James "Chris" Cole is a domestic abuser and ZERO and FALLEN love him

[Oroborus]

Congrats @Oroborus , you are the dipshit of the week.

Oh no, how original you are.  Get a life loser...

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Seriously fuck anyone who abuses other people in any capacity & anyone complicit in not speaking out about said abuse, that's all I have to say...

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I agree with you 100% I was just saying in regards to the echo chamber of SLAP, sometimes it's better to question the status quo than eating everything without questioning it's validity.

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You don't get to claim this is an echo chamber and not respond to my replies to you about how it's not about that. But like i said in my other posts about you, you won't take the time to actually read. You've made up your mind, doing the same thing you accuse others of doing.

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Ok I'll admit that I don't know shit about this topic as yet again I run my trap thinking I am correct in my wrong opinions.

The problem I have is I dont know how think rationally?!

I use anecdotes to doubt validity for the accused. I am a victim blamer

The point of my meth induced perspective is this.

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ohhh.... word

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Once again my point is I am this.

damn keep cooking chef youre killin it around here

[Colin Robinson]

Any of you motherfuckers both sider centrism-ing about this shit better get used to sucking dick, because no women are talking to your incel asses ever, let alone touching you.

[Oroborus]

I take everything I read with a grain of salt, you should too, but that doesn't mean tune out and not listen.  No one would ever learn anything about anything if they thought "It could be wrong, don't want to hear it." or "Once someone else believes it, like a jury, then I'll believe it".  That's the opposite of learning or thinking for yourself.

People who say they NEVER watch the news are also ignorant. It's fine to LIMIT how much news you watch but you should be informed even if it's uncomfortable.

There will be idiots on both sides, even the right side. People can be idiots either way, but don't let that cloud the truth or what YOU think.

Dang, I'll take that perspective...

[GardenSkater77]

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Seriously fuck anyone who abuses other people in any capacity & anyone complicit in not speaking out about said abuse, that's all I have to say...

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I agree with you 100% I was just saying in regards to the echo chamber of SLAP, sometimes it's better to question the status quo than eating everything without questioning it's validity.

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You don't get to claim this is an echo chamber and not respond to my replies to you about how it's not about that. But like i said in my other posts about you, you won't take the time to actually read. You've made up your mind, doing the same thing you accuse others of doing.

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Ok I'll admit that I don't know shit about this topic as yet again I run my trap thinking I am correct in my wrong opinions.

The problem I have is I dont know how think rationally?!

I use anecdotes to doubt validity for the accused. I am a victim blamer

The point of my meth induced perspective is this.

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ohhh.... word

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Once again it seems you've taken the bait for my point of an echo chamber of self deluded smugness and name calling.  I think you dropped this.

Whether Chris Cole abused his wife is not up for debate. She is posting videos telling who ever wants to listen that she tried to kill herself because of constant abuse. Her son and Chris’ son provided a witness statement. Chris is listed at 6’1” and looks to be about 180 lbs. Christine is about 5’3” 120. You mean to tell me she overpowered Chris and scratched his face. How did Chris not stop her from attacking his face? Maybe his hands were around her throat at the time.

My point is, Chris is guilty for allowing things to get so bad that his ex wife’s only outlet was to post a cry for help on social media. If he were a real husband and father he would be taking care of his family. He would have taken care of his problems and stopped abusing his wife, but he quit on his family and forced his wife to ask for help from strangers on the internet. Absolutely pathetic behavior.

[arrbee]

I have stayed off of slap in order to protect myself from the other party in general, but I think I just need to speak for myself at this point.

First- thanks for all the support. Many people on here have been supportive for years, and I so deeply appreciate it.

There are a couple things I want to make so crystal clear:

My original post on instagram about my name was not at all intended to be a takedown of my ex. I have been talking about this abuse for a very long time. It’s not a secret to people who know me, and I had been alluding to it on instagram for years. Nothing ever came of my posts previously, and I didn’t think anything would come of my post in May about my name. I just didn’t think people would give a shit outside of my friends because no one ever has before.

The folks on this messageboard correctly associated it with the interview I did on weekend buzz.  I very much regret ever coming onto slap to defend my ex. Chris was there when I posted in his defense and said, “I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have to do things like this to protect me” He knows. A couple years ago now, I messaged the person who originally called this out for what it was - domestic violence - and thanked him for saying something in the first place. I wish I had felt secure enough in my own life to break away.

Because of my post, plus a clear example of abuse, Chris was dropped from one of his lower level sponsors almost immediately. Not one that pays him, but I think any action from sponsors spooked him, and he then issued a cease and desist demanding I issue a retraction of my post- saying it was all a lie.  I will NOT do that. That is out of the question, but his demanding letter was very clear- post a retraction or else you face hundreds of thousands of dollars in a lawsuit and settlement.  It’s very easy for me to believe that this was a scare tactic designed to make me back down, and it is my BELIEF that his girlfriend set him up with the attorney. (We’re talking about a man that didn’t know how to find his own divorce attorney. I had to do that for him, too.)

At that point, I frantically called attorneys to help me. I have an attorney now, but in order to fight this in court, it will cost me greatly. My hope in releasing evidence was to prove that what I am saying happened really did happen. There is FAR more abuse than I even talk about publicly.  I am only speaking freely about the items that are ironclad in terms of evidence.

More items I will speak on are him raping me the night of Bam Margera’s wedding at the Lowe’s hotel in Philadelphia, Chris threatened to kill my children by driving them into a tree when I confronted him about the horrid conditions they were living in, Chris choking me after threatening to kill me, and Wyatt intervening, Chris pushing me down stairs, Chris breaking a beer bottle into my mouth and cracking my front tooth, and unfortunately more.

Chris knows this is all true. He knows that he cannot prove that I am lying, and thus, not win a defamation suit. His ONLY pathway is to wear me down financially. That means also wearing his children down financially.

I am not a lavish person. I am not after money. I paid money in my divorce to Chris because I had to buy the house. Fair! I’m not complaining about that, but to paint me as a money-grabbing whore is off base to put it simply. If I could trade every cent Chris has to give me for the ability to speak about what happened, I would. He didn’t offer that. I would have taken it, just like when I agreed to not ask for more child support when I gained majority custody.

I have done extensive work in my life to heal and to provide a safe and secure home for my kids.  I am not manipulating them. During this years-long repair attempt, Chris was asked by my daughter’s doctor to attend family therapy for the benefit of my daughter, and he declined.  He regularly declines extra time with my daughter, even though I have offered frequently. I even tried to go to therapy with Chris 1:1 in order to co-parent in a healthy way.  The therapist wouldn’t work with us because Chris was combative and not agreeable to her guidance. I tried.

I am not manipulating my son or my daughter. They witnessed these events. For Chris to call me a liar is also calling his son and daughter liars. It’s vile to watch happen considering what they went through, and the miles they had to walk to get themselves out of it. Since speaking publicly, my kids have had the ability to make connections that were previously unavailable to them because they felt like suppressing these topics was the correct thing to do. That breaks my heart… they’ve been robbed of love, support, healing, and community strength.


The hat:
The photos in my original post were not meant to be understood as evidence. I was telling my story, and doing so in a way that was meant to be simple and easy to understand. The tape in my school photo is also not real, and, if you can believe it, I didn’t hand-write the blue text. These were design decisions. I didn’t want to add in there, “this hat used to say redsy, but I was a little rugrat kid and picked off some of the letters”. It just felt it was too wordy, so I reconstructed the original hat. I would not have done that if I felt for one second that my post would be analyzed. Again- I didn’t think anyone would pay any attention or give a fucking shit about what I was saying. They hadn’t before, why would they now? Chris was originally telling people and my son that it was a Cincinnati’s Red’s hat…. It’s not. My older brother had it made at the wildwood boardwalk. Was he inspired by a Cincinnati Reds hat? Maybe? I was fucking 4 years old… But the idea that a Philadelphia Phillies fan would be caught dead buying any teams hat other than their own is the craziest claim out of all of this. We’re talking about a fan base that turned broad street into a war zone WHEN THEY WON.  (I’m joking around.. it’s just silly)

Since then I have been meticulous about what I post, if I were to photoshop something in order to make my case better, it would have been the bruises from the night of the incident, or Chris’s wording in his messages, or something actually involving evidence. I would not open myself up to legal repercussions with something this serious over a photo reconstruction. (Ps thanks for the compliments on my skillz. With those skills comes the knowledge of how easy a photoshopped image is to detect in forensics/court. I’m not stupid, and wouldn’t ever release evidence that has been tampered with)

What’s odd is- Chris’s photo IS photoshopped. That’s not the original photo. I should have just let that ride out, but I insist on integrity because it is the only real power I have right now. I’m not going to act like him and dodge accountability.

I think it’s very interesting that Chris clarified what he says I’m lying about.  He hasn’t said I’m lying about the evidence… he said I’m lying about the letters on the hat… I guess I can concede that he and I are on the same page with that one.  Also, I was never implying that Chris the first to come up with the impossibly clever idea to call a redhead “red”. I just didn’t like it, and felt it was reductive and sexual. This happened upon our introduction, and not months/weeks into our relationship. It was instant. He had been pining over me for weeks before meeting me, and had an odd obsession with redheads. His mother did, too. Gross.

More on integrity- I am not stuffedroadkill. I know people assume it’s me, but it isn’t. I now know who it is, so I am going to take over.  I appreciate them going to bat for me very much.


What is my end goal?

Well- it was to just be able to tell my story… I just wanted my friends and family to know who the hell I am.  Some of my own family didn’t know this happened.  Telling people 1 by 1 is excruciating and impossible. I’m happy I spoke up in the way that I did. I have found more of a community than I have ever had in my entire life. I am closer to my current friends, and have rekindled lost friendships that were divided by the isolation during my marriage.  In that regard, I succeeded. People can see me now.

NOW I have an even bigger goal. I don’t want to speak about or make promises I can’t keep, but I can say that my goal right now is to find a way to create a system that helps PREVENT domestic violence in this community, educate enough people to identify the warning signs before it’s too late or too far gone, and to hopefully bring in some sort of reporting system that isn’t centered around cancelling someone, but is there to give victims a lifeline in this industry that they so desperately need.  It could serve to get the aggressors help that they desperately need, too! I just don’t want this to happen anymore.

I spent 10 years sitting next to people in the industry that I loved and cared about. I felt like they loved and cared about me, too, and I wanted so desperately to tell them what was happening.  They were RIGHT THERE.  We could have gotten help! But I was too scared that I would ruin my kids lives, I would be retaliated against, or it would just be ignored. I believe that if the owner of the companies that my ex rode for were different, my entire life would have been different. I don’t want that to happen to other victims of this.  I want victims to be able to get help. That’s it.  That’s my goal, now. I often tell my employees, “please try to prepare a solution when you present a problem”, and I’m trying to lead from the front here.

Thanks for reading, sorry it was wordy.

[moonordie]

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Congrats @Oroborus , you are the dipshit of the week.

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Oh no, how original you are.  Get a life loser...

Don't need to be original, just stating a fact of somebody as obnoxious and stupid as you are.

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This thread does not make me feelgood.

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Go somewhere else, this thread ain’t about making you feel good

I think you should go somewhere else with your constant negative comments and verbal abuse towards others. There’s a correct tone and Texas ain’t it partner.

[Texas_Tone]

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This thread does not make me feelgood.

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Go somewhere else, this thread ain’t about making you feel good

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I think you should go somewhere else with your constant negative comments and verbal abuse towards others. There’s a correct tone and Texas ain’t it partner.

lol

Get bent

[Texas_Tone]

I have stayed off of slap in order to protect myself from the other party in general, but I think I just need to speak for myself at this point.

First- thanks for all the support. Many people on here have been supportive for years, and I so deeply appreciate it.

There are a couple things I want to make so crystal clear:

My original post on instagram about my name was not at all intended to be a takedown of my ex. I have been talking about this abuse for a very long time. It’s not a secret to people who know me, and I had been alluding to it on instagram for years. Nothing ever came of my posts previously, and I didn’t think anything would come of my post in May about my name. I just didn’t think people would give a shit outside of my friends because no one ever has before.

The folks on this messageboard correctly associated it with the interview I did on weekend buzz.  I very much regret ever coming onto slap to defend my ex. Chris was there when I posted in his defense and said, “I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have to do things like this to protect me” He knows. A couple years ago now, I messaged the person who originally called this out for what it was - domestic violence - and thanked him for saying something in the first place. I wish I had felt secure enough in my own life to break away.

Because of my post, plus a clear example of abuse, Chris was dropped from one of his lower level sponsors almost immediately. Not one that pays him, but I think any action from sponsors spooked him, and he then issued a cease and desist demanding I issue a retraction of my post- saying it was all a lie.  I will NOT do that. That is out of the question, but his demanding letter was very clear- post a retraction or else you face hundreds of thousands of dollars in a lawsuit and settlement.  It’s very easy for me to believe that this was a scare tactic designed to make me back down, and it is my BELIEF that his girlfriend set him up with the attorney. (We’re talking about a man that didn’t know how to find his own divorce attorney. I had to do that for him, too.)

At that point, I frantically called attorneys to help me. I have an attorney now, but in order to fight this in court, it will cost me greatly. My hope in releasing evidence was to prove that what I am saying happened really did happen. There is FAR more abuse than I even talk about publicly.  I am only speaking freely about the items that are ironclad in terms of evidence.

More items I will speak on are him raping me the night of Bam Margera’s wedding at the Lowe’s hotel in Philadelphia, Chris threatened to kill my children by driving them into a tree when I confronted him about the horrid conditions they were living in, Chris choking me after threatening to kill me, and Wyatt intervening, Chris pushing me down stairs, Chris breaking a beer bottle into my mouth and cracking my front tooth, and unfortunately more.

Chris knows this is all true. He knows that he cannot prove that I am lying, and thus, not win a defamation suit. His ONLY pathway is to wear me down financially. That means also wearing his children down financially.

I am not a lavish person. I am not after money. I paid money in my divorce to Chris because I had to buy the house. Fair! I’m not complaining about that, but to paint me as a money-grabbing whore is off base to put it simply. If I could trade every cent Chris has to give me for the ability to speak about what happened, I would. He didn’t offer that. I would have taken it, just like when I agreed to not ask for more child support when I gained majority custody.

I have done extensive work in my life to heal and to provide a safe and secure home for my kids.  I am not manipulating them. During this years-long repair attempt, Chris was asked by my daughter’s doctor to attend family therapy for the benefit of my daughter, and he declined.  He regularly declines extra time with my daughter, even though I have offered frequently. I even tried to go to therapy with Chris 1:1 in order to co-parent in a healthy way.  The therapist wouldn’t work with us because Chris was combative and not agreeable to her guidance. I tried.

I am not manipulating my son or my daughter. They witnessed these events. For Chris to call me a liar is also calling his son and daughter liars. It’s vile to watch happen considering what they went through, and the miles they had to walk to get themselves out of it. Since speaking publicly, my kids have had the ability to make connections that were previously unavailable to them because they felt like suppressing these topics was the correct thing to do. That breaks my heart… they’ve been robbed of love, support, healing, and community strength.


The hat:
The photos in my original post were not meant to be understood as evidence. I was telling my story, and doing so in a way that was meant to be simple and easy to understand. The tape in my school photo is also not real, and, if you can believe it, I didn’t hand-write the blue text. These were design decisions. I didn’t want to add in there, “this hat used to say redsy, but I was a little rugrat kid and picked off some of the letters”. It just felt it was too wordy, so I reconstructed the original hat. I would not have done that if I felt for one second that my post would be analyzed. Again- I didn’t think anyone would pay any attention or give a fucking shit about what I was saying. They hadn’t before, why would they now? Chris was originally telling people and my son that it was a Cincinnati’s Red’s hat…. It’s not. My older brother had it made at the wildwood boardwalk. Was he inspired by a Cincinnati Reds hat? Maybe? I was fucking 4 years old… But the idea that a Philadelphia Phillies fan would be caught dead buying any teams hat other than their own is the craziest claim out of all of this. We’re talking about a fan base that turned broad street into a war zone WHEN THEY WON.  (I’m joking around.. it’s just silly)

Since then I have been meticulous about what I post, if I were to photoshop something in order to make my case better, it would have been the bruises from the night of the incident, or Chris’s wording in his messages, or something actually involving evidence. I would not open myself up to legal repercussions with something this serious over a photo reconstruction. (Ps thanks for the compliments on my skillz. With those skills comes the knowledge of how easy a photoshopped image is to detect in forensics/court. I’m not stupid, and wouldn’t ever release evidence that has been tampered with)

What’s odd is- Chris’s photo IS photoshopped. That’s not the original photo. I should have just let that ride out, but I insist on integrity because it is the only real power I have right now. I’m not going to act like him and dodge accountability.

I think it’s very interesting that Chris clarified what he says I’m lying about.  He hasn’t said I’m lying about the evidence… he said I’m lying about the letters on the hat… I guess I can concede that he and I are on the same page with that one.  Also, I was never implying that Chris the first to come up with the impossibly clever idea to call a redhead “red”. I just didn’t like it, and felt it was reductive and sexual. This happened upon our introduction, and not months/weeks into our relationship. It was instant. He had been pining over me for weeks before meeting me, and had an odd obsession with redheads. His mother did, too. Gross.

More on integrity- I am not stuffedroadkill. I know people assume it’s me, but it isn’t. I now know who it is, so I am going to take over.  I appreciate them going to bat for me very much.


What is my end goal?

Well- it was to just be able to tell my story… I just wanted my friends and family to know who the hell I am.  Some of my own family didn’t know this happened.  Telling people 1 by 1 is excruciating and impossible. I’m happy I spoke up in the way that I did. I have found more of a community than I have ever had in my entire life. I am closer to my current friends, and have rekindled lost friendships that were divided by the isolation during my marriage.  In that regard, I succeeded. People can see me now.

NOW I have an even bigger goal. I don’t want to speak about or make promises I can’t keep, but I can say that my goal right now is to find a way to create a system that helps PREVENT domestic violence in this community, educate enough people to identify the warning signs before it’s too late or too far gone, and to hopefully bring in some sort of reporting system that isn’t centered around cancelling someone, but is there to give victims a lifeline in this industry that they so desperately need.  It could serve to get the aggressors help that they desperately need, too! I just don’t want this to happen anymore.

I spent 10 years sitting next to people in the industry that I loved and cared about. I felt like they loved and cared about me, too, and I wanted so desperately to tell them what was happening.  They were RIGHT THERE.  We could have gotten help! But I was too scared that I would ruin my kids lives, I would be retaliated against, or it would just be ignored. I believe that if the owner of the companies that my ex rode for were different, my entire life would have been different. I don’t want that to happen to other victims of this.  I want victims to be able to get help. That’s it.  That’s my goal, now. I often tell my employees, “please try to prepare a solution when you present a problem”, and I’m trying to lead from the front here.

Thanks for reading, sorry it was wordy.

[Texas_Tone]

I have stayed off of slap in order to protect myself from the other party in general, but I think I just need to speak for myself at this point.

First- thanks for all the support. Many people on here have been supportive for years, and I so deeply appreciate it.

There are a couple things I want to make so crystal clear:

My original post on instagram about my name was not at all intended to be a takedown of my ex. I have been talking about this abuse for a very long time. It’s not a secret to people who know me, and I had been alluding to it on instagram for years. Nothing ever came of my posts previously, and I didn’t think anything would come of my post in May about my name. I just didn’t think people would give a shit outside of my friends because no one ever has before.

The folks on this messageboard correctly associated it with the interview I did on weekend buzz.  I very much regret ever coming onto slap to defend my ex. Chris was there when I posted in his defense and said, “I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have to do things like this to protect me” He knows. A couple years ago now, I messaged the person who originally called this out for what it was - domestic violence - and thanked him for saying something in the first place. I wish I had felt secure enough in my own life to break away.

Because of my post, plus a clear example of abuse, Chris was dropped from one of his lower level sponsors almost immediately. Not one that pays him, but I think any action from sponsors spooked him, and he then issued a cease and desist demanding I issue a retraction of my post- saying it was all a lie.  I will NOT do that. That is out of the question, but his demanding letter was very clear- post a retraction or else you face hundreds of thousands of dollars in a lawsuit and settlement.  It’s very easy for me to believe that this was a scare tactic designed to make me back down, and it is my BELIEF that his girlfriend set him up with the attorney. (We’re talking about a man that didn’t know how to find his own divorce attorney. I had to do that for him, too.)

At that point, I frantically called attorneys to help me. I have an attorney now, but in order to fight this in court, it will cost me greatly. My hope in releasing evidence was to prove that what I am saying happened really did happen. There is FAR more abuse than I even talk about publicly.  I am only speaking freely about the items that are ironclad in terms of evidence.

More items I will speak on are him raping me the night of Bam Margera’s wedding at the Lowe’s hotel in Philadelphia, Chris threatened to kill my children by driving them into a tree when I confronted him about the horrid conditions they were living in, Chris choking me after threatening to kill me, and Wyatt intervening, Chris pushing me down stairs, Chris breaking a beer bottle into my mouth and cracking my front tooth, and unfortunately more.

Chris knows this is all true. He knows that he cannot prove that I am lying, and thus, not win a defamation suit. His ONLY pathway is to wear me down financially. That means also wearing his children down financially.

I am not a lavish person. I am not after money. I paid money in my divorce to Chris because I had to buy the house. Fair! I’m not complaining about that, but to paint me as a money-grabbing whore is off base to put it simply. If I could trade every cent Chris has to give me for the ability to speak about what happened, I would. He didn’t offer that. I would have taken it, just like when I agreed to not ask for more child support when I gained majority custody.

I have done extensive work in my life to heal and to provide a safe and secure home for my kids.  I am not manipulating them. During this years-long repair attempt, Chris was asked by my daughter’s doctor to attend family therapy for the benefit of my daughter, and he declined.  He regularly declines extra time with my daughter, even though I have offered frequently. I even tried to go to therapy with Chris 1:1 in order to co-parent in a healthy way.  The therapist wouldn’t work with us because Chris was combative and not agreeable to her guidance. I tried.

I am not manipulating my son or my daughter. They witnessed these events. For Chris to call me a liar is also calling his son and daughter liars. It’s vile to watch happen considering what they went through, and the miles they had to walk to get themselves out of it. Since speaking publicly, my kids have had the ability to make connections that were previously unavailable to them because they felt like suppressing these topics was the correct thing to do. That breaks my heart… they’ve been robbed of love, support, healing, and community strength.


The hat:
The photos in my original post were not meant to be understood as evidence. I was telling my story, and doing so in a way that was meant to be simple and easy to understand. The tape in my school photo is also not real, and, if you can believe it, I didn’t hand-write the blue text. These were design decisions. I didn’t want to add in there, “this hat used to say redsy, but I was a little rugrat kid and picked off some of the letters”. It just felt it was too wordy, so I reconstructed the original hat. I would not have done that if I felt for one second that my post would be analyzed. Again- I didn’t think anyone would pay any attention or give a fucking shit about what I was saying. They hadn’t before, why would they now? Chris was originally telling people and my son that it was a Cincinnati’s Red’s hat…. It’s not. My older brother had it made at the wildwood boardwalk. Was he inspired by a Cincinnati Reds hat? Maybe? I was fucking 4 years old… But the idea that a Philadelphia Phillies fan would be caught dead buying any teams hat other than their own is the craziest claim out of all of this. We’re talking about a fan base that turned broad street into a war zone WHEN THEY WON.  (I’m joking around.. it’s just silly)

Since then I have been meticulous about what I post, if I were to photoshop something in order to make my case better, it would have been the bruises from the night of the incident, or Chris’s wording in his messages, or something actually involving evidence. I would not open myself up to legal repercussions with something this serious over a photo reconstruction. (Ps thanks for the compliments on my skillz. With those skills comes the knowledge of how easy a photoshopped image is to detect in forensics/court. I’m not stupid, and wouldn’t ever release evidence that has been tampered with)

What’s odd is- Chris’s photo IS photoshopped. That’s not the original photo. I should have just let that ride out, but I insist on integrity because it is the only real power I have right now. I’m not going to act like him and dodge accountability.

I think it’s very interesting that Chris clarified what he says I’m lying about.  He hasn’t said I’m lying about the evidence… he said I’m lying about the letters on the hat… I guess I can concede that he and I are on the same page with that one.  Also, I was never implying that Chris the first to come up with the impossibly clever idea to call a redhead “red”. I just didn’t like it, and felt it was reductive and sexual. This happened upon our introduction, and not months/weeks into our relationship. It was instant. He had been pining over me for weeks before meeting me, and had an odd obsession with redheads. His mother did, too. Gross.

More on integrity- I am not stuffedroadkill. I know people assume it’s me, but it isn’t. I now know who it is, so I am going to take over.  I appreciate them going to bat for me very much.


What is my end goal?

Well- it was to just be able to tell my story… I just wanted my friends and family to know who the hell I am.  Some of my own family didn’t know this happened.  Telling people 1 by 1 is excruciating and impossible. I’m happy I spoke up in the way that I did. I have found more of a community than I have ever had in my entire life. I am closer to my current friends, and have rekindled lost friendships that were divided by the isolation during my marriage.  In that regard, I succeeded. People can see me now.

NOW I have an even bigger goal. I don’t want to speak about or make promises I can’t keep, but I can say that my goal right now is to find a way to create a system that helps PREVENT domestic violence in this community, educate enough people to identify the warning signs before it’s too late or too far gone, and to hopefully bring in some sort of reporting system that isn’t centered around cancelling someone, but is there to give victims a lifeline in this industry that they so desperately need.  It could serve to get the aggressors help that they desperately need, too! I just don’t want this to happen anymore.

I spent 10 years sitting next to people in the industry that I loved and cared about. I felt like they loved and cared about me, too, and I wanted so desperately to tell them what was happening.  They were RIGHT THERE.  We could have gotten help! But I was too scared that I would ruin my kids lives, I would be retaliated against, or it would just be ignored. I believe that if the owner of the companies that my ex rode for were different, my entire life would have been different. I don’t want that to happen to other victims of this.  I want victims to be able to get help. That’s it.  That’s my goal, now. I often tell my employees, “please try to prepare a solution when you present a problem”, and I’m trying to lead from the front here.

Thanks for reading, sorry it was wordy.

[Ninj2]

Dude drive around with the statutory rape laws by county in his glove box and met her when she was 12.
He as bad as fucking neil Hendrix right there. How did this fool even get the pass to become soty is crazy and just goes to show you how stupid skate world is. They quiet cuz they done the same kinda nasty shit.

[ElonMuskaBeats]

Once again, slap manages to completely de-legitimize a serious situation with dumb arguments and name calling. Good job!

[Colin Robinson]

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Dude drive around with the statutory rape laws by county in his glove box and met her when she was 12.
He as bad as fucking neil Hendrix right there. How did this fool even get the pass to become soty is crazy and just goes to show you how stupid skate world is. They quiet cuz they done the same kinda nasty shit.

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I didn't even know about Neil until you said that and I looked it up, wtf https://www.jenkemmag.com/home/2018/10/29/understanding-neal-hendrix-allegations-power-dynamics-skateboarding/

You're right about them being quiet because they don't want their own dirty laundry aired out. There's no other good reason they wouldn't call this stuff out if they felt in the clear themselves. There have been SO MANY pro skaters names who have come up since this thread started, many that I never new about like Neil, Brian Patch, Dane, and others.

There needs to be a wikipedia page with a list of all of them at this point. Not saying they should all be blacklisted from everything for life, but we deserve to know who we are following, buying product for, telling our kids are our favorite skater, and so on.  Would love to see a table with name and allegations and current sponsors if any.

Be the change you wish to see online. Make a website and name names, make a profile on a social media site and name names, make a blog and name names. You can do it.

The Hendrix shit was old news and comes up every time Woodward is brought up on Slap.

[Shtonk]

Jesus fucking Christ good riddance and back to the main topic.

[someplacedark]

Don Brown hangs with Brian Patch and his real name isn't even "Don".

[Christ Puncher]

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Dude drive around with the statutory rape laws by county in his glove box and met her when she was 12.
He as bad as fucking neil Hendrix right there. How did this fool even get the pass to become soty is crazy and just goes to show you how stupid skate world is. They quiet cuz they done the same kinda nasty shit.

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I didn't even know about Neil until you said that and I looked it up, wtf https://www.jenkemmag.com/home/2018/10/29/understanding-neal-hendrix-allegations-power-dynamics-skateboarding/

You're right about them being quiet because they don't want their own dirty laundry aired out. There's no other good reason they wouldn't call this stuff out if they felt in the clear themselves. There have been SO MANY pro skaters names who have come up since this thread started, many that I never new about like Neil, Brian Patch, Dane, and others.

There needs to be a wikipedia page with a list of all of them at this point. Not saying they should all be blacklisted from everything for life, but we deserve to know who we are following, buying product for, telling our kids are our favorite skater, and so on.  Would love to see a table with name and allegations and current sponsors if any.

I don't want to be rude but you're absolutely fried. If you're wondering why this topic has become easy to ignore outside of this place, it's honestly stupid statements like that. You're seriously suggesting that the only conceivable reason that people aren't speaking out against Chris Cole is because... they're either abusers or pedophiles? I don't think you understand the situation and I don't think you have the capacity to look beyond your own perception of what's going. I'd suggest you seriously consider the advice that quite a few others have given you, which is to find something more productive to do with your time.

I think there are a handful of people with good intentions that are only serving to harm this cause.

[noseplant]

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Dude drive around with the statutory rape laws by county in his glove box and met her when she was 12.
He as bad as fucking neil Hendrix right there. How did this fool even get the pass to become soty is crazy and just goes to show you how stupid skate world is. They quiet cuz they done the same kinda nasty shit.

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I didn't even know about Neil until you said that and I looked it up, wtf https://www.jenkemmag.com/home/2018/10/29/understanding-neal-hendrix-allegations-power-dynamics-skateboarding/

You're right about them being quiet because they don't want their own dirty laundry aired out. There's no other good reason they wouldn't call this stuff out if they felt in the clear themselves. There have been SO MANY pro skaters names who have come up since this thread started, many that I never new about like Neil, Brian Patch, Dane, and others.

There needs to be a wikipedia page with a list of all of them at this point. Not saying they should all be blacklisted from everything for life, but we deserve to know who we are following, buying product for, telling our kids are our favorite skater, and so on.  Would love to see a table with name and allegations and current sponsors if any.

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I don't want to be rude but you're absolutely fried. If you're wondering why this topic has become easy to ignore outside of this place, it's honestly stupid statements like that. You're seriously suggesting that the only conceivable reason that people aren't speaking out against Chris Cole is because... they're either abusers or pedophiles? I don't think you understand the situation and I don't think you have the capacity to look beyond your own perception of what's going. I'd suggest you seriously consider the advice that quite a few others have given you, which is to find something more productive to do with your time.

I think there are a handful of people with good intentions that are only serving to harm this cause.

I wasn't being extremely serious about that but pointing out that there are a shocking amount of well known pros who have really bad accusations and even convictions.

Anyway, I do take this seriously. So much so that I will stop posting about it since I'm clearly not helping. While I think the only anger should be directed at Cole and those trying to silence the story, I'll support it in some other fashion. Cheers.

[A Not At All Naughty Chemist]

[Mallie]

Please gnar this man above for me.

God only knows how many times have I used that "allegedly, but also, really" line in my life. And it's especially appropriate in situations like thesr.

[Esmith5488]

Please gnar this man above for me.

God only knows how many times have I used that "allegedly, but also, really" line in my life. And it's especially appropriate in situations like thesr.

got ya

[Shtonk]

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Dude drive around with the statutory rape laws by county in his glove box and met her when she was 12.
He as bad as fucking neil Hendrix right there. How did this fool even get the pass to become soty is crazy and just goes to show you how stupid skate world is. They quiet cuz they done the same kinda nasty shit.

[close]

I didn't even know about Neil until you said that and I looked it up, wtf https://www.jenkemmag.com/home/2018/10/29/understanding-neal-hendrix-allegations-power-dynamics-skateboarding/

You're right about them being quiet because they don't want their own dirty laundry aired out. There's no other good reason they wouldn't call this stuff out if they felt in the clear themselves. There have been SO MANY pro skaters names who have come up since this thread started, many that I never new about like Neil, Brian Patch, Dane, and others.

There needs to be a wikipedia page with a list of all of them at this point. Not saying they should all be blacklisted from everything for life, but we deserve to know who we are following, buying product for, telling our kids are our favorite skater, and so on.  Would love to see a table with name and allegations and current sponsors if any.

[close]

I don't want to be rude but you're absolutely fried. If you're wondering why this topic has become easy to ignore outside of this place, it's honestly stupid statements like that. You're seriously suggesting that the only conceivable reason that people aren't speaking out against Chris Cole is because... they're either abusers or pedophiles? I don't think you understand the situation and I don't think you have the capacity to look beyond your own perception of what's going. I'd suggest you seriously consider the advice that quite a few others have given you, which is to find something more productive to do with your time.

I think there are a handful of people with good intentions that are only serving to harm this cause.

Honestly people like you coming in and trying to lay blame on those whose only crime is doing a little too much is the most cowardly and low you can get. At least own up and spit your agenda straight out like all those banned before you. Measly little turd. @noseplant don't let that shit get to you, but also so chill out a little much love

[Colin Robinson]

We were robbed of Norm's reaction to OJ's death, RIP legend

[Texas_Tone]

I have stayed off of slap in order to protect myself from the other party in general, but I think I just need to speak for myself at this point.

First- thanks for all the support. Many people on here have been supportive for years, and I so deeply appreciate it.

There are a couple things I want to make so crystal clear:

My original post on instagram about my name was not at all intended to be a takedown of my ex. I have been talking about this abuse for a very long time. It’s not a secret to people who know me, and I had been alluding to it on instagram for years. Nothing ever came of my posts previously, and I didn’t think anything would come of my post in May about my name. I just didn’t think people would give a shit outside of my friends because no one ever has before.

The folks on this messageboard correctly associated it with the interview I did on weekend buzz.  I very much regret ever coming onto slap to defend my ex. Chris was there when I posted in his defense and said, “I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have to do things like this to protect me” He knows. A couple years ago now, I messaged the person who originally called this out for what it was - domestic violence - and thanked him for saying something in the first place. I wish I had felt secure enough in my own life to break away.

Because of my post, plus a clear example of abuse, Chris was dropped from one of his lower level sponsors almost immediately. Not one that pays him, but I think any action from sponsors spooked him, and he then issued a cease and desist demanding I issue a retraction of my post- saying it was all a lie.  I will NOT do that. That is out of the question, but his demanding letter was very clear- post a retraction or else you face hundreds of thousands of dollars in a lawsuit and settlement.  It’s very easy for me to believe that this was a scare tactic designed to make me back down, and it is my BELIEF that his girlfriend set him up with the attorney. (We’re talking about a man that didn’t know how to find his own divorce attorney. I had to do that for him, too.)

At that point, I frantically called attorneys to help me. I have an attorney now, but in order to fight this in court, it will cost me greatly. My hope in releasing evidence was to prove that what I am saying happened really did happen. There is FAR more abuse than I even talk about publicly.  I am only speaking freely about the items that are ironclad in terms of evidence.

More items I will speak on are him raping me the night of Bam Margera’s wedding at the Lowe’s hotel in Philadelphia, Chris threatened to kill my children by driving them into a tree when I confronted him about the horrid conditions they were living in, Chris choking me after threatening to kill me, and Wyatt intervening, Chris pushing me down stairs, Chris breaking a beer bottle into my mouth and cracking my front tooth, and unfortunately more.

Chris knows this is all true. He knows that he cannot prove that I am lying, and thus, not win a defamation suit. His ONLY pathway is to wear me down financially. That means also wearing his children down financially.

I am not a lavish person. I am not after money. I paid money in my divorce to Chris because I had to buy the house. Fair! I’m not complaining about that, but to paint me as a money-grabbing whore is off base to put it simply. If I could trade every cent Chris has to give me for the ability to speak about what happened, I would. He didn’t offer that. I would have taken it, just like when I agreed to not ask for more child support when I gained majority custody.

I have done extensive work in my life to heal and to provide a safe and secure home for my kids.  I am not manipulating them. During this years-long repair attempt, Chris was asked by my daughter’s doctor to attend family therapy for the benefit of my daughter, and he declined.  He regularly declines extra time with my daughter, even though I have offered frequently. I even tried to go to therapy with Chris 1:1 in order to co-parent in a healthy way.  The therapist wouldn’t work with us because Chris was combative and not agreeable to her guidance. I tried.

I am not manipulating my son or my daughter. They witnessed these events. For Chris to call me a liar is also calling his son and daughter liars. It’s vile to watch happen considering what they went through, and the miles they had to walk to get themselves out of it. Since speaking publicly, my kids have had the ability to make connections that were previously unavailable to them because they felt like suppressing these topics was the correct thing to do. That breaks my heart… they’ve been robbed of love, support, healing, and community strength.


The hat:
The photos in my original post were not meant to be understood as evidence. I was telling my story, and doing so in a way that was meant to be simple and easy to understand. The tape in my school photo is also not real, and, if you can believe it, I didn’t hand-write the blue text. These were design decisions. I didn’t want to add in there, “this hat used to say redsy, but I was a little rugrat kid and picked off some of the letters”. It just felt it was too wordy, so I reconstructed the original hat. I would not have done that if I felt for one second that my post would be analyzed. Again- I didn’t think anyone would pay any attention or give a fucking shit about what I was saying. They hadn’t before, why would they now? Chris was originally telling people and my son that it was a Cincinnati’s Red’s hat…. It’s not. My older brother had it made at the wildwood boardwalk. Was he inspired by a Cincinnati Reds hat? Maybe? I was fucking 4 years old… But the idea that a Philadelphia Phillies fan would be caught dead buying any teams hat other than their own is the craziest claim out of all of this. We’re talking about a fan base that turned broad street into a war zone WHEN THEY WON.  (I’m joking around.. it’s just silly)

Since then I have been meticulous about what I post, if I were to photoshop something in order to make my case better, it would have been the bruises from the night of the incident, or Chris’s wording in his messages, or something actually involving evidence. I would not open myself up to legal repercussions with something this serious over a photo reconstruction. (Ps thanks for the compliments on my skillz. With those skills comes the knowledge of how easy a photoshopped image is to detect in forensics/court. I’m not stupid, and wouldn’t ever release evidence that has been tampered with)

What’s odd is- Chris’s photo IS photoshopped. That’s not the original photo. I should have just let that ride out, but I insist on integrity because it is the only real power I have right now. I’m not going to act like him and dodge accountability.

I think it’s very interesting that Chris clarified what he says I’m lying about.  He hasn’t said I’m lying about the evidence… he said I’m lying about the letters on the hat… I guess I can concede that he and I are on the same page with that one.  Also, I was never implying that Chris the first to come up with the impossibly clever idea to call a redhead “red”. I just didn’t like it, and felt it was reductive and sexual. This happened upon our introduction, and not months/weeks into our relationship. It was instant. He had been pining over me for weeks before meeting me, and had an odd obsession with redheads. His mother did, too. Gross.

More on integrity- I am not stuffedroadkill. I know people assume it’s me, but it isn’t. I now know who it is, so I am going to take over.  I appreciate them going to bat for me very much.


What is my end goal?

Well- it was to just be able to tell my story… I just wanted my friends and family to know who the hell I am.  Some of my own family didn’t know this happened.  Telling people 1 by 1 is excruciating and impossible. I’m happy I spoke up in the way that I did. I have found more of a community than I have ever had in my entire life. I am closer to my current friends, and have rekindled lost friendships that were divided by the isolation during my marriage.  In that regard, I succeeded. People can see me now.

NOW I have an even bigger goal. I don’t want to speak about or make promises I can’t keep, but I can say that my goal right now is to find a way to create a system that helps PREVENT domestic violence in this community, educate enough people to identify the warning signs before it’s too late or too far gone, and to hopefully bring in some sort of reporting system that isn’t centered around cancelling someone, but is there to give victims a lifeline in this industry that they so desperately need.  It could serve to get the aggressors help that they desperately need, too! I just don’t want this to happen anymore.

I spent 10 years sitting next to people in the industry that I loved and cared about. I felt like they loved and cared about me, too, and I wanted so desperately to tell them what was happening.  They were RIGHT THERE.  We could have gotten help! But I was too scared that I would ruin my kids lives, I would be retaliated against, or it would just be ignored. I believe that if the owner of the companies that my ex rode for were different, my entire life would have been different. I don’t want that to happen to other victims of this.  I want victims to be able to get help. That’s it.  That’s my goal, now. I often tell my employees, “please try to prepare a solution when you present a problem”, and I’m trying to lead from the front here.

Thanks for reading, sorry it was wordy.

[noseplant]

Texas_Tone I appreciate the support.  At the end of the day skaters want to "have fun and get paid" (who doesn't) and right now even more so while on summer vacation - so no responsibility or accountability in site.   

The right people aren't seeing what I'm posting here, just preaching to the choir, so I might as well just stop posting about it. no one's show will have more impact and it's also nice to see him having Rosenberg on talking about serious issues too.  The other overly childish adults in skateboarding, who don't think important issues are worth talking about can fuck off. I will be voting with my dollars. Felt good not posting all day (until now). Be seeing you.

[Texas_Tone]

That was shtonk @noseplant but I back you too bro

[Buttholesurfer]

 I went on James coles Instagram and it’s being bombarded with people saying he sucks. I wonder when he’s gonna focus his account.

[moonordie]

I went on James coles Instagram and it’s being bombarded with people saying he sucks. I wonder when he’s gonna focus his account.

I'd love to see that

[someplacedark]

He's going to move to Austin with Whitney so he can get away from "cancel culture" and hide from the consequences of his actions while she can be an "unwoke" comedian. Then he will eventually snap on her and her kid and she will leave him and he will be broke with nothing, in Texas.

[Ghost Face]

This store didn't get the memo about any of this.