ugh this thread, been through a lot of this shit so many times.
current "relationship"
was with a girl for about 1 year, we were together but we also kinda weren't because i knew she was going to go to new zealand for a working holiday. even so, neither of us strayed and we are literally like best friends/ have so much in common it's scary.
anyways she goes to new zealand and i tell her i don't want to do the LDR thang, she should just go and enjoy her time there and not have to worry about some guy that lives in the northern hemisphere. it's not that i didn't love her etc. i just didn't want her to not be wasting her time with me instead of experiencing life in a new country. (i've also done too many LDRs that ended in tragedy)
she starts out working on a farm and we are still in contact every day. there is a french guy there also *alarm bells* and being that he was a french guy i knew he would hit on her. he does, and then her FB is all in french saying shit like "i love you, embrace moi". keep in mind that this is 2 weeks after she left. i hit her up about it and she is like "well i was in love with you but you didn't give me anything to hold on to, and you told me i could be free". indeed i did girl, indeed i did... <<< i will take blame for this one
french guy returns back to france like 3 days later and then my line/ FB starts filling up with messages from her.
"you and me get on so well"
"i think you're hot"
"we forgot to have sex on your motorbike before i left"
etc. etc.
i figured that new country/ experiences had just given her some rose-coloured glasses and now that frenchy was out of the picture she realized how well we do get on. she (still) messages me everyday talking about the future n'shit and says she wants to meet up again so we can talk this out face to face...
"just don't come and see me in sept. cuz i'm going to france to work out where me and him are at ^^ ..."
whu? yeah, um ok...
she still texts me like crazy because we have so much in common/ i get her/ she needs help and/ or emotional support. i'm 34, she's 25 ... frenchy is 23.
this story looks pretty stupid on paper/ screen. i should probably just cut my losses, and i would ... if we didn't totally get on like a house on fire/ have the same view/ outlook on almost everything.
*sighs*
fucking relationships...