Been at it for awhile now. It's both a vice and device. It's crazy the attitude Americans have towards it (especially now), so in the US, I subconciously use it to filter out people who I know I wouldn't want to be around. "Yea, you're doing your passive aggresive cough, but you eat Mcdonalds. Get over yourself."
Let me tell you, American women do not fuck with cigarette smokers. Ironically I tend to always attract women who are vehemently against it. The puritanical streak is insane. Which is a bummer, because you ever see a beautiful woman with a nicely timed cigarette? Chills.
*To me, there's something romantic about it. Coffee and a cigarette on a snowy day, late night convos over smokes, having time to think and be alone, that first one after two glasses of wine when that fresh night air hits the nostrils, with a book, during a chess game, after a session, etc. Even before I started, there was just something comforting about the smell. Funny how that works.
This is gonna be long and weird.
Started in the womb, you could smoke in the maternity ward in 1979. Fucking crazy you could do that then. Smoked from 12-17. Then 23-32ish like a fucking fiend. 1-2 packs a day of Camel wides lights, then Spirit yellows. Skated as hard as anyone, smoked every chairlift ride snowboarding regardless of weather, lit up the second I walked out of the gym. Don't bore me with your flavorless air. My dumb ass started again during COVID from CBD spliffs, like a turbocharged fiend, rolling pouches of Peter Stokeby Turkish for me and my lady. Smoked inside my house like fuck it. Only way I could smoke more is if I slept less. Even my lady was concerned. Been off it for a year and a half. It was going to kill me and still may be what does. And I don't regret it one bit. I feel no effects from it. Yet.
The quoted post above hits home hard, respect Marion. I absolutely romanticize it. I trust smokers. It's an honest act, more so because it doesn't get you high. The best place at most parties is where the smokers are. It pairs well with everything; different weather, coffee, booze, conversation, solitude, sex, working, taking a break. A fit, beautiful women smoking is so sexy to me. And I feel like that woman is probably good in bed when I see her. But tobacco used to be a sacred ritual and ciggies are the white man's perversion of that. The addiction gives you purpose and a false sense of accomplishment. My mother has COPD, pulmonary hypertension, congestive heart failure, emphysema and more from 55 years of smoking. No breaks and zero exercise. I just sold my house and moved across the country to help her out. You can't let it own you. I would have a smoke every now and then if I could but I know I can't. But if you can, have one for me brother. I'd happily stand next to you and shoot the shit while enjoying the smell; we're in the best place at this party.
If you want to quit, you can do it. I know you can. Don't cross addict with other methods of nicotine. Gum, tooth pics, chew on something, drink water, do pushups, go skate, all you have to do is not smoke. You never stopped trying when you were learning how to ollie or when jumping down those stairs and that sucked too until it didn't. And don’t try to touch fire, trust me, you’ll probably get burned.
And I gotta say vaping is not smoking. There is nothing sexy or romantic about it and it looks silly. It's the razor scooter of smoking to me. Vaping is like being too chicken shit to smoke but also too chicken shit to quit all the way. And it smells like you're smoking a stripper. Just have a damn cigarette. I don't mean to direct this harsh view at my fellow skateboarders in here, just vaping in general.
Thank you for coming to my TEDx and this post probably should have started with Dear Diary.