2 years 11 months
my wife and i are getting divorced after 28 years together. i'm a dedicated man so about to be dating again for the first time in 28 years which is kind of wild. it's the most stressful thing i've experienced in my life and i'm so thankful that i'm not drinking. i feel i'm better able to process the pain and grief of the situation. the other day i worked downtown in a cool coffee shop and when i got off i went for a paddle board on town lake solo. it was epic. i think it's way better than if i had drink a few ipas and then a couple bourbons. i would also imagine the legal side of what i'm doing would be a total pain if i was drinking because everything would be about how i drink too much... now it's just about how i'm an asshole 
I don’t even think it is possible to properly process pain and grief when you are drinking daily. At least for me, drinking made it so much more prolonged and devastating. I never even began to understand how to process “feelings” while I was drunk because I just drank to deal with it, woke up feeling worse and drank to feel better again. Terrible dark times.
Good luck with your process, keep doing fun stuff like paddle boarding. I want to get into kite surfing as a fun new thing. I am at 4.5 years right now. The longest continuous period of no booze since 95.
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