Things You Pondered Today

[Jollyoli]

need some advice:

would you guys ask your girlfriend not to see a (male) person?
She admitted to having feelings, everythings out in the open, nothing behind my back or anything, and claims to be able to meet him as a friend (as he previously, before he broke up with his girlfriend, was).

I guess I trust her not to do anything stupid (as in cheat) but still, feelings do weird things and I also don't want things to develop into something more... idk

I don't really wan't to be put in the position where I (want to) ask my girlfriend not to see any person at all, so I guess I have to trust her, but it just does not feel very nice.

If you can hang in social situation with the three of you or more in a neutral environment it could still be cool, if you are not allowed to be around when she is talking to her "friend" that is a red flag.
On a cautionary note, I have a female friend nicknamed the oragutan as she never lets go of one boyfriend till she has a good grip of the next one.

[JB]

Cut the cord. You don't know what this dudes intentions are and your girl already said she has feelings for him. Theres a very high chance she'll cheat if you give her and her friend the chance and they think they can get away with it. Most of the time people on the outside of a relationship don't respect it. You don't need that kinda drama. Drop it before something bad happens and work on yourself.

Things get better man. Don't put yourself in a position where they have a good chance of getting worse.

[shit_for_brains]

If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

[dirtyweemidden]

If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

Clearly this dude has never had a long term serious relationship. its not as cut and dry when proper feelings are involved, shit for brains.

though i dont disagree with the overall message of your post the callousness of the tone is jacked.


Behaviouralguide - Its a hard situation my man, only you know whats right for you But it seems the general concesus on here is youre on a slippy slope, try not to slip too far down brother.

[behavioralguide]

thanks, dirt and all

[somethingmustbreaknow]

who does the fs lipslide polejam bounce out in the new polar vid?

(even with this gif, i am too dumb to figure it out myself. help)

[SodaJerk]

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have to include I've been a depressed sack of shit for the past half year I understand that maybe her feelings confused ones with just a wanting for something ''light-hearted''.

also have to stress (esp to sharktits I guess) she is not gonna cheat on me for reasons I don't feel like discussing, guess you have to trust ME on that.

dirtywee I've been asking myself the same but I'm very sure of how I feel about her,

but with my depression; been dabbling in thinking we might need some time off and I need to focus on myself, for being with her makes me feeling like shit (about myself) bearable, which is not healthy.
but now with this situation I just don't really know

You know when you use the term "some time off" when talking about a relationship that really means bounce and get on with life.

[givecigstosurfgroms]

  She's asking as a test I feel.  Like to see how much this donkey can carry?   You should cheat on her first!

[shit_for_brains]

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If you stick around a girl who says she has feelings for another guy but they're just friends and then they go hang out you are a punk motherfucking bitch who is getting played for a sucker. Have some self respect and tell her to beat it. She'll start "dating" that dude later the same day I guarantee it like the Men's Wearhouse guy. How you even let her finish any sentence about another guy without interrupting and saying "oh cya" is beyond me.

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Clearly this dude has never had a long term serious relationship. its not as cut and dry when proper feelings are involved, shit for brains.

though i dont disagree with the overall message of your post the callousness of the tone is jacked.


Behaviouralguide - Its a hard situation my man, only you know whats right for you But it seems the general concesus on here is youre on a slippy slope, try not to slip too far down brother.

I've been married for six years dipshit

[DONKEYSAUCE]

Don’t be a cuck. Literally.

[behavioralguide]

can you guys also not awnwser in cliches and actualy read what I fucking typed?

asked whether or not you would ask your girlfriend not to see someone, as in forbid (or else the relationship is over) her, or ever felt like that, I did not ask for advice on how to handle my relationship.

you guys must date fucking wrenches if you actualy believe she is ''testing'' me and that I shouldn't be a ''cuck, literally''.

[shit_for_brains]

You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship. But yeah, tell your girl who she can and can't be friends with that'll work out.

[behavioralguide]

You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

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see you edit in the post above now sfb, and thanks for adressing my only question, I dont want to ask her that and am not going to, just wanted to know if there's people who dealt with it (differently)

[shit_for_brains]

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You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

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I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

Nobody misunderstood and I understand that you want to adjust the scope of what you said because you're defensive or embarrassed or whatever. Maybe next time don't ask a provocative question and then dump a bunch of details out if you don't want people to pay attention to them?

The answer just about everyone gave boils down to: No, you shouldn't ask her to stop hanging out with someone because not only is that not your issue, but it will create a whole other one. If you have an expected answer in mind go ask the mirror not a forum full of people.

[behavioralguide]

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You 100% asked for advice on how to handle your relationship.

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I can see how you mightve misunderstood but I
 asked if you guys ever asked your girlfriend/ wife not to see a particular person, and provided relation context.

I did not ask ''should I break up with my girl cause i suspect her fucking this other guy, which I don't, irrelevant of whatever all you guys' well ment suggestions suggest.

'preciate you guys seem to wanna help but 'preciate it more if you guys would not make assumptions you ''literally'' know nothing about

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Nobody misunderstood and I understand that you want to adjust the scope of what you said because you're defensive or embarrassed or whatever. Maybe next time don't ask a provocative question and then dump a bunch of details out if you don't want people to pay attention to them?

The answer just about everyone gave boils down to: No, you shouldn't ask her to stop hanging out with someone because not only is that not your issue, but it will create a whole other one. If you have an expected answer in mind go ask the mirror not a forum full of people.

we need to stop quoting eachother's undedited posts.
either way I guess your right and I coulve expected the awnsers I got,
its not that I don't wanna hear it or that I wanna hear something specific (the mirror thing)
just an awnser (in the sense of similar story, not in a a ''what should i do" kinda way) on that specfic question was what I hoped for.

[Pigeon]

I hope your girlfriend fucks that other guy.

[behavioralguide]

and I hope typing that made ya feel better

[JB]

my wife has been cheated on in two previous relationship because she gave those guys the freedom to hang out with other chicks. there was a point a few years ago in our relationship where she found out that i would sometimes go out for a drink with a female coworker on friday afternoons. i never told her about going out with the girl from work, which to her meant that i was trying to hide something and i guess i was. your girlfriend/wife/whoever doesnt like hearing about your female friends that she doesnt know, and thats why i didnt tell her. i never had any feelings toward this woman and i never felt like she had any for me, we simply got along well and felt like getting a drink at the bar next door once in a while. i didn't feel like what i was doing was worthy of losing my wifes trust, but hiding it from her was. i stopped going out with the girl from work because drinks with her wasnt worth giving my wife a reason to think i might cheat. i trust and respect her and i want the same kind of trust and respect.

on the other side of things, she had this long time guy friend who i had met and hung out with a few times when i first met my wife. they never dated, but she said that they did have sex once. referred to him as more of a "best friend" guy, but they stopped hanging out a while before we started dating. this guy i guess he was going through a tough time and texted my wife about how he missed her and wanted to hang out. she told me about it and told him the only way she wanted to hang out with him was if it was at our place and if i was there too. i believe she did this because she knew how i would feel if she told me she was going to see him someplace without me. he never came over and stopped contacting her after that.

thats my honest experience with this shit, take it how you want it. i agree with SFB and everyone else has said. nothing good will come of your girlfriend spending one on one time with some dude she has a crush on.

[feedmeseymour]

im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

[childhood]

Didn't somebody switch flip or switch heel this double set years ago?

For some reason I was thinking it was Damian Bravo, but I can't find the footage so I'm not sure if that's correct. It's been seriously bothering me lately.

[cosmicgypsies]

im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

sometimes it seems like people are concerned with their online image/presence and how they come off online as opposed to what they come off as irl

kinda funny tbh

[brent]

Didn't somebody switch flip or switch heel this double set years ago?

For some reason I was thinking it was Damian Bravo, but I can't find the footage so I'm not sure if that's correct. It's been seriously bothering me lately.

maybe stefan janoski, but i think that was a similar looking double set

[shit_for_brains]

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Didn't somebody switch flip or switch heel this double set years ago?

For some reason I was thinking it was Damian Bravo, but I can't find the footage so I'm not sure if that's correct. It's been seriously bothering me lately.

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maybe stefan janoski, but i think that was a similar looking double set

I remember that double set from Welcome To Hell

[Pigeon]

How legit is Ozone, the skateshop in Alameda? I want to spend a day down in Alameda but don’t know if I should bring an extra deck.

[SodaJerk]

im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

I hope you didn't respond, just nothing, not a peep. Can you imagine her anguish?

[SUPREMENECKPROTECTOR]

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im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

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I hope you didn't respond, just nothing, not a peep. Can you imagine her anguish?

Do you get notified when someone unfollows you? That´s fucked up!

[givecigstosurfgroms]

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im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

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I hope you didn't respond, just nothing, not a peep. Can you imagine her anguish?

  Yes, no response for a week then booty call her strait up.

[RCB3]

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im pondering why social media is so fucking important to some people. some are so consumed with their public image they create and legit worry how others will look at them, to the point of calling people out for not liking them or following.

this girl i know from my town, ended up unfollowing her on instagram yesterday. shes pretty attractive and has mad followers but i dont care to be another one of her ig fanboys. not two minutes after the unfollowing she messages me asking wtf and texting an essay to me because she was offended.

ah the times we live in, such a double edged sword sometimes.

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I hope you didn't respond, just nothing, not a peep. Can you imagine her anguish?

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Do you get notified when someone unfollows you? That´s fucked up!

There's different app services you can pay for that can show you when someone unfollows you, which just shows how much this gal really seems to care about social media.

[ChuckRamone]

I left a goofy comment once on one of my friend’s IG posts and she sent me a series of text messages explaining that she had to delete it because she takes social media really seriously for her career and shit. I was pretty flummoxed by that. I unfollowed her because I don’t use IG that way. For me, it’s just for fun.

[childhood]

It'd be so cool if Palace edited their next video to the drum & bass station from GTAIII.