Things You Are Stoked On But Not Stoked On

[SodaJerk]

Well when you know the rest of the details I can see that our remarks may have come of flippant however it s still my belief that you need to make a break from her. It's all good to be there for someone but eventually you have to make a choice of her sanity or yours because she doesn't sound like she has your interests at heart regardless of her diminished capacity for rational thinking.

Good luck man.

[silhouette]

Thanks man, yeah that's exactly where I'm at now, I've figured. I'll make it, I'm not worried. Much appreciated.

[Mystical Leader]

Good luck and stay strong silhouette!

Stoked my ex is moving out and now I will have all this extra room for activities! I make me a little work space to do my arts and crafts.

Not stoked, no breakup sex at all though maybe it's a good thing.. This place is a bit too expensive for me but I like the place and don't want move. Also feeling a bit lonely but everything will work out.

So 50/50 on life for now.

[Bruh Man]

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Promise me you'll ghost on her immediately when your holiday finishes.

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Promise us all

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I honestly can't tell whether you guys are genuinely concerned about me (really appreciate it if you are) or making light of the situation (probably a bit of both - this is SLAP). But in case you really want to know, that will qualify as 'ghosting on her' less than it will as running for my dear life. Three days of almost non-stop sex in, here she was already talking marriage (and trying to get me to buy her more of those expensive Repetto's), all the while the both of us knowing she's leaving on a two-week camping trip with her new dude (also a schizophrenic she met at the day clinic she goes to; 39, no job, still lives at his parents', socially inept and irresponsible) as soon as we get back.

We broke up fairly recently (after she started sleeping with that dude, showing no will to ever stop and actually blaming me for caring so much about what is a completely normal everyday situation isn't it?), but she still lives at my place and only shows weak signs of willing to leave. She's not on the lease so technically I could kick her out anytime and she'd become that other dude's problem but in reality I can't see myself doing that because of her mental condition; that is no excuse for me suffering, but a lot of this she hasn't been asking for and stems from her cognitive handicap so I'm trying to be a responsible adult about this and in the meantime we're sleeping in separate bedrooms like the mere flatmates we now are. This Mexico trip we had booked together six months in advance, investing thousands in flights, hotels and tours with no return policies; after I learned about her affairs just prior to leaving, for a while I considered ditching everything till the very last minute (literally two hours before having to see her leave by herself) when I eventually thought 'ah, fuck it'.

I've known that person for eight years before her schizophrenia broke out, experienced living through one another with her for the best and worst (from taking her around the world to rescuing her from suicide attempts countless times), and seen her gradually sink down that spiral; for years I've tried to be there for her, sacrificed many relationships and career opportunities and generally invested a lot of myself into trying to make this work against all odds. Unfortunately I couldn't save it; now it's become absolutely unbearable for the both of us and I've got to walk away from it in the name of self-respect, if not basic sanity. I'm strong, I'll make it and I have no regrets but yeah, of course I'm disappointed.

Of course I've always respected your skating, but as someone who supports people with similar diagnoses for a living, I gotta give you mad props for your efforts and sacrifices over the years to try and be there for her. Slap's rad.

Not stoked I kinda rolled my ankle yesterday, stoked I had already taken a step so the roll wasn't me coming down full force on it. Prolly be out for a week at most hopefully.

[silhouette]

thanks for the kind words and encouragement. Mystical Leader I wish I were at your stage already; first thing I'll do as soon as mine moves out will be turning the empty space into an art studio too. I've always wanted that kind of space, but she's always invaded everything with her own stuff (even a few years back after we moved into a bigger apartment with an extra room specifically for that reason, ha). Never count on break-up sex too much, if anything use the extra frustration as a boost to move on and clear your head even quicker!

Bruh Man that is a very honorable profession to have. I'd be interested in knowing what you do exactly; never hesitate to DM if you feel like chit chatting about it. to be fair about my relationship, it hasn't all been suffering and I think I've actually greatly benefited from the experience as a person; it's taught me a lot about empathy and broadened my perspective on many subjects. basically taught me not to be an egoistical, conceited piece of shit except on here occasionally when I'll write such paragraphs about myself, it's the only place I'll do it (and even then I'll be concerned about taking up space). wishing you a quick recovery; ice and raise that shit!

[OldieButFrenchie]

well since we're on the subject of relationship trouble........
My marriage has been wobbly as fuck for 6 months. My significant other lost her mom abruptly and that has sent her in real bad spiral. My behavior has not always been up to par to help her in this, but she is also extremely difficult to deal with since then.

So:
stoked I'm not divorced yet.
Not stoked we are going through a real rough patch. Worst we ever had.

We have 2 kids and that changes everything I feel. If we didn't we probably would have split up already. No idea why I'm writing this here but you guys' situation inspired me to share my own I guess.
Good luck to all!

[Yu Dum]

Woke up about 15 minutes before my alarm went off, but only to go shit my brains out.

[the snake]

Courage oldie, hang in there !

[OldieButFrenchie]

thanks!! appreciated   

[silhouette]

yeah Frenchie, best wishes. courage mec, accroche-toi, ça va le faire !

[FrenchFriedClownFingers]

starting a new job next thursday.

ankle is still fucked, this friday will make it a month since i've done anything other than push around. i wish this shit would heal faster.

[iKobrakai]

Some crazy shit in here...

[Bruh Man]

thanks for the kind words and encouragement. Mystical Leader I wish I were at your stage already; first thing I'll do as soon as mine moves out will be turning the empty space into an art studio too. I've always wanted that kind of space, but she's always invaded everything with her own stuff (even a few years back after we moved into a bigger apartment with an extra room specifically for that reason, ha). Never count on break-up sex too much, if anything use the extra frustration as a boost to move on and clear your head even quicker!

Bruh Man that is a very honorable profession to have. I'd be interested in knowing what you do exactly; never hesitate to DM if you feel like chit chatting about it. to be fair about my relationship, it hasn't all been suffering and I think I've actually greatly benefited from the experience as a person; it's taught me a lot about empathy and broadened my perspective on many subjects. basically taught me not to be an egoistical, conceited piece of shit except on here occasionally when I'll write such paragraphs about myself, it's the only place I'll do it (and even then I'll be concerned about taking up space). wishing you a quick recovery; ice and raise that shit!

Thanks! Walking around on it today, hoping to at least ride around with an old friend tomorrow.

Although my experience comes from work, I gotta echo your sentiments about growing and learning so much from it all! So much self-reflection.

No conceit at all, you keep it mad humble for sure!

[Bruh Man]

well since we're on the subject of relationship trouble........
My marriage has been wobbly as fuck for 6 months. My significant other lost her mom abruptly and that has sent her in real bad spiral. My behavior has not always been up to par to help her in this, but she is also extremely difficult to deal with since then.

So:
stoked I'm not divorced yet.
Not stoked we are going through a real rough patch. Worst we ever had.

We have 2 kids and that changes everything I feel. If we didn't we probably would have split up already. No idea why I'm writing this here but you guys' situation inspired me to share my own I guess.
Good luck to all!

Way easier to sympathize through a phone screen than live through what you're living no doubt, but at the very least, you've acknowledged you're not perfect and maybe this worst patch will be a testament to the strength of your relationship in the end.

[brycickle]

well since we're on the subject of relationship trouble........
My marriage has been wobbly as fuck for 6 months. My significant other lost her mom abruptly and that has sent her in real bad spiral. My behavior has not always been up to par to help her in this, but she is also extremely difficult to deal with since then.

So:
stoked I'm not divorced yet.
Not stoked we are going through a real rough patch. Worst we ever had.

We have 2 kids and that changes everything I feel. If we didn't we probably would have split up already. No idea why I'm writing this here but you guys' situation inspired me to share my own I guess.
Good luck to all!

Go talk to someone as a couple. My wife and I had some seriously critical issues with our relationship a couple of years ago. Talking to a third, objective party about our issues and how to communicate them, is the only way we made it through. That said, you both have to be prepared to talk about shit you may not feel comfortable with, listen to things you don't want to hear, and be open to making adjustments in how you define your relationship.

[OldieButFrenchie]

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well since we're on the subject of relationship trouble........
My marriage has been wobbly as fuck for 6 months. My significant other lost her mom abruptly and that has sent her in real bad spiral. My behavior has not always been up to par to help her in this, but she is also extremely difficult to deal with since then.

So:
stoked I'm not divorced yet.
Not stoked we are going through a real rough patch. Worst we ever had.

We have 2 kids and that changes everything I feel. If we didn't we probably would have split up already. No idea why I'm writing this here but you guys' situation inspired me to share my own I guess.
Good luck to all!

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Go talk to someone as a couple. My wife and I had some seriously critical issues with our relationship a couple of years ago. Talking to a third, objective party about our issues and how to communicate them, is the only way we made it through. That said, you both have to be prepared to talk about shit you may not feel comfortable with, listen to things you don't want to hear, and be open to making adjustments in how you define your relationship.

thanks for the advice. We've actually mentioned that possibility already. The problem is nothing can really happen before she gets over the grief of losing her mother.....

And thanks to all for the encouragement. Yeah I definitely know I'm far from perfect, I fucked up on a lot of shit.
But the fact is also noone can fill the voidd left by her mom.
we've been together 19 years......damn it's tough being a grown-up.

[Pigeon]

no plans for July 4...going to skate, read, and play the South Park game.

[Gray Imp Sausage Metal]

- it's still rainy season so it's been too wet to skate
+ took my son to the undercover DIY spot yesterday though so we could dust off the cobwebs

[shark tits]

i looks out the window this morning and there's 3 birds doing the soul train all over my blueberry patch, i trows some pants on and stumble out there, grabbing a stake on the way. one of those piece of shit mini pterodactyls forces it's way out of the net at the seams, another is not so lucky as i bludgeon it w/ my stick through the net.
then a little one flew willy nilly bouncing from one side to another. it was a kid in a bounce castle having the time of his life, never realizing he's bound for disaster. i'm like 'my man, you gonna die but there is a wild blueberry patch less than a football field from here, as the crow fly'.
finally i entered the netting and it was 2 bird enter, one man leave.
i dumped the corpses in front of my house to deter dog owners from bringing their shitwolfs near my berries.
stoked i got 2, not stoked one lived to steal my berries another day.

[Yu Dum]

Our local shop, along with a few local companies, is putting on a king of the road styled competition this month.

Not stoked on the fact that there is one specific asshole who is taking this shit way too seriously. To the point that he’s talking wild shit to the kids in this contest. Homeboy’s like 30-something and has kids of his own, but can’t handle a little friendly “competitive” banter. Bums me out.

[shit_for_brains]

Talk even more shit to him and shut him up. Us old guys are sensitive about our age so hit him with that and some "where are your kids?" shit. He'll either be immune to it or it'll make him cry and usually expert level shit talkers don't start talking the shit they respond to it with better shit, so this guy will probably crumple. When he gets sensitive is when you ramp it up to straight out mean and always, always, always laugh at your own jokes.

[Betaphenylethylalamine]

Talk even more shit to him and shut him up. Us old guys are sensitive about our age so hit him with that and some "where are your kids?" shit. He'll either be immune to it or it'll make him cry and usually expert level shit talkers don't start talking the shit they respond to it with better shit, so this guy will probably crumple. When he gets sensitive is when you ramp it up to straight out mean and always, always, always laugh at your own jokes.

This

[Yu Dum]

Ok, that would be effective if we weren’t talking about a legally regular drunkard who has a reputation of knocking people out cold. I know how this guy is and he definitely won’t cry.
He will attempt to rip my face off.

[Sad Hippo]

Stoked on Zsa Zsa. Not stoked she died.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/10/us/zsa-zsa-worlds-ugliest-dog-dies.html

[behavioralguide]

I just got banned from one of the last server of the orginial Call of duty game for hacking (which I didnt)
sad I dont get to play the game anymore as there is not many other servers left
stoked on fact this means I don't play waste my time gaming anymore

[shit_for_brains]

Ok, that would be effective if we weren’t talking about a legally regular drunkard who has a reputation of knocking people out cold. I know how this guy is and he definitely won’t cry.
He will attempt to rip my face off.

So rip his face off first.

[Justis]

not stoked but stoked, some neanderthal stole all of  my possessions , wallet keys phone, at a memorial session for a friend that was gunned down last wednesday. very happy to see everyone come show support for my friends family , not shocked someone stole from but dissapointed they used my grief as a way for my guard to be down. Glad to be outta this shithole next month

[Yu Dum]

Stoked to have learned front tailslide front shuv out yesterday.

Not stoked that I slipped out straight to my hip trying to learn switch front tails. Here’s to limping for the next three days.

[Silky Johnson]

Not stoked on still couch surfing
Stoked I got a job interview Friday time to bring out my good Dickies with the crease still in tact

[Gray Imp Sausage Metal]

Got my wisdom tooth ripped out yesterday, went relatively smoothly but still feels tender