SOBRIETY

[Sleazy]

I got the titanium version of this one with the Titanium band.

https://a.co/d/02TO2Dcl

They have them for every budget though. And there’s all kind of features you might not need. If you’re not going backcountry, you probably don’t need solar.

[Texas_Tone]

Went out to some friends scene to kick back on the 4th. It was the first non spiritual gathering i have ever been to where there was no booze. Plenty of herbs from the garden being sampled, but no drunks. This dude and I used to go hard with all the stops pulled out, but now we spent the day in the woods with 4 wheelers and dogs, watching the mountains, talking about our mental health. Was able to drive my lady and dog home the 2 hr drive at 11 pm no issues, wake up run 2 miles and get it on

This is inspiring

[JoseCansnake0]

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Went out to some friends scene to kick back on the 4th. It was the first non spiritual gathering i have ever been to where there was no booze. Plenty of herbs from the garden being sampled, but no drunks. This dude and I used to go hard with all the stops pulled out, but now we spent the day in the woods with 4 wheelers and dogs, watching the mountains, talking about our mental health. Was able to drive my lady and dog home the 2 hr drive at 11 pm no issues, wake up run 2 miles and get it on

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This is inspiring

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Truthfully, homie, its an inspiration to have written about it. This was the cat, a bit older than me, who really taught me how to get fucked up. No holds bar. Most of my friends from “before” are dead or doing the same old stupid shit, so to be alive and taking good care of ourselves, its fucking awesome. Not only taking good care, but being able to reflect, man, its beautiful.

Props man! This is sobriety, and it's a beautiful thing

[pugmaster]

Welp, I think it is time to join the club. I don't have to work for the next 5 weeks and need to start being productive and actually enjoy summer. It is crazy how depressing depressants (alcohol) is/are. Looking forward to being able to contribute to this thread periodically. It is wonderful hearing how great everyone is doing.

[NoComply180]

Welp, I think it is time to join the club. I don't have to work for the next 5 weeks and need to start being productive and actually enjoy summer. It is crazy how depressing depressants (alcohol) is/are. Looking forward to being able to contribute to this thread periodically. It is wonderful hearing how great everyone is doing.

welcome homie! Even if you just don’t drink for 5 weeks, you should notice some positive differences, depending on how much you drink.

[Sleazy]

Welp, I think it is time to join the club. I don't have to work for the next 5 weeks and need to start being productive and actually enjoy summer. It is crazy how depressing depressants (alcohol) is/are. Looking forward to being able to contribute to this thread periodically. It is wonderful hearing how great everyone is doing.

good luck @pugmaster

first week can be rough. i leaned on sleepy time tea and na beers.

[Yonnycage]

Last time I posted in here I was coming off a New Years bender where I murdered a liter of russian standard and god knows how much bourbon in 2 days. I straight up felt like I was seconds from death for that entire week but made it through. Since then I've graduated to a couple tall boys of 8% swill a couple times a week but smoking more weed has been killing any cravings entirely and I'm getting to the point where I don't even notice when it's been a week and change since my last drink.

Funny enough, when I was a huge pothead I slowly started losing the craving to smoke over time without realizing and I think the same thing's happening with booze. I guess I subconsciously just get bored of the same shit nonstop.

Side note, a formerly abandoned golf course in my town in the middle of a beautiful patch of forest with a gorgeous lake just got turned into a hiking trail/park and it has a bunch of paved, hilly roads that are awesome to skate so I'm fucking stoked to start going there on a regular basis with the boys.

[Texas_Tone]

I decided Sunday after freaking out on my chick and causing a scene at the house in front of my son that it’s time for me to take a break, reading other stories in here have definitely been an influence, I appreciate all you dudes for helping me make this decision, I’m not even a week yet but the first three days have been pretty hard, I have been drinking everyday (at least a beer) since my surgery, what I’m missing most about drinking is (prolly gonna sound pretty weird) having a few in the shower while I listen to music and chill, so I’ve been taking canned sparkle water to try and get the same sensation, its been working slightly but yea, thanks bros, just wanted to share

[mfweeno]

I decided Sunday after freaking out on my chick and causing a scene at the house in front of my son that it’s time for me to take a break, reading other stories in here have definitely been an influence, I appreciate all you dudes for helping me make this decision, I’m not even a week yet but the first three days have been pretty hard, I have been drinking everyday (at least a beer) since my surgery, what I’m missing most about drinking is (prolly gonna sound pretty weird) having a few in the shower while I listen to music and chill, so I’ve been taking canned sparkle water to try and get the same sensation, its been working slightly but yea, thanks bros, just wanted to share

Best of luck to you, wanting to be better for my family and friends still motivates my sobriety to this day.

I still take some seltzers in the shower with me every so often too - made me realize that the ritual of it was more important than the actual alcohol buzz.

[Marion Stoked]

Big ups to all the pals getting the help they need. Used to be a "fuck sobriety" person myself until I started taking medication recently. Shit fuuuuuuccked up my reaction to alcohol. I'm talking straight up thinking I was going to fucking die the day after drinking and/or being bed ridden for like 4 days afterwards with major depressive episodes. No thank you.

One thing about "sobriety" that I never liked is the weird implications of like "wellness". Reminds me of like a Hallmark card or Whole Foods ad or something. And usually 'sobriety' has an overlap of religiosity (specifically Christianity) which puts me off. But I get it.

I think for some people they need those markers and milestones and pat on the back. Was never into it. Sometimes sobriety is just that: being sober. So now what? Idk. Draw a picture. Listen to music. Eat gummi worms. Life goes on whether youre drinking or not. Good luck.

[Texas_Tone]

Big ups to all the pals getting the help they need. Used to be a "fuck sobriety" person myself until I started taking medication recently. Shit fuuuuuuccked up my reaction to alcohol. I'm talking straight up thinking I was going to fucking die the day after drinking and/or being bed ridden for like 4 days afterwards with major depressive episodes. No thank you.

One thing about "sobriety" that I never liked is the weird implications of like "wellness". Reminds me of like a Hallmark card or Whole Foods ad or something. And usually 'sobriety' has an overlap of religiosity (specifically Christianity) which puts me off. But I get it.

I think for some people they need those markers and milestones and pat on the back. Was never into it. Sometimes sobriety is just that: being sober. So now what? Idk. Draw a picture. Listen to music. Eat gummi worms. Life goes on whether youre drinking or not. Good luck.

Yea man same, I’m not religious either, I enjoy screaming into the echo chamber that is slap, sometimes  I get a reply back and that’s nice, but being able to put shit out there really helps me, I’m still not even a week out yet but I’m feeling better, so I’m gonna keep this train going and see how long this ride is gonna last

[Texas_Tone]

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I decided Sunday after freaking out on my chick and causing a scene at the house in front of my son that it’s time for me to take a break, reading other stories in here have definitely been an influence, I appreciate all you dudes for helping me make this decision, I’m not even a week yet but the first three days have been pretty hard, I have been drinking everyday (at least a beer) since my surgery, what I’m missing most about drinking is (prolly gonna sound pretty weird) having a few in the shower while I listen to music and chill, so I’ve been taking canned sparkle water to try and get the same sensation, its been working slightly but yea, thanks bros, just wanted to share

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Best of luck to you, wanting to be better for my family and friends still motivates my sobriety to this day.

I still take some seltzers in the shower with me every so often too - made me realize that the ritual of it was more important than the actual alcohol buzz.

Appreciate that man, glad to know I’m not the only dude out here enjoying shower seltz

[Marion Stoked]

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Big ups to all the pals getting the help they need. Used to be a "fuck sobriety" person myself until I started taking medication recently. Shit fuuuuuuccked up my reaction to alcohol. I'm talking straight up thinking I was going to fucking die the day after drinking and/or being bed ridden for like 4 days afterwards with major depressive episodes. No thank you.

One thing about "sobriety" that I never liked is the weird implications of like "wellness". Reminds me of like a Hallmark card or Whole Foods ad or something. And usually 'sobriety' has an overlap of religiosity (specifically Christianity) which puts me off. But I get it.

I think for some people they need those markers and milestones and pat on the back. Was never into it. Sometimes sobriety is just that: being sober. So now what? Idk. Draw a picture. Listen to music. Eat gummi worms. Life goes on whether youre drinking or not. Good luck.

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Yea man same, I’m not religious either, I enjoy screaming into the echo chamber that is slap, sometimes  I get a reply back and that’s nice, but being able to put shit out there really helps me, I’m still not even a week out yet but I’m feeling better, so I’m gonna keep this train going and see how long this ride is gonna last

Cheers to you man. A few things that may help: Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You're gonna make mistakes. Full stop. Take them as they are, fail with grace, be compassionate to yourself. (Sounds very 'therapeutic' but there's truth to some clichés). Also, do it for your child and your girl. Think about what kind parent you would like to be to your child.

I see what you're saying about the routine. It's a neurological thing. My shit was having beers at sundown walking around the city. Taste the sunset, see the people. So delicious. You just have to carve out another neuro pathway. That's why you see dudes "fucking lifting bro!!! Gains!" Cause your brain needs another uptick. You just have to create another routine until your brain/body gets used to it. And it will.


Try not to think about it as "im not drinking" and more like  "im trying this thing now". Start a hot sauce collection, find out how algorithms for traffic lights are programmed, only read books whose author's have the same name as yours. Spend a week buying only groceries in one specific color each day.

There's literally an infinite amount of things you could be doing. Drinking is just one of them.

I'm proud of you. You're proud of you. Build your lego tower brick by brick.

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I decided Sunday after freaking out on my chick and causing a scene at the house in front of my son that it’s time for me to take a break, reading other stories in here have definitely been an influence, I appreciate all you dudes for helping me make this decision, I’m not even a week yet but the first three days have been pretty hard, I have been drinking everyday (at least a beer) since my surgery, what I’m missing most about drinking is (prolly gonna sound pretty weird) having a few in the shower while I listen to music and chill, so I’ve been taking canned sparkle water to try and get the same sensation, its been working slightly but yea, thanks bros, just wanted to share

not weird .. there’s a lot of habitual rituals that are part of addiction .. because i was drinking so much beer all the time, it’s comforting to just be crushing sparkling water all the time now

[Ankle_Lift]

I decided Sunday after freaking out on my chick and causing a scene at the house in front of my son that it’s time for me to take a break,

No time like the present. I don't know the extent of your freakout, but your family and especially your missus can only take so many alcohol induced flipouts before they decide it's been one too many and things you don't want that you can't control get set into motion.

My wife and I almost broke up years ago, I guess back in 2012, before we were married, because of my drinking. Definitely one of my lowest moments.

[Coastal Fever]

So my original goal was 6 months, did that, then a year, did that, then paying off my credit line.. and I just did that.  Was toying with the idea of having a few to celebrate, or while on my upcoming vacation.  But I know damn well that once I crack that seal the floodgates will open. 

If I drink once and enjoy it, then naturally, every other “worthy situation” will also be improved by drinking.  Family bbqs, bike rides to the beach, concerts.. if I drink for one, I’ll want to drink for all.  It’s really a bitch coming to terms with the fact I probably can’t just occasionally and responsibly have a “couple”.  But it is what it is, and life’s been good so why would I want to screw that up again.  Time to set another goal.

[Steely Daniel]

I don't want to ignore or gloss over the lovely support given to me in this thread but I only dabble in this shit, and it's fucking embarrassing. I made it 7 days and caved fucking HARD tonight. My partner is out on some coke/drinking bender while she won't acknowledge me and ditched our 2 kids, the youngest to me and my son is staying with her mother and boyfriend. She started on Friday night after some stupid fight at Costco we could have easily worked through (I didn't realize you had to go to some stupid fucking electronic kiosk to order the food and just stood there waiting by the counter for 20 minutes while no one said shit to me and finally the cashier asked if I'm paying in cash and I gave him a confused look and said no I'm just waiting [he thought I meant for my food] but I just wanted a few things for me and my daughter and partner. I fucking hate this shit. I even had a long weekend because there are various issues at work with the truck I drive and blagh blah blah shut the fuck up useless kook pile of human fucking garbage. At least I held it together for a couple days while she humilates me.

[Texas_Tone]

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Big ups to all the pals getting the help they need. Used to be a "fuck sobriety" person myself until I started taking medication recently. Shit fuuuuuuccked up my reaction to alcohol. I'm talking straight up thinking I was going to fucking die the day after drinking and/or being bed ridden for like 4 days afterwards with major depressive episodes. No thank you.

One thing about "sobriety" that I never liked is the weird implications of like "wellness". Reminds me of like a Hallmark card or Whole Foods ad or something. And usually 'sobriety' has an overlap of religiosity (specifically Christianity) which puts me off. But I get it.

I think for some people they need those markers and milestones and pat on the back. Was never into it. Sometimes sobriety is just that: being sober. So now what? Idk. Draw a picture. Listen to music. Eat gummi worms. Life goes on whether youre drinking or not. Good luck.

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Yea man same, I’m not religious either, I enjoy screaming into the echo chamber that is slap, sometimes  I get a reply back and that’s nice, but being able to put shit out there really helps me, I’m still not even a week out yet but I’m feeling better, so I’m gonna keep this train going and see how long this ride is gonna last

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Cheers to you man. A few things that may help: Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You're gonna make mistakes. Full stop. Take them as they are, fail with grace, be compassionate to yourself. (Sounds very 'therapeutic' but there's truth to some clichés). Also, do it for your child and your girl. Think about what kind parent you would like to be to your child.

I see what you're saying about the routine. It's a neurological thing. My shit was having beers at sundown walking around the city. Taste the sunset, see the people. So delicious. You just have to carve out another neuro pathway. That's why you see dudes "fucking lifting bro!!! Gains!" Cause your brain needs another uptick. You just have to create another routine until your brain/body gets used to it. And it will.


Try not to think about it as "im not drinking" and more like  "im trying this thing now". Start a hot sauce collection, find out how algorithms for traffic lights are programmed, only read books whose author's have the same name as yours. Spend a week buying only groceries in one specific color each day.

There's literally an infinite amount of things you could be doing. Drinking is just one of them.

I'm proud of you. You're proud of you. Build your lego tower brick by brick.

Thank you for this dude, I drank a few with my dad that came by this weekend, but we went to a pizza place and each got a weird different sour beer and shared so I was kinda beating myself up over it, thanks for the kind words

[Texas_Tone]

I don't want to ignore or gloss over the lovely support given to me in this thread but I only dabble in this shit, and it's fucking embarrassing. I made it 7 days and caved fucking HARD tonight. My partner is out on some coke/drinking bender while she won't acknowledge me and ditched our 2 kids, the youngest to me and my son is staying with her mother and boyfriend. She started on Friday night after some stupid fight at Costco we could have easily worked through (I didn't realize you had to go to some stupid fucking electronic kiosk to order the food and just stood there waiting by the counter for 20 minutes while no one said shit to me and finally the cashier asked if I'm paying in cash and I gave him a confused look and said no I'm just waiting [he thought I meant for my food] but I just wanted a few things for me and my daughter and partner. I fucking hate this shit. I even had a long weekend because there are various issues at work with the truck I drive and blagh blah blah shut the fuck up useless kook pile of human fucking garbage. At least I held it together for a couple days while she humilates me.

Hey man do not beat yourself up over this bump in the road, you will get back on track, you aren’t useless or a kook, it sounds like you and your partner need to have a serious sit down conversation though, keep going man take it minute by minute until you can take it day by day, I promise everything will work out just keep going, for yourself, and for your children, you have support here, reach out bro, and don’t be humiliated or embarrassed about asking for help or making mistakes, everyone wants you to do better and if you need anything please don’t hesitate to PM me

[turdtastic]

I don't want to ignore or gloss over the lovely support given to me in this thread but I only dabble in this shit, and it's fucking embarrassing. I made it 7 days and caved fucking HARD tonight. My partner is out on some coke/drinking bender while she won't acknowledge me and ditched our 2 kids, the youngest to me and my son is staying with her mother and boyfriend. She started on Friday night after some stupid fight at Costco we could have easily worked through (I didn't realize you had to go to some stupid fucking electronic kiosk to order the food and just stood there waiting by the counter for 20 minutes while no one said shit to me and finally the cashier asked if I'm paying in cash and I gave him a confused look and said no I'm just waiting [he thought I meant for my food] but I just wanted a few things for me and my daughter and partner. I fucking hate this shit. I even had a long weekend because there are various issues at work with the truck I drive and blagh blah blah shut the fuck up useless kook pile of human fucking garbage. At least I held it together for a couple days while she humilates me.

I’m no pro at this, but I know that tearing yourself down isn’t going to help you deal with all of your shit. Try giving yourself some grace and forgiveness for not being perfect, you know the good parts that are inside of you; remember those and appreciate yourself for them. You’re a father that is continuing to show up, you have a job and provide what you can for your family, etc. Recognize the good and build on it, change what you don’t like, and recognize that your journey won’t be perfect and that’s ok. Just keep doing your best, and keep on trying every day. You’re going to be ok…

[NoComply180]

I don't want to ignore or gloss over the lovely support given to me in this thread but I only dabble in this shit, and it's fucking embarrassing. I made it 7 days and caved fucking HARD tonight. My partner is out on some coke/drinking bender while she won't acknowledge me and ditched our 2 kids, the youngest to me and my son is staying with her mother and boyfriend. She started on Friday night after some stupid fight at Costco we could have easily worked through (I didn't realize you had to go to some stupid fucking electronic kiosk to order the food and just stood there waiting by the counter for 20 minutes while no one said shit to me and finally the cashier asked if I'm paying in cash and I gave him a confused look and said no I'm just waiting [he thought I meant for my food] but I just wanted a few things for me and my daughter and partner. I fucking hate this shit. I even had a long weekend because there are various issues at work with the truck I drive and blagh blah blah shut the fuck up useless kook pile of human fucking garbage. At least I held it together for a couple days while she humilates me.

fuck man, sorry you’re going through it. Hope things turn around for you. Can fall off the horse a million times, just get back on when you can.



On my end, been able to dabble a little with weed the last month and a half without it tempting me to drink or sending me into a panic spiral. Have to do very very small doses of edibles and space them out a decent bit. Like 1mg thc at a time with 10mg cbd, a couple of those over 4-6 hours puts me in a really mellow, relaxed spot, with my chronic pain much more manageable. Definitely keeping an eye on it though, can’t have it creep up on me.

[Ankle_Lift]

I don't want to ignore or gloss over the lovely support given to me in this thread but I only dabble in this shit, and it's fucking embarrassing. I made it 7 days and caved fucking HARD tonight. My partner is out on some coke/drinking bender while she won't acknowledge me and ditched our 2 kids, the youngest to me and my son is staying with her mother and boyfriend. She started on Friday night after some stupid fight at Costco we could have easily worked through (I didn't realize you had to go to some stupid fucking electronic kiosk to order the food and just stood there waiting by the counter for 20 minutes while no one said shit to me and finally the cashier asked if I'm paying in cash and I gave him a confused look and said no I'm just waiting [he thought I meant for my food] but I just wanted a few things for me and my daughter and partner. I fucking hate this shit. I even had a long weekend because there are various issues at work with the truck I drive and blagh blah blah shut the fuck up useless kook pile of human fucking garbage. At least I held it together for a couple days while she humilates me.

All that sucks.  Are you ok?
Booze is the ultimate coping mechanism, but it just makes you feel worse after.  It's what I used for years (depression, anxiety, relationship issues, PTSD from previous careers, etc
...) because I never developed any healthy coping mechanisms growing up.  Maybe it's the same for you?

Try again bro. 7 days is nothing to scoff at. It's a start and you tried. Nothing that's actually worth doing is easy from the start.

[Monolithic Flick]

Just updating since folks have been so cool in this thread.  52 days alcohol free today.  Pretty happy with it.  Only cali sober at this point though.  thought i was giving that (cannabis) up as well but i guess not fully yet.  not daily or heavy use (once every 7-10 days) so I'm not super worried about it.  I do like the total clarity when I'm off both but one day at a time.

It absolutely feels better being truly hydrated during these hotter months.  Oddly within the last few days the weight has started to drop after actually going up the first two weeks.  The sugar cravings are finally dissipating.  Again, was never really a 'problem' drinker so I don't suffer the withdraws some do.  But I was a regular every weekend day (and sometimes a happy hour here or there) drinker.  It certainly adds up to unhealthy habits.

To those who are problem drinkers, keep at it, you're on the right path.  And re-starting is no biggie either imo.  We get obsessed with streaks and counts but the more you tip the scales towards sobriety imo the better off you are.  Certainly Better than giving up.  hmm, kind of similar to skating if you think about it. You're battling the ultimate new trick. I hope you all win the war.

[Ricky Vaughn]

I drank around 20 beers and smoked weed all Saturday. Woke up Sunday at 5 pm. Definitely taking a break from alcohol for a while

[Easy Slider]

Just updating since folks have been so cool in this thread.  52 days alcohol free today.  Pretty happy with it.  Only cali sober at this point though.  thought i was giving that (cannabis) up as well but i guess not fully yet.  not daily or heavy use (once every 7-10 days) so I'm not super worried about it.  I do like the total clarity when I'm off both but one day at a time.

It absolutely feels better being truly hydrated during these hotter months.  Oddly within the last few days the weight has started to drop after actually going up the first two weeks.  The sugar cravings are finally dissipating.  Again, was never really a 'problem' drinker so I don't suffer the withdraws some do.  But I was a regular every weekend day (and sometimes a happy hour here or there) drinker.  It certainly adds up to unhealthy habits.

To those who are problem drinkers, keep at it, you're on the right path.  And re-starting is no biggie either imo.  We get obsessed with streaks and counts but the more you tip the scales towards sobriety imo the better off you are.  Certainly Better than giving up.  hmm, kind of similar to skating if you think about it. You're battling the ultimate new trick. I hope you all win the war.

I read that as « an ounce » every 7 to 10 days and was going to post this sounds like heavy use to me :-)

[Monolithic Flick]

Ha!  Yeah that would be a lot.

[Monolithic Flick]

Well scratch that.  Took some last night and while I was altered the only thing I could think of was "I don't want to be altered anymore."  So going to be serious about giving that up too I guess.

[Coastal Fever]

“Vacation” started today with a 7hr flight delay.  Final destination being the in-laws house for a week.  Lord give me strength.

[Mr. Kamikazi]

So my original goal was 6 months, did that, then a year, did that, then paying off my credit line.. and I just did that.  Was toying with the idea of having a few to celebrate, or while on my upcoming vacation.  But I know damn well that once I crack that seal the floodgates will open. 

If I drink once and enjoy it, then naturally, every other “worthy situation” will also be improved by drinking.  Family bbqs, bike rides to the beach, concerts.. if I drink for one, I’ll want to drink for all.  It’s really a bitch coming to terms with the fact I probably can’t just occasionally and responsibly have a “couple”.  But it is what it is, and life’s been good so why would I want to screw that up again.  Time to set another goal.

This is my deal hence why I stay with NA’s & have been sober for two years. I don’t even want to entertain it. The next time I drink will be on my death bed. I’ve already told my wife. A glass of white wine & a camel blue. Then I’ll pass on.

[Sleazy]

My skating has been so good lately. Without a doubt my shitty “not feeling” it sessions which were probably 7 out of 10 were because of my drinking. Just being able to enjoy skating this much would be worth it. Every session is good now. Landed my first flip type trick into a slide/grind today. Did nollie shuv back board on a parking block. I know that’s a bullshit dork around trick for the most part but was stoked. Also got front board slide rocking it front side on a small qp. Just having a blast and getting exercise and actually progressing again. Took almost a year of sobriety though.