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@RoaryMcTwang ! i truly believe that being a parent is most impactful thing a person can do. there's really nothing else you could do that will still impact people long after you pass in the way that having kids can. you can create your own tribe with it's own values that will outlive you. it's really a special thing to me.
a few things i'd share that were really valuable to us
mental load is a concept someone shared on here years back that i wish i had seen when we were first getting started.
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic. TLDR: don't make your wife have to ask you to do every little thing, work together and help plan the days to be as smooth as possible.
communicationeven if my wife and i had known about mental load and tried to plan together we would have failed on some levels because our communication wasn't where it needed to be. i definitely think that we have always been way above average in chemistry and communication but having a child will force you to agree really hard impactful things that effect your lifestyle in a way that you don't have to before kids. closet thing i can think of is buying a house with drastically different taste but it's way beyond that. you really end up having to go to the matt often and you end up doing it while exhausted and grouchy for years. we have 3 kids so we were in the trenches for about 7 years or so. for communication i wish we had know about the four horseman framework. my wife and i started using it as a foundation for us and then we introduced it to our kids. it just allows you to agree as a family about what unhealthy communication is and allows you to flag it when it happens in specific ways (you are using contempt right now, etc.). it's not meant to be "to win" arguments, it's meant to help you talk through tough things in productive, unemotional ways. very valuable to us.
https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/smell the flowersfinal thing... it really does go fast and it's super special time. if you enjoy being a parent and taking your kid on summer holiday you get 18 summers, if you like doing santa clause, you've got maybe 8 good seasons, etc. it's easy to get into a state where you overwhelmed but for me it's always been important to remember why i'm doing this and really enjoy each day as much as i can. my daughter is 16 and will be moving on in 2 years and i think about it every day. will miss her so much when she move on.