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No strong views either way, shit happens.
While of course there’s a lot of evidence suggesting that getting married before popping out kids is more ideal for everyone, it’s not like the nuclear family structure is how humans were designed to live.
According to the book Sapiens, when humans were hunter gatherers we roamed fertile areas in colonies of 50-150 people where the entire group raised children and everyone who weren’t biologically related fucked each other.
The concept of marriage only develops after we discovered shit humans aren’t even supposed to do like farming, establish city states, and create economic systems etc.
marriage first. children second. but it doesn't always work that way. single mom is the single greatest predictor of prison later on.
I would suggest you read the book, but you aren’t presenting yourself as someone who is open minded. I hate to go full Gipper on you, because I should be working, but fuck it.
What humans are “supposed to do” is subjective, you’re right about that. Thing is the vast majority of our grievances with existence has been a side effect of the agricultural revolution. Our evolution has yet to catch up, and probably never will.
The homosapien by design are daytime pack hunters and foragers with high stamina, problem solving, and communication skills, but relatively low strength and speed for our size. A lot of our distinguishing features as a species are centered around nomadic group survival.
While we were more likely to be killed by a lion, or falling off a cliff back then, we didn’t have nearly as many diseases and mental illnesses until we became a farming centric species. It’s not like we’re natural farmers either, we were just intelligent enough to figure out how it works. It’s very exhausting work that still required assistance from animals, slavery, and advanced machinery just to maintain demand.
You are also right that tribal people today have a lower quality of life compared to us debating about existence on essentially space technology, but you have to keep in mind that these people exist in a world ravaged by disease, deforestation, pollution, and limited resources. 7 billion humans producing toxic waste on a planet that’s 30% land isn't conducive for tribal living anymore.
You are wrong with the idea that everyone can eat though, in fact there’s still tons on famine and poverty in the world. Both of which didn’t exist until the agricultural revolution.
95% of our societal standards have been established around maintaining food cultivation in one way or another. So when I say the traditional family isn’t really how humans are “supposed to live”, it’s because it’s just one of many schemas established to maintain city states, which were only created to maintain farming.
Also, I wrote this response off of an adderall pill I take to help my ADHD. The ability to shift focus constantly was a survival mechanism when we were hunter gatherers as it helps you spot predators. In a farming centric society it is a great disadvantage that requires treatment of some form or you are deemed as unproductive. Even with evolution tons of people have some form of ADHD, gee I wonder why…
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