I was listening to KEXP on Monday, and the DJ was talking about O. They were old friends. He told a story about a time when Rocket From The Crypt came to town, and O was with them, and they were staying at the DJ's house. He had recently come out of the closet, but didn't really know anything about being gay - hadn't been to any bars or nightclubs, didn't really know any other gay guys. O was excited and supportive of his awkward, recently-gay friend, and O insisted that they all go to a gay country western bar and dance all night.
So before he knew other gay men, before he had friends to show him the ropes, there was O and the members of RFTC, making him step outside of his shell and being there to support him. He was all chocked up. It was a very sweet story.