are you open to the idea that you could be in a relationship with one of these girls? it might be good for you, tobey. being in a relationship with someone can really build character and maturity, and like wall of nausia said, you might find someone who actually pushes you to be a better person. even when they end badly, relationships can teach you a lot about yourself and really help you grow as a person. and i know some people say things like "you dont want to look for love on tinder", but why the fuck not? who cares where you meet someone? not every girl you meet online is going to be a trashy slut who fucks whoever is down to feed her pizza and ice cream. id say open up to the idea. you might just find that being with some you care about and who cares about you is something that you really like.