The audacity and entitlement of some of you people thinking you have the right to pass judgement on two adults failed relationship. Social media and narcissism has rotted your brains.
Being an asshole is not against the law. Their relationship failed. This should have been private details kept between adults, and the ravenous way a group of supposed adults are salivating at a strangers downfall is more disturbing to me than any insensitive thing he may or may not have said to his former partner.
bunch of fuckin weirdos
I want to find a constructive way to respond to this, cause I hear what you're saying but it's not the point. There are people here and anywhere else that genuinely get their kicks to see people's lives fall apart - but they never get involved in the first place, just hang around to see shit hit the fan. Any movement in this thread has not been on their behalf. Please keep that in mind.
There's important conversations that can happen around these problems, and there's people on here who invest in keeping those conversations going. It's not an accurate assessment to erase all of that and boil everything in these threads down to "supposed adults (...) salivating at a strangers downfall". It's important to confront the people who genuinely want to be entertained by drama - but that doesn't mean lumping that shit together with the people who are doing the hard work of trying to ground these discussions one dumpster fire at a time.
Whoever wants to revel in seeing a stranger's life fall apart is doing nothing to help the world, and I agree with that point. But that's a given - and that's always stupid, and I will always agree. After 9 pages though, to summarize everything as that, is a gross misrepresentation.
Speaking for myself, I have encouraged that these problems need to be taken seriously & are all too common. Nowhere in that logic is there a suggestion that: a stranger should be arrested; a stranger should be ruined; a stranger should be punished. Where I've confronted a poster in this thread & others I've confronted them for their direct language.
In addition to that: I agree, this should've been a private ordeal. But it's not; and that's not her (Kelly's ex) fault. It's not irresponsible to prioritize trust in women & survivors; when you are / have been one or the other, you realize there is nothing to gain by being in that position. If anything, you can only guarantee re-traumatization and ridicule. So we trust women & survivors. I hope you can come to not conflate that with wishing for someone's demise. That's a curious misunderstanding.
I'm just want to say that I hear you and what you are saying makes sense. But it's hyperbole, and it does more damage to the actual discussions going on amidst the usual storm of shit-posting than it does a service to anyone. There's always gonna be a storm of shit-posts in threads like these and even in threads with less weight. We should be able to sift between the nonsense and the meaningful content in any thread though, especially before we make a loaded summary.
So that's that.
Now for my typical emotional ranting.
I
do have the right to pass judgment on anyone. I don't give a fuck who you are. I've seen enough shit in this life to not worry about whether I have a right. I do. Rape is rape; abuse is abuse; bullshit is bullshit.