I wanted to provide an update on this matter! I hope this post finds you well, pals...
I've been continuing to get to know her over the past couple of weeks; texting and sending video messages and pics back and forth every day. She is a very level-headed and down to Earth gal. Has good morals and real downhome midwestern-type sensibilities. I learned that she has been sober since she was 18, and she has a ton of other redeeming qualities that I look for in a mate.
She's the type of gal that you would want to make your girlfriend and then your wife. I know I'm not alone in this sentiment because it turns out, she's still married! She is in the process of getting a divorce, but only 3 days ago she moved out of her house and into an apartment. She told me that the divorce had been a long time coming and she knew 3 years ago she wanted to leave him. Although they were still living together, she was sleeping on the couch every night and all around hated her home life, and was generally miserable.
I know how messy divorces can be, heck, ending a non-government-sanctioned relationship can be difficult enough without legal paperwork involved. Who knows how she is going to feel in 6 months, a year, or 2 years? From my understanding, there's been no paperwork drawn up and the divorce proceedings haven't yet started. While she is an awesome person and she does have qualities that I find attractive, what I do not find attractive are women in marriages. We haven't talked inappropriately or alluded to any sort of, how you say, hanky panky, but we have been talking like we are courting each other. Our getting to know each other has been very innocent.
We have been talking a little less these past few days, and I think I'm going to let it fizzle out or let it play out naturally. Maybe I'll see her when she visits her parents at the end of the year, but I cannot in good conscience try and get romantically involved with someone who is still married, even if they are on the outs.