rather work less and be with my kid more, if I do end up having one.
It would be ideal if my hypothetical kid got into skating and we could skate together. But whatever they get into I will support them and not pressure them. I just really hope it's not scootering. As for layzieyez's idiocracy comment: That's one reason I want to have kids. I'm sure the people I don't like in this world think I'm an asshole and an idiot too but I don't want to leave the world to just their spawn. It feels like a form of giving up, which I don't want to do. A lot of childless people would probably actually make pretty good parents because they are usually the thoughtful and chill type.
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I don't have kids because my wife never made me....I mean if she made me I don't think I'd be bummed but it's pretty easy to just carry on my life without them.....it's not like I stay up all night....'oh shit...I don't have kids...'
There are people who plan and really wrestle with this stuff...not me....
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Thanks for the replies. Really helpful for thinking this through. My wife is pretty chill and we're both at that age now where we don't care about going out to party and shit like that so I think we'll be able to figure out ways of trading off child watching and free time, and our parents might be able to lend a hand from time to time. And other than skating I'm pretty much a homebody anyway. As for the expense, I plan on being pretty frugal about it. I'm not gonna buy all that hyped up baby and kid stuff that people waste their money on. I really value a simple life where spending time together and not being part of the rat race is important. My parents were always working, so we didn't spend as much time together as we could have. I'd rather work less and be with my kid more, if I do end up having one.
It would be ideal if my hypothetical kid got into skating and we could skate together. But whatever they get into I will support them and not pressure them. I just really hope it's not scootering. As for layzieyez's idiocracy comment: That's one reason I want to have kids. I'm sure the people I don't like in this world think I'm an asshole and an idiot too but I don't want to leave the world to just their spawn. It feels like a form of giving up, which I don't want to do. A lot of childless people would probably actually make pretty good parents because they are usually the thoughtful and chill type.
that's a good mindset. I remember watching a guy my age at the park who came with his kid and totally ignored him. He skated real good and was obviously focused on practicing his tricks and shit....while his 6 year-old or something skulked in the corner. And I just thought what an asshole....totally lost respect for him. Kinda well-known guy in the Paris scene.
Both my kids are taking an interest in skating lately, but it took a long time! I bought a complete for the eldest when he was 6 and he started getting interested at 12.....
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Thanks for the replies. Really helpful for thinking this through. My wife is pretty chill and we're both at that age now where we don't care about going out to party and shit like that so I think we'll be able to figure out ways of trading off child watching and free time, and our parents might be able to lend a hand from time to time. And other than skating I'm pretty much a homebody anyway. As for the expense, I plan on being pretty frugal about it. I'm not gonna buy all that hyped up baby and kid stuff that people waste their money on. I really value a simple life where spending time together and not being part of the rat race is important. My parents were always working, so we didn't spend as much time together as we could have. I'd rather work less and be with my kid more, if I do end up having one.
It would be ideal if my hypothetical kid got into skating and we could skate together. But whatever they get into I will support them and not pressure them. I just really hope it's not scootering. As for layzieyez's idiocracy comment: That's one reason I want to have kids. I'm sure the people I don't like in this world think I'm an asshole and an idiot too but I don't want to leave the world to just their spawn. It feels like a form of giving up, which I don't want to do. A lot of childless people would probably actually make pretty good parents because they are usually the thoughtful and chill type.
A few of my friends have justified not having kids very sensible reasons like global overpopulation, worries that there have been health issues elsewhere in the family tree, not being in the ideal financial situation yet, etc. and it bums me out because the fact they would be empathetic parents and would likely produce empathetic children seems like a loss to the world. Of course no one needs to "justify" not having kids but I'm sad that the people I love will one day cease to be and not leave a living legacy.
As far as being financially secure, I would never have had kids if I had not had an "oops!" and waited until I was in the "right" job.
As to your original question: No, you will not have as much time to skate or dick around for a while but there are really meaningful moments that will supplant that. I was a full time, stay at home dad with two kids and it wasn't a cakewalk but I still found time to do stuff I enjoyed (having a grandparent nearby who could watch the kids for a few hours once a week was huge). Anyway, it's been worth it in the long run, for me at least.
Good luck!
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Thanks for the replies. Really helpful for thinking this through. My wife is pretty chill and we're both at that age now where we don't care about going out to party and shit like that so I think we'll be able to figure out ways of trading off child watching and free time, and our parents might be able to lend a hand from time to time. And other than skating I'm pretty much a homebody anyway. As for the expense, I plan on being pretty frugal about it. I'm not gonna buy all that hyped up baby and kid stuff that people waste their money on. I really value a simple life where spending time together and not being part of the rat race is important. My parents were always working, so we didn't spend as much time together as we could have. I'd rather work less and be with my kid more, if I do end up having one.
It would be ideal if my hypothetical kid got into skating and we could skate together. But whatever they get into I will support them and not pressure them. I just really hope it's not scootering. As for layzieyez's idiocracy comment: That's one reason I want to have kids. I'm sure the people I don't like in this world think I'm an asshole and an idiot too but I don't want to leave the world to just their spawn. It feels like a form of giving up, which I don't want to do. A lot of childless people would probably actually make pretty good parents because they are usually the thoughtful and chill type.
Simply just by reading this post I think you’d be a great father, and that you’d really enjoy having a kid.
I’m not going to lie, it’s hard and frustrating at times but it’s well worth it for the priviledge to watch a human grow.
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Skateboarding always comes before your child. It is pretty simple. When the plane runs out of oxygen, you put the mask on yourself first, then you help others.
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Having kids temporarily gets in the way of skating during their younger years, but if your partner respects your love for skating then its game on, I imagine. I have a small army of children and I think that working too much or working hard labor gets in the way of skating more than children ever will. Also making the decision to have kids right now with the current state of affairs is something to really think about before slipping one past the goalie. I stress every single day about what my children will have to encounter in their future. Sorry for the essay man, and good luck with either road you take!
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Like multiple people have posted, it's difficult when they are younger but it also is really important to have a partner that is supportive of you skating, and willing to work with you. If you can't squeeze in an hour after work to go to a park build a mini ramp or a box or do some flat ground. But for ultra dad points you gotta get a good slappy spot. If there's a will there's a way but your life will certainly changed for ever.
I'm a firm believer that kids aren't for everyone, fuck I hate kids, but I love mine.
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Tons of my friends who have kids skate....without question kids are no. 1, but if you plan, prioritize and execute, you can still skate a lot. Do you see yourself skating by yourself a lot? If so....it shouldn't be an issue.
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Having kids temporarily gets in the way of skating during their younger years, but if your partner respects your love for skating then its game on, I imagine. I have a small army of children and I think that working too much or working hard labor gets in the way of skating more than children ever will. Also making the decision to have kids right now with the current state of affairs is something to really think about before slipping one past the goalie. I stress every single day about what my children will have to encounter in their future. Sorry for the essay man, and good luck with either road you take!
I understand the feeling but you could've said the same anytime during the 20th century. We had WWI, the great depression, WWII, the cold war, etc.... I really don't think we are worse off nowadays. World hunger has been divided by 4 in the last 40 years but no one talks about it because bad news get more attention than good news....
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fuck I hate kids, but I love mine.
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Well, before my son was born, I skated 7 days a week, around 4 hours a day.
When he was born, I skated 1-2 days a week. First 4 years I pretty much had to wait til he was asleep and go skate at 9-10 PM to get in any time. I lived by 3 spots during that period so that was okay. But it was not so often, still pretty much 1-2 times per week. This summer, he finally started to ride his bike without training wheels, so now I go skate with him while he bikes. So this past week, I've actually skated 4 times already. In saying that, I haven't really done many tricks, but I'm still coming off ligament/tendon damage, so I'm partially just being a puss - I don't trust that ankle fully.
My son is all about the Man Wolfs (I showed him these clips cuz I thought he'd laugh but he thinks they are real and wants to be one.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VMhy97STyjc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWdlPXZUj6w
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gW3CwVtLtHY
In any event, that director Corey Adams, has a short film where McCrank is skating a yellow board with a man wolfs logo on it. I bought a blank 7.5 deck and just printed big Man Wolfs logo sticker (and bought rails for the board, cuz I know he won't want to scratch that).. and I'm going to surprise him with the board this weekend.
Also I bought him a jean jacket and cut the sleeves off a while ago. He keeps begging for a man wolfs patch (which I have, and have never used), so for X-Mas (maybe before), I'm going to sew that patch on his jacket.
He grew up with skating around him all the time, but the Man Wolfs are what has him somewhat interested in it.
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Having a kid definitely changed my lifestyle drastically, including skateboarding. It will definitely cut into being completely hammered, and skating around the city at 2 am with a bunch of delinquents. However, in 7 or 8 years if you play your cards right and don't turn into a fat dad, waking up early to go skate parks with your little one is completely amazing.
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I have 2 boys under 2, I only skate 1-2 times a week.
The lack of sleep and free time sucks but it does make you a more responsible adult. Hopefully when my kids are a little older they'll be rolling with me Baca style, that would be sick.
The best thing about parenting is that the brain chemistry connection is very real and seeing your babies smile is better than landing any trick. Also seeing someone's cognition grow is exciting as hell when experiencing it day to day.
Worst thing about parenting is that it can get expensive in the phase that I'm still in, pretty sure we wouldnt have 2 kids if I didnt have a tech job.
Also, more of a precovid thing - but you're going to have to small talk with a lot of pricks just because they happen to have toddlers as well. I'm 70% sure people get into infidelity or swinger shit at the young parent stage because I've heard some weird shit from moms sitting at the park.
In general I think if you can do a marriage than parenting will feel easier. As humans we are programmed to be natural parents, but we aren't designed to be husbands or wives. That's why your wife complaining about watching wrestling is more annoying than your kid having a tantrum even though she's being reasonable.
Also Pocoyo is the only toddler show I can stomach. Can't wait to get in the Sesame street phase.
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I have 2 boys under 2, I only skate 1-2 times a week.
The lack of sleep and free time sucks but it does make you a more responsible adult. Hopefully when my kids are a little older they'll be rolling with me Baca style, that would be sick.
The best thing about parenting is that the brain chemistry connection is very real and seeing your babies smile is better than landing any trick. Also seeing someone's cognition grow is exciting as hell when experiencing it day to day.
Worst thing about parenting is that it can get expensive in the phase that I'm still in, pretty sure we wouldnt have 2 kids if I didnt have a tech job.
Also, more of a precovid thing - but you're going to have to small talk with a lot of pricks just because they happen to have toddlers as well. I'm 70% sure people get into infidelity or swinger shit at the young parent stage because I've heard some weird shit from moms sitting at the park.
In general I think if you can do a marriage than parenting will feel easier. As humans we are programmed to be natural parents, but we aren't designed to be husbands or wives. That's why your wife complaining about watching wrestling is more annoying than your kid having a tantrum even though she's being reasonable.
Also Pocoyo is the only toddler show I can stomach. Can't wait to get in the Sesame street phase.
What have you heard? I have only heard complaining about about the husband and/or their friends/female frenemies.
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My buddy has two boys and he got them into skating as early as 1 years old. It actually brought new life into his own skating where he only goes out with his kids on skate missions.
This is his oldest and they have a mini in his garage but he will just skate with his son hours on day. Unfortunately I have daughter and my wife isn't too keen on introducing her to skating but having a kid totally changes all hobbies you might have, so it's not for everyone but a lot of rewards as well as downsides as well.
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I have 2 boys under 2, I only skate 1-2 times a week.
The lack of sleep and free time sucks but it does make you a more responsible adult. Hopefully when my kids are a little older they'll be rolling with me Baca style, that would be sick.
The best thing about parenting is that the brain chemistry connection is very real and seeing your babies smile is better than landing any trick. Also seeing someone's cognition grow is exciting as hell when experiencing it day to day.
Worst thing about parenting is that it can get expensive in the phase that I'm still in, pretty sure we wouldnt have 2 kids if I didnt have a tech job.
Also, more of a precovid thing - but you're going to have to small talk with a lot of pricks just because they happen to have toddlers as well. I'm 70% sure people get into infidelity or swinger shit at the young parent stage because I've heard some weird shit from moms sitting at the park.
In general I think if you can do a marriage than parenting will feel easier. As humans we are programmed to be natural parents, but we aren't designed to be husbands or wives. That's why your wife complaining about watching wrestling is more annoying than your kid having a tantrum even though she's being reasonable.
Also Pocoyo is the only toddler show I can stomach. Can't wait to get in the Sesame street phase.
What have you heard? I have only heard complaining about about the husband and/or their friends/female frenemies.
The most blatant situation I've experienced was this mom who I just met started telling me and another dad about a New York Times (I think) article about how swingers use pineapple figurines and furniture as signifiers to other closet swingers that visit. Then she was like "Sooo you know, be on the look out" me and the other dad just kinda looked at each other.
I googled it later and that article was old as fuck hahahaha.
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I have a couple of kids and one more on the way. Family is great and I love spending time with them.
In any family situation you're going to have to put a lot of work and time in. You get out of it what you put in basically. Everything kind of sorts itself out. If there are things you really want to do, you'll figure out time to do them. Or you may just do it less or give it up. That's just how it goes.
My advice, don't get hung up about it when you realize you haven't skated in a long time cause you've been busy doing other stuff. Just be happy doing things on your own terms. No need to feel bad or guilty for skating less than you want to.
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I gotta be honest....I don't really hate kids.....
It's parents man.....
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I have 2 boys under 2, I only skate 1-2 times a week.
The lack of sleep and free time sucks but it does make you a more responsible adult. Hopefully when my kids are a little older they'll be rolling with me Baca style, that would be sick.
The best thing about parenting is that the brain chemistry connection is very real and seeing your babies smile is better than landing any trick. Also seeing someone's cognition grow is exciting as hell when experiencing it day to day.
Worst thing about parenting is that it can get expensive in the phase that I'm still in, pretty sure we wouldnt have 2 kids if I didnt have a tech job.
Also, more of a precovid thing - but you're going to have to small talk with a lot of pricks just because they happen to have toddlers as well. I'm 70% sure people get into infidelity or swinger shit at the young parent stage because I've heard some weird shit from moms sitting at the park.
In general I think if you can do a marriage than parenting will feel easier. As humans we are programmed to be natural parents, but we aren't designed to be husbands or wives. That's why your wife complaining about watching wrestling is more annoying than your kid having a tantrum even though she's being reasonable.
Also Pocoyo is the only toddler show I can stomach. Can't wait to get in the Sesame street phase.
What have you heard? I have only heard complaining about about the husband and/or their friends/female frenemies.
The most blatant situation I've experienced was this mom who I just met started telling me and another dad about a New York Times (I think) article about how swingers use pineapple figurines and furniture as signifiers to other closet swingers that visit. Then she was like "Sooo you know, be on the look out" me and the other dad just kinda looked at each other.
I googled it later and that article was old as fuck hahahaha.
Who would have ever guessed that? This article below is so dumb it is comical. Basically the most random things might be a sign for swingers.
https://nypost.com/2017/06/02/secret-signs-your-neighbor-might-be-a-swinger/ (https://nypost.com/2017/06/02/secret-signs-your-neighbor-might-be-a-swinger/)
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I gotta be honest....I don't really hate kids.....
It's parents man.....
What is funny is that really is part of the parenting culture. If your kid meets another kid, you'll have to conversation with their parents which could lead to a relationship with them. I haven't even gotten to that part yet but I'd imagine all those team sports scenarios being a real pain in the ass. Hopefully I meet people that are like me but I am 39 years old and I really only keep to myself and my wife.
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I'm sure you'll be listening....but thinking....'I wish I had just stayed at home and posted on SLAP'
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Freezer pop expenditures will quadruple. Inquires into the current favorite color situation will skyrocket.
You will acquire an encyclopedic level of knowledge about Paw Patrol. You will know the whole backstory about that rich asshole with his asshole cat. You will be able to identify each member of the team blindfolded using voice alone.
You will fantasize about slitting Booba’s throat on the commute to work every morning. The thought of sawing his limbs of in a bloody bathtub is the only way you can get hard anymore. You can’t tell anyone about your dark fantasies. They’d never understand.
https://youtu.be/o0apZKM6EP8
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Seeing the life slowly drain from Booba's eyes doesn't only please parents, it pleases me as well. Many don't realize all of the horrific things Booba was affiliated with. Not just war crimes, it goes deeper than that.
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One of my mates has just had a kid and has literally overnight become the epitome of everything that makes me not want to be a parent.
#dadlyfe
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I just spent a weekend with my friends and there was a six year old kid there. Sure, the kid was alright, but have you guys seen the Alfa Romeo Giulia Veloce?
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For Pals with kids: How do you balance having children and skating? Do you get out as much as you'd like? I'm wondering if you can have a kid and still get out a decent amount.
My kids are 8 and 11. My wife got pregnant in 2008. I'd already stopped skating around 2007.
I didnt pick up a board again in a serious (aka consistent?) way until a couple of months ago and truthfully I started skating again because I started snowboarding again first a couple of seasons ago and I ended up wanting to skate with my son too and told him it was the best way in the off season to get ready for snow season. So we bought a 2' keen miniramp at the start of quarantine. I didnt grow up skating transition -at all-. I can carve parks and kick turn high up on a vert ramp but until recently, dont ask me to do shit on or above coping. That's starting to change now, but really what I've been most excited about aside from learning that stuff and skating bigger parks now is starting to gently skate street again.
Everyone's experience is different and I am sad I went away from it but whatever. I am 44 now and not wasting any more time. My son and I do it together and it absolutely rips, but I think I am even more into it than him right now.
The hard part is balancing it with surfing, mountain biking, and running. All other things I am into. I only get to snowboard about 30 days a year, a lot of it in Mammoth, so we will skate at parks on the way up and back as a part of that.
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I have 2 boys under 2, I only skate 1-2 times a week.
The lack of sleep and free time sucks but it does make you a more responsible adult. Hopefully when my kids are a little older they'll be rolling with me Baca style, that would be sick.
The best thing about parenting is that the brain chemistry connection is very real and seeing your babies smile is better than landing any trick. Also seeing someone's cognition grow is exciting as hell when experiencing it day to day.
Worst thing about parenting is that it can get expensive in the phase that I'm still in, pretty sure we wouldnt have 2 kids if I didnt have a tech job.
Also, more of a precovid thing - but you're going to have to small talk with a lot of pricks just because they happen to have toddlers as well. I'm 70% sure people get into infidelity or swinger shit at the young parent stage because I've heard some weird shit from moms sitting at the park.
In general I think if you can do a marriage than parenting will feel easier. As humans we are programmed to be natural parents, but we aren't designed to be husbands or wives. That's why your wife complaining about watching wrestling is more annoying than your kid having a tantrum even though she's being reasonable.
Also Pocoyo is the only toddler show I can stomach. Can't wait to get in the Sesame street phase.
What have you heard? I have only heard complaining about about the husband and/or their friends/female frenemies.
I just give a curt nod and get back to our playing at stirring up cacio e pepe with the wood chips
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As a friend of former active skaters, I can add that most of my friends who skate and have kids, don't skate anymore. A small handful, still do, but when they do, it's far in between. There's a couple who built ramps at their houses so they can still skate, not street, but we get some nice sessions in sometimes.
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
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If wifey is supportive of skating pre-kids, then she probably would be to some degree afterwards. Mine always liked how I came home with a big grin on my face after a session, even before kids. But even at that point I wasn't really skating much. With kids, I think she'd give me some time to do it (maybe not right now with a 9 month old), but I don't take her up on it much as I feel like I end up having to pay it back times 3. Pre pandemic with one kid she would try and schedule a family outing to a park with a skatepark, but the few times we'd do it my daughter wanted to ride her scooter around the park which always just lead to me holding her and never really skating anyway.
Free time is few and far between, but i'm so used to being busy i usually get bored after an hour or so of just chilling out. any free time is spent playing guitar mostly, which is what i was gravitating towards pre kids anyways. since we divide and conquer and the 5 year old sleeps in the room with me i get maybe 30 minutes playing guitar in headphones in the bathroom most nights and that suffices. on weekends i can sneak out to the garage and play louder and put on a skate video or old martial arts flick on the tv whilst I do it.
When I was mid 30s i had no desire to have kids. that changed in a few short years. i'd have been happy to have just one, it's less stress and money. but i don't regret the second. Dealing with the other parents is a trip sometimes. you really see how some people never mentally graduate high school. people trying to force kid friendships based on the kid/parent, or keeping up with joneses and whatever else. I also know so much about My Little Pony it's scary. A lot of kids shows though, they stick in jokes/writing to amuse the parents. just watched one with big lebowski characters. Fuck Booba, though. my daughter loves him. sorry for the novel.
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
I plan to get a vasectomy eventually. How long did it take ya'll off the board ? That's my only concern as I'd imagine you would have to chill out for a bit.
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
I think there's two different procedures, and one's pretty chill? My coworker said he just had sore junk for a day or so. I was planning on getting one but the pandemic fucked that up. As soon as it's more chill I'm scheduling one. Who knows what a conservative majority supreme court will take away.
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Tom Segura recently got the snip. Here he talks about it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5bTa1xELxRE&list=PL7qL_zBSjmdE5eDGml77MMkJTFxYB1TkF (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5bTa1xELxRE&list=PL7qL_zBSjmdE5eDGml77MMkJTFxYB1TkF)
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It works. Don‘t plan your day around skating. Just squeeze it in whenever you can. Also my son who is 2,5 years now likes to go to the skatepark thats next to the playground. Sometimes he rides his bike for 25 minutes while i skate, sometimes we move to the playground after 5 minutes.
Early mornings while hes at the kindergarten or at night when hes sleeping.
You skate shorter sessions, but you will grow older and you cant/wont skate vor 6 hours straight as you used to when you where 21 anyways.
And to be honest i‘d rather spend my afternoon wth my son than driving to a spot at the emd of the world sitting in the gutter watching jimmy not get his super tech line.
If i go skate i want to skate and just cut all the hanging out talking trash bullshit part. I have had that for years, i‘ve seen it all and it always repeats itself.
Of course i‘m down for a beer after the session, but i dont want to waste my whole day skating without skating.
Also this fits:
http://youtu.be/x52PQ_dFZN8 (http://youtu.be/x52PQ_dFZN8)
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Yo, how many were planned?
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Funny, I think what i miss the most is the trash talking and camaraderie with the homies throughout the session. Especially those ones that happen late at night, and you'd invariably end up doing a dork trick session trying to make each other laugh or something. Definitely miss late nights overall, but it's not really an option when kids are involved unless you can survive on little sleep, which I can't. I get migraines from it.
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
yeah nah, couple days tops. I work in a hopsital and just last week one of the consultants i worked with got avasectomy in the morning and did a clinic after lunch. That guy earned some respect that day, a porter tried to milk his vasectomy for two entire weeks off.. dont be that guy.
we have our son and we are happy, my wife has a medical condition that having a second baby could result in her being in a wheelchair so its not even worth considering. ill be booking in for a vasectomy as soon as i can.
Kobra - planned as fuck and hard fought for.
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
yeah nah, couple days tops. I work in a hopsital and just last week one of the consultants i worked with got avasectomy in the morning and did a clinic after lunch. That guy earned some respect that day, a porter tried to milk his vasectomy for two entire weeks off.. dont be that guy.
we have our son and we are happy, my wife has a medical condition that having a second baby could result in her being in a wheelchair so its not even worth considering. ill be booking in for a vasectomy as soon as i can.
Kobra - planned as fuck and hard fought for.
Word up to this. Good on you for handling that.
I did it on a Friday, I was back to work on Monday. Chilled on the couch all weekend. I honestly barely noticed it.
Just follow all the advice, cum in the cup multiple times to be 100% sure if need be.
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Yo, how many were planned?
First one wasn’t but the 2nd one was.
Our logic was if we have multiple kids they need to be close in age so that our activities are less of a nightmare to organize. That’s one school to deal with, one basketball practice, movies are age appropriate for both, the boys can share the PlayStation, etc.
Also we can be empty nesters at 50 instead of 60, so that’s cool.
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Yo, how many were planned?
0/2
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
yeah nah, couple days tops. I work in a hopsital and just last week one of the consultants i worked with got avasectomy in the morning and did a clinic after lunch. That guy earned some respect that day, a porter tried to milk his vasectomy for two entire weeks off.. dont be that guy.
we have our son and we are happy, my wife has a medical condition that having a second baby could result in her being in a wheelchair so its not even worth considering. ill be booking in for a vasectomy as soon as i can.
Kobra - planned as fuck and hard fought for.
Word up to this. Good on you for handling that.
I did it on a Friday, I was back to work on Monday. Chilled on the couch all weekend. I honestly barely noticed it.
Just follow all the advice, cum in the cup multiple times to be 100% sure if need be.
wait, what?
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Hey also - vasectomies. Highly recommended.
same. firin' blanks like steve zissou is how to really live
yeah nah, couple days tops. I work in a hopsital and just last week one of the consultants i worked with got avasectomy in the morning and did a clinic after lunch. That guy earned some respect that day, a porter tried to milk his vasectomy for two entire weeks off.. dont be that guy.
we have our son and we are happy, my wife has a medical condition that having a second baby could result in her being in a wheelchair so its not even worth considering. ill be booking in for a vasectomy as soon as i can.
Kobra - planned as fuck and hard fought for.
Word up to this. Good on you for handling that.
I did it on a Friday, I was back to work on Monday. Chilled on the couch all weekend. I honestly barely noticed it.
Just follow all the advice, cum in the cup multiple times to be 100% sure if need be.
you gotta jack off into a cup to make sure you're shooting blanks. Its about six weeks after the procedure. I am saying, do it a couple of times just to be absolutely sure.
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Too many threads on Slap end up with some dude cumming...