i got my adhd diagnosis the summer before college and started taking meds a few months ago. it's so relieving to just know shit wasn't all your fault, like i carry so much shame about losing track of time and procrastination and i always figured i just got that from my dad.
my deal now is i'm trying to work with my psych on maybe an adult autism diagnosis? which is its own bag of worms. i've always dealt with stuff straight off the DSM like echolalia, trouble with nonverbal communication, and 'specialized interests. its hard trying to talk to my parents about my childhood in that context bc it gets them so down on it, like they did something wrong for me, or maybe they just dont want a 'fucked up' son? but i just wanna know!