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My girl always has one too many drinks and loses her cool. Last night everything is fine, at the bar chillin. Got home maybe one or two more drinks later and she breaks down. I cant seem to figure out how many drinks it takes before she gets that way. 
Just need to stop encouraging her to drink at all I guess. Just sucks because I drink beer and don't want to ruin her fun, but at a certain point it isn't fun.
have you spoken to her about it? she's probably aware this is an issue & sometimes all it take is a conversation to iron out these things.
She is, but thanks you're right we need to address it further together for sure. Talked some a bit before had to go to work. She doesn't even drink that often but when she does it happens. Probably talk more later tonight. But until then the real team is coming through town today so I'm getting hyped to see some shit!
I get the same way. Just having a couple drinks, I'm good, but if I get it in my head that a party is going down then I'm always the first one blacking out and making an ass of themselves. I'm never violent and I usually don't do anything too bad, but bad and embarrassing shit has happened enough times that I always wake up after a blackout with the worst feelings of remorse.
I like to think that I've really worked on it to get to the point where blacking out isn't a regular occurrence for me, but I know how careful I have to be to avoid it. Like I have to be totally conscious of what I'd drinking and at what pace and have a hard cutoff limit because if I don't, then at a certain point I'm not in control anymore. To even think that I can have control is like playing with fire. It only happens when I drink in big social gatherings, which I've used to justify the idea that I don't have a drinking problem. But really any issue with drinking, regardless of the situation is still and issue and people like me have to be aware of that. Nobody else cares that you can drink responsibly in privacy if they only see you at social gatherings and you're always a mess.
I hope you guys can work it out and things get better for her. The easy thing to do is to just not drink, but thats not always as easy as it should be.
Me personally, I'm starting to wish that I never started drinking at all. Like I said, blackouts for me are a rare occurrence now and drinking has less negative effects on my life than it did in the past, but now it's just making me gain weight. My wife and I had a baby two months ago and for the first two weeks of her life I think I only had maybe 3 beers that whole time. Before that I'd have a few almost every night and easily go through a case myself between Thursday and Sunday. After the first month I dropped 10lbs and was making an effort to eat healthier and get out and be more active. This past month I've started drinking more. Having less days in the week where I don't drink than days that I do. Have gotten lazier, less active, and gained almost 5lbs back. I really like beer and I rarely have more than 3 on days that I drink, so I've been able to justify it to myself, but it's at the point where the negatives of drinking even this small of an amount are outweighing the positives. It should be easy for me to just stop and not drink, but it's so damn hard. On a good day I want to have a beer and enjoy myself. On a bad day I want a beer so I can unwind and forget. On a regular day I might just want one because I like how it tastes. But on no days to I want to be a lazy fatass and that's where I see myself headed. It's almost like not drinking makes me a happier person, but it's such a habit that I can't stop.
edit: MJ actually made sense on a lot of drinking struggles in this.
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