This part is like this friends with benefits you can get on with sometimes, yet won't let you kiss her on the lips. Be weak enough to mutter any expression of attraction in the heat of the foreplay and you can be sure to get told to fuck off and painfully walk away with your blue balls. Maybe the smartest reaction we can have here is to keep going through the process all the while remaining emotionless, and only then we might eventually get rewarded with the feelings we're subconsciously yearning for as opposed to steel sharp, stone cold disdain in addition to getting to finally smash that Thrasher play button whenever we feel like.