Things You Are Not Stoked On

[hangontoyourego]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

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well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

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what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

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im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

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With all the stuff you’ve been writing on here I think you need to make sure that you are ok. Have you ever seen a therapist? They are pretty cool. They are the ones you just talk with. They don’t do the medicine. They are pretty awesome if you just talk honestly and open with them. They can really help you get stuff figured out. They’ve saved me from losing my mind plenty of times.

💯👆🏽

[l_bwoy]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

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im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

[Nollie FS 180]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

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If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

[Nollie FS 180]

Yeah I try to be social it’s just hard for me because I have a lot of underlying stuff.

[l_bwoy]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

[close]

If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

[Nollie FS 180]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

[close]

If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

[close]

If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

im not playing with his emotions I genuinely want to see how he’s doing so stop with the whole manipulation thing. I’m just trying to see how he’s doing

[hangontoyourego]

you don’t give a god damn shit how he’s doing only thing you care about is hoping they don’t hate your fucking guts . You know i had some skirt be all shitty and ghosted me after dating for months . I quit the instagrams a month after we broke up and she thought i blocked her cause my friend asked me if i was mad & her and if i deleted ig because the twat who ghosted me asked my friend to look for me on ig . She couldn’t handle me being mad at her . Anyway leave them the fuck alone . You’re being entirely selfish . So what maybe they don’t like you , maybe they wish you get ball cancer but fuck it plenty of ex’s despise me and i sleep like a baby.  Go skate !

[Nollie FS 180]

you don’t give a god damn shit how he’s doing only thing you care about is hoping they don’t hate your fucking guts . You know i had some skirt be all shitty and ghosted me after dating for months . I quit the instagrams a month after we broke up and she thought i blocked her cause my friend asked me if i was mad & her and if i deleted ig because the twat who ghosted me asked my friend to look for me on ig . She couldn’t handle me being mad at her . Anyway leave them the fuck alone . You’re being entirely selfish . So what maybe they don’t like you , maybe they wish you get ball cancer but fuck it plenty of ex’s despise me and i sleep like a baby.  Go skate !

last time we talked we were on good terms so shut your face.

[l_bwoy]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

[close]

If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

[close]

If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

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im not playing with his emotions I genuinely want to see how he’s doing so stop with the whole manipulation thing. I’m just trying to see how he’s doing

Not saying you’re manipulating just trying to give some sound advice.

I agree with hangontoyourego.

These responses are getting really defensive so maybe it’s time to logout and not think about it anymore man. If I'm coming across as critical, I’m sorry, but it may be just what you need to hear or read to keep you from making silly decisions.

[hangontoyourego]

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you don’t give a god damn shit how he’s doing only thing you care about is hoping they don’t hate your fucking guts . You know i had some skirt be all shitty and ghosted me after dating for months . I quit the instagrams a month after we broke up and she thought i blocked her cause my friend asked me if i was mad & her and if i deleted ig because the twat who ghosted me asked my friend to look for me on ig . She couldn’t handle me being mad at her . Anyway leave them the fuck alone . You’re being entirely selfish . So what maybe they don’t like you , maybe they wish you get ball cancer but fuck it plenty of ex’s despise me and i sleep like a baby.  Go skate !

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last time we talked we were on good terms so shut your face.

so then leave it at that . fuck it ! text him & see how it goes . When he tells you he’s in love with someone  and you go down a spiral again we can all say we told you so . also i’m reading a book called “the fuck-up” by arthur nersesian  check it out

[l_bwoy]

Fuck, I need a cigarette after this.

Definitely not stoked on that

[Nollie FS 180]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

[close]

If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

[close]

If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

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im not playing with his emotions I genuinely want to see how he’s doing so stop with the whole manipulation thing. I’m just trying to see how he’s doing

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Not saying you’re manipulating just trying to give some sound advice.

I agree with hangontoyourego.

These responses are getting really defensive so maybe it’s time to logout and not think about it anymore man. If I'm coming across as critical, I’m sorry, but it may be just what you need to hear or read to keep you from making silly decisions.

not getting defensive y’all just putting words in my mouth. “IT WAS A BAD BREAK UP SO DONT TEXT HIM”. No we ended smoothly. It’s not like I could see him, we were friends afterwords and I deleted my social media. So don’t act like you know the facts when you don’t as for ego, you don’t know what your talking about.

[Nollie FS 180]

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you don’t give a god damn shit how he’s doing only thing you care about is hoping they don’t hate your fucking guts . You know i had some skirt be all shitty and ghosted me after dating for months . I quit the instagrams a month after we broke up and she thought i blocked her cause my friend asked me if i was mad & her and if i deleted ig because the twat who ghosted me asked my friend to look for me on ig . She couldn’t handle me being mad at her . Anyway leave them the fuck alone . You’re being entirely selfish . So what maybe they don’t like you , maybe they wish you get ball cancer but fuck it plenty of ex’s despise me and i sleep like a baby.  Go skate !

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last time we talked we were on good terms so shut your face.

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so then leave it at that . fuck it ! text him & see how it goes . When he tells you he’s in love with someone  and you go down a spiral again we can all say we told you so .

dawg, I don’t give a fuck about who he’s with I want my friend back.

[hangontoyourego]

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you don’t give a god damn shit how he’s doing only thing you care about is hoping they don’t hate your fucking guts . You know i had some skirt be all shitty and ghosted me after dating for months . I quit the instagrams a month after we broke up and she thought i blocked her cause my friend asked me if i was mad & her and if i deleted ig because the twat who ghosted me asked my friend to look for me on ig . She couldn’t handle me being mad at her . Anyway leave them the fuck alone . You’re being entirely selfish . So what maybe they don’t like you , maybe they wish you get ball cancer but fuck it plenty of ex’s despise me and i sleep like a baby.  Go skate !

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last time we talked we were on good terms so shut your face.

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so then leave it at that . fuck it ! text him & see how it goes . When he tells you he’s in love with someone  and you go down a spiral again we can all say we told you so .

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dawg, I don’t give a fuck about who he’s with I want my friend back.

so then fucking text him. you ask for advice then complain when it’s not what you want to hear . jesus christ you make a big deal all over nothing .

[l_bwoy]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[close]

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[close]

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

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If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

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If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

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im not playing with his emotions I genuinely want to see how he’s doing so stop with the whole manipulation thing. I’m just trying to see how he’s doing

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Not saying you’re manipulating just trying to give some sound advice.

I agree with hangontoyourego.

These responses are getting really defensive so maybe it’s time to logout and not think about it anymore man. If I'm coming across as critical, I’m sorry, but it may be just what you need to hear or read to keep you from making silly decisions.

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not getting defensive y’all just putting words in my mouth. “IT WAS A BAD BREAK UP SO DONT TEXT HIM”. No we ended smoothly. It’s not like I could see him, we were friends afterwords and I deleted my social media. So don’t act like you know the facts when you don’t as for ego, you don’t know what your talking about.

I never said it was a bad break up I’m just saying it’s not a good idea man. It never is. I’m sure you’ve got friends that you can physically see and talk to that care about your well-being just as much, if not more than he does.

We obviously can’t stop you doing what you want to do, and that’s not not my point in giving my outside opinion. Again, from my personal experience, it’s just not a good idea; whether shit broke off smoothly or crashed and burned in a huge disaster. Long distance seems like a bad idea in the first place to me, but to each his own.

Do what you want to do bud, but don’t set your hopes and expectations too high, and don’t get his up for nothing either.

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

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well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

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what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

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im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

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If you really care how he’s doing, you’ll leave him alone. I hate the term “toxic” but that is a very fucking toxic thing to do to someone. Don’t mess with his emotions like that, for all you know he could have really actually loved you in the first place and to see you come back after having left, regaining a false sense of hope, only just to be left again can be the most painful fucking thing in the world.

If you do hit him up, make sure your intentions are crystal clear with him right from the start. No flirting or anything like that.

I dealt with a chick who strung me along for more than two years with this exact same tactic and it sent me into one of the most detrimentally depressive stints I have ever endured. It’s not fun, it’s not cool, and it’s not beneficial for either party if you’re not seeking something serious again. I wasted a lot of time, money, and a TON of heartache on a girl who never had good intentions with me from the start and it made me feel fucking worthless. I’m finally getting back on my feet after spiraling out of control for close to six months over that situation. I’ve finally lost the bitter taste it left in my mouth about dating and am putting myself back on the market, going to shows, bars, and other community events and have met some really cool chicks and it’s restored my hope for my own love life. I’m 26, no kids, only two serious relationships that lasted over a year, and I was definitely losing faith after all that went down, but things are on the up and up for me again and I finally feel like my old, happy and optimistic self again.

Best advice would be just to try to find something/someone new. Maybe get a pet if you don’t already have one. Go out and be social, there’s someone for everyone out there.

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I honestly care how he’s doing. I care about all my ex’s like that. He was a really good guy and I would still like to be his friend. As for a therapist. Yeah I’ve had one. What I need is a friends I can be with and rely on and talk to.

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If you wanted to be friends you shouldn’t have pursued a serious relationship with him in the first place, you know? Putting a label on shit usually ruins the relationship entirely if it doesn’t work out in the long run. Every single one of my exes has tried to “check up” on me or pull the “we can still be friends” thing on me and it always ends in an argument that could have been easily avoided or me blocking their numbers. It’s just not worth it. It’s ok to miss people, but if they’re gone, they’re gone for a reason; no need to give those old emotions a chance to bubble to the surface (which in my case has been the problem 100% of the time).

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get jealous over my ex (the one in previous post). I want to be happy for her, but it’s super fucking difficult because I assume every guy is just taking advantage of her or using her for one night stands and it’s painful as hell to watch. I ended up blocking her number, her Instagram, her twitter, and deleted her off snapchat and I’ve been better off ever since. I can’t say the same would be the case for your ex, because I was madly in love with that girl, or at least thought that I was, but some stones are just better left unturned man.

Missing someone is fine, but playing with their emotions is not.

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im not playing with his emotions I genuinely want to see how he’s doing so stop with the whole manipulation thing. I’m just trying to see how he’s doing

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Not saying you’re manipulating just trying to give some sound advice.

I agree with hangontoyourego.

These responses are getting really defensive so maybe it’s time to logout and not think about it anymore man. If I'm coming across as critical, I’m sorry, but it may be just what you need to hear or read to keep you from making silly decisions.

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not getting defensive y’all just putting words in my mouth. “IT WAS A BAD BREAK UP SO DONT TEXT HIM”. No we ended smoothly. It’s not like I could see him, we were friends afterwords and I deleted my social media. So don’t act like you know the facts when you don’t as for ego, you don’t know what your talking about.

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I never said it was a bad break up I’m just saying it’s not a good idea man. It never is. I’m sure you’ve got friends that you can physically see and talk to that care about your well-being just as much, if not more than he does.

We obviously can’t stop you doing what you want to do, and that’s not not my point in giving my outside opinion. Again, from my personal experience, it’s just not a good idea; whether shit broke off smoothly or crashed and burned in a huge disaster. Long distance seems like a bad idea in the first place to me, but to each his own.

Do what you want to do bud, but don’t set your hopes and expectations too high, and don’t get his up for nothing either.

thank you good talk.

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I think everyone is being a little too harsh on Nollie. You're a dude aren't you Nollie? If not sorry, but you said the other day you think you might be questioning your sexuality or something. Which if you are, no big deal. But I think people here might be thinking you are a girl stringing a guy along, which everyone has had happen and so people are thinking about it happening to them and getting mad that you might do the same shit.

If I'm wrong and you are actually a girl, yeah it's probably not a good idea. It's probably not a good idea either way but I can only speak on terms of being in a heterosexual relationship. Maybe two guys can work things out better than a guy and a girl, I don't know but it's not a good idea.

As for the underlying issues, we all got them. But you need to address that shit. It took me a long time to realize how bad my personality was when I was younger and where it all stems from. I still have to deal with my faults to this day but it's a lot better now that I am aware of what I need to address. It will improve your relationship with friends and everyone. I think you are pretty young from the stuff you write on here, but I'm not sure so it's hard to get you suggestions because I don't know what is an option for you including...

Making friends. It's hard, but it's harder when you are older, trust me on that shit. My friends all go back to kindergarten so we can just show up again and there is no love lost, that comes with time and perspective that you gain as you get older. That being said, I haven't hung out with any of my friends in like a year and a half. I probably should but if I did I would be getting fucked up all the time again and I don't want to be doing that anymore. I'll tell you what I'm going to do though, I'm gonna do what people on here talked about. In a month or so when the weather cools a little and my ankle heals better I'm gonna just go to the skatepark in the next town a few times a week and just skate by myself. I just want to go to learn transition but I'm sure I will have much more social interaction there than I am doing nothing but getting stoned every day like I've been doing lately.

That's kind of the last thing. Don't do drugs kids. Not good for you. Makes you feel like shit and masks issues you need to address. Also understand that if you are young, a lot is gonna change, shit will get better, and just because you make a friend doesn't mean it's gonna be ok to dump all your issues on them. I didn't ever talk to my friends about shit like that because they wouldn't have given a fuck when we were young. But when I was hanging out with them a little over a year ago we are all old, we had been through shit, and all we talked about is the heavy stuff in life.

[Reese]

That's why I avoid it all lol

Virgin squad represent

Not enough money or time to keep someone satisfied in this world full of too many options

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That's why I avoid it all lol

Virgin squad represent

Not enough money or time to keep someone satisfied in this world full of too many options

Reminds me of a quote my friend told me when I was dating.

You lose money chasing women
You don't lose women chasing money

Not exactly the kind of person I am but I think it still rings true.

[Nollie FS 180]

I think everyone is being a little too harsh on Nollie. You're a dude aren't you Nollie? If not sorry, but you said the other day you think you might be questioning your sexuality or something. Which if you are, no big deal. But I think people here might be thinking you are a girl stringing a guy along, which everyone has had happen and so people are thinking about it happening to them and getting mad that you might do the same shit.

If I'm wrong and you are actually a girl, yeah it's probably not a good idea. It's probably not a good idea either way but I can only speak on terms of being in a heterosexual relationship. Maybe two guys can work things out better than a guy and a girl, I don't know but it's not a good idea.

As for the underlying issues, we all got them. But you need to address that shit. It took me a long time to realize how bad my personality was when I was younger and where it all stems from. I still have to deal with my faults to this day but it's a lot better now that I am aware of what I need to address. It will improve your relationship with friends and everyone. I think you are pretty young from the stuff you write on here, but I'm not sure so it's hard to get you suggestions because I don't know what is an option for you including...

Making friends. It's hard, but it's harder when you are older, trust me on that shit. My friends all go back to kindergarten so we can just show up again and there is no love lost, that comes with time and perspective that you gain as you get older. That being said, I haven't hung out with any of my friends in like a year and a half. I probably should but if I did I would be getting fucked up all the time again and I don't want to be doing that anymore. I'll tell you what I'm going to do though, I'm gonna do what people on here talked about. In a month or so when the weather cools a little and my ankle heals better I'm gonna just go to the skatepark in the next town a few times a week and just skate by myself. I just want to go to learn transition but I'm sure I will have much more social interaction there than I am doing nothing but getting stoned every day like I've been doing lately.

That's kind of the last thing. Don't do drugs kids. Not good for you. Makes you feel like shit and masks issues you need to address. Also understand that if you are young, a lot is gonna change, shit will get better, and just because you make a friend doesn't mean it's gonna be ok to dump all your issues on them. I didn't ever talk to my friends about shit like that because they wouldn't have given a fuck when we were young. But when I was hanging out with them a little over a year ago we are all old, we had been through shit, and all we talked about is the heavy stuff in life.

im a dude. Although I do have long hair.

[Monkey_Mcpott]

Tweaked my back, no sure how though. Been having minor back pains lately. Nothing major just discomfort and been having to put some cushion on my lower back sometimes. I think the years of sitting at a desk is getting to me maybe? I do tend to slouch, gotta fix that.

[Nollie FS 180]

As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

[Nollie FS 180]

So I tried finding him but he seems completely off the grid. So I’m not entirely sure what to do, guess I’ll just wait

[hangontoyourego]

As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

oh jesus , just text this dude so we can find out what happens . no one cares about your age . you’ve reveled quit a lot about yourself such as you want to be coddled . well this was a complete waste of time like all your other posts turn out to be .

[hangontoyourego]

Tweaked my back, no sure how though. Been having minor back pains lately. Nothing major just discomfort and been having to put some cushion on my lower back sometimes. I think the years of sitting at a desk is getting to me maybe? I do tend to slouch, gotta fix that.

Don’t take that lightly . i’ve gone through major back pain and have friend who is having major issues right now . stretch out . get a foam roller . i take a lot of advil and go through bottles of tiger balm .

[Nollie FS 180]

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As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

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oh jesus , just text this dude so we can find out what happens . no one cares about your age . you’ve reveled quit a lot about yourself such as you want to be coddled .

you sure talk tough for someone who’s probably as soft as a baby’s ass cheek

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As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

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oh jesus , just text this dude so we can find out what happens . no one cares about your age . you’ve reveled quit a lot about yourself such as you want to be coddled .

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you sure talk tough for someone who’s probably as soft as a baby’s ass cheek

ha ha ha

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As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

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oh jesus , just text this dude so we can find out what happens . no one cares about your age . you’ve reveled quit a lot about yourself such as you want to be coddled .

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you sure talk tough for someone who’s probably as soft as a baby’s ass cheek

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ha ha ha

its ok we can be soft together

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As for my age and stuff, I will not say how old I am. I try not to reveal a lot about myself.

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oh jesus , just text this dude so we can find out what happens . no one cares about your age . you’ve reveled quit a lot about yourself such as you want to be coddled .

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you sure talk tough for someone who’s probably as soft as a baby’s ass cheek

Alright dude. I'm just gonna assume you are 14. Just please don't post anymore shit that a 14 year old shouldn't be talking about on the internet. Thanks.

[waltercronkite]

Tweaked my back, no sure how though. Been having minor back pains lately. Nothing major just discomfort and been having to put some cushion on my lower back sometimes. I think the years of sitting at a desk is getting to me maybe? I do tend to slouch, gotta fix that.

http://www.simpleorganiclife.org/complete-lower-relief-1796294996.html

I was dealing with lower back pain for a while and a buddy of mind recommended these stretches and after a week I was good as new. Since then I’ve recommended it to a few people and they have all said the same thing.