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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9630 on: July 31, 2020, 05:12:26 AM »
Holding jeez gives you frustration that you might channel into an activity.

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« Reply #9631 on: July 31, 2020, 10:50:51 AM »
Hooked up twice recently with a guy 33 years my senior. He's very nice, the sex is great and we get along fine, but I don't know if I'll continue hooking up with him because he's from a very different socioeconomic class than me. Aside from his main profession, he's a landlord. He owns several properties while I'm on just above living wage and rent a house with 4 other people. I end up feeling kind of pathetic in a lot of conversations with him, so I might just jack off and go to the gym instead. Saves time and travel costs.

Damn, this pretty much sums up the past 9 years of my life. Just replace going to the gym with drinking pbr.

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« Reply #9632 on: July 31, 2020, 11:05:07 AM »
Just replace going to the gym with drinking pbr.

Hmmm, maybe I will...

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« Reply #9633 on: July 31, 2020, 12:12:20 PM »
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Just replace going to the gym with drinking pbr.
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Hmmm, maybe I will...

I wouldn’t recommend it, drinking six beers in a day is good for me which is depressing. A regular day is 10 beers and half a bottle of Jim Beam.

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« Reply #9634 on: July 31, 2020, 04:23:42 PM »
Ah yeah, I was just kidding. I'm sorry you're drinking so much man, that's no way to go through life. Maybe you should consider seeking counseling?

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« Reply #9635 on: July 31, 2020, 05:57:37 PM »
Ah yeah, I was just kidding. I'm sorry you're drinking so much man, that's no way to go through life. Maybe you should consider seeking counseling?

Yeah I actually started at the beginning of the month, it’s helped alot. I’ve mostly cut the hard stuff out and average 6-8 beers a night. Already feeling better!

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« Reply #9636 on: August 01, 2020, 12:22:10 AM »
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Ah yeah, I was just kidding. I'm sorry you're drinking so much man, that's no way to go through life. Maybe you should consider seeking counseling?
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Yeah I actually started at the beginning of the month, it’s helped alot. I’ve mostly cut the hard stuff out and average 6-8 beers a night. Already feeling better!

I'm so glad to hear this dude! I hope you are taking your new complete out and staying busy with that too.

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« Reply #9637 on: August 01, 2020, 05:45:05 AM »
Keep it up CI!

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« Reply #9638 on: August 04, 2020, 08:32:00 AM »
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Ah yeah, I was just kidding. I'm sorry you're drinking so much man, that's no way to go through life. Maybe you should consider seeking counseling?
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Yeah I actually started at the beginning of the month, it’s helped alot. I’ve mostly cut the hard stuff out and average 6-8 beers a night. Already feeling better!

I used to be a pretty gnarly alcoholic if u ever need someone to talk to

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9639 on: August 05, 2020, 04:52:18 PM »
I stole a bike once. The poverty will get you.

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« Reply #9640 on: August 06, 2020, 04:52:59 AM »
I accidentally collected donations that were sent to a terrorist group ( was told it was for a charity that sponsored orphans in war torn countries)

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9641 on: August 06, 2020, 12:43:12 PM »
I just found out you can get a Viagra prescription legally online. So I got a prescription and just got some cheap Viagra. Never tried it before, but hoping for lols.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9642 on: August 07, 2020, 08:15:41 AM »
I close friend of mine from the military is having depression. He's showing signs of self harm (cutting) lashing out at his wife and parents, avoids dinner with his family, spends all day couped up in his room. He gets out of the house to send his kids to school and he's also an elementary school teacher. His wife reached out to a common friend of ours and the group of us have been trying to reach out to him to get him out of the house for a beer. But he's not been responsive to us and and we don't want to start texting him individually to check in on him and ask him out; his wife wants to keep it on the down low with fewer parties involved, feels it will hurt his pride and he will take it out on himself again. I know a couple of you guys went through depression before; any advice on how I can help him while respecting his space?

I know he's got a strained relationship with his wife (staying together for the kids) and father (history of bad blood).
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« Reply #9643 on: August 07, 2020, 09:58:35 AM »
Sometimes you just gotta remind people that things haven’t changed for the worse permanently, but do it in a subtle way

Maybe there’s a really good time you guys had a while ago where you did something specific together

you could slyly plan for something similar to happen again and invite him

as if it’s just something you want to do... not a tactic to pull him out of depression

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9644 on: August 07, 2020, 04:00:40 PM »
Made some ramen noodles last night and decided to sprinkle some crushed red peppers on them to add some flavor and accidentally opened the wrong end and poured like half the bottle on them, anyway I didnt wanna waste it so I ate it anyway and needless to say my asshole isnt holding up too good, if you could offer my ass your thoughts and prayers id really appreciate it
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9645 on: August 07, 2020, 05:35:34 PM »
every time i have new pen or mechanical pencil, i have to break the little clip off . there’s some sort of momentary immediate satisfaction i get followed by guilt . a lot like jacking off really
What kind of mikey taylor logic is this?

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« Reply #9646 on: August 07, 2020, 06:10:45 PM »
Made some ramen noodles last night and decided to sprinkle some crushed red peppers on them to add some flavor and accidentally opened the wrong end and poured like half the bottle on them, anyway I didnt wanna waste it so I ate it anyway and needless to say my asshole is holding up too good, if you could offer my ass your thoughts and prayers id really appreciate it

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9647 on: August 07, 2020, 06:16:02 PM »
I close friend of mine from the military is having depression. He's showing signs of self harm (cutting) lashing out at his wife and parents, avoids dinner with his family, spends all day couped up in his room. He gets out of the house to send his kids to school and he's also an elementary school teacher. His wife reached out to a common friend of ours and the group of us have been trying to reach out to him to get him out of the house for a beer. But he's not been responsive to us and and we don't want to start texting him individually to check in on him and ask him out; his wife wants to keep it on the down low with fewer parties involved, feels it will hurt his pride and he will take it out on himself again. I know a couple of you guys went through depression before; any advice on how I can help him while respecting his space?

I know he's got a strained relationship with his wife (staying together for the kids) and father (history of bad blood).

You should take the lead and approach your friend one on one. This is not a problem that will just go away with one outing. Take him out by yourself and get him to talk. Be honest about why you are taking him out. Get him to do something he used to like. Depressed people are usually better in smaller groups or with just one person. This is a long project so make sure you are in for the long hall.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9648 on: August 07, 2020, 08:48:41 PM »
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I close friend of mine from the military is having depression. He's showing signs of self harm (cutting) lashing out at his wife and parents, avoids dinner with his family, spends all day couped up in his room. He gets out of the house to send his kids to school and he's also an elementary school teacher. His wife reached out to a common friend of ours and the group of us have been trying to reach out to him to get him out of the house for a beer. But he's not been responsive to us and and we don't want to start texting him individually to check in on him and ask him out; his wife wants to keep it on the down low with fewer parties involved, feels it will hurt his pride and he will take it out on himself again. I know a couple of you guys went through depression before; any advice on how I can help him while respecting his space?

I know he's got a strained relationship with his wife (staying together for the kids) and father (history of bad blood).
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You should take the lead and approach your friend one on one. This is not a problem that will just go away with one outing. Take him out by yourself and get him to talk. Be honest about why you are taking him out. Get him to do something he used to like. Depressed people are usually better in smaller groups or with just one person. This is a long project so make sure you are in for the long hall.

Also, praying for Da Big Body Benz B-hole

I love how Real Confessions can swing from suicide, depression & alcoholism to booty holes, hooking up with milfs petty theft.

Edit: He turned us down to meet for beers today, we'll keep inviting. Would it be a good idea to engage with him on a topic he enjoys to open up more? I know he games on his Switch a lot, I'm wondering if its a good idea to ask him for recommendations to get him to open up.
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9649 on: August 08, 2020, 12:02:19 AM »
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I close friend of mine from the military is having depression. He's showing signs of self harm (cutting) lashing out at his wife and parents, avoids dinner with his family, spends all day couped up in his room. He gets out of the house to send his kids to school and he's also an elementary school teacher. His wife reached out to a common friend of ours and the group of us have been trying to reach out to him to get him out of the house for a beer. But he's not been responsive to us and and we don't want to start texting him individually to check in on him and ask him out; his wife wants to keep it on the down low with fewer parties involved, feels it will hurt his pride and he will take it out on himself again. I know a couple of you guys went through depression before; any advice on how I can help him while respecting his space?

I know he's got a strained relationship with his wife (staying together for the kids) and father (history of bad blood).
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You should take the lead and approach your friend one on one. This is not a problem that will just go away with one outing. Take him out by yourself and get him to talk. Be honest about why you are taking him out. Get him to do something he used to like. Depressed people are usually better in smaller groups or with just one person. This is a long project so make sure you are in for the long hall.

Also, praying for Da Big Body Benz B-hole


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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9650 on: August 08, 2020, 06:06:21 AM »
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I close friend of mine from the military is having depression. He's showing signs of self harm (cutting) lashing out at his wife and parents, avoids dinner with his family, spends all day couped up in his room. He gets out of the house to send his kids to school and he's also an elementary school teacher. His wife reached out to a common friend of ours and the group of us have been trying to reach out to him to get him out of the house for a beer. But he's not been responsive to us and and we don't want to start texting him individually to check in on him and ask him out; his wife wants to keep it on the down low with fewer parties involved, feels it will hurt his pride and he will take it out on himself again. I know a couple of you guys went through depression before; any advice on how I can help him while respecting his space?

I know he's got a strained relationship with his wife (staying together for the kids) and father (history of bad blood).
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You should take the lead and approach your friend one on one. This is not a problem that will just go away with one outing. Take him out by yourself and get him to talk. Be honest about why you are taking him out. Get him to do something he used to like. Depressed people are usually better in smaller groups or with just one person. This is a long project so make sure you are in for the long hall.

Also, praying for Da Big Body Benz B-hole
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I love how Real Confessions can swing from suicide, depression & alcoholism to booty holes, hooking up with milfs petty theft.

Edit: He turned us down to meet for beers today, we'll keep inviting. Would it be a good idea to engage with him on a topic he enjoys to open up more? I know he games on his Switch a lot, I'm wondering if its a good idea to ask him for recommendations to get him to open up.
I think this is a good idea to try. He'll be in his comfort zone and might be more inclined to be vulnerable with you down the road. Depression is hard and there's no "right" answer for how to help others with it. Props to you for not giving up on your friend
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9651 on: August 08, 2020, 06:54:08 AM »
Rocklobster, your mate would be well aware of your efforts in trying to help him and he’d be greatful as fuck. Sometimes it can be hard to get out of ones own way.
Everyone’s different but maybe hit him up see if he wants to smoke some meat or something. It’s a fun thing for blokes to do together and it takes all day
Same deal as fishing it’s more about the chat yeah you got it

Don’t tell him this ay but fuck a Nintendo switch I’d be depressed and bedridden too if I fucked around with those things all day
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9652 on: August 08, 2020, 09:01:37 AM »
Thanks for the reply guys, we managed to get him out of the house to join us for beers, got him a cake and he was really appreciative of the gesture. He hoped up to us about his depression and self-harm which all of us were glad to hear him talk openly about. He asked us to give him some space and not badger him about how he's doing on a daily basis. There will be up and down days, and if we pester him too often we may catch him on down days and he has to relive the shitty day by explaining it to us.

It was great to see him out, laughing and joking with us. He's into Pokemon trading cards, so I'll use that to connect with him separately to keep him occupied.

He's a high functioning depressive; he's able to do his job well but there are way too many triggers at home that set him off. We encouraged him to repair the damaged relationship with his wife and mother, but we know that takes times.

Thanks for the advice pals, Shalom my homies.
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9653 on: August 10, 2020, 01:46:56 PM »
I've prioritised skating over everything else in my life that last 3 and a half years. I'm grateful for the progress I've been able to make and I'm really happy with my ability and excited to continue improving, but I've neglected everything else, including doing anything to improve my living situation, building deep relationships with friends, dating, studying and getting some kind of qualification, I haven't even held a consistent job for more than a year. The only real improvement I've made to my life as a whole is getting my mental health sorted, I'm finally starting to get somewhere with it. But really all I've got to show for the last nearly 4 years is being proficient at a meaningless activity. It makes me happy though, not many people have something they can be content doing forever like that.

I like my skate pals, but I often find myself thinking none of them are on my level, in terms of dedication and passion for skating, and Ive been feeling like I'm leaving a lot of them behind in skill level as well, no one seems to be as driven or consumed by it, and I feel alone in how much I define myself through skating and my passion for it. I wish I had at least one friend I could feel that I relate to in that way, and has the same kind of obsessive mentality about it. No one's out skating as consistently as I am, and I actually am becoming annoyed every time I get a message about what I've been up to and catching up, like dude you know where the fuck I hang out every day, I've been at my local more often than not for years, I never left what the fuck are you doing? I feel like the way I think is kind of pretentious some times, but I know being self aware enough to realise that kinda cancels it out though, and i never talk or act like I'm better than I am to anyone

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9654 on: August 10, 2020, 01:58:11 PM »
I've prioritised skating over everything else in my life that last 3 and a half years. I'm grateful for the progress I've been able to make and I'm really happy with my ability and excited to continue improving, but I've neglected everything else, including doing anything to improve my living situation, building deep relationships with friends, dating, studying and getting some kind of qualification, I haven't even held a consistent job for more than a year. The only real improvement I've made to my life as a whole is getting my mental health sorted, I'm finally starting to get somewhere with it. But really all I've got to show for the last nearly 4 years is being proficient at a meaningless activity. It makes me happy though, not many people have something they can be content doing forever like that.

I like my skate pals, but I often find myself thinking none of them are on my level, in terms of dedication and passion for skating, and Ive been feeling like I'm leaving a lot of them behind in skill level as well, no one seems to be as driven or consumed by it, and I feel alone in how much I define myself through skating and my passion for it. I wish I had at least one friend I could feel that I relate to in that way, and has the same kind of obsessive mentality about it. No one's out skating as consistently as I am, and I actually am becoming annoyed every time I get a message about what I've been up to and catching up, like dude you know where the fuck I hang out every day, I've been at my local more often than not for years, I never left what the fuck are you doing? I feel like the way I think is kind of pretentious some times, but I know being self aware enough to realise that kinda cancels it out though, and i never talk or act like I'm better than I am to anyone

i feel you. it was kind of the same for me until i got hurt very bad and wasn´t able to skate for a long time in which i somehow managed to finish my degree finally and applied for random jobs in the field. then i fell in love with the money i was making and still am making and started slacking on skating.

if you can afford your lifestyle at the moment, make it last for some time.

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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9655 on: August 10, 2020, 03:29:11 PM »
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I've prioritised skating over everything else in my life that last 3 and a half years. I'm grateful for the progress I've been able to make and I'm really happy with my ability and excited to continue improving, but I've neglected everything else, including doing anything to improve my living situation, building deep relationships with friends, dating, studying and getting some kind of qualification, I haven't even held a consistent job for more than a year. The only real improvement I've made to my life as a whole is getting my mental health sorted, I'm finally starting to get somewhere with it. But really all I've got to show for the last nearly 4 years is being proficient at a meaningless activity. It makes me happy though, not many people have something they can be content doing forever like that.

I like my skate pals, but I often find myself thinking none of them are on my level, in terms of dedication and passion for skating, and Ive been feeling like I'm leaving a lot of them behind in skill level as well, no one seems to be as driven or consumed by it, and I feel alone in how much I define myself through skating and my passion for it. I wish I had at least one friend I could feel that I relate to in that way, and has the same kind of obsessive mentality about it. No one's out skating as consistently as I am, and I actually am becoming annoyed every time I get a message about what I've been up to and catching up, like dude you know where the fuck I hang out every day, I've been at my local more often than not for years, I never left what the fuck are you doing? I feel like the way I think is kind of pretentious some times, but I know being self aware enough to realise that kinda cancels it out though, and i never talk or act like I'm better than I am to anyone
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i feel you. it was kind of the same for me until i got hurt very bad and wasn´t able to skate for a long time in which i somehow managed to finish my degree finally and applied for random jobs in the field. then i fell in love with the money i was making and still am making and started slacking on skating.

if you can afford your lifestyle at the moment, make it last for some time.

Cheers, I'm not taking it for granted and I'm definetly making the most of it. Hopefully it's not a serious injury that ends it for me lol.

 I wonder if I'll notice when I start falling out of the compulsive mentality to skate every day or if I'll just suddenly realise a few months after I haven't touched my board, but either way I've got a lot of good memories to hold onto and more to make before the time comes. I Iove skating, best thing I ever did with my life
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9656 on: August 10, 2020, 10:11:15 PM »
Just curious how old are you?

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« Reply #9657 on: August 10, 2020, 10:23:58 PM »
you seem like a real true friend rock lobster . i bet your friend really appreciates having you in his life
What kind of mikey taylor logic is this?

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« Reply #9658 on: August 11, 2020, 12:51:24 AM »
Just curious how old are you?

I'm 26, so pretty lucky to still be able to just bum around with no responsibility and skate as much as I want. I thought my bones would be feeling like glass at this point but honestly feel as fit as ever
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Re: real confessions
« Reply #9659 on: August 11, 2020, 01:25:07 AM »
you seem like a real true friend rock lobster . i bet your friend really appreciates having you in his life

I doubt any of us within the group (ex-army) would be able to forgive ourselves if he decided to off himself. We've shared lots of great times together and were groomsmen for each others weddings. It seemed only fair that we continued to fight for him even when things looked the bleakest for him.
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