Things You Are Not Stoked On

[winecrab]

It’s been pretty lonely lately. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone to talk to about personal stuff. Does anyone have an idea to get out of this funk?

I feel you. I’m new to LA and don’t know anyone besides people that I go to ayahuasca ceremonies with. They’re nice people but we don’t have anything in common besides that. I don’t mind being alone but it would be great to have some real friends. Have you tried talking to people at the park? That’s what I’m going to do now that my knee is pretty much healed up. Skateboarding is the easiest way to make friends. Or at least it used to be.

[Nollie FS 180]

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It’s been pretty lonely lately. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone to talk to about personal stuff. Does anyone have an idea to get out of this funk?

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No close friends or siblings or anything like that?

i moved pretty far from family for a cheaper living. As for siblings I do have some I only see one as the rest are kinda all fucked up individuals.

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It’s been pretty lonely lately. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone to talk to about personal stuff. Does anyone have an idea to get out of this funk?

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I feel you. I’m new to LA and don’t know anyone besides people that I go to ayahuasca ceremonies with. They’re nice people but we don’t have anything in common besides that. I don’t mind being alone but it would be great to have some real friends. Have you tried talking to people at the park? That’s what I’m going to do now that my knee is pretty much healed up. Skateboarding is the easiest way to make friends. Or at least it used to be.

i actually try my hardest to skate alone. I tried skating the local park alone but I left fairly fast because I feel really uncomfortable at skateparks.

[50mm]

All my coworkers decided we are taking our last break together to eat some shit cake someone brought. I hate cake. It’s all girls but none you would want to spend time with. I could pass but I got some stuff in the works at work and I gotta look good.

[Mongoloid]

The level of tension and anxiety I am feeling all the damn time at the moment. Every night, 3am like clockwork I’m met with this bullshit to some degree.

[cuffedcarpenterpants]

Tomorrow's the one year anniversary of losing a girl I dated for 8 months to a heroin overdose from a relapse that happened while I was visiting home, so that's been fucking with me. Also dated this cool international Colombian girl I met on tinder for 5 months. She was into all the same stuff as me (lil ugly mane, memphis rap, tagged, had a bunch of tattoos, down to watch regular youtube videos for hours, could actually make me laugh). I started not feeling super great in the relationship as she could be kinda cold and distant, and I'm pretty affectionate, so I thought about breaking up with her for a while. Also found out she had a thing with some kid prior to us meeting who I hated and beat up in a fight. Shit fucked with me pretty heavy and made me question who she was and our relationship. I eventually fucked around and started messaging some girls, she never found out but initiated breaking it off with me 2 months ago. Still think about her all the time. I knew the relationship needed to end but something about the fact she initiated it, and the fear that I'm not going to find a girl as cool as her anytime soon has been taking its toll on me. I'm hoping I'll be good once I get back to college and have stuff to keep me busy, but I don't know. C'est la vie.

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Tomorrow's the one year anniversary of losing a girl I dated for 8 months to a heroin overdose from a relapse that happened while I was visiting home, so that's been fucking with me. Also dated this cool international Colombian girl I met on tinder for 5 months. She was into all the same stuff as me (lil ugly mane, memphis rap, tagged, had a bunch of tattoos, down to watch regular youtube videos for hours, could actually make me laugh). I started not feeling super great in the relationship as she could be kinda cold and distant, and I'm pretty affectionate, so I thought about breaking up with her for a while. Also found out she had a thing with some kid prior to us meeting who I hated and beat up in a fight. Shit fucked with me pretty heavy and made me question who she was and our relationship. I eventually fucked around and started messaging some girls, she never found out but initiated breaking it off with me 2 months ago. Still think about her all the time. I knew the relationship needed to end but something about the fact she initiated it, and the fear that I'm not going to find a girl as cool as her anytime soon has been taking its toll on me. I'm hoping I'll be good once I get back to college and have stuff to keep me busy, but I don't know. C'est la vie.

C’est la vie.

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Anniversaries of events are pretty rough. It gets better with time though. I have an obsession with time. And I always seem to be thinking about what I was doing at this point in my past several years ago. Especially with relationships and especially when it didn’t end like you expect it to. Things are still pretty fresh but I promise you they will get better. You sound like you are doing well. Moving on is the key. There’s a lot of girls out there like that but they always are hard to let go of. Trust me, you’ll find one and be thankful for who you finally found. Don’t think too much, you sound like me in a lot of ways, bad times are always temporary.

[cuffedcarpenterpants]

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Tomorrow's the one year anniversary of losing a girl I dated for 8 months to a heroin overdose from a relapse that happened while I was visiting home, so that's been fucking with me. Also dated this cool international Colombian girl I met on tinder for 5 months. She was into all the same stuff as me (lil ugly mane, memphis rap, tagged, had a bunch of tattoos, down to watch regular youtube videos for hours, could actually make me laugh). I started not feeling super great in the relationship as she could be kinda cold and distant, and I'm pretty affectionate, so I thought about breaking up with her for a while. Also found out she had a thing with some kid prior to us meeting who I hated and beat up in a fight. Shit fucked with me pretty heavy and made me question who she was and our relationship. I eventually fucked around and started messaging some girls, she never found out but initiated breaking it off with me 2 months ago. Still think about her all the time. I knew the relationship needed to end but something about the fact she initiated it, and the fear that I'm not going to find a girl as cool as her anytime soon has been taking its toll on me. I'm hoping I'll be good once I get back to college and have stuff to keep me busy, but I don't know. C'est la vie.

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C’est la vie.

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Anniversaries of events are pretty rough. It gets better with time though. I have an obsession with time. And I always seem to be thinking about what I was doing at this point in my past several years ago. Especially with relationships and especially when it didn’t end like you expect it to. Things are still pretty fresh but I promise you they will get better. You sound like you are doing well. Moving on is the key. There’s a lot of girls out there like that but they always are hard to let go of. Trust me, you’ll find one and be thankful for who you finally found. Don’t think too much, you sound like me in a lot of ways, bad times are always temporary.

Appreciate it. Taking it day by day for the time being. I try to remind myself how bad I felt after the loss of my girlfriend and how I eventually even managed to feel okay after. Time really does heal all wounds it's just hard to recognize it while you're hurting.

[L33Tg33k]

Just got out of a psych ward after being detained for week. Good times.

[somethingmustbreaknow]

welcome back, G!

[DarthDingusMaximus]

Several things these days,
 first my mum is kinda a bummer and full on rightwing nutjob who finds justification in violence and racist tangents with current administration. I know some might say oh ignore it. you know what you are right however it hurts no less hearing some of the dumbest shit ever to come out of her mouth.

[butterballs for jerry]

Just got out of a psych ward after being detained for week. Good times.

Voluntary detention, or talked about suicidal ideations detention?

[Nollie FS 180]

Lately been questioning my sexuality.

[WastedHippy]

Temporary hangover blues

[DarthDingusMaximus]

Lately been questioning my sexuality.

Dudes are just as batshit and scarier then ladies, trust me.....

[SHIREFLIP]

Lately been questioning my sexuality.

And this has you not stoked? I understand these feelings may be distressing at first, but perhaps you will be more content in life should you accept and explore these feelings?

[Nollie FS 180]

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Lately been questioning my sexuality.

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And this has you not stoked? I understand these feelings may be distressing at first, but perhaps you will be more content in life should you accept and explore these feelings?

honestly, I’m at the point where I don’t believe in sexuality. I believe people should just be with one another and not have a label. I just want some love.

[WastedHippy]

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Lately been questioning my sexuality.

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And this has you not stoked? I understand these feelings may be distressing at first, but perhaps you will be more content in life should you accept and explore these feelings?

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honestly, I’m at the point where I don’t believe in sexuality. I believe people should just be with one another and not have a label. I just want some love.

Are you attracted to both genders though?

[Nollie FS 180]

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Lately been questioning my sexuality.

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And this has you not stoked? I understand these feelings may be distressing at first, but perhaps you will be more content in life should you accept and explore these feelings?

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honestly, I’m at the point where I don’t believe in sexuality. I believe people should just be with one another and not have a label. I just want some love.

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Are you attracted to both genders though?

yeah, so.. I was seeing this guy in SoCal and I’m from NorCal. I was going to go see him so we could hang out and eventually make love to one another but I could never get a day to go. I just want to be held.

[Nollie FS 180]

And I’m not the type of guy to just go and have sex and leave. I was fully committed to this guy, we were steady. He was actually pretty fine to.

[L33Tg33k]

I just got out of a week in mental health facility. Good times. I think I want a girlfriend.

[SHIREFLIP]

Well, shit Nollie, it sounds like you’ve got it figured out. I wish you well in finding a partner.

L33t, I hope you find treatment that helps. I also live with mental illness. I wish you well in finding a partner, as well.

[DarthDingusMaximus]

I just got out of a week in mental health facility. Good times. I think I want a girlfriend.

I know how it feels like the world kinda kept on without you, or at least that was my take when I got out of a nuthut (baker acted involuntary committed) it feels good.

 I hope you find someone who is patient with you and your needs. Also for the love of Pete and yourself don't rush anything with a lady.  I know it might sound awesome just see how she is at her place and see if the living situation is compatible, I have made many mistakes with ladies before and either they were slobs or they couldn't stand my friends coming over all the time.

[Nollie FS 180]

Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

[os89]

Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[hangontoyourego]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[Nollie FS 180]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[hangontoyourego]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

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well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

[Nollie FS 180]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

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what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

[DarthDingusMaximus]

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

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absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

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well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

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what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

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im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

That sounds just as worse, "how are you doing", ummmmm yeah you broke it off with me remember ?
depending on how he is I am sure he is not going to be psyched.

 I'll be the first to admit my ex's did fight with me (^{doesn't matter who started the fight}) albeit fisticuffs and do I regret it? for sure but there's a reason they stay ex's for mine and their safety. 

You would do best not to toy with someones emotions, to me and other men who've had to deal with succubus like that I abhor those types.

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Should I hit up my ex bf? I miss his sweet ass.

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I mean if it wasn't a bad break why not?

[close]

absolutely not . it ended for a reason , keep it that way .

[close]

well I broke up with him because I wasn’t sure if how I felt so was true. I just kinda want to talk to him. Not really start anything

[close]

what are you hoping to get out of it ? if someone broke up with me i would rather not ever heard from that person again . don’t mess with someone’s emotions .

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im not trying to mess with him I’m just trying to see how he’s doing.

With all the stuff you’ve been writing on here I think you need to make sure that you are ok. Have you ever seen a therapist? They are pretty cool. They are the ones you just talk with. They don’t do the medicine. They are pretty awesome if you just talk honestly and open with them. They can really help you get stuff figured out. They’ve saved me from losing my mind plenty of times.