RelationshiTs

[Ricky Vaughn]

Watching my friend suffer through one really gross one. I’ve been in some myself , one for 13 years. Sick how it affects your whole life. Anyone in one or have dealt with the worst of the worst relationships? Hate to see someone suffering through all of this.

Should clarify my homie is basically in relationship prison and not “allowed” to go places, accused of cheating (projection?), no respect, etc. gross

[GardenSkater77]

I hate abusive women.

[JM]

Watching my friend suffer through one really gross one. I’ve been in some myself , one for 13 years. Sick how it affects your whole life. Anyone in one or have dealt with the worst of the worst relationships? Hate to see someone suffering through all of this.

Should clarify my homie is basically in relationship prison and not “allowed” to go places, accused of cheating (projection?), no respect, etc. gross

Your homie clarification is good, since “worst” relationships can have a lot of different forms. Your relationship might be the worst in a different way.

I think the first thing is to first really try to introspect about why you are in this bad relationship.  Setting up some online therapy just to have someone to talk it out with could be helpful, if it’s too complicated to wade through.

A skate metaphor if I may: the relationship might be that super comfortable kickflip down a ten set you’ve done your whole life. You got real good at it. It’s comfortable. It’s impressive. You’re stoked on it. It’s getting you sponsorships. But it’s breaking the fuck out of your feet, ankles, and knees. The other kids are flipping down 15 stairs.

There’s a buttery ass back tail pop-out to regular that is out there, but you just gotta learn it first. It’s going to make you feel better than any kickflip ever could, and you won’t have that impact killing your joints anymore.

You gotta break free from the comfortable and go learn them. You gotta go eat shit again, and go through the pain of growing and becoming a better skateboarder.

I guess my advice is that staying in a bad relationship is going to take you and your homie deciding that it’s not good for you, and you gotta do the brave thing and break free.

And finding time to talk with a licensed marriage/family therapist will help, too. (Or a relational therapist if those exist.)

Don’t put up with relationshits if they’re abusive/controlling.

[Ricky Vaughn]

Should also clarify that my homie is a girl and her dude sucks. He “skates” but he doesn’t really lol. He’s a bossy lazy turd

[JM]

Should also clarify that my homie is a girl and her dude sucks. He “skates” but he doesn’t really lol. He’s a bossy lazy turd

Still applies: your homie has to feel safe enough to leave and that things will be okay being an individual

[bob george]

I just wrote a whole thing out but it just felt yuck so I deleted it.

[ToySanta]

I’ll bump this..

My cousin (female) might be in one at the moment. It’s fresh. They met four months ago.

He has a five year old and has been separated from his wife long enough for her to have a new partner and a six month old baby. However, he only filed for divorce just three months ago. His ex-wife straight up hates her and my cousin is mad suspicious of the whole situation.

He also has a female friend he’s super into and they hooked up once but that was her throwing him a bone, and she only comes around when she needs or wants something. Never just to say wassup or how are you?

My cousin has said she won’t stand for him having his foot keeping both doors ajar, as it were, so she broke it off with him and he talked her out of it! Twice now!

Now he said he’s “not a therapy person,” but he does read a lot of self help books* on his own. And he suggested couples therapy which they are now in.

She keeps waffling and I don’t even know if I want to be around them right now. Or at all. It’s like the highs are too high and the lows are too low.


Does this not seem like too much for such a new relationship??