Anyone have experience or advice on dating sober (not drinking) or being in a relationship with someone does partake?
I found it as awkward as hell. Got on the apps, went on some dates that were just horrendous. Like someone else said though, it's better if you're actually looking for someone you're gonna connect with, cos I think it's easier to tell if there's a vibe there. Beer googles do some crazy things, and not just physically. Fell off the wagon twice in my early days of trying to get sober and thinking I could just have a couple of drinks to loosen up. Dumbass.
Blew it with a girl I had one date with and was really into, but the few drinks on that turned into a week long, solo bender, which caused me to completely forget about/miss/was blacked out during what was supposed to be our second date. I called her Like two weeks later and explained I was in recovery, but she didn't give me a second shot, and who could blame her.
After that i was strictly doing the daytime coffee thing so i wouldn’t have that temptation (as much), and man, I was not kicking goals, but it got easier. I was missing the relatively easy hookups that booze lets you in on though. Eventually, the last first date that I had, I met the lass in a bar. When she asked why I was drinking sodie-pop, I straight out just said I was an alcoholic. Best thing I could've done, cos if that's a deal breaker for them, might as well find out straight away. Anyway, now that girl and I are very happily married.
My tips: Let yourself feel awkward, cos you will, look them in the eye, ask them lots of questions about themselves, try not to fidget, and be honest. It'll get easier and easier. Good luck!
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