I started a new part-time job at a hotel to make extra money. I've only been there for about a month and a half. I'm not going to be there forever, just until I build up enough savings for a mortgage, which should be in October or November.
There's a waitress in the restaurant hotel I find attractive, looks and personality-wise. I don't know too much about her, but I like what I've seen so far. We've chatted briefly.
I'd like to get to know her more, but A) I'm only there two times a week, B) she's there sporadically and I'm not sure when I'll see her again, C) I don't put myself out there too much, and D) I know creating a work relationship has its dangers.
On that last point, I contacted several of my (male) co-workers to ask if she's single - one of them didn't know, the other didn't respond. I'm cool with both of them, they're supportive and nice (I hope the guy who didn't respond isn't offended/wary of me now. I eventually apologized for asking, still no response). But as a friend of mine pointed out, it's tricky to bring other people into the situation because they may not want to be involved, and it may be problematic for them if things go south in the future. Which is true, I wasn't thinking about that; only thought it'd be a friendly question.
I know life isn't a movie or TV show, it's best to keep things mellow and friendly in the beginning - it's just that we'll see each other so rarely that I feel I need to take every opportunity to find out more about her. If she's not single, or younger than I think, for instance - that way I can leave it at that and move on. Or, start looking around other places and keep her in mind, but I'm not really that guy.
There are other waitresses who work with her, so I'm contemplating whether or not to ask them for more details about her, but I don't want to press myself on them or say the wrong thing. I need help, I'm tired of doing everything by myself to start a relationship, and tired of being alone as other people sing my praises, and tired of feeling like I'm doing or feeling the wrong thing. My separation has taken a real toll on me and I need to be happier than I am.