Does not wanting a male masseuse mean I’m insecure or homophobic? It’s not that I need them to be a young hot woman, in fact, quite the opposite. I’d really prefer them to be a little older and experienced, and not so attractive that my mind wanders to inappropriate places. Someone with the strength to work things out, but also gentle when it calls for it. If I were an athlete and needed some serious work done, sure, give me a dude. But if I’m going for a soft tissue/relaxation massage, I’d prefer not having another man oiling me up.